MEN!!! I need you and your questions PLEASE!!

[Mau]

OK guys, I'm writing a book and need your input. I need you to post any and all questions that men often wonder/ask about women. Questions can be about anything that confuses/bewilders men when it comes to relationships, etc.
Thanks!

[Mindflayer]

Why do some women wear so much makeup?

It just seems that make-up has lost it's true use and that is to enhance NATURAL qualities, nobody is suppose to know you're wearing it.... but there's these girls that walk around that look more plastic than human...just wondering why some do that :p



Second, why do women like men to mind-read, I notice this from my female friends too

"what's wrong"

"*sigh* nothing"

then when you act lkike nothing is wrong, they get pissy, I mean if you're gonna say nothing is wrong, don't swell on it and get mad when we don't figure out what's wrong...

basically, why not just SAY what you want us to KNOW :p

[Mau]

That second one is GREAT. One I was definitely looking forward to addressing. Basically what I'm writing is a man's FAQ's as pertaining to women/ mens' handbook to women combo. Guys always ask why we don't come with a handbook..so I'm on it, and I'm dishing it ALL out ;)

[Valkie]

ok, I'm a woman, but I think like a guy, and there is one thing that I could never understand about my sex. WHY do women feel the need to compete for every male and why the insane amount of jealousy? Every time I get near a group of 3 or more females, and it doesn't matter what social class they are part of, all I hear is how much this woman sucks because she is prettier, or has a cuter or richer husband or boyfriend, or a better job, the list is endless. ... actually, I think the better question would be, why can't women be happy with being themselves?

[Calzaer]

Why do chicks expect guys to know their little secret language where 'No, I don't mind if you go bowling with your buddies on our anniversary' means 'If you leave this house without me, and your destination is anywhere other than a fancy restaraunt, I will skin you alive later'?

Are there any GOOD lines with which to begin a conversation?

Is it REALLY necessary for me to say "I love you" at least once every two hours in order to convince a woman that I actually do, in fact, love her (may just be my ex...)?

Is there any way to breach delicate relationship topics like polyamoury and threesomes without making a the woman to whom the topic is addressed feel astoundingly insecure?

Why do women go to the bathroom in groups? Are there dangerous predators that lurk in women's restrooms?

Why is it so rare for women to make the first approach (for instance, in clubs)?

Why do so few women appreciate action and/or bad kung-fu movies? What is the draw of "chick flicks"?

Other than by investing in sunglasses, is there any way to avoid having the natural male tendency to size up other women in the nearby vicinity get us in trouble with our current significant other?

(more later, I'm just waking up still)

[Gareth]

Why do women ask,' what are you thinking about?', when we're trying to sleep? :grrrrr:

[Calzaer]

Or while we're watching football! The whole point of watching ANYTHING on tv is that we don't have to think!

[Bainidhe Dub]

Why do chicks expect guys to know their little secret language where 'No, I don't mind if you go bowling with your buddies on our anniversary' means 'If you leave this house without me, and your destination is anywhere other than a fancy restaraunt, I will skin you alive later'?

Because we don't want you to think that you can't go out at all, or that we've overbearing or whatnot..... but don't want to make it too obvious that we want you around - even though we think you guys should know that anniversaries/etc. ARE very important. *smiles*

Are there any GOOD lines with which to begin a conversation? Um....

Is it REALLY necessary for me to say "I love you" at least once every two hours in order to convince a woman that I actually do, in fact, love her (may just be my ex...)?

Nope - just your ex. Well... ok, I know a few other girls like that.. Who knows?

Is there any way to breach delicate relationship topics like polyamoury and threesomes without making a the woman to whom the topic is addressed feel astoundingly insecure?

Um.... This I don't know. Maybe just bring up "something you read in an article" and see where that conversation goes? Definitely a case by case senario there.

Why do women go to the bathroom in groups? Are there dangerous predators that lurk in women's restrooms?

I think we do this so we can make sure we haven't tucked dresses into pantyhose, or have something out of place that we may miss but our friends certainly won't. LOL

Why is it so rare for women to make the first approach (for instance, in clubs)?

Fear of rejection. (at least for me - though I'm getting better lol)

Why do so few women appreciate action and/or bad kung-fu movies? What is the draw of "chick flicks"?

I like all sorts of movies. I watch chick flicks alone - who wants a guy rolling his eyes at a sappy movie?? LOL.

Other than by investing in sunglasses, is there any way to avoid having the natural male tendency to size up other women in the nearby vicinity get us in trouble with our current significant other?

Just tell her... "yeah, she's ok - but not nearly as pretty/gorgeous/bosomy/etc as you sweetheart!" My dad does this LOL.

(more later, I'm just waking up still)

That's ok, we forgive ya! LOL

[~ Monk ~]

A few questions I've pondered:

Why do so many women complain that there are no nice guys out there, then get "bored" with the nice guys once they find them?

Why is it so hard for women to accept that fact that sometimes guys have no preferences when it comes to how they (the women) look? Is it not possible for us to think that you look gorgeous with both short and long hair?

[Ben Trismegistus]

OK let's see.

After you've made a joint decision regarding the relationship that will take some time to put into motion (i.e. planning to buy a house in a year or two, planning a mutually-beneficial career change, etc.), why does the woman then need to be constantly reassured that you're still on board with the plans?

Why do women have an irrational distrust of all men? Is it simply because so many men are sh*theads, and they've been burned so many times, or is it something more ingrained?

On a related note, why are women convinced that their men will leave them?

Oh here's a good one: Why do women so often fall for the "bad boy" type? The men who are dark and brooding and mysterious, who look like trouble. Why do so many women seem to prefer those types, to the point of thinking of regular, nice guys as "boring" or "not manly enough"?

[~ Monk ~]

Oh here's a good one: Why do women so often fall for the "bad boy" type? The men who are dark and brooding and mysterious, who look like trouble. Why do so many women seem to prefer those types, to the point of thinking of regular, nice guys as "boring" or "not manly enough"?
Heh heh - we're on the same page with this one, Ben.

[Heathen Dawn]

Why do women give a hard time to those men who are seeking a relationship with them? Why do they put men to manifold difficult tests? Why do they make men feel like they (the women) are doing them a favour that they just talk to them?

(caveat: not all women are like that; but I have yet to hit upon a woman who isn’t, a woman who would spare me the heartbreak)

[Bainidhe Dub]

"dark and brooding and mysterious" There's your answer LOL. A guy like that is irresistable!

Don't ask me - I'm a girl - it's like it's part of our DNA or something to be attracted to guys like that.

[docdoo]

Good one Ben...I have to agree with Lady Phoenix...must be genetic

As for mistrust...well there are alot of idiots out there!

Valkie...you are absolutely correct I must admit that I detest that about our gender! I cant tell you how many times I've heard women say the most awful things about another woman just because she's pretty. It happens all the time!

[Felidae]

Oh here's a good one: Why do women so often fall for the "bad boy" type? The men who are dark and brooding and mysterious, who look like trouble. Why do so many women seem to prefer those types, to the point of thinking of regular, nice guys as "boring" or "not manly enough"?
Because a guy like this gives the impression that he would be extremely good in bed (well, me anyway :) ). Plus, it gives you the freedom to be a very bad girl...

Again, that's just me.

[Ben Trismegistus]

"dark and brooding and mysterious" There's your answer LOL. A guy like that is irresistable!
But those guys are ALWAYS bad news. Would you want to try to go out to dinner and a movie with a guy who's constantly brooding?

I think another part of it is that women see those men as "projects" - as something to fix and change. "I can save him from his personal demons" - that sort of thing.

[Bran83]

Why can women never make their minds up?
Why is it that they say the like a nice sweet guy.....but mount a biker?
Why is it that they never tell you whats really going on or how they feel?
Why is it ok for them to want to have sex but when you expect it its like 'is that all you want from me'?

[Desert_Yaqui]

ok, I'm a woman, but I think like a guy, and there is one thing that I could never understand about my sex. WHY do women feel the need to compete for every male and why the insane amount of jealousy? Every time I get near a group of 3 or more females, and it doesn't matter what social class they are part of, all I hear is how much this woman sucks because she is prettier, or has a cuter or richer husband or boyfriend, or a better job, the list is endless. ... actually, I think the better question would be, why can't women be happy with being themselves?

Wow! I can really identify with this statement Valkie... As you can probably suspect, I don't do well in herds of females.

Oh and what is the deal with the group bathroom thing? :wtf:

[Bran83]

Because a guy like this gives the impression that he would be extremely good in bed (well, me anyway :) ). Plus, it gives you the freedom to be a very bad girl...

Again, that's just me.

ROFLMFAO well that answers one of my questions.... but im a nice guy with kink fetishes and no complaints.... ;)

[Desert_Yaqui]

Oh here's a good one: Why do women so often fall for the "bad boy" type? The men who are dark and brooding and mysterious, who look like trouble. Why do so many women seem to prefer those types, to the point of thinking of regular, nice guys as "boring" or "not manly enough"?

Okay, well...even I have to admit that the whole "bad" boy thing really is alluring... I don't know; perhaps we somehow seek fleeting moments of "risk" and this attracts us to men like this. Dunno...

This is a good question. I will have to ponder this a bit more... BenT... I'll be baaaack


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Because a guy like this gives the impression that he would be extremely good in bed (well, me anyway ). Plus, it gives you the freedom to be a very bad girl...

And well, yes... there is THAT... :devil:

[DayDreamer]

The traveling in packs to the bathroom thing has an easy answer.

We do it to talk about YOU (men).

[Felidae]

ROFLMFAO well that answers one of my questions.... but im a nice guy with kink fetishes and no complaints.... ;)
:hehehe:

[Desert_Yaqui]

The traveling in packs to the bathroom thing has an easy answer.

We do it to talk about YOU (men).


hmm.... never knew that.

[Bran83]

The traveling in packs to the bathroom thing has an easy answer.

We do it to talk about YOU (men).


Yeah that and to answer a saftey call is never a good sign...

[Fairywolf]

I am a woman and I don't do these things.........well not really. I prefer to go to the bathroom by myself and the dark brooding guys really are trouble and the nice guy I found well :hehehehe: I can be bad and goood alllllllllllll at the same time ;)

Keep answering ladies cause I wouldn't mind knowing the answers to these either. Must be the growing up with all boys thing :lol: I just don't understand women.


Oh and here is one for you........How come you can say you are going to do something and don't the girl gets mad but when they do it you can't get mad???

My cousin does this to me alllllllll the time.

[Flaire-FireStar]

Or while we're watching football! The whole point of watching ANYTHING on tv is that we don't have to think!

hey! That's why I watch TV. :razz:



(as for the bathroom thing....... if there were a group following me, I'd be mighty afraid.. :blushake: )

[Traz Heart]

Why do women allways think they know everything?
and when you diagree and end up being correct they start saying "You allways dought everything I say" or "I am never right and you are allways right"

Oh Oh how about Why don't women look down before sitting on the toilet?
They acomplaine about Pee on the seat then complain that you don't close the lid.
how about looking before they leep?

Why No matter how much you tell your woman they look good they never belive you?

[Nighthawk]

Really good thread here, people... I will not comment myself, but I love reading it

[Desert_Yaqui]

Why No matter how much you tell your woman they look good they never belive you?

Well, sh*t the bed! Traz, you've got something here...


I have been known to be guilty of this... :( But I am learning!

[Jenne]

DayDreamer hit the nail on the head about the bathroom herd. That's the ONLY reason I go pee with another chick--to DISH!

Ummm...as to all the other stuff...contradictions and crazy nutso crud, well, what can I say? I think women are as confused about that stuff as men. But if you dig deep, men are full of the same sort of emotional/mental gymnastics. I think most of it comes back to insecurity, as alot of you hit on. Women are always trying to look out for number one, because they feel like they are the only ones doing it.

I have a question woman-to-woman: Why do we always have to bring each other down? And this is not just about men and competing for them either! WHY are we such b*tches to each other? Why can't we support one another and be sistahs? Why does almost every female-to-female relationship have to overcome territorial and jealousy issues?

Anyone know the answer to that one?

Oh, and Mindlflayer, I don't know WHO you've been hangin' with, but most of the chicks I know don't even WEAR makeup. I'm an exception, and I try hard not to make it LOOK like I'm wearing it...

[dragonkin]

As a woman I have a question that I wondered about since it is something that I can't understand:
Why do women ask men loaded questions like "Do these pants make my butt look big" etc. and then get mad no matter what they say?

[Desert_Yaqui]

As a woman I have a question that I wondered about since it is something that I can't understand:
Why do women ask men loaded questions like "Do these pants make my butt look big" etc. and then get mad no matter what they say?

:rotfl: yes... that is a good one, no? Lock and load, baby!

[Felidae]

As a woman I have a question that I wondered about since it is something that I can't understand:
Why do women ask men loaded questions like "Do these pants make my butt look big" etc. and then get mad no matter what they say?
OK, here's my hypothesis:

They already know that the pants make their butts look big, and it really doesn't matter what anyone answers.

If you say "yes" then you are an insensitive jerk. If you say "no" then she knows you're lying because she can see how darn big her butt looks!

What they are really looking for is a magickal way to see the pants looking great on them...

...Just a thought...

[Calyx]

Wow! I can really identify with this statement Valkie... As you can probably suspect, I don't do well in herds of females.



Valkie and DY, I am with you. I have never understood it and try not to fall into this trap. Most of my good friends are male, and the female friends I have (and we are close ) probably ought to be male! :lol: Too bad more females don't think llike this, I am sad to say...

[Calyx]

OK, here's my hypothesis:

They already know that the pants make their butts look big, and it really doesn't matter what anyone answers.

If you say "yes" then you are an insensitive jerk. If you say "no" then she knows you're lying because she can see how darn big her butt looks!

What they are really looking for is a magickal way to see the pants looking great on them...

...Just a thought...
:falloffch :ahhhh: :uhhuhuh:

[Desert_Yaqui]

Valkie and DY, I am with you. I have never understood it and try not to fall into this trap. Most of my good friends are male, and the female friends I have (and we are close ) probably ought to be male! :lol: Too bad more females don't think llike this, I am sad to say...

Yup... More male friends than female friends here too. I also suspect that there are lots more females that think the way we do...Perhaps for them there is an underlying fear of being viewed as not unfeminine enough or fear being viewed as too "manly" in their ideals. I have been accused of this... more times than I care to remember!

As for me... I do not care for what others think of me. I do not allow their perception [i.e., approval or acceptance] of my actions to affect my life.

Ladies, anyone else?

[Ben Trismegistus]

Why No matter how much you tell your woman they look good they never belive you?
Because they want you to keep telling them.

[Felidae]

Yup... More male friends than female friends here too. I also suspect that there are lots more females that think the way we do...Perhaps for them there is an underlying fear of being viewed as not unfeminine enough or fear being viewed as too "manly" in their ideals. I have been accused of this... more times than I care to remember!

As for me... I do not care for what others think of me. I do not allow their perception [i.e., approval or acceptance] of my actions to affect my life.

Ladies, anyone else?
Well, I'm sure things like the post above do not make me very popular with the traditional "girl"... Keeping in mind that I tend to blurt this sort of stuff out in real life, too.

Men (and non-traditional women) seem to find it d*mn#d funny, though. :)

[Calyx]

Yup... More male friends than female friends here too. I also suspect that there are lots more females that think the way we do...Perhaps for them there is an underlying fear of being viewed as not unfeminine enough or fear being viewed as too "manly" in their ideals. I have been accused of this... more times than I care to remember!

As for me... I do not care for what others think of me. I do not allow their perception [i.e., approval or acceptance] of my actions to affect my life.

Ladies, anyone else?

You could just as well be speaking of me, dear! :lol: But sometimes it still bothers me, like when I am not talked to by other moms at birthday parties because "I'm not like them". :sadeyes: :wtf: How helpful is that? They're supposed to be making sure their kids have a good time, not rating the other mommies. Whatever--it's their loss, because ...

I am a fabulous person, so there!! :lol:

[Desert_Yaqui]

Because they want you to keep telling them.

um... BenT? You guys aren't supposed to KNOW that! :devil:

[Fairywolf]

As for me... I do not care for what others think of me. I do not allow their perception [i.e., approval or acceptance] of my actions to affect my life.

Ladies, anyone else?

So very well put!!! I agree!

If you don't believe me just ask me and I will tell you! :lol:

I am a very feminine :shhhh:, yet I am very much a tom boy!!! I rarely wear makeup and you will hardly catch me out of jeans but once in a while I can turn in to a beautiful princess ;) :lol:

Ok maybe not but close!!! :lol:

[gyroWang]

As a woman I have a question that I wondered about since it is something that I can't understand:
Why do women ask men loaded questions like "Do these pants make my butt look big" etc. and then get mad no matter what they say?

Dunno why they ask, but seeing as most girls seem to like assholes anyway I'm not really worried if a girl doesnt like my answer.

[Ben Trismegistus]

um... BenT? You guys aren't supposed to KNOW that! :devil:
I've picked up one or two things.

[Calzaer]

Is there any way to send the message to an otherwise-normal woman who isn't capable of leaving you alone for 12 consecutive hours in spite of not actually being in any sort of a relationship with you that you might like to be able to breathe a bit -- WITHOUT making her break down into sobs of "I'm such a horrible person"? (again, may just be my ex...)

If I was really hardcore about picking up chicks, would it help to carry a baby kitten around with me?

Why do some women fake orgasms? I mean, if you're not happy with the service, why pretend to be when that just ensures you'll continue getting substandard service in the future?

Why do women seem to flock to guys who are already in relationships while ignoring the single guys? And then talk bad about the guy they flocked to if he acctually succumbs to temptation and cheats? Isn't that what you wanted?

On a more general note, what compels women to develop all these strange "tests"? Particularly in relationships where the trust has already been well-established?

Why are calander dates so important ("our first kiss", "our first date", "our first time", "our first meeting", "our first trans-continental phone call lasting longer than 13.3 minutes after 9pm in the springtime", "our first wedding", etc)? Seriously, numbers are my mortal enemy! It's all I can do to remember your birthday! I'm not forgetting these things on purpose just to hurt you!

[Valkie]

I have a question woman-to-woman: Why do we always have to bring each other down? And this is not just about men and competing for them either! WHY are we such b*tches to each other? Why can't we support one another and be sistahs? Why does almost every female-to-female relationship have to overcome territorial and jealousy issues?

Anyone know the answer to that one?

That one has always confused the hell out of me. I only have one female that I consider a girlfriend. Not that I haven't tried to have other females as friends, it just never works out. I've been stabbed in the back by more women, heard more than I care to remember stories of wondering why her boyfriend left her. And there is no way that you can tell her it's because she's an overbaring, insecure nut! I've given up on having a friendship with another female. I'm perfectly happy hanging out with all of the guys.

The biggest problem that I've come across is that for some reason, my friends see me as a brigde to understanding the opposite sex, so they all come to me with their relationship problems. I've had god knows how many instances where both they guy and the girl were coming to me with the issues that they were having with the other and it always starts with 'don't tell ---- but' . And here I am, trying to make things better between the two of them without letting the other know that I've already talked to the significant other in depth about the subject, know exactly what they want to know, and know exactly what they should do. The worst thing is that with the couples, I've been friends with the guys first, so my loyalty is with them. When the guy wants out and the girl is trying to hang on it becomes a mess. Expecially if the guy is cheating. The only thing I can let out of my mouth is 'I don't know Hon, you should talk to him.'

[Valkie]

Is there any way to send the message to an otherwise-normal woman who isn't capable of leaving you alone for 12 consecutive hours in spite of not actually being in any sort of a relationship with you that you might like to be able to breathe a bit -- WITHOUT making her break down into sobs of "I'm such a horrible person"? (again, may just be my ex...)

If I was really hardcore about picking up chicks, would it help to carry a baby kitten around with me?

Why do some women fake orgasms? I mean, if you're not happy with the service, why pretend to be when that just ensures you'll continue getting substandard service in the future?

Why do women seem to flock to guys who are already in relationships while ignoring the single guys? And then talk bad about the guy they flocked to if he acctually succumbs to temptation and cheats? Isn't that what you wanted?

On a more general note, what compels women to develop all these strange "tests"? Particularly in relationships where the trust has already been well-established?

Why are calander dates so important ("our first kiss", "our first date", "our first time", "our first meeting", "our first trans-continental phone call lasting longer than 13.3 minutes after 9pm in the springtime", "our first wedding", etc)? Seriously, numbers are my mortal enemy! It's all I can do to remember your birthday! I'm not forgetting these things on purpose just to hurt you!

Sorry Cal, I'm just a gay man trapped in a woman's body so I can't help you with the other questions. As far as the faking orgasms, that's just because the guy sucks at what he is doing and we're getting tired. One thing that most women learn is that a guy is very sensitive about how well he performs in bed. Telling him that he sucks is guarenteed not to go over well.

Oh, and this one goes for all you guys. You want a woman who doesn't do all this stuff?? or at least as little of it as possible? Find one that doesn't give a flying crap about the social rankings. Also, look for the one that all the other women are calling a whore because she is always hanging out with the guys.

[Desert_Yaqui]

Sorry Cal, I'm just a gay man trapped in a woman's body so I can't help you with the other questions. As far as the faking orgasms, that's just because the guy sucks at what he is doing and we're getting tired. One thing that most women learn is that a guy is very sensitive about how well he performs in bed. Telling him that he sucks is guarenteed not to go over well.

Oh, and this one goes for all you guys. You want a woman who doesn't do all this stuff?? or at least as little of it as possible? Find one that doesn't give a flying crap about the social rankings. Also, look for the one that all the other women are calling a whore because she is always hanging out with the guys.


That one has always confused the hell out of me. I only have one female that I consider a girlfriend. Not that I haven't tried to have other females as friends, it just never works out. I've been stabbed in the back by more women, heard more than I care to remember stories of wondering why her boyfriend left her. And there is no way that you can tell her it's because she's an overbaring, insecure nut! I've given up on having a friendship with another female. I'm perfectly happy hanging out with all of the guys.


Valkie... You are a woman after my own heart! :devil: Gads, this couldn't possibly mean.. ? mwahahahaha! But in all seriousness, I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean!

To Cal... Perhaps this is the root of the problem... There is NO SUCH THING AS A NORMAL WOMAN or a normal man, for that matter... I believe normal to be a very relative term. For instance, not EVERY woman looks at the calendar. I do not have any of those whims you've mentioned... Heck, I'm not even married--I have no true anniversary.

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, friend.

[turtlerain46]

.The biggest problem that I've come across is that for some reason, my friends see me as a brigde to understanding the opposite sex, so they all come to me with their relationship problems. I've had god knows how many instances where both they guy and the girl were coming to me with the issues that they were having with the other and it always starts with 'don't tell ---- but' . And here I am, trying to make things better between the two of them without letting the other know that I've already talked to the significant other in depth about the subject, know exactly what they want to know, and know exactly what they should do. The worst thing is that with the couples, I've been friends with the guys first, so my loyalty is with them. When the guy wants out and the girl is trying to hang on it becomes a mess. Expecially if the guy is cheating. The only thing I can let out of my mouth is 'I don't know Hon, you should talk to him.'

Do what my sister did, post a notice on your front door, that says "Leave your drama at home, I have enough of my own. If you want to come in to chat and have fun come in, but if you want to come into B*!^h then go to your shrink".

Personally I have never really understood most of the women around. I guess it runs in my family because my mom, sister, grandma, and me are all "ballsy no-nonsense women" It just seems to me that alot of women out there live on "drama". NO THANKS But hears lots of love and respect out there to all the other women who feel this way.

[Valkie]

Valkie... You are a woman after my own heart! :devil: Gads, this couldn't possibly mean.. ? mwahahahaha! But in all seriousness, I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean!

To Cal... Perhaps this is the root of the problem... There is NO SUCH THING AS A NORMAL WOMAN or a normal man, for that matter... I believe normal to be a very relative term. For instance, not EVERY woman looks at the calendar. I do not have any of those whims you've mentioned... Heck, I'm not even married--I have no true anniversary.

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, friend.


we need to start a club or something :lol: it's so hard to find another woman who thinks like this!!

[pagan_majik]

ok.....why in the world do woemen act so shy when they like somone? ive noticed it around school, cuz i hang out with some of the girls, but like ive never been shy. if i like someone, ill ask them out, whether theyve got a bf already.

[Felidae]

ok.....why in the world do woemen act so shy when they like somone? ive noticed it around school, cuz i hang out with some of the girls, but like ive never been shy. if i like someone, ill ask them out, whether theyve got a bf already.
Oh that's easy: Fear of rejection which stems from feelings of inadequacy.

I should know, I suffer from this in fits and spurts myself. :)

[Calyx]

we need to start a club or something :lol: it's so hard to find another woman who thinks like this!!

Pick me! I do too! :smoke:

[turtlerain46]

ok.....why in the world do woemen act so shy when they like somone? ive noticed it around school, cuz i hang out with some of the girls, but like ive never been shy. if i like someone, ill ask them out, whether theyve got a bf already.
This one's easy. Your in school right. Well during school most, (almost all) girls are very very insecure with their looks, and have a huge fear of rejection. This is something that plagues alot of women out there. Some grow out of it. Some dont. It sucks that so many women have this fear. Things would be alot easier if women could have more confidence embedded in them

[Jenne]

Thank you, Valkie--karma is on its way to you!

Yes, I've been stabbed (recently, in fact) in the back sooo many times by women, it's not even funny. Women tend to not like me...from start to finish, lol. Usually, irl, the first time they meet me they decide I'm too *something* for them, and it's all over. I'm too "out there," and too opinionated. I've calmed down ALOT since my earlier days, but I'll tell ya, doesn't make it any easier.

I had to learn to get a thick skin where women are concerned a LONG time ago. I don't blame men for the large part for being so overwhelmed with questions about our behaviors. We play head games, we do, and why that is, again, I can only say out of self-preservation. Because truth equals vulnerability. And to some women, that's the last thing you want to be. It's like it's a sign of weakness. But yet, we're always harping on men to be open about THEMselves. Nice lil one-way street, that one.

I try to support women, and give them maternal love and strength all I can, esp online. Mostly because irl women see me as an enemy or a competitor (when all I want is friendship or at the very least companionship). And I refuse to play games. Plain and simple.

But I have to say I don't make it any better in the mens' world, either. I figure I can be me with them, they are straight shooters, right? Nope. They want me to be this little girl, asking THEM for advice, not giving it. Bowing to THEIR expectations, and not being ME at all, but some pre-conceived notion of how women should be, rather than really are. Maybe I've just met and had to deal with the wrong set of men *shrug*, but that's really been my experience there. Men want me to be this cute lil doll, not the cussin', beer-drinkin', likes-to-get-down-and-boogie sometimes girl that I really am. I've actually be kicked out of a table full of marines at a pub b/c I was "too opinionated," LOL. And all I said was that good-lookin' guys like them shouldn't have to pay for sex overseas--American women still do it for free if you give them a relationship worthy enough. *shrug* Guess them's fightin' words!?!

Anyhoo, feel like I'm :fofftopic and rambling...lol

[LadyOak]

Originally Posted by Valkie...we need to start a club or something it's so hard to find another woman who thinks like this!!

Count me in as well.

As far as 'special' dates go? My husband and I both forgot our Anniversary last year. We both laugh about that one.


Originally Posted by Calzaer... If I was really hardcore about picking up chicks, would it help to carry a baby kitten around with me?

Try a Milwaulkee Saw...you might be surprised

[Bran83]

Why do women allways think they know everything?
and when you diagree and end up being correct they start saying "You allways dought everything I say" or "I am never right and you are allways right"

Oh Oh how about Why don't women look down before sitting on the toilet?
They acomplaine about Pee on the seat then complain that you don't close the lid.
how about looking before they leep?

Why No matter how much you tell your woman they look good they never belive you?

Didnt you know?..... they are put on this earth to torment us and drive us up the wall. The only responces we can offer as males is moving our head up and down or saying "yes honey."

AND NEVER EVER answer any of those questions.....devoid, move off topic if you have to...but do not answer those quesitns. You can not answer them right and they will result of...... the look.

You see women just like to think that they are letting us think we are right.... but we are just smart enough to avoid all conflict and not question.


<Disclaimer: All comments above were made in a light hearted joke and are not meant to be taken seriously.>

[Flaire-FireStar]

Sorry Cal, I'm just a gay man trapped in a woman's body so I can't help you with the other questions. As far as the faking orgasms, that's just because the guy sucks at what he is doing and we're getting tired. One thing that most women learn is that a guy is very sensitive about how well he performs in bed. Telling him that he sucks is guarenteed not to go over well.

Oh, and this one goes for all you guys. You want a woman who doesn't do all this stuff?? or at least as little of it as possible? Find one that doesn't give a flying crap about the social rankings. Also, look for the one that all the other women are calling a whore because she is always hanging out with the guys.

You're my hero. Now let's see what damage I can do.


Is there any way to send the message to an otherwise-normal woman who isn't capable of leaving you alone for 12 consecutive hours in spite of not actually being in any sort of a relationship with you that you might like to be able to breathe a bit -- WITHOUT making her break down into sobs of "I'm such a horrible person"? (again, may just be my ex...)

Couldn't tell you...next. :p (Okay, this one really stumped me)


If I was really hardcore about picking up chicks, would it help to carry a baby kitten around with me?

Yep, because kittens are so damn cute! :cutie:


Why do some women fake orgasms? I mean, if you're not happy with the service, why pretend to be when that just ensures you'll continue getting substandard service in the future?

Know what.... I don't get it either. (Must be because I was a man in my past life)


Why do women seem to flock to guys who are already in relationships while ignoring the single guys?

Because they're untouchable. ;) Same with celebrities.
Hey, we have to fantazise about something ( I suppose)


And then talk bad about the guy they flocked to if he acctually succumbs to temptation and cheats? Isn't that what you wanted?

Women are two-faced -- see all the other posts on friends going bad. I'm not going to relay mine in here too.


On a more general note, what compels women to develop all these strange "tests"? Particularly in relationships where the trust has already been well-established?

Insecurity? :lol:


Why are calander dates so important ("our first kiss", "our first date", "our first time", "our first meeting", "our first trans-continental phone call lasting longer than 13.3 minutes after 9pm in the springtime", "our first wedding", etc)? Seriously, numbers are my mortal enemy! It's all I can do to remember your birthday! I'm not forgetting these things on purpose just to hurt you!

Might just be me, but I never know what day it is. (for a real decent example, I thought last Friday was the 17. :rolleyes: ) This won't help much if I go to write a cheque.... Some days I still write 2002. :wtf:

[Xentor]

OK, another one where the answer is insecurity:

Why do teenaged women drop their shoulders forward in an attempt to hide their developing breasts, then at 25 still look stooped over and at 30 complain about a hurting back? Why didn't anyone ever succeed at convincing them they only look great when standing straigt? Chest forward, nose up in the air, and any man will kiss your feet.

[Xentor]

Why will some women use the chores they do as a reason for the chores you must do? Instead of the reason being, that the chores must be done anyway, they start blackmailing. I did this, so now it's your turn to do that. Why will those women not understand that some men simply don't like being treated like that?

[Valkie]

Why will some women use the chores they do as a reason for the chores you must do? Instead of the reason being, that the chores must be done anyway, they start blackmailing. I did this, so now it's your turn to do that. Why will those women not understand that some men simply don't like being treated like that?

woo hoo! I can answer THAT one! I use that blackmail just because it is impossible to get any one the men/boys in my family to do any house work. If I blackmail them with the list of what I've done, I can guilt them into helping me when asking doesn't work.

[morrigen]

If I was really hardcore about picking up chicks, would it help to carry a baby kitten around with me?

Yes. Yes, it would.

At least it would work on all the cat-people type girls out there....for me, if some guy were holding a kitten, but was the most repugnant thing I'd ever come across.....i'd still be compelled to strike up a conversation....to get at the kitten!

But i've seen your photo, Cal. You don't need a kitten :)

[Valkie]

we need to start a club or something :lol: it's so hard to find another woman who thinks like this!!

Ladies... the clubhouse is open!! The women who think like men support thread is now 0pen in just silly.
..

[Ouroboros]

OK guys, I'm writing a book and need your input. I need you to post any and all questions that men often wonder/ask about women. Questions can be about anything that confuses/bewilders men when it comes to relationships, etc.
Thanks!

Why do women expect men to come up to them and break the ice?

Why do women think the act: "You don't exist", will turn men on?

Why do women feel acting like a "Hardcore B.I.T.C.H" makes them "one of the guys"?

Why do women constantly exclaim that men suck (no pun intended) ?

Why do women tend to enjoy the trendy robot-society glitsy glamour fashion lifestyle?

Why do women hold in when they just want sex?

Why do women make a big deal out of sluts, but love men who get around (and perhaps knowing the fact that women get more sex partners than men anyway) ?

Why do women have to hate each other since birth?

Why do women love a**hole men?

[Flaire-FireStar]

But i've seen your photo, Cal. You don't need a kitten :)

I second that. :cutie:

[Desert_Yaqui]

Well here goes nuttin....



Why do women expect men to come up to them and break the ice?

As a woman, this is a difficult question for me to answer as breaking the ice has never been an issue for me. I've always believed in being friends first. So breaking the ice, so to speak, is always easy with no pressures. I've never sought more than friendship in any of my relationships--in the beginning at least. lol



Why do women think the act: "You don't exist", will turn men on?

Are you referring to "hard to get"? Sometimes it's NOT an act... :devil:



Why do women feel acting like a "Hardcore B.I.T.C.H" makes them "one of the guys"?

Bleh... with B.I.T.C.H. drop the _T_ cause bich is Latin for generosity! Never been one of the guys, tried it... it's like being in Braveheart, the movie. no thanks. I'll read instead.



Why do women constantly exclaim that men suck (no pun intended) ?

So like on Monday [or whenever] when your buddies tell you those crazy wild stories about this chick they met... ? I've seen your pics--you look popular... You've never, ever "wrong numbered" a woman you met? Never?



Why do women tend to enjoy the trendy robot-society glitsy glamour fashion lifestyle?

Are you east coast? It's too damn hot in the desert to be glitzy... Well, I guess Scottsdale can get a bit glitzy. Perhaps Tempe... But not really.



Why do women hold in when they just want sex?

Because I'm not going to put my private life on display, I will pass on this question.
However, I will stop to say that maybe you just haven't met the right woman, Ouroboros...
Buenta suerte, amigo!



Why do women make a big deal out of sluts, but love men who get around (and perhaps knowing the fact that women get more sex partners than men anyway) ?

Here again... I must decline answer except to say [I always gotta say SOMETHING!] that this sorta goes in with the previous question...

*psss* don't date the ones who make a big deal out of sluts... don't make me draw you pictures!

* Gadz, where is that bloody flame retardant suit? *



Why do women have to hate each other since birth?

We don't hate each other from birth. It all begins in the schoolyard... continue to next question...



Why do women love a**hole men?

it begins in the schoolyard where a young girl loses the baddest, coolest boy to her best friend. Thus, beginning the cycle of life, or as in your argument; propegating the entire a-hole species...

Would you have it any other way Ouroboros? It's the survival of the fittest boy, or cutest as is the case sometimes. :)

where is that bloody suit???

[Goddess Rhiannon]

Why is it acceptable for men to cheat....but when woman do it....they are looked down at?.....Who do you think we are cheating with?????????
Married men of course !!!!!!!!!

[corsai]

:hairraise :spaceman: why do woman think with left and right brain?
us man use just one i cant remember witch, its all good but u know the saying, that a girl cant lose an argument, i guess they think faster :spaceman: :spaceman:

[Vanessa TPD]

Why are girls so insecure about their appearance/slouchy/made up? Why do they expect boys to make the first move?

One part social mores and one part insecurity. Unless we're very lucky, we've been burned before. This is, of course, all your fault. Yes, yours :D.

Why are women so catty?

I don't know. I hate it that girls are. I try not to be.

Why do women go for the bad guys?

Women are attracted to confidence. Bad guys usually have it. But confidence is infinitely better without the downside of jerkiness. I'd much rather be in a relationship with a good guy than a bad guy. I would never consider sleeping with a bad guy. Appearances aside. Really.

Do kittens help get chicks?

Well, who's cuter: you or the kitten :lol: ?

[Calzaer]

Sapphy, Morrigen: Awww, thank you! *blushes*

Vanessa: The kitten, obviously. Kitten-cute trumps everything.

[turtlerain46]

O.k here's something I've never understood. Why is it that some girls, have to play that always giddy, bubbly bit. Now I understand if you are the bubbly personality, that's one thing. But how many girls have you seen turn into this whole nother being just because a cute guy comes around. Isn't this a false lead on?? I mean if a guy comes onto you when you are acting like this whole other person there not really into YOU. Another thing that I've noticed starts very young (with my youngest sister) is alot of girls play that "we'll I can't be your friend if your friends with her because I don't like her". What??? My little sister sat there in a rut because of friends trying to tell her who she could or could not be friends with. What's sad is that older women do this. I feel alot of times like most women get stuck in this permanent junior high school frame of mind, where it's all about what you wear, and who you hang out with. :ahhhhhhh:

[Desert_Yaqui]

O.k here's something I've never understood. Why is it that some girls, have to play that always giddy, bubbly bit. Now I understand if you are the bubbly personality, that's one thing. But how many girls have you seen turn into this whole nother being just because a cute guy comes around. Isn't this a false lead on?? I mean if a guy comes onto you when you are acting like this whole other person there not really into YOU. Another thing that I've noticed starts very young (with my youngest sister) is alot of girls play that "we'll I can't be your friend if your friends with her because I don't like her". What??? My little sister sat there in a rut because of friends trying to tell her who she could or could not be friends with. What's sad is that older women do this. I feel alot of times like most women get stuck in this permanent junior high school frame of mind, where it's all about what you wear, and who you hang out with. :ahhhhhhh:


I call this the cheerleader mentality.. :lol: I hope that wasn't too awful....

But in all seriousness... turtlerain, I wish to thank you for the karma and the tag you sent with it. ;)

I am guilty as charged. :smoke:

[Xentor]

woo hoo! I can answer THAT one! I use that blackmail just because it is impossible to get any one the men/boys in my family to do any house work. If I blackmail them with the list of what I've done, I can guilt them into helping me when asking doesn't work.

Answer the follow-up then: why don't these same women understand that it doesn't work?

[Antoninus]

I understand more about girls than most guys my age do, but one thing I have NEVER been able to grasp is why some girls are so materialistic. Thier ENTIRE LIVES hinge around a trip to the mall to buy that one "cute pair of shoes" even though ittl be ANNOTHER "cute pair of shoes" next week. I fail to see why women blow HUNDREDS of dollars on clothes that they'll wear for a week then ignore.

Annother thing that really confuses me. Why is anything (Ok, well, maybe not ANYTHING) thats small, cute? I had a micro-cassete recorder in class the other day and I took the tape out to flip it over. The girl next to me picked it up and said "Oh my god thats so CUTE!" **Blinks** Since when did a micro-cassete become cute?

[Valkie]

Answer the follow-up then: why don't these same women understand that it doesn't work?

hey, it doesn't work all the time, but it does work some of the time. If I've got the choice of doing all of the work all of the time or all of the work most of the time, I'm going to take all of the work most of the time as often as I can get it.

[docdoo]

Hehe agreed Valkie...all fair in love and housecleaning! Anything goes!

And, Antonius...I have ummm 3 pairs of shoes LOL...though Im not exactly a 'normal' girl. My mother on the other hand proudly owns about 30 pair...many of which have never, ever been on her feet LOL

Hmmm the reasoning for this is probaly something similar to the reason that men go ga-ga over anything electronic (hehe)

As for the tape recorder thing I have one thing to say....

Awwwwww....how CUTE! lmao

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :hehehehe:

[Antoninus]

As for the tape recorder thing I have one thing to say....

Awwwwww....how CUTE! lmao lmao :D

[Felidae]

I call this the cheerleader mentality.. :lol: I hope that wasn't too awful....



:rotfl:

Wow, you guys know this woman too?

It's like watching a bad actress in local summer stock. Within a group of women she can hardly resist sharpening her claws on every ego in range; let one man approach and, presto, chango - It's Gidget!


I've always thought of it as "The Scarlett O’Hara", myself.

[Desert_Yaqui]

:rotfl:

Wow, you guys know this woman too?

It's like watching a bad actress in local summer stock. Within a group of women she can hardly resist sharpening her claws on every ego in range; let one man approach and, presto, chango - It's Gidget!


I've always thought of it as "The Scarlett O’Hara", myself.


Yes, I am familiar with this cheerlearder type of woman... However, while I like the Gidget analogy, I'm not so sure I would agree with the Scarlett O'Hara one. Gidget was bubbly; Scarlett wasn't afraid to do whatever it took to get the desired effect. Hey, this is a woman who shot a deserter; then buried him out back...

No problem, no more. :devil:

[Felidae]

Yes, I am familiar with this cheerlearder type of woman... However, while I like the Gidget analogy, I'm not so sure I would agree with the Scarlett O'Hara one. Gidget was bubbly; Scarlett wasn't afraid to do whatever it took to get the desired effect. Hey, this is a woman who shot a deserter; then buried him out back...

No problem, no more. :devil:
:uhhuhuh: I see your point completely.

But then she used Melanie's chemise to drag his bloody body out with! ;)

[Desert_Yaqui]

:uhhuhuh: I see your point completely.

But then she used Melanie's chemise to drag his bloody body out with! ;)


Yes, she did.. but she also demanded it of Mellie... no? and silly little mealy-mouthed Mellie gave it up to her... Just like that!

How weak is that??!!!

[Felidae]

Yes, she did.. but she also demanded it of Mellie... no? and silly little mealy-mouthed Mellie gave it up to her... Just like that!

How weak is that??!!!
:hehehehe:

[Flaire-FireStar]

Vanessa: The kitten, obviously. Kitten-cute trumps everything.

I don't know...... :lol: :2G:

[Calzaer]

You cannot deny the lure of kitten-cute! Kitten-cute uber alles! Join the Cult of the Kitten! We mew and purr and pounce on small shiny objects!

[Marchosias]

Why has every natural redhead I have ever met turned out to be a manic depressive, or a psychopath? What is it about red hair?

[Ouroboros]

Well here goes nuttin....




As a woman, this is a difficult question for me to answer as breaking the ice has never been an issue for me. I've always believed in being friends first. So breaking the ice, so to speak, is always easy with no pressures. I've never sought more than friendship in any of my relationships--in the beginning at least. lol




Are you referring to "hard to get"? Sometimes it's NOT an act... :devil:




Bleh... with B.I.T.C.H. drop the _T_ cause bich is Latin for generosity! Never been one of the guys, tried it... it's like being in Braveheart, the movie. no thanks. I'll read instead.




So like on Monday [or whenever] when your buddies tell you those crazy wild stories about this chick they met... ? I've seen your pics--you look popular... You've never, ever "wrong numbered" a woman you met? Never?




Are you east coast? It's too damn hot in the desert to be glitzy... Well, I guess Scottsdale can get a bit glitzy. Perhaps Tempe... But not really.




Because I'm not going to put my private life on display, I will pass on this question.
However, I will stop to say that maybe you just haven't met the right woman, Ouroboros...
Buenta suerte, amigo!




Here again... I must decline answer except to say [I always gotta say SOMETHING!] that this sorta goes in with the previous question...

*psss* don't date the ones who make a big deal out of sluts... don't make me draw you pictures!

* Gadz, where is that bloody flame retardant suit? *




We don't hate each other from birth. It all begins in the schoolyard... continue to next question...




it begins in the schoolyard where a young girl loses the baddest, coolest boy to her best friend. Thus, beginning the cycle of life, or as in your argument; propegating the entire a-hole species...

Would you have it any other way Ouroboros? It's the survival of the fittest boy, or cutest as is the case sometimes. :)

where is that bloody suit???

I'm sorry - were you seeking to ridicule a male? I was merely employing my ability as a male to give the topic giver questions...

[morrigen]

You cannot deny the lure of kitten-cute! Kitten-cute uber alles! Join the Cult of the Kitten! We mew and purr and pounce on small shiny objects!

I would never deny the lure of kitten-cute...I cannot resist!

Kitten.....all hail the kiiiitttteeeennnn.......

[Calzaer]

Jesus Christ on a bike, Ouroboros. Between your questions and your reply to the answers you got... bitter much, maybe?

[Desert_Yaqui]

I'm sorry - were you seeking to ridicule a male? I was merely employing my ability as a male to give the topic giver questions...

*soft laugh* Ouroboros... my friend..

It certainly was not my intent to ridicule you...
I sincerely apologize for giving you that impression.

Shall I remove the response in question?
the decision is yours, friend..
consider it done, if it so offends you.

:)

[Ouroboros]

*soft laugh* Ouroboros... my friend..

It certainly was not my intent to ridicule you...
I sincerely apologize for giving you that impression.

Shall I remove the response in question?
the decision is yours, friend..
consider it done, if it so offends you.

:)

Bullshit - read the thread title

[Hoot]

Bullshit - read the thread title

I don't see any insult or attempt to ridicule you, Ouroboros. A lot of women have stepped in to provide lighthearted answers to the questions that come up. Women have even provided some of the questions. To me, Desert_Yaqui just seemed to be having some fun, in the spirit of the thread. This is supposed to be fun, remember?

[Marchosias]

Bullshit - read the thread title


Calm down.

[Ouroboros]

I don't see any insult or attempt to ridicule you, Ouroboros. A lot of women have stepped in to provide lighthearted answers to the questions that come up. Women have even provided some of the questions. To me, Desert_Yaqui just seemed to be having some fun, in the spirit of the thread. This is supposed to be fun, remember?

I wouldn't dare to be judgemental if I didn't feel I was already being judged.

[Marchosias]

I wouldn't dare to be judgemental if I didn't feel I was already being judged.


What is your deal? This is not a terribly serious thread.

It's for fun...remember fun?

Frankly I have no idea where you are pulling half of the stuff you say from, but you seem to be reading much more into these poor women's post than anyone intended.

[Phoenix Blue]

ADMIN MODE

Desert_Yaqui, I can easily see where Ouroboros might have taken offense to the statements in your original response to him. In his position, I might have taken offense myself.

Ouroboros, in the future, it would be a wiser course of action to simply tell Desert_Yaqui that you take offense to her statements, report the post, or simply place Desert_Yaqui on ignore. Responding to her post with disrespect is not an option.

You've both violated the forum rules with regard to treating other members with respect.

This thread is now closed.