talking to someone who's left this life?

[colusaskye]

so I've been studying and whatnot and getting better at my readings...one of my friends requested a reading (when I'm ready to do it).
he hasn't told me what he wants a reading about BUT after our conversation last night, I know he needs answers to something.

Basically, the girl he was going to marry (he considers her his soul mate) passed on a few years ago in a car accident. He hasn't dated anyone since, out of consideration for her and whatnot. The problem is - he's getting really lonely.
He doesn't want to find someone else until he knows how she feels about it.

I saw a spread somewhere for talking to someone who's left our world but I cannot find it. I'd really like to try it out with him.
Does anyone know what it is, or where I can find it?

[Rainbow Chaser]

I for one wouldn't want to do the reading from that angle. It sounds to me he has the emotional problem, he still feels connected to her. Basically his grieving process has not finished yet or he might have gotten stuck in it. His letting go of her should be addressed. So that reading should be about HIM, not about (alledgedly) her.
Not that I am against connecting with people who passed away, but this feels like the wrong approach to me here.

Just my 2 cents.

[colusaskye]

Well, I was mostly hoping that I could find a spread to help him move on, maybe with her help.
Ack. I don't know if that makes any sense.
He tells me that he's ready to move on, but he doesn't want to offend her in any way.

[Rainbow Chaser]

Yes I know that you mean to help him and it makes sense what you're saying.

When reading that final line I realize that he apparently feels he owes her something, that is the bit of being stuck in his grief. He seems to feel he is not entitled to happiness because she died. I doubt if anything that comes up in that reading can free him of that, because it is very much his emotional set-up.

Nah, I'll shut up now. ;)

[Faeawyn]

Rainbow Chaser is right....he seems stuck in his grief. I've known many people who experience guilt that they are carrying on with their lives. I have a friend who feels guilty every time she laughs....because she feels that experiencing a moment of happiness is betraying the memory of the one she lost.
Some how, he needs to understand that she is happy and exactly where she's supposed to be, and that all she wants is for him to have a happy full life as well. Getting him to understand that is the tricky part.

[colusaskye]

Thanks, Rainbow Chaser and Faeawyn.
I've thought about what you both have said and decided not to bring the subject up myself. If, when I do his reading, he asks a question like this, I'll do my best to let him know that he's got to move on.

[Faeawyn]

he may want a reading specifically to see if you can communicate with her in any way. Especially if he's having a hard time letting go....if that's the case, then let the cards tell their story :)