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moonchild
September 14th, 2003, 08:16 PM
so this is just an update on the thread i posted earlier last week about my christian friend refusing to go to my wedding/handfasting...

so this is the email she sent me (after i had spoke to her husband)

"Hey Hon! I wanted to let you know that I won't be going to your ceremony. I love you dearly but I can't agree with the ceremony you will be holding and that is one reason why I can't go. The reason I haven't gotten back to you for a while is that you are so involved in this wicca thing and I am so involved in Christ-- I think it is easier on the both of us to avoid the conflict of whenever we get together. I want you to see just how much God loves you and you don't want to. I love you and I will continue to pray for you and {my SO}.
I hope you understand.

so what really burned me was the statement of god loving me...that just killed me. i also got a bit defensive with the "wicca thing" comment and that my SO is involved in her prayer. the way i see it he is Catholic (and in his words, he needs more than prayer for that one).

so, i emailed her one of the stories (the one about Marianne) and responded to the god loving me comment...I basically wrote back that i do still believe in a god (albeit, loosely right now) and that mine basically goes by a different name and may look different than hers. not to mention the female component (that i am much more drawn to).

i also cleared up the fact that i am Pagan and my SO is Catholic. (basically, keep him out of it)

i also stated that the wedding is more like a Justice of the peace wedding than a pagan one anyways. this is because I am the only Pagan there...we've worked really hard to make this as benign as possible, in either direction, pagan or catholic.


SO....to make the story longer....i got an email 2 days later asking for forgiveness and apologizing. it was in response to the JP wedding vs Pagan wedding. i don't know if she read the story of marianne, i hope she did.

so yesterday i was at our local walmart, trying to get out unharmed and someone yelled my name. go figure that it would be Jen and her sister. (this was after i spent all morning in the car driving to town thinking that this whole situation would be easier offline, face to face.) we talked abit and she asked if she was still welcome to the ceremony. i said yes and i did express how much it hurt to read that email and to here it over the phone.

so i guess things are OK now. now i get to worry about what everyone will think about the wedding...ok, not that i care, ok maybe i do. Jen has definately opened my eyes...and this ceremony is so public...i may be coming out of the broom closet and getting married at the same time!

thanks for the support!

MC

SylverStar
September 14th, 2003, 08:46 PM
This is one of those things that other people have to accept. It may be hard for them but they will either come around or not. Your friend just sounds very concerned and hopefully she can grow to understand. :)

Well Many Blessings on your Marriage.

Amulet
September 14th, 2003, 11:44 PM
I want you to see just how much God loves you and you don't want to.


BLECH !!! I hate it when religious people try to subtly beat you with the controlling superior stick. I feel all filthy now.

I would be so tempted to write her back and say something like, " I want you to see how narrow-minded & shallow you are, ....but you don't want to. "


Amulet

moonchild
September 15th, 2003, 07:31 AM
Yeah that was my knee jerk reaction too....but.....sigh. that line urked me more than i think anything else she's ever said or eluded to. Who says that i don't believe in a God, or 2 or 3?

SHe use to be so openminded...now she doesn't even want to learn (ok, learn other things than bringing up kids and Christ, that was a gross generalization.) i ask her questions so that i can learn more about her beliefs, but my questions she usually can't handle, or can't answer. i think that upsets her when she can't answer my questions....

Like why fear [christian] God? like the signs i see going home....warning Jesus is coming...why be scared? i'd feel guilty already and i hadn't done anything! :geez:

grr...glad i pick the path that i have.......

Koehnae
September 15th, 2003, 07:53 AM
Like why fear [christian] God? like the signs i see going home....warning Jesus is coming...why be scared? i'd feel guilty already and i hadn't done anything! :geez:

grr...glad i pick the path that i have.......

I completely understand this. Why should we fear the one(s) that gave us life. It was one of those things that never made sense to me.

I hope all goes well with your wedding and that everyone enjoys it for what it really is... the chance to participate in the joining of two hearts for a lifetime. Congratulations and best wishes!