I have a friend

[MistOfTheSea86]

Who wants to start a coven, and wants me to join them. I do not know completely if he is serious. I get the feeling that he is, but something is kinda pulling me back. Pherhaps I am not ready. Whattya think.

[mol]

Originally posted by MistOfTheSea86
Who wants to start a coven, and wants me to join them. I do not know completely if he is serious. I get the feeling that he is, but something is kinda pulling me back. Pherhaps I am not ready. Whattya think.

If something is pulling you back...there is a reason...

[MistOfTheSea86]

I wonder what it is. The most i feel is fear. I think it is because no one in my family knows and if they find out I am afraid they will reject it. I think that is it.

[mol]

A coven is a very personal thing...whatever you do...dont rush into that sort of thing. Please.

[MistOfTheSea86]

you are right, I will not rush in. I should ask around first.

[mol]

I just dont want you getting hurt in the process....

[Rævyn Cigány]

I agree with Mol...a coven is a big thing to undertake. I know this because I'm seriously thinking of starting one myself. Difference being, I feel totally 'right' about it all...I have no reservations (other than whether or not I can pull it off!!!) and my whole outlook on the matter is rosy :D. So if you feel that something is wrong, go with your instincts...they're almost never wrong...your friend may look upon this venture as frivilous or something to use as shock value, nothing more...find out discreetly how far your friend's plans run, and then go from there....

Good luck to you

In the love of the Goddess,

Rae )0(

[MistOfTheSea86]

As always your wisdom is wise. You are right I think theya re using it as shock value, I prefer to be solitary right now. If I feel bertter about as time passes then I might consider it. Thanx for helpin!

[MistOfTheSea86]

Thanx for caring, if u guys have taught me anything it is to research before proceeding, which I will do.

[EasternPriest]

more often than not, if your instinct is caution, it's right....

[Lavender]

Hi Mist, I have to agree with Mol & Rae. If you're not sure about this coven, that's a good enough reason not to join yet. Be careful & keep us posted.

Take care,

[MistOfTheSea86]

You guys are so nice you brought a tear to my eye. it is almost like you guys are my family. That is how much I trust you. Thank you so much. I am meeting the person on Sunday or sometime, and I will distinguish more from them. I think the fear also rooted because I did not know he was, if I get to know him, pherhaps My mind will change. If something comes up you will be the first to know!

[pilvikki]

mist.... you're very young yet. [deep sigh.]

there will be time to join covens and other things, but this doesn't sound too kosher at all. if you meet the person and he's a good salesman, you'll never know where he's coming from.

still, talking to him is a good idea, as long as you don't go alone! trust me on that one.

secondly, your fear may be based on your fear of yourself. you'd have to sort that one out as well before committing yourself to a larger group.

take care!

ye olde bat.

[MistOfTheSea86]

I was wonderin what you meant by this. It kinda confused me.

And also... I am not old!:D

[sherry]

I am solitary after all these years! I have always had a fear of joining a coven until I know all members in the group and have a trust for each of them !! It only takes one negative person in the group to pull down the goals you set.

Since moving out here I have joined in with a study group twice. The first time was so strange and the second was warm and welcoming. I could feel the energy of all in the group but the first meeting had so many different emotions between the members that if they had tried to cast a circle I think I would have run!!

Trust is a big factor for me and although Bluecat is friends with all of these people I do not know them, and what each are capable of.

I do believe that if you are not sure of anything, the choice to hold back is the better choice.

[Myst]

I think pilvikki was referring to themself as "ye olde bat", Mist :)

On fear of yourself I think what pilvikki could mean is that you haven't sorted out yourself - your powers, fears, beliefs, etc - so maybe you shouldn't try to help sort out others too. Its hard to explain but once you get there you'll understand :)

[MistOfTheSea86]

That is a very good point Willow. I had that at the tip of my Tounge, but just couldn't put my finger on it. Thanx a bunch!

[gunner]

i can't add much to what's been said by mol, pilvikki, rae and the others. it's good advice, "when in doubt take it slow" and listen to your instincts. that's kept me alive a few times when the neighbors were less than friendly. this is not of course a "life threatening" situation but letting another take over making your choices for you at this stage could hamper your learning and development in the direction you would wish to go. if it were me i'd tell him "no, not yet, i have my own path to follow first".