Please Help

[Water_Nymph_Skye]

i need everyones and anyones help..i am only 16, and i am not a great Wiccan yet, i only started this religion and way of life 4 years ago...please tell me how to mend a broken heart..i have lived with it for more than 2 years..and now its breakin more into tinier pieces..it hurts alot when your heart is broken from a close friend..i feel like crying, i want to cry, but i just cant, i have forgotten how too..unless im thinkin of something that breaks my heart more..like my dogs death, or my grandfathers' death, or my life in general..im fallin apart bit by bit..and i need help..i just dont know how to ask for it..i knows im stubborn..i just can stand it anymore...

please help me..i would appreciate it alot..

thank you for listening..

[Joshua]

i need everyones and anyones help..i am only 16, and i am not a great Wiccan yet, i only started this religion and way of life 4 years ago...please tell me how to mend a broken heart..i have lived with it for more than 2 years..and now its breakin more into tinier pieces..it hurts alot when your heart is broken from a close friend..i feel like crying, i want to cry, but i just cant, i have forgotten how too..unless im thinkin of something that breaks my heart more..like my dogs death, or my grandfathers' death, or my life in general..im fallin apart bit by bit..and i need help..i just dont know how to ask for it..i knows im stubborn..i just can stand it anymore...

please help me..i would appreciate it alot..

thank you for listening..

I'm not a great Wiccan either, just a good one. So are you by the sound of it. I can only give you general advice without knowing more. When Goddess calls you to the Wiccan path, you are not in for an easy ride. People don't stay here for the popularity it brings. Devotion to Goddess can and often does bring alienation and scorn. It can be rough and lonely.

Why did she choose you? There must be something special about you. We (Pagans & Wiccans) are different than most people. We generally tend to be empathic, good with animals, we like nature, etc. We see things differently than most. This can alienate us even further from other people. Goddess gave us gifts, but they can be a terrible burden.

So why stay? The rewards for a relationship with Goddess outwiegh any grief you have in your life. Your gifts make you special. They put you in a position to do a lot of good. But they also make you different, whcih means that some people will reject you. Remember that Goddess is with you all the time. You don't even have to do ritual to feel her presence, just reach out and she'll reach back. She chose you for a special path in life, which means she is always nearby to lend support.

I'm sorry for your pain. You are young, and have several decades ahead of you. There is incalculable promise in your life. I hope you heal soon and are able to live to your full potential. BB.

[Pesha]

There may be in higher rleams than this great witchs/wiccans. But I do not know them. It takes time to be something. Anything you aspire to takes time. So my sweetone learn and grow and soon before you know it you will be a good witch. Broken hearts are horrid. But darling you have the wonderful capacity of a young person to bounce back and go forward. Friends hurt friends sometimes and there are those time when the break cannot be mended. So you must look ahead and walk proud and stay focused on yor goals.
Also what friend Booleanicus says is very good advice. Listen to your heart and follow the Goddess. She will never lead you anywhere you are not meant to go. {{{HUGS}}}.

BB
DS.

[Hoot]

Hi (((Water_Nymph_Skye))) and welcome to MysticWicks! :hugz:

For someone who says they're too stubborn to ask for help, you did pretty well! We all need a little help at times. And I think my friends Booleanicus and Dragonsinger gave you some wise advice.

Your heart, even as broken as it feels now, will always tell you what it needs if you take the time and care to listen to it. Just let yourself feel it.

I hope you have fun and meet a lot of new friends here, and where you live, soon. I'm sending you some energy for feeling better!

[Joshua]

I just hope that we weren't too late and she logs back on to read our replies.

[Hoot]

(((Water_Nymph_Skye)))

How're you doing?

My new friend, I lit a candle for you last night... sending you love and energy for strength and comfort. There are people who care about you and what happens to you, and we're just a few of them. Please keep talking to us. Sometimes talking it out is the only way to get through pain.

:huddle:

[Water_Nymph_Skye]

there is many thanks i would like to give you all, my life is changing and falling apart piece by piece in front of my eyes, and the Goddess is what keeps me alive and half sane..i dont know if i will ever be well again, thank you all so much for the help you gave me, atleast i know some people care..its confusing with my life, my family, more just my parents dont know about my being Wiccan, and only my 2 of my 3 brothers know and my sister knows..i think..they ask me about it and stuff..but they judge me too quickly, and i dont talk to or with many people often, so its harder for me to talk..they ask me if i smoke, do drugs, and shit..but i dont, and i know what it does to me if i do,..its disgusting, and no offence to anyone who does..i will write more, for i am in school and i must go..thank you for your time and i dont know what to write..

[Hoot]

(((Water_Nymph_Skye))) I'm so glad you came back! I know it's not always easy to talk. Sometimes I don't know how either, and feel a little shy myself, but just jump in anyway... It gets easier when you get to know people better though. Maybe if you look around here and start to talk to people at MW, you'll discover a few more friends. And if you want to take your mind off of anything serious, and play for a little while, the Just Silly forum is a great place to do it - at least I think so, anyway! I hope I see you around a lot more. Keep coming right back here if you want to, or you can PM (private message) any of us. I think you'll find MW a pretty wonderful place because it's full of people who care about each other and are trying to make a difference with their lives.

I'm happy we met. :hugz:

[Joshua]

Hoot and DS pretty much covered everything. They're pretty smart. You have a lot going on right now; you're a teenager (which is tumultuous all by itself. I have one at home and get an earful all the time from her), you're mostly in the broom closet, and you have heartache on top of all that. The best advice I can give you is to keep coming here. There are a lot of strong friendships around here. We carry each other through the rough spots, and we can carry you too. You're in good company here. Stop in and post or IM any time. BB.

Bool

[DixieWitch]

Energies sent.

[Romani Vixen]

You have odviously gone thorough a situation (relationship?) that has hurt you deeply... you need to deal with it. There's a technique that has always worked for me.

Write.... write it all down... in the most detail that you can manage... and allow yourself to cry... eventually they will come... likely, if it doesn't happen the first time, there will be a dam being broken and your eyes will be cloudy for a while.... it's ok... I've used it mostly for dealing with my PTSD from being raped when I was 13. If it was an abusive situation, or something that happened more than once, pick an incident... and just the one. Limmit time... start with 5 minutes ... you can work your way up in time... this limmits the ammount of emotional shock on your system... or at least manages it... It's going to hurt... you will hate life... but it will clear...

((huggs))

FalconSong

[Hoot]

(((FalconSong))) what wonderful advice.

Still have you right next to my heart, (((Water_Nymph_Skye))), and sending you love and energy for strength to heal and keep moving forward.

May you always feel the embrace of the Goddess. When you reach for her, she's there.

:huddle:

[Old Witch]

Energy sent for your heart to start to mend........I can't give any better advice than Hoot and Dragonsinger and Boo......I just want you to know you are in my prayers.............