Energy for my grandma..........

[Fairywolf]

This morning my uncle Dan died. I have spent all my waking hours at my grandmothers helping deal with the paramedics and cop. I would like to help out more but am unable to do so. I am sending all the energy I can to my grandmother and all of her children. She had 8 kids and this is the sencond one she has lost. Any energy you can spare would be appreciated.

[amberwolf]

Positive and healing energies on the way for your Grandma and her family and strength for you also sweetie..Sorry to hear of your loss......Goddess bless

[Prizm]

Mega hugs and energy sent grandma's way [and yours].

[WynnJera]

I am very sorry for your loss hun :hugz:
healing ernergy for you and your family at this difficult time

[Old Witch]

Energy sent Sweetie!

[Calyx]

Fairywolf,
I am very sorry for your loss.....
Sending some love and hugs for you :hugz: and energy for healing, peace and calm for you and the family.
My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. :huddle:

[WandererInGray]

*hugs* Done.

[Fairywolf]

Thank you all this really means alot to me :huddle: You guys are the greatest!!!

[DixieWitch]

Energies sent.

[Hoot]

(((fairywolf))) I'm sorry to find out about your Uncle Dan - and that I didn't see this sooner!Sending you and your family, especially your grandmother, love and energy for strength and unity.

:huddle:

[Fairywolf]

I decided to put this here; instead of starting another thread since it has to deal with my uncle. this is going to be long so please bare with me :)

I will start at the begining; I brought my uncle home from the hospital Friday where he had just had surgery on his right leg. He had been doing GREAT. Well Sat. morning my grandma went in to his bedroom to check on him and to see if he wanted breakfast and well she found him dead. We aren't sure if it was a heart attack or pulmnary embolism but it was natural causes none the less. Well Grandma called down here and my mother and I rushed over to her house and spent most of the day calling everyone that needed to be called and setting up things for his daughter who was/is the person who was supposed to do this. I understand that loseing you father isn't an easy thing to deal with so I did alot to help her out. Well his family night was tonight and well it snowed last night and we got 6 inches+ ice. Most of my uncles and aunts as well as my grandmother live on this side of the mountian and the services are on the other side (15-20 miles) We asked if we could postpone everything for a day so we could all get over there because the roads are all black ice. Well his daughter said NO. So needless to say 5 of Dans brothers and sisters couldn't make it over, nor his mother. Now his daughter and son are extreamly pissed at us. She already says that I am a misfit and a loser among other things, so now not only am I that (she includes my mother and 2 brothers in this to) I am worthless and didn't and still don't give a damn about my uncle. I do. I loved this man more then she ever did. I have done more for him and treated him better then both of his kids combined. Now they are making my mother feel like crap for not going over the mountian. OK we have a dodge colt which is a rear wheel drive car and is good in the snow but there is something wrong with the brakes and I am not about to drive my mother around in this stuff in a car that isn't safe to appease two ungreatful @%$#@s!!! I refuse to put our lives at stake as well.

Yet I feel like CRAP. I can't stop crying and my mother crying doesn't help. If I could do something to help her to stop I could use the anger to get threw this easier. I don't know what to do now. I am not one to cry and I never do it for long periods. NEVER. Not when my grandfather died nor when my best friend died, Nor anytime threw my ongoing divorce. And now I can't stop. Why do people have to be so ungreatful and hateful in times like these. Or ever for that matter???????

[Hoot]

Yet I feel like CRAP. I can't stop crying and my mother crying doesn't help. If I could do something to help her to stop I could use the anger to get threw this easier. I don't know what to do now. I am not one to cry and I never do it for long periods. NEVER. Not when my grandfather died nor when my best friend died, Nor anytime threw my ongoing divorce. And now I can't stop. Why do people have to be so ungreatful and hateful in times like these. Or ever for that matter???????

(((fairywolf))) I don't know why, either. But it seems like times like these bring out either the best or the worst in people. Let it bring out your best, no matter how badly your cousin behaves. Just think about how much you love your mother, your grandmother, and your uncle, and try to do it for them even if you're having a hard time finding a charitable thought because of your cousin right now.

I'm sorry she got abusive with you. There really is no excuse for the hurt some family members heap on each other.

And to tell you the truth, since you were as caring and close to your Uncle Dan as you were, I think she is probably feeling a little guilty that she wasn't - and he was her father. She probably isn't liking that feeling, either, so the only way she can displace it is to strike out at you, and look down on you, to make herself feel better. You know her better than I do, but some people can be very petty and afraid. I feel sorry for her, but can see how her hurting your mother would make you livid.

Sweetie, sending you and your loved ones lots of love and energy for strength, patience and calm.

:huddle:

[Old Witch]

Sweetheart, Your Uncle Dan knows what is in your heart, and in your Moms and Grandmoms heart.........He also knows what is in his daughters heart because he knows everything now........Calming energy to you and yours and I'm so sorry for your loss...........

[Joshua]

I'm sorry I missed this too! Strength and blessings to all of you!

[KamikazeFinn]

may the best of strength be among you and yours. many blessings and much energy sent to you and your family.

[Tea Leaf]

Sending light & love to your grandma and yourself!

[Semele]

Hoot and OW are right. Your cousin is acting out of pain and guilt most likely. I am sorry she is hurting you, but you shouldn't let it get to you Babe! You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be sorry for. I am sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you and your family.

[SnowyMoon]

Awwww, Fariy. :( :Hugz: Loosing a loved one is tough enough. So sorry that you are dealing with so much. Peace and healing energy to you and your family.

[Xentor]

Sending you strength and calmth, (((Fairywolf))). Sorry for your loss.

I agree with the others, your cousins act out of grief. Don't take it personally, it isn't your fault. :hugz:

[Desert_Yaqui]

fairywolf, I don't think I can say anything more to you than what has already been said... But I can send you lots of peaceful, calming energy for you, your mom AND your grandma. Lastly fairywolf, remain resolute in your attitude and the knowledge that you have done no wrong.

:hugz:

[xzyon]

~*much positive energy for you your mom and grandma*~ I'm sorry for your loss.... I know it's hard, you'll pull through.... :jamsessio ~*they play you a soothing tune*~