13 yrs - Recurring Dream

[cats3325]

Hi everyone! I've looked for an interpretation of this dream for about 10 years and haven't come close to finding the symbolism. If anyone can help decipher I would be so grateful. I'll give a little background on the dream first: I was 17 when my dad passed away. I spent the last 3 wks of his life w/ him in the hospital. I was alone during my stay w/ him, in a huge city 3 hours from home & family. The day he died, I had made a quick trip home to my grandparents to pick up some school work & fresh clothes -planning to return to him within a few hours. Just as I was going out the door to start the drive back to the hospital, the phone rang - he had passed away. Okay - I've had a recurring dream since his death - TMALSS - I dream that I'm at a bar & someone comes in telling me my dad is over at the BarX playing pool. (Dad was actually a professional pool player.) I'm surprised because he's dead - I spend the rest of the night chasing him. When I finally catch up to him & demand an explanation, he says that he & my grandparents decided to stage his death because they really thought he wouldn't make it and I had already gone through so much with him at the hospital they thought it would be better to go ahead & let me think he died so that I could start moving on with life. I'm furious because he's so nonchalant about it. That's where it usually fades. I dream this about 3 or 4 times a year. It used to drive me nuts, now I just look forward to spending a few minutes with him and pray the dream doesn't disappear. I am curious about what in the world it means though. I've found stuff on death and chasing and other things - but nothing on someone pretending to be dead. Anyone have any ideas on this one? Thanks for reading this far. Sorry it's so long.
Thanks.
Cat

[Rævyn Cigány]

Wow, Cats, that's quite a dream. Now, I'm not a dream-interpreter by any stretch of the imagination, but I think you've already answered your own question:


It used to drive me nuts, now I just look forward to spending a few minutes with him and pray the dream doesn't disappear.

This may be either your subconcious (or maybe even your father's spirit) dealing in its own way with the fact that you couldn't be with your father when he passed away. You're having this dream three or four times a year, and maybe his 'visitation' is his way of saying 'don't worry that you weren't there when I left this world, for I am always with you'. My opinion only...it just 'feels' right...

BB and many condolences

Rae )0(

[Fawn]

I have to agree with Raevyn! I see your dream as the one where you did suffer guilt for not being present when he did pass over and once you 'found' your Dad and knew he was ok with this you were too and use the dream now to 'visit' with him--nothing wrong with that.
Just know that your Dad is happy; loves you; finhds NO fault in you and wants you to go on with your life. He will always be there for you when he is needed.

[BrigitCayenne]

according to my dream interpretation book your dreamof seeing your dead father means that you have most likely relived an experience of his around the time of the dream perhaps it's the same thing happening over and over again but it could be different thing each time or perhapssometimes it's one thing and sometimes it's another. does anything here seem relevant to your life?

[Lucidia]

my interpretation:

you are subconsiously in denial of your father's passing because you left before you could actually say your parting words. not actually "seeing" him as he died may have caused you to be unable to accept it fully, and so even after many years, your heartfelt attachment to him keeps the hope alive that maybe it's all just a big mistake. So you start to make up excuses, etc.

Mind you this is all on a subconsious level, since you are obviously a very strong and mature adult, and you are fully aware of the fact that your father indeed passed away.

your fustration and "chasing" him is showing that you are still striving in some way to make closure.

you are probably subconsiously guilty for leaving just before he passed.

my suggestions are to take some time alone, perhaps meditate or visit his resting place, and try to accept fully that it was unfortunate cirucumstances that did not allow you to be with him in his very last moments, and there is no need to chase the memory, because the love and bond you shared as a father and child will live on forever, because you will always be a part of him, and likewise he will always be a part of you.

Love is a strong emotion. I have not experienced the loss of a parent yet, but i know that it is very hard, and we all deal with those sort of losses differently. I hope that all of our interpretations of this dream can help you find some inner peace, knowing that your father is at peace as well.

blessed be.

[Swanspirit]

you could actually catch him in the dream and find out what you want to know ......
sometimes there are old issues between children and parents that arent settled at the time of their death...... but take time afterward to sort out and deal with .....
could be abandonment issues you are chasing him and not catching HIM OR ON>... dreams PUN,, fiercely sometimes , what arent you catching onto ?? that you feel you were tricked about? I think this goes deepr than the circumstances of the day of his death , what were the issues you felt you needed to bring to your father you that you also felt you never could??
Love and Light
Swannie