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greenwitch
August 11th, 2003, 02:30 AM
Well things have gotten better from the last post I made in here about my at home life while living with my mother and stepdad.

They recently got into a fight, Thank the Goddess no one was hurt. For once something good came of their arguements. It seems that this is the final time my mother is going to say that she wants a divorce to the same man. I'm taking my mother to an attourney's office to talk about a divorce, she's excellent when it comes to marriages like the one she's been a part of for the past 8 years (the fighting, the abuse, etc).

We've also found a new house for my brother my mom and I to move to with our things, away from my stepdad. When I talked to the attourney on the phone, she said that a restraining order would be mandatory for him because he violated his parole regulations by arguing with my mom.

It will be a tough year, money will especially be tight, and so will the space in the new house, but it means finally escaping the abuse and torment of my stepdad. So it is most definately worth it.

I personally am making sure that things dont fall through this time. Even if I have to pay for the divorce myself, it's going to happen, I'm using my grown up senses to my abillity, and even though I'm only 15... I'm taking charge, someone has to.

just thought I would update you all! since i said I would... I kept my word.

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Adra

Autumn
August 11th, 2003, 03:40 PM
I am glad things are getting better for you and I hope both you and your mom get some solid counseling to get you through this...alarm bells went off for me when I saw a situation where the 15 year old has to take charge. I wish you success and peace in your new life you are doing the right thing...

lovemy1dane
August 11th, 2003, 08:06 PM
Good luck sweetie, I hope it all works out for you and your family.

WillowSageheart
August 11th, 2003, 11:40 PM
Adra, you have bought tears to my eyes... I am so happy for you. I am so sorry that you have to be the one, but very happy that you have the maturity to be able to do it. Make sure you have the attorney file an Affidavit of Indigence and the divorce shouldn't cost your mother anything.

Please keep us informed, and again, if you ever need to talk PM or email me anytime. You are still in my thoughts and prayers!

Aspasia Sariel
August 11th, 2003, 11:50 PM
Your obvious love and maturity are shinning through! You're being a rock for your mom and brother, it's not easy, but I believe everyone will come out stronger, wiser and better people in the end.

I must say, you're still the daughter and your mom's still the mother, she has to make informed choices here, and you have studies and fun coming up. Make sure that you are taking care of YOU, along with everyone else. :hugz: Good luck and lots of courage and strength for ya!

Regulus
August 12th, 2003, 02:06 AM
So glad to hear that things are starting to look up. Keep the momentum going. Its rough being the adult/child but you'll make it. You've made it this far. Very happy for you.

LadyOak
August 12th, 2003, 06:18 AM
:rubhead: Your life is tough but you WILL make it!