Spells!?

[RubyRose]

What's the deal, with doing spells for other people? We I'm thinking more along the lines of a relationship/healing spell for me and my other half. Do I have to let him in on it or not. I'm really only wanting to do it, because I need a little positive reinforcement that everything will work out in the end, but I wanted to know people's views on this sort of spell casting. I think that if I were to perform a spell emcompassing this, it would make me feel more at ease. (I hope this is making sense, I'm not exactly the wordsmith tonight)

[FeatherGoblinglimmer]

Well, i personally would let him in on it. I wouldn't do any spells for or on someone else without there permission. I have no qualms sending energy out to said person if their in need, but to me a spell or ritual goes much deeper.

You say it's for your own reassurance, can you do a ritual together? I think i remember you saying he is pagan somewhere. Or maybe get a reading of some kind done on your relationship?

*Huggles*
Feather

[RubyRose]

Thanks. Maybe I will get a reading done.

[FeatherGoblinglimmer]

I could do you an oracle reading if you like:)

[cloud]

What's the deal, with doing spells for other people? We I'm thinking more along the lines of a relationship/healing spell for me and my other half. Do I have to let him in on it or not. I'm really only wanting to do it, because I need a little positive reinforcement that everything will work out in the end, but I wanted to know people's views on this sort of spell casting. I think that if I were to perform a spell emcompassing this, it would make me feel more at ease. (I hope this is making sense, I'm not exactly the wordsmith tonight)
i have always believed that the person should know about it or you have their permission to do it. however, i completel contradicted my beliefs not long ago in an attempt to help an ex who i feel very strongly held to. it was compeletly not selfish though, and i feel very good about doing it. the only thing that bothers me is that i cannot tell her yet, because i'm sure she would probably be upset i wasted energy on her. anyways, i'm tending to feel as long as it's not selfish and done with completely good intentions, there is nothing wrong with it. who would turn down some positive energy? :ugh: anyways, that's my .02, which is however much over there. :)

[RubyRose]

Thanks ...

[DebLipp]

I'm not one of those who believes you should always tell someone or else refrain from the spell. In this case, though, it sounds a little dicey. You have mixed feelings about doing it and you'd have to go out of your way not to tell him. It's a relationship, y'know? Honesty and all that.

You don't want to get caught and you don't want to be misunderstood. I'd just say "I'm doing magic to help me get through this difficult time, and for things to work out for the best for both of us."

Of course, if he is willing to participate in the spell, what better encouragement could you get?

[Kalika]

If you're doing a healing ritual for YOU, or for your part in the relationship, ie strengthening your stance or your conviction... then I say no, you wouldn't have to let him in on it.

The problem with spells to do with relationships, is its often times hard to tell where the real feelings end and the spell begins if that makes sense. Spells can influence things in a way you didn't necessarily expect or plan.

But, if you plan to do something towards HIM, I would recommend that you tell him. Just for peace of mind.

:hugz: I know you've been going through some rough times lately, the both of you, and I know it will work out for the best, although the best thing for both of you may not be what you had envisioned or hoped for. You have your friends here at MW by your side, regardless of which way the tides turn.

However, I do hope that all your dreams regarding the two of you do come true, if that is what is meant to be, and will make you happy.

Blessings,

Kalika

[RubyRose]

Well I haven't totally kept him out of the loop. I did happen to mention that I was doing a spell, more for my peace of mind, about the current stance of our relationship. I'm not however doing a spell, to keep us together. That I will leave entirely up to Fate, though, not to say, I won't fight to keep him.

I just want some added reassurance on my part. To reassure myself that everything will eventually be okay, I figure even if the spell doesn't work, at least I've done something, to put my mind at rest. You know, contributed something, in order to be at peace with myself. Right now, every little thing, seems to land with me thinking, it could be over ... or he wants to break up.

I'd like to do a little something, just to ... well help me through, more than anything, it really, the more I think about it, has nothing what-so-ever to do with Rhyce ...

[Jenne]

Well I haven't totally kept him out of the loop. I did happen to mention that I was doing a spell, more for my peace of mind, about the current stance of our relationship. I'm not however doing a spell, to keep us together. That I will leave entirely up to Fate, though, not to say, I won't fight to keep him.

I just want some added reassurance on my part. To reassure myself that everything will eventually be okay, I figure even if the spell doesn't work, at least I've done something, to put my mind at rest. You know, contributed something, in order to be at peace with myself. Right now, every little thing, seems to land with me thinking, it could be over ... or he wants to break up.

I'd like to do a little something, just to ... well help me through, more than anything, it really, the more I think about it, has nothing what-so-ever to do with Rhyce ...
I understand what you are feeling, and the reason why you want to turn to magick to help you out. I think as long as you can clarify your motives and your desires for the spell, I think you're ok.

Personally, though, I think telling him WHY you are doing this is more important than who the spell is actually for. Communicating to him your fears of an eventual breakup (and soon if I read your posts right) may do more than spellwork. :hugz: and good luck--sending you clarification and good communication energy!

[Antoninus]

My philosophy is that if it helps someone but doesnt interfere, its allright. IE, my girlfriend came over today and she had menstrual cramps, so, while she was sleeping, I transfered the pain from her to me. Not pleasent, but she felt better and that made me happy, something like that, in my book, is ok, but if my friend came up to me and asked me to put a spell on a girl so he could go out with her, Id give him the Italian Salute and tell him why.

[Kalika]

RubyRose,

If its for your peace of mind... there shouldn't be a problem with it. In reading all the replies.... it looks like you have your reassurance. :)

You're a smart girl, you'll figure out whats right and what's best for you.

In the meantime.... MW is here for you.

Blessings,

Kalika

[RubyRose]

Thankyou. I'm pretty good at working up my own reassurance, without the help from others, too ... lol. And yes, I thank everybody who's been there for me over the last month ... it's meant a lot.