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Painted_Crow
August 30th, 2012, 11:44 AM
Howdy yall,

I know it's been a long time since I've posted on this site. The path of life has made me take a detour, but every once in a while I get to see small glimpses of the main path through the bushes. I have checked in from time to time, but never long enough to post. I have decided to find that time so that I can ask a few questions that I feel you all would be best to answer. Before I get to my questions, please allow me to tell you what has recently happened in our our lives.

Back in January of this year, my wife and I found out that after 10 year of marriage (and "practice") we were going to be parents for the first time. At first we were scared as we weren't planning on trying for another year or so. After the realization hit, we didn't mind that nature (or fate) had decided it was our time to take our life bond to a new level. On Valentine's, we announced to our family and friends that we were expecting. We got our fair share of a few "woo-hoo!" and "about time" responses. We planned a trip to go up to the mountains to celebrate and to be in a surrounding that we felt drawn to on the day we were suppose to hear our baby's fist heart beat. When that day arrived we got up extra early and loaded the car so we could hear our baby's beat for the first time and head our last vacation as a family of two. But that day that was full of joy and light, quickly turned dark, darker than the day I lost my father. There was no heart beat. Our baby's heart stopped beating 7 1/2 weeks into development. This shattered my wife and while I had to remain strong for her, shredded me from the inside out. We have both been suffering from depression over the loss.

Agonizing days turned into weeks and as a few months rolled by we were able to come to terms with the loss and started to talk about actually trying to conceive again. That was put on hold for a month while her sister had her baby, who had to be flown to Dallas for heart surgery. He's doing tons better and hasn't needed medicines for weeks now, he's gaining strength perfectly. So the conversation came up between my wife and myself about trying again. Since we are both followers of the pagan path, we wanted to try things like time the pregnancy and gender selection, and all of that stuff. I began reading up on alot of those subjects and reported back to the Mrs. when I found out something.

To give you all a little more background, my wife has been off birth control for about three years now. She had previously been on the depo shot. Right after she stopped the BC, she started charting her cycles. When they started to return to normal, she started paying attention to her mucus consistency and charting that along with her daily temperature. While looking up online Chinese gender charts (which I have found to be all over the board in prediction), I came across a pregnancy site that mentioned conceiving during certain zodiac signs. I shared that bit with my wife and she liked the idea. According to the chart, since I am a Virgo and she is a Libra on the cusp of Virgo (her birthday is the 23rd of Sept.), the chart recommended we try for a Pisces, Gemini, a Virgo birth (http://www.tarot.com/family/parenting/baby-compat.php?parent1sign=6&parent2sign=7). There were others down the list, but those were the top three. Since we had missed the window for a Pisces conception, we both talked on it and have decided that we want to try this method. Now, I know that I shouldn't believe everything I read online, but the concept (no pun intended) was intriguing to both of us, especially since we want our child to be a creative and artistic type like we are.

My wife and I have been abstaining from sex for a few days while she's ovulating so that we can have a better chance of getting a boy. But according to some of my reads, I have seen that if a child is conceived during a full moon, there's a great chance it will be a girl. I found that interesting and not totally against having a girl, it's just we are trying more for the zodiac sign and my wife's highest day of fertility is tomorrow. I also realized that tomorrow's moon will not only be full, but a blue one as well! Okay so finally I can get down to my questions.

Is there anything special or important to know about conceiving a baby on a full moon? I had thought there was an old wives tale about that, but I might be thinking about seeing a hare looking at the moon.

I know there has been a few threads about gender selection, and while everyone's opinion is valid, I'm not trying to stir up any debate. But my other question is, do you think that conceiving on a full moon will lead to having a girl, even if my wife and I try in the position that will give a greater chance for a boy?

One last thing I want to say is that I don't want to come off as some shallow guy or anything. My wife and I are very in tune with each other, I feel that we are so in tune, her pheromones do affect me when she's ovulating. I love my wife and I would give anything to see her happy again. Knowing how having our baby pulled from us has been the most painful experience to ever go through. If she tells me she wants a baby, she's serious. My wife and I had low self-esteems for the majority of our lives, but now we have grown older together and know that we are a team, we both feel that we have matured and overcome some of our personal self-prejudices and want our love to form a new being for us to teach, love, and cherish together.

Painted_Crow
September 14th, 2012, 02:45 PM
UPDATE:

Well my lovely wife is pregnant. We officially found out today, but had been thinking she was by the repeat symptoms she was experiencing like from her first pregnancy. So we are expecting the new addition in May (23-26). We have to set her up an appointment so she can get her hormone levels checked as we think this may have been a reason she lost the first one. Never hurts to check.

I hope someone who may know my question give me an answer. Just curious to see if there is something that the Google isn't picking up.

Djiril
September 14th, 2012, 06:08 PM
Well, I can't answer you question, but congratulations! I hope everything goes well this time.

Painted_Crow
September 14th, 2012, 06:23 PM
Thank you very much Djiril!

Aine de Morrigan
September 15th, 2012, 06:34 AM
I'm afraid I can't be of help either, but your story is very moving and I wish you all the best with this new pregnancy!

barfcookies
September 15th, 2012, 08:11 AM
Congrats! I wish I had some answers for you, but this pregnancy stuff is way over my head. I do understand in a way what you two are going through a bit, so my heart goes out to you, and I hope that this time around is a wonderful success.

Painted_Crow
September 17th, 2012, 12:10 PM
Thank you very much, Áine de Morrígan & barfcookies. We are both excited, but nervous that we'll have another miscarriage. She's trying to get in as soon as she can to get her hormone levels checked. We suspect that may have been a factor in our loss (not to mention we had been sick with fever and couldn't wait to be intimate). But it has been hard for her from stepping from the realm of maiden to mother, only to feel like she was shoved back and denied fully embracing the next step in her stage on life.

The doctor told us that the baby would be due on or around the 26th. I kept feeling "24" in my mind so when I got home I checked the witches almanac and the 24th of May is suppose to be a partial eclipse and a full moon. While searching around the Google, I found that a saying that if a baby is conceived on a full moon, they will be born on a full moon. The saying also said it would be a boy. We were trying for a boy, so we'll see if that worked out. We really just want a healthy baby, no matter the sex.

Painted_Crow
November 29th, 2012, 05:15 PM
Just an update. Baby and momma are doing fine. We had a check up yesterday and we got to hear our little one's heart beat, which sounded strong and clocked in at 150bpm. My sister in law thinks it's going to be a boy b/c that's pretty close to her son's heart rate (I think his was 153). We still won't know officially until after the new year. We did go in last month for our first sonogram where we saw our baby for the first time. We are both excited, but still nervous for the changes that a baby brings.

barfcookies
November 30th, 2012, 02:12 AM
that's really wonderful news! not to be creepy but i was wondering about you and your wife the other day and hoping you were both doing well. i'm glad you checked in, man.

Cloaked Raven
November 30th, 2012, 08:17 AM
Painted Crow, congrats and I hope everything goes okay for your wife and the little one!

As for the changes a new baby will bring, you'll adapt, and quite quickly, I assure you. It didn't take Hubby and I very long to adapt to having a new baby after our son was born (in May of 2004) and Son was in the hospital until he was 12 days old (long story and I don't want to scare anyone!). I swear there were some days that I sleepwalked through everything! :lol: Son was colicky too, and there were many a night that one of us sat up in the rocking chair, holding him so he could sleep or the other one of us could get an hour or two in before switching so we both got a little sleep.

Yeah, being a parent is tough by times but the rewards are more than worth it all! :smile:

Painted_Crow
November 30th, 2012, 07:08 PM
that's really wonderful news! not to be creepy but i was wondering about you and your wife the other day and hoping you were both doing well. i'm glad you checked in, man.

Thank you very much! Naw it doesn't sound creepy to me. :)



Painted Crow, congrats and I hope everything goes okay for your wife and the little one!

As for the changes a new baby will bring, you'll adapt, and quite quickly, I assure you. It didn't take Hubby and I very long to adapt to having a new baby after our son was born (in May of 2004) and Son was in the hospital until he was 12 days old (long story and I don't want to scare anyone!). I swear there were some days that I sleepwalked through everything! :lol: Son was colicky too, and there were many a night that one of us sat up in the rocking chair, holding him so he could sleep or the other one of us could get an hour or two in before switching so we both got a little sleep.

Yeah, being a parent is tough by times but the rewards are more than worth it all! :smile:

Thank you CR. Don't worry about scaring us with extended hospital stay stories. My wife's sister just had a baby in June and they found out that his heart valves were essentially backwards, they had to fly him to a specialist on the other side of the state where he had surgery and a month long stay away from home. He's doing much better now and smiles and laughs when he sees his uncle (me). Thanks also for the vote of confidence on adapting. I have been an uncle for many years now and while it's just a portion of "what it's like to be a parent", I feel that with help from my wife, that adapting won't be such a hard ordeal. The Mrs. and I are a pretty good team. We have been married for 10 years and never fought or strayed from each other. We have so much love for each other that everyone has been giving us the "about time" comments. LOL

Cloaked Raven
December 1st, 2012, 01:21 PM
Understood, and Son's problems were NOT near as bad as your nephew's. I hope the little guy has a speedy recovery and he keeps smiling and stays happy! He sounds like an amazing young man. :smile:

Son was just born early and was small for his gestational age, he was born at 37 weeks and weighed only 4 pounds 10 ounces but was healthy otherwise. You wouldn't know it now, he's huge for 8 and a half and built like a brick wall! :lol:

Yeah, being an aunt or an uncle will help you prepare for becoming a parent. I'm an auntie three and a half times over (sis is preggers with #4 right now, due on Valentine's Day) and my nephew and oldest niece were "trial runs" for me before I became a mom myself. Being an aunt is almost as great as being a mom in my opinion. :smile: