May it be peacefully, without overwhelming pain

[Hoot]

Hello, friends. I'm new here, but I often lurk through these pages and send energy without responding in writing, so I hope you won't mind my request.

Someone who has had tremendous influence over me (had she never existed, I would not be), and whom I love very much is dying of cancer. She is falling much faster than was expected, and nothing can be done to heal her. We have reconciled ourselves with this.

Please - I request of any and all reading - please send energy that her death will be without horrible pain.

I wish with all my heart that she may be spared that last torturous burden and that she will cross peacefully.

Thank you for your help.

[VelvetBlade]

energies sent for help in a peaceful passing...

~AW

[Pesha]

May she pass forward in grace and beauty. May she know the love of They Who Care and Create. May there be no pain and may she live again to influence other lives in other times. Blessed Be.

BB
DS...also known as...

[Hope]

peace and calm

love hope

[Old Witch]

Peace be with her from this time on......

[Joshua]

Peace, bliss, and harmony you both

[lovemy1dane]

Peace to her, and love and energy to you and yours.

[StormyRavenNightWind]

Energy sent for her painless passage to the otherside and strength for you and your family.

Blessed Be

[LadyAutumnCat]

sending energy so that your friend will go at peace and without pain.

[Hoot]

Thank you very much.

[FeatherGoblinglimmer]

Energy sent, and i hope she will find her peace((()))

[Gala]

Right now this may be no conselation, but when your friend passes, she will always be with you. I lost my best friend of 30 years last year, and I know she is with me. In the mean time I pray that she will be at peace and without pain.

[Rae ShadowWolf]

Energies sent to her.

[Flar's Freyja]

Right now this may be no conselation, but when your friend passes, she will always be with you. I lost my best friend of 30 years last year, and I know she is with me. In the mean time I pray that she will be at peace and without pain.

This is how I deal with these things as well. You will always have your memories, and sometimes we are even closer to those who have left us because we can access those memories at any time. We don't seem to do that when they are here with us.

Energy for a peaceful transition on the way.

[menolly]

Sending what I can spare...
Blessings to you all

[Hippywitch]

Peace and calm to her... may her passing be gentle and without pain... may your grief be short and your loving memories long.

Bright blessings.

[bluecat]

May the Universe cradle her in it's loving arms and give her a peaceful passage and rest.

Blue

[DixieWitch]

Sending energy and positive thoughts your way.

[Hoot]

thank each and all of you.

This means so much to me, and I think it's working.

May you all be blessed in your lives, your loves, and your homes.

Thank you, thank you!

[Hoot]

I hope you will forgive me for not mentioning earlier that this is my grandmother, a lady who has never had anything but absolute and unconditional love for me.

She has actually struggled for the past three years, until it became obvious that her cancer is terminal and so she chose to forego further treatment.

She is a strong woman and has held up well through this so far. In fact, I can hardly believe how extraordinarily strong, graceful and dignified she is. We have made arrangements for her to stay at home and in her own bed throughout, which is exactly what she wants. Hospice workers who come by to monitor her and sitters (at night) help my family members care for her.

I am across the country from her now, but we were recently able to spend some time together, which was full of laughter and love. I had a hard time leaving because I know it was the last time I will ever see her.

Today I spoke with her and she is starting to feel some pain - she rarely admits it, but I can hear it. Her hospice workers will increase her medication, but if you could join me again in sending her energy to meet her last challenges, I would be very grateful. I don't know how long... no one knows. But as I said, I think your energy really helps.

Thanks again.

[VelvetBlade]

I went through this a few years ago..with both of my parents. You are so lucky to have had all of the special times with her that you have had..cherish them..they will see you through. And remember, for every special time you had with her..she had the same with you, and that will get her through! Hospice will do what they can to make her physical passing as comfortable for her as possible..and hopefully our energies will make her spiritual passing peaceful and full of warmth and light...

Blessings to you, your family..and your grandmother...

~AW

[Hoot]

Thank you AngelWitch. Thank you all. I do cherish my time with her, and the time I've spent trying to help her while I'm away from her.

Amazingly, my grandmother is still hanging on. Her morphine level is quite high now and seems to be keeping most of the pain at bay. But she is grave, very weak, has eaten hardly more than a spoonful or two of food in the last week - then promptly lost it - and is drifting in and out of what most would normally call lucidity.

She asked my mother who the beautiful little girl is who keeps sitting by her bed (we don't know), and told me last week that she's almost always visited by her mother and my grandfather, who have both passed.

Today I think will be the last time I will be able to speak to her on the phone. We each said, "I love you." She sounds so tired. I wish she could rest.

I wanted to share what's happening. Thanks again, everyone, for all the kind thoughts and for the energy you've sent. I appreciate it.

:huddle:

[WhiteDragon]

sent

[LorienGaia]

I lost my grandmother to cancer also and I know that can be a shock when they pass, even when you expect it.
My grandmother, unfortunately, sufferred with the pain for a year before she passed.
I'm sending energy to calm and ease the pain.
May the god/goddess help ease you through your troubling time ahead.
~Love & Light

[Witchzee1]

May the Lord and Lady hold her gently in their hands.

:hugz:

[nomadicdragon]

((hugs)) & energy

[vikinggoddess]

peace and calming energy to you and your grandmother.

[Semele]

(((Hoot)))
The way you describe her the last week, it sounds like she is getting ready to make her journey to join her loved ones. Her parents have visited her, no doubt to walk her over.

I have worked with a lot of Hospice patients and this is the kind of peaceful experience that made it worthwhile. I never liked to admit that I enjoyed working with Hospice patients because I was afraid people would take it the wrong way and some still do. But it is an awesome experience to see people become completely at peace and be so ready to pass on from this small portion of their journey. To see the pain go away and that warm, calm energy fill the room makes it so much easier to accept.

I know you will miss her dearly and I am glad you had the opportunity to tell her frequently that you loved her, even though she knows it well.

She will be fine. You will be in my thoughts friend.

[Hoot]

Thank you (((everyone)))

(((Semele))) yes, she's ready. She's not afraid. I think she's looking forward to it.

I will miss her, but I'm not afraid, either.

Peace.

[Sekhemet]

crying ... sending ... hugging ...

My grandmother died 1 year ago ... brain cancer, she was gone in less than a month. Weird thing is she had smoked for like 70 years, and had quit 5 yeasrs earlier because of the osteoporosis getting worse. I was unable to atend her funeral because I had an issue in family court that day ... MAKE SURE YOU GO!
Good to hear the process is more peacful and less stressful - Hope her rest has as many smile filled dreams as her life did.
Brightes of blessings to all of your family - and HOOT ... I'll think of HER when I do your Owl, it seems only fitting somehow.
XxoxX

[LadyOak]

Energy on its way...

May her Journey be Peaceful...

[Jax]

Thank you AngelWitch. Thank you all. I do cherish my time with her, and the time I've spent trying to help her while I'm away from her.

Amazingly, my grandmother is still hanging on. Her morphine level is quite high now and seems to be keeping most of the pain at bay. But she is grave, very weak, has eaten hardly more than a spoonful or two of food in the last week - then promptly lost it - and is drifting in and out of what most would normally call lucidity.

She asked my mother who the beautiful little girl is who keeps sitting by her bed (we don't know), and told me last week that she's almost always visited by her mother and my grandfather, who have both passed.

Today I think will be the last time I will be able to speak to her on the phone. We each said, "I love you." She sounds so tired. I wish she could rest.

I wanted to share what's happening. Thanks again, everyone, for all the kind thoughts and for the energy you've sent. I appreciate it.

:huddle:
I'm sending you both healing, strength, positive and calming energy. :hugz: May the Lord and Lady guide you both swiftly and in light :hugz:

[Scarlettvixen]

may the goddess ease her journey to the summerlands

[Nissala]

My she leave for the summerlands with peace...:hugz:

[Hoot]

I don't know how to thank all of you enough. You help more than you know. Blessings to all of (((YOU))).

[Jax]

Calming, peaceful and strength energy sent to you all. :hugz: May her passing be swift and serene :hugz:

[Hoot]

As of this afternoon, she's being attended completely by nurses (not sitters) from hospice around-the-clock, which means death is imminent - in the next 24 hours; they expect 48 hours, at most.

She is in no pain. My mother says she is talking weakly, but cheerfully.

This waiting is odd. It feels like waiting for someone to be born. But then, I believe that she is.

So if you don't hear from me for a little while, I haven't forgotten any of you. Blessed be.

May This Circle
Be
Unbroken!

[Jenne]

Hugs and healing energy for you, peace energy for her!

[FeatherGoblinglimmer]

May she pass comfortably into the arms of the Lord and the Lady.(())). Peace and calm sent for all touched by her.

[FaerieGothMommy]

As of this afternoon, she's being attended completely by nurses (not sitters) from hospice around-the-clock, which means death is imminent - in the next 24 hours; they expect 48 hours, at most.

She is in no pain. My mother says she is talking weakly, but cheerfully.

This waiting is odd. It feels like waiting for someone to be born. But then, I believe that she is.

So if you don't hear from me for a little while, I haven't forgotten any of you. Blessed be.

May This Circle
Be
Unbroken!

Please let us know, how her last few hours are. I am so happy to hear shes not in any pain, i'm sending some more love & energy for her. :hugz:

[Semele]

You will continue to be in my thoughts.

[Jax]

I continue to send you energy and love :hugz: :)

[Hoot]

Blessings to all of (((you))) on Samhain.

My grandmother is still with us, incredibly, but just barely.

A remarkable and wonderful thing happened on the afternoon of the 29th. My mother called, and in quiet sobs asked me if I wished to say goodbye to my grandmother. I had thought I wouldn't be able to talk to my grandma again, but she insisted that my mother call me for her. She was able to speak to me for a miraculous ten minutes. Her voice was ravaged, barely audible. Again, we told each other that we loved one another. I think we must have said that about twenty times... I told her not to worry about us, that she taught us well. She told me not to worry about her, that grandaddy (her husband of 59 years) already had everything ready. She told me my grandfather (her husband) and her mother (my great grandmother) were still waiting there with her. She said I was there in the room with her, too (?), but that I couldn't talk to her, that she had "missed so much talking to my beautiful little girl since you grew up into a lady." (I have to admit that part really floored me and I have a lot of questions about it.) We agreed we would be together again, so this was not really goodbye. She said she was proud of me, that she had always loved being my mother (she said "mother," and not grandmother). She told me: "Be good; don't be so sad; learn to forgive because you'll need that later on." I felt an overwhelming swell of emotion, and my mind spun. Then she said, "Thank you for the kiss, baby. I love you." Then my mother got on the phone and said they had to go, and Mama was almost howling with tears.

That night, the night before last, I dreamt of my grandfather. He told me grandmother was worried about my mother and wouldn't leave her, but that she needed to go. Yesterday I called my mother and spoke to her for a while. She and I have always been more like sisters (and my grandmother's told us that for years, too) - the good and bad of that - she has become one of my closest friends and confidantes, but she and I can both be bossy and strongwilled with each other, too. For some reason, she keeps telling me not to come back again until Grandmom's passed, and I'm not arguing with her, although that's been hard! Anyway, she's absolutely exhausted; but I know she will be okay, and so does she. Then I told her it's absolutely imperative that she let grandmother know that so she's not worried about leaving us.

And today, Grandmom can no longer speak at all, but Mama said she's aware and responsive through nods to questions. Mom held the phone for my grandmother, and I told her this: I love you so much, and I know you love me. I couldn't have lived without your love, and now I have that forever. Thank you, sweetie. Now, I don't want you to worry about me or Mama, because you taught us how to be strong. So don't you worry about leaving any of us. Whatever happens, we will be fine here. We really will. So when you're ready, you go."

For the past several weeks I have helped my mother by writing my grandmother's obituary, planning her graveside service, calling family... and I've been doing a tremendous amount of writing, focusing my mind's eye on my grandmother so that I may always recall her in great detail when I need to, mostly writing stories about the times we spent together when I was a child and probing the lessons I've learned from her. During these weeks, my circadian rhythm has gotten a little off, too. Time is a bit stagnant and weird for me right now, but whenever I'm aware of it, I feel a pull toward the times of 3:36 and 3:37 (CST), mostly AM, when I have sometimes either awakened exactly within those minutes; or if I was already awake, I've felt a sudden release or lifting, a relaxation that allows me to finally rest and sleep. I don't know if that's significant, but I've noticed it and so wanted to mention it. And for some reason, for the past week I have believed (to the point of absolute certainty) that she would pass today. (I could of course be wrong, though.)

You have all been so kind to wait with me, with my small family. I have felt you here sometimes (and I hope you've felt me when I'm with you, even if I've been very quiet). Thank you. That has been so comforting. And I'm tired, but I'm doing well. I truly am. Just like I told my grandmother, please know that we will be okay.

So now I'm asking that you please stop sending energy to us, and that you send it instead to those who need it more. That means a lot to me, too, but my energy is needed at my family's hearth.

Blessed be.

[Hope]

I can still offer you this ((hug)) ;)

much love on this holiday!

hope

[Hoot]

For ((((ALL of YOU)))) too, sweet hearts... thank you.

[Semele]

(((Hoot)))
Iam somewhat envious of the wonderful chance you have had to share these words with your Grandmother. I never really got that chance before my special lady passed. But even so, I know that it was understood between the two of us. Yours has been a true blessing to read about.

I think you may be right about her needing your mom to let her go. Now she knows for sure that you will both be ok and she is free to go be with her other loved ones who have waited for her for so long. I have no doubt that she has seen and felt your presence at her bedside. You are so connected to her, you do not need to be physically present to be there. that is a great gift my friend.

As for the energy, i will continue to share a little with you, not because I think you need it. More because I believe that to share energy we tap into a universal source and it isn't really our own energy that is given away. We act as a vessel carrying the energy to others and in the process we get renewed ourselves. This I want to continue with you if you don't mind.

I am not sure what your plans are for the evening, but something tells me you should set a place for her at your table and she will most likely stop by on her way home. Hugs to you my friend. Have a great week-end.

[Ravens_Tears]

:hugz:

[Jax]

(((((Hoot))))) :hugz:

[Hoot]

She passed.

Thank you for waiting with me and for all the ways you've helped to hold me up.

[FaerieGothMommy]

She passed.

Thank you for waiting with me and for all the ways you've helped to hold me up.

:hugz: I hope she had a peaceful passing to the summerlands... and my love to all the family.

Blessings

[Hope]

most excellent!

healing to the family and friends

love
hope

[Hoot]

:huddle:

[WynnJera]

Energy sent to you both at this hard time

[~Violet_Dragon28~]

Sending peace and calming energy....may she pass through with dignity and without pain.

Blessed Be!!

[Hoot]

((((~Violet_Dragon28~)))) she passed on November 1st ... thank you for your sweet thoughts. My family and I are doing fine, and the kindness everyone has given has been a soft spot to lay our hearts when they sometimes felt too heavy to hold. I'll miss her, but I do feel so extraordinarily blessed to have known her and to have basked in her love all the years that I have. And I hope to always live in a way that would make her proud....

[Lucius]

I know this is a really old thread...but I happened to come across it. I love Hoot...hehe. I'm sending energy even if it isn't still needed. I'm here for you.

[Hoot]

Thank you, (((Lucius))) sending you love.

Actually, I want to thank everyone who helped me through this.

I stopped to read this again, and find myself in tears.

With so much going on afterwards, it occurs to me now that I forgot to tell you that Grandmom passed very quietly, peacefully. My mother, exhausted, climbed into bed with her, lay her head down, and drifted off to sleep for about ten minutes, with her arms around my grandmom. When she awakened, Grandmom had passed - and they were in each other's arms. It gives me great comfort to know that, and so I thought you might like to know it, too.

I believe with all my heart that the energy raised here helped that happen. So again, thank you all for being with us.

[Lucius]

You are very much welcome, My secret lover. :shhhh: Don't tell Carlos. I'm very glad to hear that things were eased and also glad we could help. Always here for ya babe. :)

[Hoot]

(((Lucius))) you nut! :hugz: I was up late last night finishing up some work, and didn't see your last post before I logged off. Thanks for giving me giggles just when I need a few.

[Calyx]

Hoot!!!!!
OMG, I totally missed this thread! I feel so awful..... how are you doing, sweetie?
I did want to say that when I read this thread, I got teary. Not just for your loss and your pain during this time, but for all of the energy and support given to you.
Is there anything I can do to help after all this time?
Hugs :huddle:
Love,
C

[Lunacie]

Energies sent for a peaceful passing, and comfort for those who will miss her. (((Hoot)))

[Thistle]

Hoot, I'm glad Lucius brought this thread back to life. . .I didn't know. Hope you're doing okay. The first holiday season after a loved one passes over can be rough.

When you described your mom and grandmom in each other's arms, it brought tears to my eyes. Sad, but beautiful, too. :hugz:

[Hoot]

(((Calyx, Lunacie, & Thistle))) thank you, and lots of love - you all have such sweet hearts.

Yes, Thanksgiving was very sad at times for me - we miss her sharing our lives. But we're content and comforted that we did the best we could to help ease her passing, and that we gave her every bit of consideration we could. Her love and lessons are very strong inside me, and so I always have her with me.

It's really helped me that I've stayed busy with things I consider important. After ignoring it for a while, I've dedicated myself to my craft over the past several months, especially to learning more about developing rituals, and discovering the ones that work best for me, in particular. I'm finally going to learn Reiki in February from someone I respect a great deal, and I'm really excited about that! I learn from everybody here, too.

And our MW family... I try to thank you all so much, every day, for the ways you share your extraordinary gifts of strong love. I love you all so much, (((friends)))!

[blueiris]

(((((healing energy for all)))))