How is your life right now?

[Faery-Wings]

After having many discussions with my friends, reading posts and energyy requests here, I am seeing so many more people really struggling at this point in time. I am just curious- is it that those of us with problems are more apt to talk about them, while the people who are content are talking about other things? Or is it that my perspective is one that notices more of the problems (ie. "misery loves company" )?

So a quick poll- how is the quality of your life overall?

[Raydreamer]

I know exactly what you mean. I've noticed more and more these days...especially on mysticwicks.
I did think things were going a bit rough for me at the moment, but then i realised it's all about balance and how you perceive things. I'm in a bit of debt and out of a job...which is hard...but then there are so many good things going on right now and probably more to come. Like i'm in a love with an amazing man, and i'll see my nephew and sister for the first time in months today...and i have the possibility of a job coming up and i'm planning on going to Portugal this August with friends.
So hopefully it all equals out, and although i'll always have hard times to face, i just have to remember not to lose hope and keep on smiling.
So life is good at the moment with a few icky bits which i know not to let get out of proportion!

[asamananara]

I've actually been thinking about this all night, trying to
figure out whether my life is going well, or if I've just
learned to settle for less. Still haven't quite made up my
mind, but either way, I'm happy... perhaps it's all a matter
of perception.

[Morr]

I voted "Mostly Poor", but things are looking a little up now..
I guess you could say that on the outside things are working good for me, but on the inside I'm still battling a lot of demons.. (depression, eating disorder & Self Injury).. Its hard, but I'm working on it..
I have a huge debt in the bank, but I managed to get a job and I'm starting work on Sunday, and I might get a 2nd job as well.. And they both work out great with my classes at school... So hopefully by May I'll be able to cover all my debts and start saving up money for a trip to Ireland and the US next summer. Also I've been getting back my midterm exams results - and they're almost all over 90, so I'm content about that... On the family side, things are calm - which is always good. And my friends are always as wonderful.

So just like I said, I'm sorta on the "eh" side with a "getting better" potential..

[LadyOak]

I had to vote 'Pretty Good'. Because my life IS pretty good when I look at it honestly. I have a house to live in, I am realitvely healthy, I have a real-time family and a cyber family that supports me. I need to quit focusing on the past and look toward the future and live in the present.

Good poll...Thanks

[Old Witch]

The Pits comes to mind.......I usually try to put up a good front.........but I'm so down in the dumps right now..........What with hubby losing his job and all...............Panic attacks, depression.....plain out old worry.....Man! I have to be strong...........

[FaerieGothMommy]

I put pretty good, but some issues. there have been a few things go on - but i can handle it! Things are deffinatly looking up for me lately :)

[Radocs]

Nothing I can't handle.

[Golden Princess]

I voted awesome

If I were to leave this earth tomorrow, my only regret would be not seeing my children grow up.

I am the master of my destiny

Negativity is not in my vocabulary

Cheers

[mucgwyrt]

I voted "Mostly Poor", but things are looking a little up now..
I guess you could say that on the outside things are working good for me, but on the inside I'm still battling a lot of demons.. (depression, eating disorder & Self Injury).. Its hard, but I'm working on it..
I have a huge debt in the bank, but I managed to get a job and I'm starting work on Sunday, and I might get a 2nd job as well.. And they both work out great with my classes at school... So hopefully by May I'll be able to cover all my debts and start saving up money for a trip to Ireland and the US next summer. Also I've been getting back my midterm exams results - and they're almost all over 90, so I'm content about that... On the family side, things are calm - which is always good. And my friends are always as wonderful.

So just like I said, I'm sorta on the "eh" side with a "getting better" potential..

:hugz:

[Bainidhe Dub]

Things are definitely looking up - I'll find out this weekend whether my car is worth fixing or not, because I should be getting my tax refund. If my car's a piece of junk, then my dad works with a guy who wants to fix it up, so I could sell it and get a new(er) one....

I'm having fun with my hobbies - I never dreamed making jewelry would actually make me any money; plus I am having a total blast with altered books.

The only thing that's really bothering me is that my brother graduates in June - can't even tell me if he took the SATs and has no clue what he wants to do after school. What really irks me is that my parents couldn't wait to get me out of the house and they simply act as if they couldn't care if my brother did or not - I suppose it's the whole "the last baby's moving out on his own" thing though lol.

[amberwolf]

I have a few issues to deal with like my illnesses and panic attacks and a few others but i think they are something im used to and can handle .Things are definately looking up compared to the bl**dy awful time i had last year... :hairraise

[WandererInGray]

Well I voted awesome too. I suppose it depends on what your qualifications are. *shrugs* I am healthy, PB is healthy, the cats are healthy, and those we know and love are healthy as well. :) Nothing else seems to matter compared to that.

[Calyx]

The only reason I voted Pretty Good and not Awesome is because of my tummy, and I am worried about Monday. I think I will be able to accept any result that comes back, it's just the waiting around at this point that has me down.
But on the plus sides, my family and those I love are happy and healthy (for the most part), we have no life-threatening diseases or terrible disabilities, DH and I are employed with good paying jobs that we enjoy, we have a good roof over our heads and plenty to eat.
So considering the situation, that's pretty good! Are there other issues? Sure there are, but I am trying to keep them all in perspective. This has actually really helped that.
Good poll, Chryssi! :hugz:

[Avalon]

I voted "Mostly Poor", only because I have a lot on my plate right now...my aforementioned anxiety disorder, discord in my family, money problems...but the important thing is that it mentions "hope". I have lots of that, now...a big difference from where I was not that long ago...I am actively working towards improving all the above, and know that change begins with me.

Sorry if that sounds really corny :bigredblu

[13thChylde]

I voted "pretty good, nothing I can't handle"

I have a home, it's small but it is clean and well-cared for. It's where my children were babies, and it is filled with love. There is a lot to be done still, the living room walls are just insulated and the whole back of the house needs siding, but we'll get there.

My children are healthy and for the most part, happy. Dakotah has issues, but we're getting through them. A friend just sent me a Bach flower essence prescription for him, so hopefully I can get those next week and start him on those. Savannah is doing better in school and just needs to be more physically active, to combat her daddy's genes!

I have a job which pays okay with good benefits.
I have a husband who for the most part is okay...he tries to understand me.
I have a girlfriend who I don't deserve, she's so incredible. Such a sweet and giving soul.
I have friends who love me.

I am getting healthier and learning something new each day.
I don't know what my purpose is in life, other than my children but hey, I'm still relatively young. I don't want to live an unfulfilled life, that is one thing that bothers me....b/c I've never decided what I want to be when I grow up, and don't have any outstanding talents.

I've got the bases covered. And I'm trying to make things better. Guess that's a good starting point.

[Faeawyn]

I must confess, I too was beginning to think the entire Mystic Wicks community was suffering in one way or another, whether job hunting, or depressed or something else. I have had a very blessed life, and I'm thankful every moment of every day for what I have. I have a beautiful home, a loving husband, and the greatest kids on the planet (IMHO) :)....and money is not an issue....so, I enjoy my life.
For those of you who are still in your teen years, don't give up hope. Being a teenager is soooooooo hard...all those emotions. But if you always believe in the posibilities, you may have an amazing life ahead of you.

[Boogins]

Pretty good here. Waiting on two major publishers, seven networks or production companies... finally getting my music gear up and running again... boyfriend's wonderful, sister's great...

The problems: WAITING!!! Waiting for publishers and series purchasers, boyfriend's out with the band and the phone bill's getting high... and for some reason I kept recalling the Social Services designated Jessie, my sister, as my official caregiver like I can't friggin' take care of myself--!!!

Sorry, overreacting. I'm okay.

[Garnet]

You forgot "It's okay, I suppose. (shrug)"

[Rockprincess]

I'm healthy, I have a good job, everyone I love is healthy and secure, and I'm going to marry the man of my dreams in 1.5 months, in the ceremony of my dreams. I couldn't really ask for more. Not that every day doesn't bring little ups and downs...but overall, I am incredibly happy. :colorful:

[Pesha]

My life at the moment is not good but I am always hoping to see the light at the end of the tnnel and hoping it is not an on comeing train.

BB
DS.

[Druchii]

It's a dog eat dog world,
and I'm wearing Alpo flavored underwear...

[Desdemona]

I've actually been thinking about this all night, trying to
figure out whether my life is going well, or if I've just
learned to settle for less. Still haven't quite made up my
mind, but either way, I'm happy... perhaps it's all a matter
of perception.


Man, that is so true Asamananara. I read your post and tried to decide for myself if I am learning to be happy with less, or if I'm gaining perspective.

I used to be broke, had bills piling up, but I had so much free time to explore. Now I have a job that takes up 75% of my time, and I grieve the loss of having a balanced life, but my bills are paid, and I have good health insurance finally. I guess everything is a trade off.

I think you are right, it is a matter of perception. As Abraham Lincoln said, "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

[Desdemona]

It's a dog eat dog world,
and I'm wearing Alpo flavored underwear...
:lol:

[IvyCeltress]

Actually things are going wonderfully for me right now. I chould mention Chrissy1, the reiki healing you did certainly played a strong role in it.

I've been kind of not mentioning it much, especially when I been reading about so many people struggling because I don't want to come off acting like "Nyah, Nyah things are going better for me than you."

[LadyWillowHawk]

:rolleyes: MM.Mine isn't going so well.A lot of health issues.I had to quit my job of four years and good money and bebefits.Only living on hubbies unemployment insurance.I have Meniere's Disease and they found a tumor on my pituitary gland.We are really struggling,but I still have hope.It all depends on the state of mind your in.I'm still positive.
BB
**LadyWillowHawk**

[Eowyn]

My life is something in between Some what poor and pretty good.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

After having many discussions with my friends, reading posts and energyy requests here, I am seeing so many more people really struggling at this point in time. I am just curious- is it that those of us with problems are more apt to talk about them, while the people who are content are talking about other things? Or is it that my perspective is one that notices more of the problems (ie. "misery loves company" )?

So a quick poll- how is the quality of your life overall?

That's an interesting topic, actually. I voted pretty good, because most of my life *is* pretty good. However, we have serious issues here, with my husband's health (an undiagnosable condition that is debilitating him), and our finances are in constant flux due to him being a contract worker (he's been trying to find a permanent IT job for several years). Both are serious concerns, however, neither one is destroying our lives and we're much better off, in some ways, than we were five years ago.

I worry about his health a lot, it's scary to see a condition progress when the best doctors around here can't figure out what's wrong or how to stop it or know how far it will go.

However, one thing this *has* done, is teach us to enjoy today more. When you're not reasonably certain about how the future will play out, you tend to value what you have more in the present, while still working toward the future.

A lot of my friends have had major upheavals over the past six months, and for the most part, it looks like most of them will even out for the better, but the transitions and the journey there have been terribly traumatic for some of them.

I can't help but wonder if we aren't going through a major astrological cycle, or some such thing. And when you add in the stress of world events, life can seem much bleaker than it may actually be, and when it IS bleak, that much worse.

Yasmine :colorful:

[Aidron]

My life right now? Wonderful. Best day ever, and they're only going to keep getting better. Not because I'm the recipient of years worth of good karma, but because I absolutely insist that they be wonderful days and I won't tolerate anything else. I'll make them great, even if I have to die trying. :lol:

[Ahautenites]

My last bout of depression was February 16th. I only know that because I wrote about it in my journal. Things are seeming so much rosier now. (And hopefully nothing happens to change that for a few months or so).

[Faeawyn]

I can't be the only one thinking this, but I'll be the first to ask it.....With our group having such a spiritual connection to the devine powers that be, and believing in the ability to tap into the energy around us....why do so many of us have such terrible problems going on in our lives??? Why are so many unhappy, unemployed, struggling??? Is it just in the Pagan community, or is it everywhere?
Perhaps I'm having a momentary crisis of faith....but it seems so many people are suffering.

[Flaire-FireStar]

You forgot "It's okay, I suppose. (shrug)"

Yeah! :lol:

My life is craptacular right now. 8O

[Yasmine Galenorn]

I can't be the only one thinking this, but I'll be the first to ask it.....With our group having such a spiritual connection to the devine powers that be, and believing in the ability to tap into the energy around us....why do so many of us have such terrible problems going on in our lives??? Why are so many unhappy, unemployed, struggling??? Is it just in the Pagan community, or is it everywhere?
Perhaps I'm having a momentary crisis of faith.....

Because we're human. Simple as that. There are a lot of faithful people of many religions who are struggling world-wide...spirituality doesn't guarantee trouble-free lives, and life has always been a struggle for the majority. ~smiles~

Yasmine :colorful:

[Rockprincess]

I can't be the only one thinking this, but I'll be the first to ask it.....With our group having such a spiritual connection to the devine powers that be, and believing in the ability to tap into the energy around us....why do so many of us have such terrible problems going on in our lives??? Why are so many unhappy, unemployed, struggling??? Is it just in the Pagan community, or is it everywhere?
Perhaps I'm having a momentary crisis of faith....but it seems so many people are suffering.
I guess it depends on how you beleive in divine. I don't have an anthropomorphic god or goddess - I just have Spirit, which is energy and love. I rely on that knowledge of pure love and energy to buoy me up when I need help. But I don't believe in some being sitting somewhere making the abstract decision that I need to suffer at this point, or that they should give me a hand now.

And...life is overcoming obstacles. Everyones' are different...but that is what life consists of. :hugz:

[MzNeko]

Mine would be "could be better". However, if this is the worst my life ever gets, I'd be okay with that...

[Jenne]

I really and truly can't complain...and if I ever did, you all have my permission to hunt me down and flog me with wet noodles.

[Moon Daughter]

i voted Awesome.Never better...
but had you asked me 1.5 weeks ago, when i was struggling to pay my rent, the answer would have been different. :)

[Cataline]

There's the debt thang. And the constant subjection to humiliation by law professors. And tyrannical superiors on the job. And my ex, whose life purpose appears to be causing my ruin. I have five jobs and still barely make ends meet. True, they only take about 30 hours a week combined, but still, five jobs!!! In addition to the 24 hour job of motherhood and full-time school.

But today, I spent all afternoon in the garden with my daughters And the love of my life - although a bit far away right now - warms my little heart and he is with me, and I rejoice that I have him in my life.
:floating:

Would you believe, my response immediately was - my life ROCKS!!! :fprtyman3
I had to do a quick reality check to realize the sucky factors. I am tired of people feeling sorry for me, there's certainly nothing that I can't handle....

My stubborn optimism flows either from some great philosophy, or insane delusion.

[Storm Moon]

I voted mostly poor, but I still see some hope - or I try anyway. Health-wise, well I'm okay. I found out my thyroid's fine. My blood tests came back normal, but they said my cholesterol's a bit above normal. So I'll need to focus on getting that down so I'm not 30 years old having triple by-pass surgery. Job-wise, I'm still unemployed. I've put in resume's and applications out the a$$ and hear nothing. I do call back, but never get an answer. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm cursed lol. I've mostly been applying for restaurant jobs, but given my blood pressure, I'm not sure if working that type of job is good for me, so I'm kind of hesitant... and even a little scared. I'm the type of person that can't really handle that type of stress, so I have to try to avoid it at all costs. I'm sure that once this medicine starts working properly without making me drowsy to no end, I'll be okay. I try to set back time to think about things I'm thankful for, like having a place to live, even if it is with my dad who annoys me at times. Then again, that's a parent for ya lol.

[Cataline]

I can't be the only one thinking this, but I'll be the first to ask it.....With our group having such a spiritual connection to the devine powers that be, and believing in the ability to tap into the energy around us....why do so many of us have such terrible problems going on in our lives??? Why are so many unhappy, unemployed, struggling??? Is it just in the Pagan community, or is it everywhere?
Perhaps I'm having a momentary crisis of faith....but it seems so many people are suffering.

It's everywhere - although I have no explanation.

A lot depends on how you define struggle....There are a lot of poor people. A lot of sick people. A lot of people with bad hair. Some people view it as struggling, other nuts view it as a challenge that needs to be conquered. A person could have any of those problems and not really think they are so bad off. A person could have none of those problems and be positively miserable.

No explanation, just an observation.

[moonchild]

ya know i was just thinking about the turn of events in my life currently....

we're looking at houses to buy...dear god is that scary!
I had my one year review today to find out that my boss thinks that i do great in what i do... (nice thing to know) and she's trying to figure out a way to have my work per diem doing therapy, which is what i've been asking her for since Nov. when the social work job came up...long story....not her fault, medicaids. but we have a wait list of 35-40 kids right now waiting for therapy and they need relief, so i might be it. means extra income, a foot in the door for a therapy job later, and some experience...hum, gotta find an art therapist to supervise me now!!!! yea!!!!

we are all healthy here, no major mal-functions. we have a nice apartment that will do if the house idea falls through and the vehicles work (altho hubby's truck is questionable...)

the animals are fine and work is good too (with the raving review, i can't say less). My kids that i'm working with are at home and not in the hospital, they maynot be the most stable but things are working, comunication lines are open.

so overall....Life is good.


MC

[serenarian]

My life is pretty under control. I'm hopelessly in love, which kind of shoves the shadows out of the door and brings the sunlight into everything I do. :D

LOL, how mushy did that sound!

[Faery-Wings]

Thank you all for your replies. It is so heartening to see that so many of you voted positively. It gives me hope. My life right now is mostly poor. There is a lot of s*** and I worry so constantly that it makes it hard to enjoy anything. However, I have a roof over my head, a hubby who loves me and I love him, and two healthy (albeit slightly wacky) kids. And we are taking small lsteps forward in dealing with our issues. Thankfully I do realize that this will someday end- and therein lies the hope, the light at the end of the tunnel even though it is far away right now.
Blessings to all of you. :)

[AuroraSilvermist]

I chose mostly poor. Really, from the outside it's not bad at all. Wonderful family, husband who loves me (and I love him right back, a couple of AWESOME kids...but my emotional state sucks. Depression is one mean stalker of a black-eyed dog. I wish I could shake it.

Mostly right now...I'm missing my best friend. He's "working on his marriage" (which is important, and I believe he's doing the right thing) and out of contact with me. I'm not selfish, but I just MISS him. And I hate feeling like I'm in limbo--no goal to reach for, just "hang on indefinitely and see what happens." And there are other things going on that compound this issue, but....

Ah, well. I've whined enough.

[Eveningthief]

I would have to say "pretty good with some issues that I hope I can handle." But improving. These past four years have been rough ones. Needless to say, it's slowly getting better with patience, persistance and plenty of time.........

[Cunae]

So, how'd you vote?

My life, right now, is perfect. I am very happy with it. Things got wonderful in March when I decided to "retire" and devote myself to photography, reading, crafts, writing (not much yet), and just being me. I think I deserve it after a really traumatic year, 2007.

[Lapis_Lazuli]

My life is between poor and awful - but I chose the poor option though.

Today we might have to bring my dog to the humane society. I would rather have us put her to sleep, because I know that's what they'll end up doing because she is so aggresive.
I also don't want her their because of two volunteers - SH and MM.
SH is anorexic and has some type of depression really badly. I was worried about her after a conversation on facebook I had with her - She thought her Anorexia was good for her and didn't know whether she wanted to live or die. I was so concerned with her well being that I had my father contact her school. Now she's claiming I ruined her life and is talking smack about me to our friends - even my best friend.
MM is the one who told her what I did. She broke confidentiality in day treatment (twice). I was there for panic attacks and eventually left do to her not keeping confidentiality and some other people who had major anger issues.

Now I've been out of treatment for over 3 weeks and I still don't have a therapist. My dad says he's having this youth mental health organization try to find me one, but they're taking a long time.

Oh and the results of the pee test are supposed to be coming in today. If they come out strange like they did last time, I'm going to have to get checked for bladder cancer.

So in summary my dog is probably going to a bad place, I lost a friend and might lose more do to SH talking smack to people who are closer to her then me, and I haven't had any help for my wretched anxiety for a while, and I there is a chance that I might have bladder cancer. I'm miserable...

[Voyager921]

Right now things are balancing out: Mom got sick, had to place her in a nursing home. While getting her effects taken care of, the boyfriend walks out; "hope you have a nice life." Had to move her into another nursing home, all this on my own as my brother had left all of her problems/issues in my hands to figure out what to do. Right now, as the dust is settleing, I am taking stock of what there is left to take care of; including Mom.

[GEBS]

My life is absolutely fabulous. There is very little I would change. I have never been more happy.

[Garnet]

My life is in transition. I've been working at the same place for nearly thirty years, so I'm eligible for retirement in..um...12 days. It scares me sh*tless. I am so not prepared for this.

I'm one of the 60% of the retired/about-to-retire population that hasn't saved enough (i.e. anything) for retirement. I stuck my head in the sand & kept repeating that tired old mantra "I'll have 60% a pension". Well, the pension is based on my base rate of pay, not the whole megillah; premiums for working shift work, & weekends, holiday pay, overtime, etc. I'll be getting a bit less than half what I'm used to.

(Warning...whining zone!) I just can't do my job anymore. It requires a lot of running around outside in all kinds of weather, dodging angry geese, dive-bombing gulls, tourists who don't know how they got into a supposedly-secure facility, & idiot management desk jockeys. I have rebar & screws holding one ankle together, I've had one knee replaced, I get the other one replaced in two months, & I'm having trouble with my hips from walking so goofy to save my knees. (Whining over).

It's time to let someone in better shape do this job.

I'll keep health insurance but lose vision & dental. The house is paid for, but it needs a lot of work.

I do have a plan, however. I'm fixing what absolutlely needs to be done, & as soon as the economy perks up, this crib goes on the market. It's stupid for a single person to have three bedrooms, a two-car garage, & a den & finished basement. It's just too much room to keep crap I don't use any more/never should have bought in the first place. I'm tired of all those stairs, too.

I am scared, but on the other hand, I'm really excited, too. I can get involved in the American Legion auxiliary again, I'm looking forward to writing, watching every adaptation of all Jane Austen novels, finally finishing "Pillars of the Earth". I can do volunteer work; at the local V.A., I can go & teach English in Poland, I can work on an archeological dig in Israel, I can go to synagogue regularly (or at least more often). I will have time to take those cordon bleu cooking, interior design, Yiddish courses I've been dreaming of. I've been in increasing contact with a former beau; maybe something will come of that.

But first, get the other knee done, then retire in January so I can get another eye exam & pair of glasses & one more year of dental bennies from my employer.

Excuse me. I have to go buy lottery tickets. It can't hurt.

[*oonagh*]

i couldn't reply "awesome", but only by a tiny bit. mostly, my life is terrific and i'm extremely grateful. there are, i guess, just one or two tiny things that require me to reply "pretty good".