Semele
February 16th, 2001, 08:53 PM
Wow!
I just finished reading the thread that had everyone so upset. I had no idea how bad things had gotten. I am utterly speachless. As I sit here with tears running down my face, I have nothing to say. What happened to this community? Was this just a necessary test we had to pass...see if we could survive? I have been on many mailing lists...pagan and otherwise and have left feeling downhearted because of arguments and downright hatred towards other members. I often wondered how things start off so well then turn ugly so quick...all with the same people you shared so much with. I figured out it was because emotions get the best of us and we lash out at each other rather than let things slide assuming the offender was having a bad day or came across wrong. I had commented to Mol the other day how great it was that all of us here seemed to understand the key ingredient for any relationship. Love. Loving someone who hurts you sends them a positive energy and gives them no other way to react to you. Sure they may lash out again but if we continue to love them they will either get the picture or leave for lack of fuel for their fires.
Perhaps I am dreaming but I thought we had something here. EW, I love you dearly and I am sorry you were hurt by someones words. I wish I could take the impact away. I also wish I could take back all the negative energy that you no doubt carried with you for a long time...until you were able to attempt to rid yourself of it in your follow up post. However if you are anything like me, it probably made you feel no better and perhaps even worse as you read the next post. You put yourself in a negative situation and you and anyone around you suffered for it. It is a viscious cycle. I'm not pointing fingers, because I see where you are coming from friend, I really do. I just don't want to see you so affected by something someone says. You are very strong in your faith and you no doubt have moved on from this. I hope so because I wouldn't want anything to keep you and Scarlet away from the community. That goes for everyone. Love to everyone....who knows maybe this has all long since blown over and I am dragging it all up again. I hope not. I just don't have the heart to read further on the boards for fear of what I might find. I have to go to work and I can only hope that everything is ok with this small part of the world when I come home. I hope so!
Semele
I just finished reading the thread that had everyone so upset. I had no idea how bad things had gotten. I am utterly speachless. As I sit here with tears running down my face, I have nothing to say. What happened to this community? Was this just a necessary test we had to pass...see if we could survive? I have been on many mailing lists...pagan and otherwise and have left feeling downhearted because of arguments and downright hatred towards other members. I often wondered how things start off so well then turn ugly so quick...all with the same people you shared so much with. I figured out it was because emotions get the best of us and we lash out at each other rather than let things slide assuming the offender was having a bad day or came across wrong. I had commented to Mol the other day how great it was that all of us here seemed to understand the key ingredient for any relationship. Love. Loving someone who hurts you sends them a positive energy and gives them no other way to react to you. Sure they may lash out again but if we continue to love them they will either get the picture or leave for lack of fuel for their fires.
Perhaps I am dreaming but I thought we had something here. EW, I love you dearly and I am sorry you were hurt by someones words. I wish I could take the impact away. I also wish I could take back all the negative energy that you no doubt carried with you for a long time...until you were able to attempt to rid yourself of it in your follow up post. However if you are anything like me, it probably made you feel no better and perhaps even worse as you read the next post. You put yourself in a negative situation and you and anyone around you suffered for it. It is a viscious cycle. I'm not pointing fingers, because I see where you are coming from friend, I really do. I just don't want to see you so affected by something someone says. You are very strong in your faith and you no doubt have moved on from this. I hope so because I wouldn't want anything to keep you and Scarlet away from the community. That goes for everyone. Love to everyone....who knows maybe this has all long since blown over and I am dragging it all up again. I hope not. I just don't have the heart to read further on the boards for fear of what I might find. I have to go to work and I can only hope that everything is ok with this small part of the world when I come home. I hope so!
Semele