What Makes You Cry?

[Emerald Oak]

Okay, so this may sound like kind of a depressing topic, but it's an answer I'm interested in. For me, the things that make me cry are ONLY the things that hit close to home. It never phases me when someone I've never heard of dies in Utah. I was probably the first one to get sick of hearing about the whole 9/11 thing.

When I was in Jr. High, I was the classic kinda guy that could snap at any moment and start shooting the place up. Seriously, I even fantasized about it sometimes.

Luckily, when I "snapped," it gave me the exact opposite reaction--I simply stopped caring about ANYTHING, and my angst eventually vanished. But, I saw a movie called "Bang Bang You're Dead" on TV once, and nearly broke out into tears right there. It's the story of a kid in a similar situation--He wants to get back at the cruel world through violence, and gets all the blame placed on him for his thoughts.

Of course, I didn't cry because I happened to be with my brother and his girl, who aren't the types of people to leave me alone when I want them too. To eager to "help" me, I guess.

Anyway, what is it that makes everyone else cry? Are you all like me, and only cry when something strikes a memory chord, or do you weep for our dying planet?

Don't ask me why I'm curious, I just am :p

[CloakofStars9]

im a very emotional person, sometimes crying is a release for me
i also have a tendency to soak up other peoples sadness
i cry at movies, music, commercials (a select few), when im happy, when im stressed, when im overwhelmed...you name it :p

[Rainx]

I very rarely cry, even when I'm depressed or something really touches me. Actually I'm pretty sure the last few times I've cried I was really sick and/or hormonal and/or depressed and just overreacted about something.

[Danustouch]

I'm a waterfaucet. I cry far too much.

Songs make me cry alot...whether the inspirational type, or the ones which carry alot of memories, or just "Sad Songs".

Watching Tragedy on the News.

Seeing Tragedy in Real life

Remembering loved ones who have passed

Remembering friends who have moved on ...

Thinking of all the "Could possibly's" in life.

Discontentment

Anger which I cannot vent through yelling.

Hurtful words slung at me.

Arguments with those I love.

Movies, happy or sad endings.

Beauty.

Inspirational Speeches.

Extreme illness..that feeling of frustration and impotence.

And oddly enough, getting my blood drawn. I've had more bloodtests in my life than I can count, and I've donated many times too. But every single time they put one of those needles in my arm, I turn my head to the wall, and the tears come. It's not the pain. It's something else that I can't quite put my finger on. I'm not afraid of shots. Shots don't bother me. Just blood being drawn..and IV's do it too. Don't know why...

[Night_Goddess]

Over time, I've found that the things that make me cry are often rooted in one cause: the illusion that I am alone.
When the illusion gets the 'upper hand', when I believe it....I cry.
I also cry when I'm laughing really hard.
It's a great feeling, and it is something I share with my mother and daughters. If you haven't laughed so hard that you cry, you gotta try it....feel so emotionally clean after :)
I like the definition I heard somewhere about what makes us cry. It has to do with the fact that when our hearts become full, our eyes allow the extra (emotion) to spill out.
---At the same time----- (and aren't we all a bundle of contradictions!?)
I told my best friend I get angry with myself when I cry (especially if I'm expressing something with passion) because I feel it weakens what I'm trying to say.
I loved his response, "I don't, or CAN'T cry...and that makes me angry."




"...because I have learnt how to fly - taking off downwards - moving in three dimensions - freefalling into the silence, the comfort of beeing held - far away from the worries on the surface. That´s why."

[WitchJezebel]

I cry over EVERYTHING!!! But only when I'm alone. I've got this tough as nails facade that most everyone sees; whether they see thru it or not is irrelevant, they don't let on.

Cloak - that goodness I'm not the only one who gets misty over some commercials! I'm so embarrased... :T

[Flaire-FireStar]

When the death realization smacks me in the face again and again, or there's some movie or TV show that deals with stuff like that...

Otherwise, I rarely cry.

[PeleRising]

I cry for a lot of different reasons and usually only with hubby or by myself ...

commercials get me everytime... I remember one... i was pregnant with my second child and it was this particular mcdonalds commercial of a little boy standing in a doorway...looking at his brand new sibling that everyone was fussing over...and he said.... but i had blue eyes first.... and Im off in teary land.... (you probably had to be there...lol) I cry when ppl are hurt, or ppl are sad, I cry with pride, and I too laugh so hard I cry... and you are right Night Goddess it is a great feeling. I cry a lot when Im missing ppl or when I think of the future with out them.

I guess im a waterworks....LOL

[mol]

Being away from my wife and kids.

[Phoenix Blue]

Having to get on the plane from Denver, or having to drive my Love to the airport down here.

Frustration and stress are big causes, too.

[Bainidhe Dub]

I don't cry at most sad songs, but certain songs do make me cry (Don't Take the Girl by Tim McGraw a good example). I hardly ever cry at movies, but a few (like Braveheart - I know lol) do.

I do cry though when I'm so frustrated and don't know what to do or can't do anything about it. I guess that makes it like a stress thing for me.

I cry over my dog, too. I cried when she was at the vet's overnite to be spayed. She got into a small tiff with her mom once and got bit on the ear and I was in tears. Dad had to send me out of the room. I hate blood lol.

[st0rm]

I cry when in extreme pain or when I got someything in my eye :D
The only movies I've cried over are StarTrek: Generations(when kirk dies), the bad, the good and the ugly and lotr2

[Blueowl]

I have been known to be emotional...but it takes alot for me to give into crying....I mean alot...usually when I am drunk, I don't care...but things that get me teary eyed are certain sad parts in movies (IE Steel Magnolias, at the funeral...when Sally Field went off...and nothing could beat what Olympia Dukakis did and Shirley Mclane, I cried harder at the joke than the sad part of death) I am having some bouts of tears lately with some things going on with an ailing family member....and when I laugh hard enough....

[MzNeko]

Movies and books get me - just don't even ask me about Braveheart orWhat Dreams May Come...

Oddly enough, I always get misty-eyed during the opening sequence of The Lion King - I think it's the combination of the imagery and the music. :o

Deaths of loved ones. Most recently, about a year ago, I went with a friend to have his terminally ill cat put to sleep. It didn't help that I considered the cat to be a good friend of mine in his own right.

When I found out that my kitty has FIV. He's doing pretty okay right now (it's been over a year), but the day that the vet told me the diagnosis was pretty rough.

I also cry when I'm frustrated or angry - I HATE that! :mad:

Sometimes when PMS is messing with me, I cry for no durned good reason...

Oh, also there's a song by Heather Alexander called Only the Music that I CAN'T sing along with, because my throat tightens up and I get misty-eyed - every darned time! And I'm not even sure why...

That's all I can think of right now.

[Amethyst Rose]

Lately, because I'm pregnant, I'll cry at the drop of a hat.... seriously, it's getting pretty darned pathetic the things that will make me cry.
Normallly, however, I would cry when really happy, or when something (or someone) hurts me, but that's it. I've only ever really cried at one movie (Titanic)....mom used to say (jokingly) that I have a hard heart, because of it.

[MidnightSun]

Hmm..certain songs, and movies. What dreams may come was one of the first movies I cried at on a recent basis.

When I am very very sick or in a lot of pain, I cry. When I am extremely upset or angry or frustrated, I cry.
Sometimes I cry for no reason..lol..hormones, gotta love em. :)

I am a very emotional person. I react based on how I feel more often then not. Everyone at home calls me a drama queen, which i'm not. Just a little too sensitive.

[Valnorran]

Onions, tear gas, pepper spray... that's about it. Physical pain doesn't do it to me any more. Emotional pain... well, that depends. If it's in a setting I consider appropriate, I might. At the funeral for one of my uncles, I almost made it through. He'd had cancer, so his death wasn't a shock. He was an air force veteran, so he got a military funeral. Surprisingly, the playing of Taps did nothing to me. For some reason, when they handed the flag to his widow, that got me. I still don't know why. You'd think Taps would have done it. If the setting is not appropriate, I rarely allow myself to cry. Self control is a very big issue with me.

[Lunacie]

Loud noises when I have a headache make me cry. Otherwise I have to be in excruciating pain before I cry.

When my gramma-in-law was dying and asked me to sing some hymns for her I couldn't because I kept crying. But I was able to sing them for my Mom when she was dying a few years later.

When I get hormonally unbalanced I cry over anything. And guess what? I still get hormonally unbalanced even after menopause. Just not every 23 days. :D

[Eglaf]

I don't cry, Period, I am a very heartless person.

[SimplyStrange]

When it all just becomes too much. Lately I've been crying in math almost every day because I have had an F in there and the year is almost over, and my parents are hounding me to be the perfect student, or what my brother's weren't. My mother was a math major in college, and I think it frustrates her that the only kid out of the three of us that is any good at math dropped out of high school. So she wants me to do well, but I don't. And after awhile, when it feels like I'm never going to get it, and never going anywhere, I just break down. The good news though is that I retook my last two tests today....aced them. :cool:

I have a very unhealthy mental life too. That is, I like to pity myself sometimes, and that pisses me off, so I beat myself up about it in my head which in turn makes me cry and pity myself for it... and it's a cycle. :ugh: :shot:

Stress makes me cry a lot... over things I usually wouldn't cry about. :p Or when someone I look up to tells me to shut up, or I offend them somehow or whatever. I feel so stupid.

Fights with my dad make me cry everytime. Disappointing my mother... lack of encouragement about the shows that I do.

I don't know, a lot of things make me cry now... this has been a terrible school year. Worst year of my life. :(

[*GrumpButt*]

When I give my daughter a smack on the bottom, awwwwwww I hate that.
When she hurts herself and gets all upset, alot of things to do with my daughter.

Or when i am on a hormonal rampage during my hell week.

[Ravens_Tears]

I guess it depends, because there are different ways of crying...

I will cry when I'm angry faster than at any other time...

I cry when I'm very happy, but it's when it's overwhelming happiness... and when I'm singing love/sad songs.. specially if I'm dumb enough to look at my sisters when we sing together (they started it.. really:p )

I keen when I'm in deep emotional pain.

I cry when I am in physical pain.. but I don't usually make any sound.

Crying is a physical as well as emotional release for me...

[Grey]

Theres three or four songs thatll make me crie. no movies, two books have made me cry in my life. The death of a loved one will make me cry for about ten minutes, loosing a frined to something besides death will have me cry for two minutes to once, three days, but that was a special case, and I was a delussional idiot Im sure.

I dont normally feel emotions, I try to hard to be detached. Its like theyre in the back of my head I recognize their pressence, but I suppress them. Im a bit afraid of leting people know what Im truely feeling, its like standing naked infront of a firing lign.

oh well, everyone has a special weekness.

[Psyche Ague]

I cry a lot, though not as much as I used to. I think I'm too busy to have a good cry. Maybe I'll do that tonight. (Okay, maybe I'm weird for wanting to schedule some good "cry" time with myself, but it really is a release for me)

I cry when I'm lonely, depressed, upset, stressed, happy, in Love...

During REALLY good movies (I cried a little on the way home from seeing "Donnie Darko" last night), when I make love (only sometimes...when I become very emotional), if I read a good book, if music moves me, when Nature once again amazes me with Her beauty, when I'm in physical or emotional or mental pain, if someone dies (anyone, really), if an animal is in pain, when I'm hormonal...

Basically all the time. ;) I'm extremely emotional though I try hard to give the appearance that I'm detached and cold. In fact, I'm more emotional than most people I know because I allow myself to feel. I think feeling is what makes us human.

However, my boyfriend cries more than I do, so it's definitely not a "girl thing." ;)

[Ahautenites]

Anything makes me cry if my hormones are acting up.

My job makes me cry on occasion.

My family and friends make me cry sometimes.

Sad songs on the radio do, too.

And sometimes, just when I'm incredibly happy. Sounds lame, but it's true.

[Wyrdsister]

Today? Everything.

I found out my aunt had two mini strokes. She's 32. I'm really worried for her.

[SimplyStrange]

Originally posted by Ravens_Tears


I will cry when I'm angry faster than at any other time...


That's exactly how I am. It sucks because then I can't get my point across. When I'm really angry, I just burst. It's like my eyes become two fishbowls that someone has shattered.

As for movies and songs:

Schindler's List ALWAYS makes me cry, and I have seen it over a thousand times.

I'm a sucker for good acting. Castaway made me cry. Poor Wilson. I'm sure you all know what part I'm talking about, but I don't want to spoil it for anyone who hasn't seen it!

The Cranberries' songs make me cry because my dad SEVERELY overplayed them when he and my mom first got divorced, so it brings up some pretty bad feelings.


My dad is so cute. He cries at so many movies. We watched the old Zefferelli (sp?!) version of Romeo and Juliet awhile ago, and by the time the movie was over, he was trying to hide his sniffles and wipe his eyes casually. He cried at Babe! :p

[Chibi-Fallon]

I hardly ever cry. The last time I almost cried was when a kid in my class was beaten to death (a few weeks ago). The people who killed him didn't even know who it was, they thought it was someone else.
I really wanted to cry then, I just couldn't. I've gotten like that a lot lately. It's almost like I can't cry anymore, I just can't remember how or something. It's very odd.

[Emerald Oak]

LOL, I actually hit the "post" button without including the other things that make me cry. Habit, I guess.


Anyway, major stress has a tendency to get the water works flowing. I would cry on the way home from my first job pretty often, because I was the scape goat there. I eventually decided that mental health was more important than money, so I quit (in tears, of course).

I had a good cry when my cat died. There were a lot of factors in this one--she died on New Year's Eve, and it was hard to accept the fact that she didn't quite make it to 2003 (I thought she'd atleast get to see the new year). I never got to say goodbye to her, because I thought we'd put her to sleep before she went naturally. Plus, she was one of my best friends, which makes it obvious as to why I cried.

When I was younger, I had sever social anxiety. People would tease me constantly, and I didn't stop listening to them until I "snapped" (see my first post, above). I wasn't smart enough to look for a haven to cry in, but it probably wouldn't matter, since those kids would've come to bother back there, and maybe even worse wince they'd be out of the teacher's eye.

Also, my mom cried when it finally hit her that I had given up on school. This was mainly due to the fact that our school system is absolutely horrible (the stories I could tell!), and I wasn't learning anything relevant to MY life plans--just everyone else's plans for me.

Also, I had my heart broken once, which made me cry on more than one night, but I won't go into details.

[Adam Of Avalon]

Don't laugh, but when I saw Fellowship of the Ring, I started gettin' misty eyed. You know, the scene near the end where Frodo is contemplating his challenge and then he remembers Gandalf's words of advice. Then Sam almost drowns trying to get out to Frodo. "'Don't you lose him Samwise Gamgee!' And I don't intend to."

The final scene of Schindler's List, where Liam Neeson says he could have sold more of his belongings to save more Jews.

In the musical Les Miserables, Jean Valjean (Colm Wilkinson) sings the Ballad "Bring Him Home". It really has nothing to do with the lyrics, it's just the beauty of the music.

The Lion King, when Mufasa dies.

[Xeen]

I don't cry. I get close sometimes, but that's usually when I'm watching something like Animal Planet's Animal Hospital type thing.

For example, they had this dog they rescued from these evil owner(s) that was COVERED in ticks. This poor dog was covered in so many ticks that there were layers of ticks... ticks upon ticks... it was disgusting and sad. I have no idea how humans can let an animal get like that.

Even thinking about it, I almost want to cry.

But... I shove everything away.

I didn't cry over the 9/11 shit because I'm glad a bunch of humans got killed. I've got no remorse whatsoever over humans dying. It's the animals.

But yeah... animal abuse gets to me. Almost.

[AstraSkye]

Sometimes I cry when watching TV... for no reason at all, really... "this woman inspired me!!" on Oprah, and there I go... I think my hormones are out of balance, because I often seem to cry for no reason at all... I sort of like it though, because it's really refreshing and relieving... :) I've been like this a lot lately (past few months). A bit over a year ago, I almost never cried...

[SimplyStrange]

I forgot the biggest thing:

Seeing my mother cry.

My mother has always been the most powerful and beautiful woman and strongest person in the world. And I have only seen her cry once. Usually if she cries (which is rare) she locks herself in her room until she's done. But she always comes out with red eyes and nose and I have to go lock myself in my room and cry until I'm done! It's worse when I feel like I've made her cry.

The only time I've actually seen her cry was after my great grandmother died, my aunt and uncle made a tribute video to her, and showed it all to us, and by the time it was over, I glanced at my mom, who was rubbing her eyes to stop crying, and just said quietly, "That was nice."

Oh crap. Here come the waterworks just thinking about it. :wah2:

[Emerald Oak]

Aww... (((((((SimplyStrange)))))))

Log onto AIM, I'll chat wiv you and bake you cookies and cake and make it all better :D

[Haruka2077]

Typically, I cry over books. The ending of The Return of the King will make me break out and bawl anywhere, anytime.
I'm really a crybaby though, and a lot of things both good and bad will make me tear up.

[SimplyStrange]

I cry when I'm deeply emotionally confused...

...like now. :wah:

[labgoddess]

well.... the one thing that gets the water works going would have to be my dad. He never really leaves my thoughts and it makes it hard. I love him with all my heart and I miss him terribly. In May, he'll have been passed for a year and a half.
Love ya Dad!
C.

[Rubi Waters]

Well I definately fit my birthsign (cancer) because yes my emotions rule me.
I could be having a good day and read a book or a commercial will come on and I could find myself all teary about something with it. (usually kids & animals get me the most) I have cried at that commercial for Ikea where they put the lamp out in the garbage because they bought a new one and the guy says that you are crazy if you feel sorry for the lamp. Ok I'm crazy!!!!
But for the most part I won't actually let anyone see me cry. I am guarded if I watch a movie with anyone (except my Mom I'll cry with her).
But like some here If I'm extreemly frustrated or stressed I will cry for lack of anything else to release it. Sad thing is I've been terribly stressed for about a while with no end in sight. :(

[MammaStar]

Having to yell at my son on days when we're supposed to be "happy" and we're going to have to deal with my family in a few hours.

[Rubi Waters]

Originally posted by Phoenix_Blue

Having to get on the plane from Denver, or having to drive my Love to the airport down here.


Originally posted by Mol
Being away from my wife and kids.

also hearing things like this will make me cry. I get all teary when I see evidence of actual true love like those above quotes. To know that kind exists makes me all weepy. I get both Glad it's out there and sad that I haven't found it.

[Thistle]

I'm a very emotional person, so lots of things make me cry. I cry whenever I hear Taps. Amazing Grace, especially on the bagpipes, makes me loose it completely. My mom passed over 20 years ago, but sometimes I miss her and want to talk to her so much it makes me cry. Hurt animals or kids make me cry. If I get angry enough, I cry. Sad movies. Sad songs. Sad books. Getting my feelings hurt. Seeing someone else cry. Rejection. Abandonment.

I've been told "you're too sensitive" too many times to count, but I don't see it as a fault.

What makes me cry most is my daughter. I haven't seen her or heard from her in 5 months. I cry hot, bitter tears almost every day. In fact, I'm crying right now.

[Emerald Oak]

((((((Thistle))))))))

Eek, this is turning into a pretty sad thread. Well, I wanted an interesting reaction, and I got it.

Anyway, Thistle, remember that you have a family here (which includes dozens of daughters ;))