Pagan parents.......questions

[Isis]

MM,

I've come to this board because its the only real source of support that I have in my community. My family is not pagan, nor are any of my friends though they are accepting of it.

I'm having some troubles with my son right now. He's depressed, and going through a pretty intensive therapy right now. However, the child is really pushing my buttons, and driving me insane. I want nothing more than for him to get better, but he doesnt seem to care enough about himself to do this. He's ten years old, and his self-esteem is in the toliet. Of course, today I didn't help matters any when I lost control and said somethings that I shouldn't've. I want to help my son, and am trying, but I need to help myself and figure out how to parent this child.

Are there any parents out there of incredibly talented, intelligent, good hearted loving children that happen to have behaviour difficulties and depression issues that can shed some light for me, or offer me parenting tips?

I am taking parenting classes right now, and we're beginning group therapy in a week. However, right now my son and I really need some help. I feel myself pulling away from him, afraid to get close. I suppose sometimes I feel really detached from him, though I dont want it to be this way.

This matter is a never ending source of heart break for me. I love him, and am just scared that my love somehow isn't enough. Anyone have any ideas, support, words of love, hatred, whatever.....just some help would be great!!!


All my love,

Isis

[Mairwen]

Sounds like me and my oldest son, who'll be 12 soon. :( They grow up, don't they. *sigh* If you want, send me an e-mail, and we'll talk.

[Faery-Wings]

My kids are still young (2 1/2 and 5) and haven't had issues of depression so far *knocking wood* I don't have any advice, but it sounds like you are doing the right things with the therapy and the parenting classes.

The only other thing I could suggest is maybe ask the Goddess for guidance? I did a simple ritual a month ago because my daughter, the 2 yo, and I were butting heads already. I asked the Goddess to help me get through whatever was blocking us from peace with each other. And I did a lot of affirmations that I was a good mom and would that helped too.

Good luck and I hope that your family feels better.

Chris

[sherry]

My oldest God son is like this and went from an extremely happy loving child to this distructive little person after his parents divorce.
We noticed that he started drawing alot so I just keep him supplied with art supplies and privacy!! Doctors had him on medications that make him a walking zombie and were not helpful at all. His grades fell and after his parents remarried he started self distruction, actually cutting himself and lie about how it happens. I thought my brother and sister in law were smarter than that to believe the cuts came from a cat!!
Now he is in counseling his art work shows alot the family he was secure in was taken away, life as he thought it should be disappeared when he needed it most. He also is writing short stories that one day he will be able to share with others maybe but for now he writes them and puts them in his lock box.
He has his own private space that everyone respects and the support of family to talk to he said that helps because he can vent
without being in trouble for saying what is on his mind.
Also I found out that he sees spirits like I do and his parents kept telling him he was lieing and would take him to church more
I explained to him that it is normal and it is just best to keep it to himself or talk to me I believe him and most of my family did the same when I talked about it as a child!! People just did not understand it and if he told his therapist about it he would get that padded cell!!

[Isis]

MM,

Thank you so much for your kind words, thoughts,suggestions and prayers. I garner a lot of support from this board, and am very appreciative of it.

Thanks again, and god and goddess bless you all.


Isis