Let's talk about death. Yours in particular.

[Emerald Oak]

I know this is kind of a morbid subject, but I'm curious. If you were dying of disease or something, what would you tell your kinfolk you wanted for your funeral? Be specific if you want. Here's mine:

First of all, I don't wanna be cremated. I wanna be buried in Mother Earth, like any good hippy :) Secondly, I want the services to be held at dawn, so everyone there could see the sunrise during the whole thing. Sunrises and sunsets are a big deal to me (they're so awesome!!), and I wanna share that with everyone one last time.

Okay, that's it. What's everyone else's thoughts on their own deaths?

[Radocs]

If possible I'd like to be cremated and have my ashes dumped into the wind. That's it.

[Chanda]

Cremated and ashes thrown into the wind from a cliff on the edge of an ocean.

And I dont want a proper funeral, just hubby a closest family/friends can come and say goodbye.

[Pesha]

Buried under an old oak tree and have them plant daffodiles there to come up in spring. Also near a body of water. Now back to living and breathing.

BB

D'S
also known as.....

[Mistiblue]

I uesed to date a guy who always said "When I die I just want to be dumped out in the woods and let the buzzards pick my bones."
Ewwwww,... ha :geez:

I don't really know what I want for mine except to be buried and not cremated. Just don't like the idea of Burning. http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies/flamingmad.gif

Other than that,.. Hummm. I think a festive atmosphere with lots of wind chimes. Oh, and no phonies hanging around acting all sad when they didn't give a rats patooty while I was alive,.. and I'll know it if they do.
http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies2/loco.gif(Big Grin)http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies2/partysmiley.gif:lol:http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies2/eek.gif http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies2/boat.gif

[Tarbh Nathroch]

[QUOTE=Mistiblue]"When I die I just want to be dumped out in the woods and let the buzzards pick my bones."
Ewwwww,... ha :geez:

Yep, sign me up for that.

Honestly though I will probably go with cremation since I can't be thrown into the woods. At lest my ashes can. DO NOT put me in a box and seal me a way from the earth. I would like a gathering of friends and family, it does help them to deal. A party would be preferred over a wake, but most of them are probably to programmed to suffer at a wake than to enjoy a party. A tree planting would be great, I'd love that.

Those of you that want to be scattered in the wind. Be prepared to have a final resting place in the lungs of strangers. I have at lest 17 ex-people in my lungs.

[Chanda]

I hope my "scatterers" will be smart enough to check wind direction before the actual event (maybe I'll add a wear a face mask clause).

On the other hand, as I imagine the place to be empty of other people except for those I love maybe, in a strange way, its not such a bad thing that a small part of me becomes a part of them.

[Siarlas]

First of all, if I were dying of a disease 'or something', I'd tell them to shoot me 'or something'. I don't want to waste away or live in agony until the end.
Second, you know ... oh crap... Merran? William Wallace's chick in Braveheart. You remember her burial? Just very close personal thing, and wrapped in whatever and put in the ground. I don't want anyone wasting money on a box that's gonna rot along with me. Have you seen how much they cost?! Even the 'cheap' ones. I mean, I almost died.. ugh... no pun intended... when I saw how much my stepdad's coffin cost. And he got cremated! Anyhows... yeah... dump me in the ground under a lovely tree and I'll be happy.

[Pingmao]

I personally would want to be buried deep in the woods. After they bury me, I want them to plant a tree over me, so that my body will be of use to something. :)

I hate the idea of being crammed in an overly expensive pine box and buried in an area where other overly expensive pine boxes with residents reside. I hate cemeteries; too much concentrated negative energy combined with wasted space...

[VelvetBlade]

I definately have to be cremated. Both of my parents were as well. Mom's urn is buried at her favorite summer pond....with a lilac bush planted on top (her fav flower) and Dad's ashes were scattered on the battlefield at Gettysburg...but shhhhh...dont tell them we did it. They told us "no" when we asked....hehehehe. He was a civil war buff, to say the least. Swore that he was there ..and could tell you things about the war and the soldiers....names and everything...that he'd never seen in a history book. It was eerie, but that's where we felt he belonged.

I'm still undecided about where I'd like my ashes....have to be near the ocean though...that much is a given.

I'd like to add something to this if I may......would you want family members to keep some of your ashes for themselves??


~AW

[Chanda]

I'd like to add something to this if I may......would you want family members to keep some of your ashes for themselves??

No, I think it would slow down the process of moving on.

[Xentor]

I want to be cremated. And I want my family and friends to have fun. They shouldn't mourn for me, as I believe I'll simply move on to the next life.

However, I shall mourn for those I leave alone, those that loved me or depended on me. For them, I composed a piece of music that I like to be played during the funeral.

And I'll give everyone a card or a coin or something to remember me by. I already chose an epitaph: "Eternal world improver".

I'm not done yet in this life. But I plan ahead, and live every day to the fullest, as I'm totally aware of the fragility of the human species.

[Twig]

My will stipulates me to be cremated with a pagan ceremony, my ashes to be deposited to the 4 elements. I'd like to see the lawyers face when he sees THAT!

Peace,
Twig
:elf:

ps-PUT IT IN YOUR LAST WILL FOLKS! That's the ONLY way you can "rest assured" heheheh

pps-my 1212 post and #13 on the thread. Hmmmm interesting!

[Bef]

I know what Id like.
I would like to be cremated and burried under each of the elements. Id also like to have a pentagram on my gravestone with some Pagan words of wisdom, and the symbols of the god and goddess.

[Bainidhe Dub]

I want to be cremated. Coffins are entirely too expensive and frankly give me the creeps. It'd be nice to have my ashes scattered in a few of my favorite spots - but it would also be nice to be buried under a lilac tree near a pond or in the Adirondacks on the river.

[Ahautenites]

Well, if I'm ever dying with a disease that is incurable, I'm not telling anyone. All my life, I've seen my family suffer through everyone else who has died of a long illness. I won't do that. I will live with whatever is wrong for as long as I am able, and when/if the pain becomes too great, I will put an end to it.

And when I'm dead, I want my body shipped back to Massachusetts. I want a wake, and I want to see people there laughing and smiling and remembering me how I was in this life, because I'll not have died... just moved on. And I'll be happy about it, because I'll get to see everyone who meant something to me that I haven't seen in a very long time. If my family decides to go against these wishes and have the "traditional Frampton funeral," I'll be livid. That's where the body is displayed in this creepy caretaker's house, and people I barely know come and cry insincere tears because, after all, they knew me soooo well. And then the next day, someone I've never seen before, of a religion I have nothing to do with, would speak all about God's grace and my love of life and my life in general. And of course, the person my parents' would find would be one to talk of forgiveness and how God would have to forgive me for not knowing Him in life and that I would learn and be welcome and loved by Him. **feeling like I want to wretch at that thought** I want no such person to give last words to people about me. You don't know me, you aren't of my beliefs, and you're a condescending, arrogant dork to boot.... You're not welcome and you're not invited.

I hope very few people send me carnations and chrysanthemums. Can can barely stand the smell of either of them because I've been to so many funerals.

I want to be buried in my night clothes. I never understand why my family insists on dressing people up in their best clothes. I want to wear something comfortable.

And I want to be buried somewhere in sight of the pond (or else under the shade of one of the old trees) in Pine Grove Cemetery in Lynn, MA.

I don't care about time of day for these things. Funerals, like weddings, are for the guests rather than the hosts, IMO. So, it should be a time of day that is comfortable and convenient for everyone.

[Ryhla]

I would like to be cremated and a party given...like any other family shindig (the Jenkins way of saying get-together). Then at night have my ashes scattered on top of the Lewiston Hill. If the family want to keep part of my ashes, that's up to them. But for the most part, I want to be scattered on the hill, so they can think of me looking upon them.

[Mistiblue]

I saw Drew Barrymore on an interview once and she said that when she dies she want's her cat to eat her, that way they will become as one. http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies/teleport.gif

I'm thinking,..well, for a few hours anyway.http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/smilies2/thewave.gif

[AstraSkye]

I find burials to be a bit creepy... but I do NOT want to be cremated!! (and I don't want to donate my organs). A simple, white coffin would do for me... and lots of roses, because that's my favorite flower. I just want people who truly loved me to attend the funeral. And I'd like to be dressed in something comfortable...

[Chibi-Fallon]

Well I want my organs donated, to many people die waiting for them, and heck I'm not gonna be using them anymore. Then I think I wanna be cremated, I don’t really know what I want people to do with my ashes. Whatever they want I guess. I’m dead what do I care?

[Chanda]

Organs donated? Thats a good question. I havent decided yet... I guess I'll need to think about it.

[Seren Mara]

I'm a registered organ donor. When I die I want something good to come of it. When that process is done with, I'd like whatever's left of my remains to be cremated.

I want a funeral so that my friends can come and say goodbye. I only want people to wear black if they want to. I know which music I want played, and if it's possible, I'd like my music friends to play a piece. Just a last send off. I know I won't be there, but just the thought of all my friends together makes me smile.

Then they can all go to the pub.

[sianand_flidais]

I want to be cremated and have my ashes scattered in the wind. Partly because I think it's sort of romantic and partly because i don't want there to be a grave for people to mourn by. I'd rather they remembered me alive than focused on the fact that I'm dead.

I keep meaning to fill in an organ doner card, If any part of my body can help other people then in my mind that can only be a good thing.

[Illuminatus]

I know this is kind of a morbid subject, but I'm curious. If you were dying of disease or something, what would you tell your kinfolk you wanted for your funeral? Be specific if you want. Here's mine:

First of all, I don't wanna be cremated. I wanna be buried in Mother Earth, like any good hippy :) Secondly, I want the services to be held at dawn, so everyone there could see the sunrise during the whole thing. Sunrises and sunsets are a big deal to me (they're so awesome!!), and I wanna share that with everyone one last time.

Okay, that's it. What's everyone else's thoughts on their own deaths?

My girlfriend swears up and down that in a past life she was named "Bob", lived in Milwaukee, and got shot in the gut and died in world war 2.

[teyl]

I would donate my organs if I could and I have always wanted to be buried in one of these biodegradable coffins that are made out of cardboard http://www.deathonline.net/what_happens/options/biodegradable.cfm After I was dead, I'd get my friends together for a big party and get them to paint my coffin in a way they see fit and have all my fave songs played. If I played all my favourite songs at the actual funeral, it would go for quite a few hours. I then want to be cremated and used to fertalise the garden so I'm still useful when I'm gone:farmerjoe :flowers:

[Chanda]

Yes, I would like to be cremated in one of those cardboard coffins...

[Emerald Oak]

I'm a registered organ donor, but it's not on my ID yet. Oh well, I'm sure I'll still be alive when I renew it :D

[bluecat]

I have a lung disease which has no cure and it is progressive. For some of you who are in the medical profession you will know what COPD is and how it has many forms and can be either fast or slow. Right now I am in what is known as Stage 2 of the disease; my last "saturation" reading was 91%. Frankly, my cats may outlive me and then again, if I take care of myself and do what the docs tell me I could live for quite a long time. Both of my parents passed away this year, my Father on Jan 27, 2003 of cancer of the lung and brain. My Mother passed away on April 7,2003, she simply could not live without my father and lost her will to live. They both died in their sleep. Death has been quite an acquaintance of me this year. I have been "revived" more than once in my life and on two of those occassions was "dead" for about 4 minutes. We cannot be afraid of it, but on the same token we should not bring it upon ourself or others, that has some pretty negative Karma.

I don't write this to be morbid, but I understand what it is to be on the path which has no return. Don't feel sorry for me or pity me, I have lived a full life and have done things which have colored my life, even leaving a few stains on my spirit from time to time. The only advice I have is to live and not worry about the end, that is not healthy, not at all.

As for end of life, I have all of the "paperwork" completed giving my preferences which include things like DNR and to be cremated after I cross over.

Death is not the end, it is a new beginning, but don't rush it or take your life. Live your life and learn from it.

Well, I think I have said enough.

Blue

[Flar's Freyja]

Actually, I've been thinking more about my husband's than my own. He has a terminal illness, but that doesn't guarantee that I won't go first. Now that I think about it, I'd probably want for myself what I'd like to plan for him. I've read that it takes about three days for the spirit to completely separate from the body, so I'd have family and friends come to visit and read poetry or other literature that has meaning and talk about what I have (hopefully) left behind. At this point, I'm not sure if I want to be cremated or buried in the ground, but if I were buried, it would have to be in a pine box that would give something back to the earth. That's about all.

[Scarlettvixen]

donate all my organs
and frankly if medical science has a use for my body they can have it.........if not then cremation and my ashes then buried and a tree planted on top

[She-Arna]

I don't want to be cremated though the thought of being eaten by a worm hardly appeals. Mostly I just want to be remembered.

[Morrighana]

I want my organs donated (only to people who need them, though...not to science, unless I can find a research lab who's ethics I trust that I can specify is ok, lol) and the rest cremated. I don't want a funeral (though if my immediate family is still around by the time I kick the bucket, there likely will be)...I just want a small group of my true friends to bury/scatter my ashes. Ideally in Paris, but if that's not possible, then in a remote mountainous area in the Rockies where I can be alone.

[Nyarlathotep]

Lately I've been thinking about a lot. Why? Well, we've all gotta have something to look forward to, don't we? Anyway, when I ask most people how they wish to be "dealt with" once they become a lifeless sack of flesh, they almost always want to be buried in a coffin or cremated. Being one who likes to explore all of his options, I just can't accept either of these choices.

I mean being buried in a box 6-feet under? I get very agitated anytime I have to work in a tiny cubicle, so being put in an even smaller box isn't my idea of "peace". Besides, what if I'm not really ? What if I'm an unholy demon spawn that comes back to life once every 5000 years (by the way, this is not an admission)? It'd be pretty damned hard to dig my way out of there, if not impossible. So if I'm going to come back to life to feast on the of yuppie scum, I need to be able to get out easily. So being buried just won't cut it for me.

And why would I want to be cremated? Sure, the thought of the gravediggers raping my corpse isn't appealing, and I don't think it's possible to the ashes of the (believe me, I've tried). But even if being cremated means you get to avoid being a ilia victim, the fact is you're gonna soon become fish or some other animal's . Your ashes will get dumped somewhere (such as the ocean) and then some creature will eat it and then all that's left of you will be of some form. Now humans, by nature, are full of as it is... I just don't think we need to further our personal tyness, do you? And sure, you could have your ashes left in an urn , but sooner or later the keeper of it is gonna die. And nobody is going to hold onto your ashes FOREVER. Sooner or later they'll get dumped out and then you WILL become the of some animal... it's inevitable.

So with all of this in mind, I've been thinking of some less-traditional options to consider when I die:

One option is storing my head in a cryogenic freeze in hopes that someday scientists will be able to reanimate me. Ok, let's get one thing straight... I don't want my head removed from my body regardless of whether I'm or alive. My head and my body have been together for a long time, so I can only assume that they would grow incredibly depressed if they were separated. And let's face it; cryogenic people would probably not even do a good job of keeping my head frozen. Remember the last time when the power went out in your house and all the ice pops in the freezer melted? I rest my case. Besides, why would scientists be worried about my severed head when they're busy "GETTIN SOME BOOTY" (and man oh man do them scientists get a lot o' booty)! So I guess I can scratch this option off my list.

Another option is I could have my body jettisoned into space in hopes that aliens in some distant galaxy can bring me back to life. Great, so I get my body sent into outer space, floating around for who knows how long. I get air-sick pretty fast if I stay on a plane too long, so I don't imagine floating forever could be too good for me. And if I was brought back to life after floating for that long, I'm sure the first thing I'd do would be to make up for all the PUKING that I missed out on while I was busy being a , floating corpse.

Furthermore, even if I was brought back to life... what's to say that these aliens who brought me back wouldn't be really ic s? Maybe they'd bring me back to life and then kill me again and then repeat the process for all eternity. They'd create a television show for it called, "watch us kill the dumb human". I would be the star and my hell would never end as I would continuously be reanimated and killed in horrible alien ways. Sorry, that's just not a chance I'm willing to take. Dying once will be hard enough I'm sure.

You know what... none of these options are good. The traditional ones suck as do the less-traditional ones. So I'm going to have to just come up with a whole new way of dealing with my body that I can tolerate. Let's see, I want a nice little place to be built in the middle of a cemetery, like a mini-mausoleum just for me. But instead of having an above-ground coffin as my body's final resting place... I want a La-Z-Boy chair. Furthermore, I want a huge flat-screen TV (with cable) and a stereo system with surround sound speakers. I also want a really nice computer system... top of the line! And just to make sure that computer doesn't become obsolete anytime soon, I want a "geek for hire" to come into my mini-mausoleum once a month and upgrade that bad boy. I also want my own Wendy's restaurant thrown in there so if I do happen to come back to life I can make myself one of those Spicy Chicken Sandwiches or a Giant Cheeseburger!. After all, dying builds up quite an appetite so I might as well pamper myself!

http://www.i-mockery.com/visionary/rip-pic.jpg
Die in STYLE!

Yes, this is it. That's how I want to die. The mini-mausoleum. The La-Z-Boy recliner. The cable TV. The Stereo. The Computer (w/ monthly upgrades). The in-house Wendy's. I could get used to a like that. THAT would REALLY be "resting in peace", which is the point of it all right?

Come to think of it... what am I waiting for?

[Scarlettvixen]

lmaooooooooo

[Elfa Wylde]

I don't care what they do with my body... (as long as my head isn't mounted over the mantle..... :D )

and the service... should they want to have one .. that's up to them...
what I REALLY want is the same thing My mother wanted... and got!

a PARTY!!!!!!! a huge...fabulous... wonderful patry!! :fpartyfav

We had TONS of food...drink...singing...dancing... we celebrated her life... and her good fortune in passing on to the next step...
she was ill for a long time.. and we had plenty of time to discuss what should be done....
the only hitch came when i opted to fulfill a personal request from her... to sing her favourite "funeral" song.... "isn't is grand boys" :jamsessio

The pastor my step-father had hired to officiate was VERY upset.
He pulled me off the chair i was standing on and out the back door and gave me a lecture about being drunk, and disrespectful... (i hadn't even gotten ONE drink yet!!)
Thank goodness my Grandmother came hunting us down having seen the scene he'd made and told him about my mother asking me to sing it for her.

I want every one to have a real blast ... party into the night and on to dawn! Death isn't what should be mourned... not the passing...
You miss the person... but the death and the life that came before it should be celebrated.

My family already knows that this is what i want. my 13 y/o doesn't exactly get it... but she's kind of over sensative and high strung anyway.... (she cried over a bee shed found while helping to weed the garden. bless her... but she's a little weird....i like her like that though)

I better get it too.. or I'll haunt them!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[WandererInGray]

And when I'm dead, I want my body shipped back to Massachusetts. I want a wake, and I want to see people there laughing and smiling and remembering me how I was in this life, because I'll not have died... just moved on. And I'll be happy about it, because I'll get to see everyone who meant something to me that I haven't seen in a very long time. If my family decides to go against these wishes and have the "traditional Frampton funeral," I'll be livid. That's where the body is displayed in this creepy caretaker's house, and people I barely know come and cry insincere tears because, after all, they knew me soooo well. And then the next day, someone I've never seen before, of a religion I have nothing to do with, would speak all about God's grace and my love of life and my life in general. And of course, the person my parents' would find would be one to talk of forgiveness and how God would have to forgive me for not knowing Him in life and that I would learn and be welcome and loved by Him. **feeling like I want to wretch at that thought** I want no such person to give last words to people about me. You don't know me, you aren't of my beliefs, and you're a condescending, arrogant dork to boot.... You're not welcome and you're not invited.

Put it in your will sis...*smiles* So we at least have a legal leg to stand on against your parents.

To everyone else...make sure you check up on your state's requirements concerning the disposal of bodies. *soft smile* Unfortunately, due to worry over disease, etc. there is a set time limit to how long a body can be "unprocessed" by a mortuary.

For example, I'd love to be burned on a bonfire...but that's not legal...so I'm settling for cremation. *shrugs* I'll be dead, who really cares what they do to my body?

[FaerySong]

1) I would want to be cremated and have my ashes spread at Stonehenge (in the fence lol) at sunrise or sunset.

2) not be cremated, and have my body wrapped and put in a stone coffin and put into the sea.

I wouldn't want anyone to cry at my funeral, because I'm not really gone. I've just departed to my next lesson. they may miss my little jokes or my smiles or my voice...But still. lol not like I'm dying soon, but yeah I've thought about that.

[Ben Trismegistus]

I insist on having Mahler's Second Symphony ("Resurrection") played at my funeral.

It's doable -- it only calls for a 150-person orchestra, a 300-person choir, 2 professional soloists and an off-stage brass band.

[Old Witch]

I know this is kind of a morbid subject, but I'm curious. If you were dying of disease or something, what would you tell your kinfolk you wanted for your funeral? Be specific if you want. Here's mine:

First of all, I don't wanna be cremated. I wanna be buried in Mother Earth, like any good hippy :) Secondly, I want the services to be held at dawn, so everyone there could see the sunrise during the whole thing. Sunrises and sunsets are a big deal to me (they're so awesome!!), and I wanna share that with everyone one last time.

Okay, that's it. What's everyone else's thoughts on their own deaths?

I'm ready for it, but lets not talk and say we did.

[Hope]

I am a single parent of two teens and was told last March that I had less than a year to live.

Yes we have had very specific talks about what I want and what they think they want and will need to have closure.

The amazing thing is that the talks have been easy and open and filled with love and life :)

love
hope

[Toad]

When I am gone…I sure as hell don’t want a traditional funeral.

I would love it if my friends and family would get together and have a party. Remember me as I was; make fun, laugh, joke. They should all know that I will be keeping watch over them…and I will be waiting for them on the other side (where we can talk about the fun they poked at me after I was gone ;) ) Know that I lived life on my terms and died a happy man.

One thing I have considered is making up a video tape…say do one every year and just have it put in the safety deposit box. It will be my message from the other side. Talking to a lawyer friend, these tapes, if accompanied with appropriate notarized paperwork serve as legally binding wills. Anyway…I will leave messages for my children, for my family and friends. I would want this played at my wake party.

As for what to do with my possessions? Well I don’t care really…my wife should be able to dole stuff out as she sees fit. I would hope that my more personal items could be given to appropriate children, family and friends. I might mention a few specific things in my video will.

As for what to do with my body? Hell I don’t care…if I am dead it’s just an empty tin can as far as I am concerned. Cremate me so I don’t stink up the joint…dump me somewhere you think I would like. I have always been partial to the ocean…returning to the origins in the sea seems pretty fitting to me. But for goodness sake don’t bury me in some horrendously expensive coffin and plot. Use that money for the party you throw for me after I am gone. =)

[Semele]

When I am gone…I sure as hell don’t want a traditional funeral.
I would love it if my friends and family would get together and have a party. Remember me as I was; make fun, laugh, joke.

I know, we could all spew beer everywhere in your honor!

Love the post...great words of wisdom!

[Lanna]

this is a subject i have thought about so much but have never actually came to a conclusion on.

I do know that i want to donate my organs if needed, be buried somewhere? and whoever takes the service must remember to include that i could be a complete bitch at times if i wanted. It really drives me nuts when people arn't remembered as they were, faults and all! :) its not disrespectful in my eyes, its the person as a whole and thats the person that was known and loved right? *shrugs*

[Arienadean]

Umm I've been dead several times... came back tho or obviously I'd not be posting here. Last time I died was during surgery to repair damage done by my sons birth. Before that I had a near death experience from being cirtically ill with ameobic dysentry in my late teens... and before that I tried to commit suicide as a teen then had 2 near death experiences then then some after when I had spells of serious sleep apnea which now have since stopped.

By my famlies traditions I will be cremated. They know I have no fear of death. I also believe they are aware that if I died and was cremated I want my ashes divided in 4 and sprinkled on the 4 corners of the earth or sprinkled in nature somewhere with nice wildflowers and stuff.

My daughter actively took part in planning her own funeral. She chose her urn, chose to be creamated, etc.

[LightDancer]

Well first of all I thought I would really like to be wrapped in a beautiful linen shroud and buried in a shallow grave surrounded by oak trees.....something I'm not allowed to do :sadeyes:

Then I wanted a funeral pyre, and while my body burns completely away my friends and family celebrate my life any way they see fit....I'll keep the last part...but funeral pyres aren't allowed :sadeyes:

Then I heard that in Tibet when a monk dies they take his body out to a cliff and they call vultures to pick his bones, then they use his bones for making useful tools and such.......but then I'd have to be a Tibetan Buddhist monk;)

So I guess I'll donate my organs, why would I need to keep them ;)
then I'll be cremated...I'm unsure as to where I'll be scattered though :huh:

B*B
Jamie

[AmbivalentMirage]

Oh dear, hmmm..

Well, I believe that personal belongings continue to resonate with the energy of the person after their death. Obviously not EVERY item does, but important ones do. So, here is how it would go...

My survivors will gather my magickal tools and some other personal affects (pictures and letters from loved ones, etc.) (except for my athame and jewelry) and put them in a willow box filled with bay leaves, chammomile, and hawthorne. Then the box will be anointed with clove oil and my blood (okay, this sounds weird, but blood has becoming increasingly symbolic to me... if you want me to elaborate, I will) and decorated with elder leaves. My body will be placed in a glass casket, in which I will be dressed in a black robe and holding a parchment, in which is inscribed the name Isha.

At midnight, my passing service will be held. Poetry, scriptures, and chants will be read. Energy will be raised for my peaceful and complete passing from my body. At the end of the ceremony, the box will be shipped to Israel for burial and my survivors will be given my Book of Shadows an athame. My body, in the glass casket, will be flown over the icy waters of Greenland and dropped into he depths of the sea. :)

...very complex and detailed. lol I have to admit that I've spent a lot of time thinking about my own death.

[Ryhla]

I don't care what they do with my body... (as long as my head isn't mounted over the mantle..... :D )

and the service... should they want to have one .. that's up to them...
what I REALLY want is the same thing My mother wanted... and got!

a PARTY!!!!!!! a huge...fabulous... wonderful patry!! :fpartyfav

We had TONS of food...drink...singing...dancing... we celebrated her life... and her good fortune in passing on to the next step...
she was ill for a long time.. and we had plenty of time to discuss what should be done....
the only hitch came when i opted to fulfill a personal request from her... to sing her favourite "funeral" song.... "isn't is grand boys" :jamsessio

The pastor my step-father had hired to officiate was VERY upset.
He pulled me off the chair i was standing on and out the back door and gave me a lecture about being drunk, and disrespectful... (i hadn't even gotten ONE drink yet!!)
Thank goodness my Grandmother came hunting us down having seen the scene he'd made and told him about my mother asking me to sing it for her.

I want every one to have a real blast ... party into the night and on to dawn! Death isn't what should be mourned... not the passing...
You miss the person... but the death and the life that came before it should be celebrated.

My family already knows that this is what i want. my 13 y/o doesn't exactly get it... but she's kind of over sensative and high strung anyway.... (she cried over a bee shed found while helping to weed the garden. bless her... but she's a little weird....i like her like that though)

I better get it too.. or I'll haunt them!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My thoughts exactly. I want a party. If not, I'll do some hauntings of my own. Knowing my step-mom, she'd have a fit thinking it was improper to have a "funeral" that way. But I've always been a bit eccentric anyway. Anything normal just doesn't feel like me. That's why I don't want the traditional funeral or anything.

[Lavender]

Both my hubby and I made a plaster mould of each other's faces. When I die, I will be cremated. My ashes will be mixed in with linen pulp and made into paper. The paper will be moulded into the masks and decorated. These will hang on my son's wall as art. :D Seriously. I've already taught my son how to make paper, the masks are made. Just waiting to die.

[She-Arna]

Nyarlathotep I absolutely love your idea!

[Marchosias]

I would like to be recycled into Soylant Green.

[Partly Cloudy]

I don't really mind if i'm buried or cremated, though I'd probably prefer to be cremated.

Both my grandparents on my mother's side were cremated and had their ashes thrown into the sea, and I wouldn't mind having the same. But I don't really mind.

Anythings good... it's not like i need the body!

[bluecat]

Since my last post in this thread I have had 2 major lung surgeries, in October 2003. One to stop severe internal bleeding and another to "scoop out" stuff from inside my left lung; you know, the usual stuff, clots, polyps and some goop. I have also had 5 throat surgeries.

I had thought I was not going to post this, but I suppose I am as a sort of catharsis (look it up.Word IQ (http://www.wordiq.com/) )

I will be starting a series of testing on 1 November 2004, they are looking for a cancer. They are suspecting it to be a special type of lung cancer but they are also looking for the usual suspects because of my age; I'm 50.

It's often difficult to breathe, but it doesn't stop me from living, slows me down though.

There is a man who works at our local Social Security Office who has been blind since he was a child and he has been productive ever since. He is almost 65 and will retire soon. Mr. Martinez recently said something in an interview for our local paper that sums a lot of things up,
“If the milk is spilled you can’t pick it up, so you have to do the best you can with your life.”
Tom Martinez

Don't get all morbid about this, it just compounds things. The doorway is there and what happens to our body after we pass through the door is a personal choice.

Take care and Please Be Well.

Blue :cool:

[RogueSpirit]

I've actually thought about this quite a bit. I don't wish to have a funeral. I want all my organs that are needed and suitable for such to be harvested and transplanted. If this isn't possible for whatever reason, I want my body donated to medical science. Whatever's left can be thrown away. I think we waste too much land burying people... it's a precious and finite resource. If my family wishes to have some kind of memorial service, they may do as they see fit. After all, such services are really for the living, not the dead.

[Shanti]

When I saw the title of this thread, only one thing ran through my mind...lets not!! :)

[Tzhebee]

If there's anything left of me, donate my organs to people who need them and burn the shell that's left over. Then take any remaining ashes and let them loose in the wind on the beach at Nags Head NC.

And don't morn my death....celebrate my life. That's all I ask.

[Terestai]

Like TZ, I'd want a party... New Orleans style! :D Hot jazz all around. Speaking of hot, I'd want to be cremated.

[Fairyelf]

I wouldnt want to be cremated,
Id rather just rot slowly in the earth..the natural way..just rot.

[zehava]

I know this is kind of a morbid subject, but I'm curious. If you were dying of disease or something, what would you tell your kinfolk you wanted for your funeral?

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Okay, that's it. What's everyone else's thoughts on their own deaths?

hrmmm... i'm not entirely sure. i know i don't want anyone wasting money and resources on a big fancy funeral/funeral home and a box that isn't going to decompose with me.

i think i want them to listen to loud happy music, dance, drink, and be merry that i've moved on to the next step :)

-z

[Aleigh]

I want to be cremated and scattered around whatever is my favorite tree at that time. I know what tree I would pick if I died tomorrow, but I don't know if we'll still live anywhere around here then.

LMAO at the "scatterers" and wind direction thing. Being poured on the ground around the tree is fine by me! :lol:

[shenanigans]

Burn me, baby, burn me! Burn me and mix my ashes with the dirt in my garden. Oh, but first, take any organs worth recycling.

I forbid the color black for my funeral. Instead I want everyone to wear something bright and loud, preferably fluorescent. Instead of a eulogy, I want a really funny comedian to do some great standup and people will laugh lots or I will smack them mightily from the great beyond. Instead of bag pipes, I want a mariachi band.

[Tsuchimaru]

I want my body left out in the woods, to decompose and be reabsorbed into nature, along with my soul/energy.

[~BEBZ~]

I have faced the reality of death, and I have made my peace with it. So yes, I have conveyed my wishes to my family. I think it's very important. I'm not going to cower in fear :shaker: and never talk about it in hopes it will never happen. That's silly and gets you no where.

First off I want my tattoos cut off and stretched and dried. These I want displayed under glass with my memorial plaque. I want a funeral pyre, before sunset, and my ashes buried by twilight. I hope for my ashes to be buried at the top of a hill and a Willow tree planted on top of them. This way as it grows my body can live on through the tree. I want my favorite flowers planted all around the tree. (Iris's, Tulips, and Daffodils) And then as I said I want a plaque with my name, birth and death dates, any significant accomplishments, a photo, and maybe a poem or anecdote about me. I see visions of my grandkids coming and sitting under that tree, talking to me about their hopes dreams and problems. And if they listen hard enough maybe they'll hear me whisper to them on the wind.

Oh, and I want a party, not a wake. I want everyone to sing and dance and laugh and tell funny stories about me. I don't want everyone moping around over me. If they want to sob they can do it at home afterward. _violin_

[Faerin]

Since my last post in this thread I have had 2 major lung surgeries, in October 2003. One to stop severe internal bleeding and another to "scoop out" stuff from inside my left lung; you know, the usual stuff, clots, polyps and some goop. I have also had 5 throat surgeries.

I had thought I was not going to post this, but I suppose I am as a sort of catharsis (look it up.Word IQ (http://www.wordiq.com/) )

I will be starting a series of testing on 1 November 2004, they are looking for a cancer. They are suspecting it to be a special type of lung cancer but they are also looking for the usual suspects because of my age; I'm 50.

It's often difficult to breathe, but it doesn't stop me from living, slows me down though.

There is a man who works at our local Social Security Office who has been blind since he was a child and he has been productive ever since. He is almost 65 and will retire soon. Mr. Martinez recently said something in an interview for our local paper that sums a lot of things up,

Don't get all morbid about this, it just compounds things. The doorway is there and what happens to our body after we pass through the door is a personal choice.

Take care and Please Be Well.

Blue :cool:

:hugz:

Hi Blue :) I'm Faerin,
I just want to let you know you'll be in my thoughts and prayers to get through this rough time.

Blessed be!

[bluecat]

:hugz:

Hi Blue :) I'm Faerin,
I just want to let you know you'll be in my thoughts and prayers to get through this rough time.

Blessed be!

Thank You, Faerin. I have every confidence things will work out. no matter what those things may be.

Blue :cool:

[Celtique]

Cremation.

[Nephthys]

I don't care. I don't believe in something after death, so what should I care, I'd be gone.

[Smiley Girl]

I want to be buried in the forest... in a biodegradeable box, preferably under a huge old oak tree... and on my grave, I want some sort of white flower that comes up every year and spreads rapidly... and lots of them! :D

[bshore]

My firm belief is that funerals are for the living. I've mentioned it to my loved ones, and will be more explicit about it when the time comes, but I've made it clear that whatever makes them comfortable is fine with me. I'll probably be cremated since my mother has a thing about being burried: she thinks it's a big waste of space.

[Dusk]

I'd like my family and friends to do whatever they want to do to comfort themselves.

I'll be dead so I won't care.

[Secrets Flame]

chopped up for science

[Boogins]

Been there, done that. Next.

[LadyAutumnCat]

I want to be cremated and have my ashes mixed with my soulmate cat's ashes. After that, they can do what they wish with me.

[Dawa Lhamo]

Well, I'd just like to be buried in my birthday suit under a willow tree, but the law gets rather particular, at least here, about burials and such. I think a person has to be refridgerated if not embalmed, must be in some kind of box or container, and has to be marked. Burying people in unmarked graves is a no-no. So, I would probably get someone versed in the law to help me, and then I'd write it out something like this, but in legalese, of course:

I want to be buried, but not embalmed (refridgerated or frozen until burial if the law requires). I do not want to be buried in a hermetically sealed container, but something that will let the worms and such in, and my juices out (wicker would be nice), and I want a tree (preferably a willow) planted on my grave. And a small flat marker if required by law. If a hermetically sealed container is required by law, then I'd like to be cremated instead, and the ashes buried under a (willow) tree. A rural burial site is preferable to an urban/suburban. And I'd like to make an anatomical gift of any viable organs.

I was actually surprised to hear all the people who want to be buried plainly under trees or in the woods. I hadn't yet come across anyone who wanted that too. Cool. ^_^ And, of course, a Viking funeral is a good third option. ^_^

Tashi delek!
Dawa Lhamo

[Ashara^]

I'd prefer to be burned on an old style funeral pyre. Buch of wood piled up six feet tall and a ton of gasoline :P I'd have them do it at sundown, setting it ablaze with the last light of the dying day. I've also toyed with the idea of asking someone to remove my head and bleach the skull bare, so any of my decendants who share my morbid curiosities can keep it on their mantle or something. I'm weird, I know....

[Silver_FireStar]

I'ld let them decided on whether to burry me or not. But here are the specifics for both.

FUNERAL
In sheffield near my great grandma. I want a propery tombstone with an angel looking down on me.

CREMATION
My ashs sprinkled off the cliff at reighton sands (bretween filey and Bridlington), at sunset with the waves crashing over the sand beneath.

[Dawa Lhamo]

I'd prefer to be burned on an old style funeral pyre. Buch of wood piled up six feet tall and a ton of gasoline :P I'd have them do it at sundown, setting it ablaze with the last light of the dying day. I've also toyed with the idea of asking someone to remove my head and bleach the skull bare, so any of my decendants who share my morbid curiosities can keep it on their mantle or something. I'm weird, I know.... That's pretty cool, I think . ^_^

TD!
DL

PS: you can have dishes and silverware made of your bones. Like a grandma-handled knife or an uncle bob skull bowl. I like to comb my hair with my great aunt lucy! ^_^ lol, that would be fun. ^_^

[soilsigh aingeal]

I want to be cremated and my ashes spread somewhere. And just something for close friends and family. I don't want people I don't like standing over my dead body!

[Wintersteel]

If I were dying of an incurable disease, and stuck in bed in tremendous pain, I would want to be put out of my misery. And If I were a vegetable on life support, with no chance of recovery, and no brain activity, I say pull the plug.. I don't want my family to suffer..

As for my earthly remains, I would like to be cremated and my ashes scattered at see.. Oh and I would like my family to have a wake in my honor and get stinking drunk, as my Irish ancestors did.. :cheers:

[WynterWynd]

I'm easy....I wanna go out like plate of hash browns at Waffle House.....I wanna be coverd, toasted, scattered, and tossed.
I just want to be cremated, split up between the family and tossed.

[Verthandi]

I want to be cremated, though I'm not sure what I want done with my ashes yet. Thrown in the ocean, thrown off a cliff or spread through a forest are what I'm thinking. Maybe all three.

[butterflydreams]

I think I would find some open land somewhere, where there was a willow tree and a brook near by - at least close enough that it can be heard when you're by that little Willow tree. I'd tell my family and friends that after my organs are donated I want to be creamated and buried near by that tree. I'd like only my close family and friends and people who truly loved me to gather around that area with the tree and tell stories, share memories, then bury my ashes and plant the flowers. If it's not possible then maybe they can come back later for that one if they feel like it. The flowers I would want them to plant would me just an assortment of some flowers that do good in shade, show up well at night and become more fragrant at night. I definitely want some forget-me-nots. I'd like my loved ones to say their see ya laters to me as the sun sets. I'd like my resting place to be somewhere where they can come back and sit and relax.

[Élistariel]

ewww at the grandma knife. :blech: I could stand like a leg bone or arm bone. But Uncle Bob's Skull Bowl would be the fastest way to turn me anorexic.
I'm only 21, so I haven't expressed any wishes.
They do know I'm an organ donor, says so on my driver's liscence. If someone can use my organs, give them to them. Only if they need them to live. No scientists.
If I were to die today, I'd have the traditional funeral with coffin, and be burried in a cemetary. Probably a Baptist one, cause that's what they think I am. I don't know where I'd be buried, as I never became a member of the church I went to.
That would be more for them than for me. I do know I'd want a cat and a horse/unicorn on my tombstone. Horse/unicorn is optional. There MUST be a cat on it. Use stickers if you like, I just want them on there. I saw this gorgeous champagne pink coffin once. I don't know if that's the name of the color, but that's what I'm calling it. Expenisive as hell, but what coffin isn't. If I have to have a coffin, I want a pretty pink one! :D
If I get married and have kids, THIS is what I want.
www.lifegems.com
I want one diamond per kid. I'll have necklaces made, and somehow put my name and date of birth and date of death on it. Then I'll have each kid pass it on to their children and so and so forth. Talk about one heck of an heirloom. As for my ashes, my family can either put them in an urn or bury them in an urn. I don't want to be scattered. I have no intention of spending eternity under some dig-happy dog's toenails. :lol:

[MerrisHawk]

I selected organ donor on the card, once I'm out of the carcass it really doesn't matter to me what happens to it. After that's done, I'd go for cremation and I have an idea of having my ashes made into a statue of some kind. Something with eyes. I want the family to pass it around every few years so I can get a chance to make them all go "Hmmmm...creepy." The brave one might look for a secret compartment or something. Maybe I can make it a Geocache.
Maybe I'll get made into a toilet seat... _twohorns_

[BabblingImp]

Just brun me too! And as for a a 'box' I would tell my loved ones to buy a nice looking something and use it for flowers or something.......and I would want to be thrown in New Zealand were the Muntians and sea meet I'd be happy there, were my spirit can fly :toofless:

[ragnarok0mega]

hmm...it may sound stupid to say but i would want as the saying goes between riders "when i die, bury my bike at my feet, so i can ride in my eternal sleep" im a rider, and riding is my life and always will be. so when i die i wana be buried with my bike. (on a dumb note, itd be awesome to be buried under a skatepark so i can haunt all the future riders there bahahaha)

[samiaminsane]

Cremate me and keep me, or toss me into the wind. No calling hours, just a funeral for family and close friends. That's it.

[greenwitch]

well... :hmmmmm:

this probably sounds weird but I want my death to be painful... everyone makes a huge deal out of death... to me its only the beginning of another journey... so if you're gonna make a huge deal of me dying then let me at least do it painfully....

as far as my funeral is concerned.... I'm not sure if I want to be cremated or if I want to just be burried among a flower bed. I hate the idea of being in a box though, hate it hate it. so if I were burried just toss me into a hole with a couple flowers or blessings and I'll be fine... if I were cremated I'd want to be placed among the Olympic Mountains in WA near a waterfall or the ocean... I used to live there and its still sort of home for me... only close friends... this probably sounds cruel but I'm not sure much of my family would go.... they dont like me very much and I'd rather not have fakers at my funeral :ggrief:

[Dawa Lhamo]

well... :hmmmmm:

this probably sounds weird but I want my death to be painful... everyone makes a huge deal out of death... to me its only the beginning of another journey... so if you're gonna make a huge deal of me dying then let me at least do it painfully.... Not so weird. Most people want to go in their sleep, but I want to know when I die. I want to feel it and have time to experience it. I'd rather, say, bleed to death than a quick decapitation. I don't need it to be too painful or too drawn-out, but a bit so I can be in an aware state of mind when I go. I'm too dratted curious to just go in my sleep. ^_^

Actually, I think it'd be great if I die in the most ridiculous way possible. So funny that the people at my funeral or whatever keep cracking up, and then they feel bad for laughing at a somber event. Yeah, I think I'd like that. ^_^

Tashi delek!
Dawa Lhamo

[MoonDragn]

I'm not going to die so the point is moot!
They are going to develop the miracle aging drug just before I croak. Then I'll get some plastic surgery to look young again and live forever.

[Rowenna]

Not so weird. Most people want to go in their sleep, but I want to know when I die. I want to feel it and have time to experience it. I'd rather, say, bleed to death than a quick decapitation. I don't need it to be too painful or too drawn-out, but a bit so I can be in an aware state of mind when I go. I'm too dratted curious to just go in my sleep. ^_^


This is EXACTLY how I feel. I'm very curious about death. I have no desire to die anytime soon, but I want to be awake, and aware of what is going on. However, I don't want it to be too painful, I'm a wuss when it comes to pain *LOL* Whenever I try explaining my thoughts on this to other people they think I'm crazy. When I say that I don't fear death, and that I'm curious as to what its like, they always misinterpret and think I want to die, like they think I'm going to go and kill myself or something... which is not likely because I am dead set against suicide. *sigh*

[ravenmyst]

cremated and washed away in nearest body of water, (sewer excluded)preferably at sunset.

[Serenity.]

I want to be cremated and scattered over my family's farm. I want to be a part of the grasses, the trees, and the wildflowers that I know and love. I can't imagine being buried in a coffin in a public cemetery. The very thought of it makes me feel like I'm suffocating. :gagged:

[Élistariel]

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I'm very curious about death. I have no desire to die anytime soon, but I want to be awake, and aware of what is going on. However, I don't want it to be too painful, I'm a wuss when it comes to pain *LOL* Whenever I try explaining my thoughts on this to other people they think I'm crazy. When I say that I don't fear death, and that I'm curious as to what its like, they always misinterpret and think I want to die, like they think I'm going to go and kill myself or something... which is not likely because I am dead set against suicide. *sigh*

I know how you feel. I too wish to be awake. I don't want to be in pain. I'm female I can handle my share of pain, but I'd rather not. Death is just as much a part of life as birth. I had to die in one life to get to this one, and I'll have to die in this life to get to the next. By that I mean reincarnation, or Summerland, not Heaven or Hell. I'm only 21, and from a Southern Baptist family, me talking about what I want for my funeral? I'd have a therapist appointment in a nanosec. Or they'd at least try. All in all, I don't really care. I'd like for my wishes to be carried out, but in reality it's for them. To me, when you plan your funeral, it's like um, a way of thanking your body (a vessel) for carrying you through this part of your existance.

[Dawa Lhamo]

To me, when you plan your funeral, it's like um, a way of thanking your body (a vessel) for carrying you through this part of your existance. I really like that. ^_^

Tashi delek!
Dawa Lhamo

[MoonDragn]

Gah now I got some stupid song playing in my head from the 80s... but with modified lyrics :

...Lets talk about death baby, lets talk about you and me... blah blah...

[Kalika]

I want to be cremated... and my ashes let go at the top of a mountain. :p

No big funeral, no big fuss... I'd want my family to go into the mountains to remember me... not some hole in the ground.

[Lilith79]

The Body Farm (http://www.deathsacre.com/) has me rather entrigued. I don't think that being buried in the ground after being embalmed and encased in a pine box surrounded by cement really is giving back to the earth. Call me crunchy. ;) This program allows natural decompisition, and helps forensic science. :) I like it.

Body donation form (http://web.utk.edu/%7Eanthrop/FACdonation.html)

[Faerwolf]

i have issues with become human incense, but i really have issues with a regular burial, box, cement etc. I think i i am going to leave a note. However finds me, i want them to report me missing after they take me into the woods and bury me Then notify my closest family and friends and tell them that my last wishes were filled. Then they should throw a big party, and spend time together and eat and drink, then at sunrise go to where i was buried and say goodbye.

[Faerwolf]

there should be no politics in death, and no politics in how i wish to be buried.

[Faerwolf]

oh, and one more thing, i think it is ridiculous the amount of money it takes for a formal burial, even gettiing cremated is expensive. I sure don't want to have to PAY to die and i don't want anyone to have to pay for me either.