moonchild
September 14th, 2003, 08:16 PM
so this is just an update on the thread i posted earlier last week about my christian friend refusing to go to my wedding/handfasting...
so this is the email she sent me (after i had spoke to her husband)
"Hey Hon! I wanted to let you know that I won't be going to your ceremony. I love you dearly but I can't agree with the ceremony you will be holding and that is one reason why I can't go. The reason I haven't gotten back to you for a while is that you are so involved in this wicca thing and I am so involved in Christ-- I think it is easier on the both of us to avoid the conflict of whenever we get together. I want you to see just how much God loves you and you don't want to. I love you and I will continue to pray for you and {my SO}.
I hope you understand.
so what really burned me was the statement of god loving me...that just killed me. i also got a bit defensive with the "wicca thing" comment and that my SO is involved in her prayer. the way i see it he is Catholic (and in his words, he needs more than prayer for that one).
so, i emailed her one of the stories (the one about Marianne) and responded to the god loving me comment...I basically wrote back that i do still believe in a god (albeit, loosely right now) and that mine basically goes by a different name and may look different than hers. not to mention the female component (that i am much more drawn to).
i also cleared up the fact that i am Pagan and my SO is Catholic. (basically, keep him out of it)
i also stated that the wedding is more like a Justice of the peace wedding than a pagan one anyways. this is because I am the only Pagan there...we've worked really hard to make this as benign as possible, in either direction, pagan or catholic.
SO....to make the story longer....i got an email 2 days later asking for forgiveness and apologizing. it was in response to the JP wedding vs Pagan wedding. i don't know if she read the story of marianne, i hope she did.
so yesterday i was at our local walmart, trying to get out unharmed and someone yelled my name. go figure that it would be Jen and her sister. (this was after i spent all morning in the car driving to town thinking that this whole situation would be easier offline, face to face.) we talked abit and she asked if she was still welcome to the ceremony. i said yes and i did express how much it hurt to read that email and to here it over the phone.
so i guess things are OK now. now i get to worry about what everyone will think about the wedding...ok, not that i care, ok maybe i do. Jen has definately opened my eyes...and this ceremony is so public...i may be coming out of the broom closet and getting married at the same time!
thanks for the support!
MC
so this is the email she sent me (after i had spoke to her husband)
"Hey Hon! I wanted to let you know that I won't be going to your ceremony. I love you dearly but I can't agree with the ceremony you will be holding and that is one reason why I can't go. The reason I haven't gotten back to you for a while is that you are so involved in this wicca thing and I am so involved in Christ-- I think it is easier on the both of us to avoid the conflict of whenever we get together. I want you to see just how much God loves you and you don't want to. I love you and I will continue to pray for you and {my SO}.
I hope you understand.
so what really burned me was the statement of god loving me...that just killed me. i also got a bit defensive with the "wicca thing" comment and that my SO is involved in her prayer. the way i see it he is Catholic (and in his words, he needs more than prayer for that one).
so, i emailed her one of the stories (the one about Marianne) and responded to the god loving me comment...I basically wrote back that i do still believe in a god (albeit, loosely right now) and that mine basically goes by a different name and may look different than hers. not to mention the female component (that i am much more drawn to).
i also cleared up the fact that i am Pagan and my SO is Catholic. (basically, keep him out of it)
i also stated that the wedding is more like a Justice of the peace wedding than a pagan one anyways. this is because I am the only Pagan there...we've worked really hard to make this as benign as possible, in either direction, pagan or catholic.
SO....to make the story longer....i got an email 2 days later asking for forgiveness and apologizing. it was in response to the JP wedding vs Pagan wedding. i don't know if she read the story of marianne, i hope she did.
so yesterday i was at our local walmart, trying to get out unharmed and someone yelled my name. go figure that it would be Jen and her sister. (this was after i spent all morning in the car driving to town thinking that this whole situation would be easier offline, face to face.) we talked abit and she asked if she was still welcome to the ceremony. i said yes and i did express how much it hurt to read that email and to here it over the phone.
so i guess things are OK now. now i get to worry about what everyone will think about the wedding...ok, not that i care, ok maybe i do. Jen has definately opened my eyes...and this ceremony is so public...i may be coming out of the broom closet and getting married at the same time!
thanks for the support!
MC