Anti jealousy

[Pip_Sensei]

Ok I need the wise advice of the mysticwicks users. How do I become not jealous >>

[Druchii]

There is nothing to be jealous of there...

:lol: Why would you not want to be jealous? It is all aspects of our life and being that make us who we are.

[Nighthawk]

Or, are you talking about that you are jealous about something, and came here for an answer? I see you are 14

[SilverMaiden]

Of other people? You'll have to learn to trust yourself and the ones you love. :)

[Rockprincess]

Of a loved one around members of the opposite sex? You have to learn to trust your partner, and truly internalize the fact that they chose YOU, so you have no need to feel jealous of attention they pay to someone else. :colorful:

[Flaire-FireStar]

What is it that you are jealous of, hon?

:hugz:

[Klucky]

Just tell yourself that you're the best! ;)

-Klucky

P.S. I LOVE Strong Sad.
"I don't like food anymore!"

[Pip_Sensei]

Of a loved one around members of the opposite sex? You have to learn to trust your partner, and truly internalize the fact that they chose YOU, so you have no need to feel jealous of attention they pay to someone else. :colorful:
That's why <<

[bellamandu]

dont ever love or care about anyone.... :elf:

[dragonspirit 69]

When I was young and felt jelious of what my friends had I would write down a list of things that I had and that helped. I had a friend who would vollintier at a shelter which helped her.

[bellamandu]

oh yeah... and help people.

i was feeling really bad one day while me and shaggy were at the laundromat. i saw out of the corner of my eye a man come up to me and tap me on the shoulder. he was deaf. he handed me a little card telling me that he makes his living selling them and that if i wished, could i please give him some spare change in exchange for the card which had several general hand-language stuff on it. so im like... aww this guy is so sad. his face was all distored and you could tell he hadnt showered in weeks. i didnt know how much to give him, i didnt have any ones, and i didnt have any change. so i pulled out a crisp 20 dollar bill from my wallet, wondered if i should use it for gas, or give it to this guy. i held it up and pointed to it, asked if this was ok. honestly i thought it was kind of steep, you know? and the guy got like the biggest smile on his face and nodded excitedly. i gave it to him and he gave me the biggest hug. it was so sweet. so he left... afterwards me and shaggy were reading the card and we realized the hand signal he was giving us before he left was "i love you"....

it made me so happy! :floating:

[SpikesPet5150]

Hmm... I had a deaf guy do the same thing to me, he looked dirty and sad, just as you said.. I gave him $5, and then I saw him later that night in a club.... talking... and listening... and clean. He was scamming me. I was angry. I yelled.
~Bree

[Athena my Goddess]

One of my friend is rather jealous cos she's not one of my BEST friend. I don't know how to explain her that I feel better and I prefer staying with my 2 best friends.
One lives 200km away and the other is in the next college than my friend and I.She knows very well that friend and we're a cool group with some others friend.I don't know how to make her understand (the rather jealous one). My best friend Flore (the one in my school ) is having a serious breakdown and she's staid at home fot one week,I'm really worried about her. I asked her to come and c her 2morrow,but I was supposed to go to the swimming pool with Olivia (the jealous friend). I told her that I couldn't come with her and she wanted to know why. I sweared Flo that I'd not telling other what's happening to her,so I told Olivia that I had to do something important. ANd this morning,she asked me again and I became angry,she never understands! I tell her "what would u do if ur best friend is rather dying????" Cause what's happening to Flore,she's very weak and she's been always ill this last months,I knew that something was wrong... And Olivia asked me "who're ur best friend"
I answered "I've 2 best friends".And she wanted to know. So I finally answered"Marjorie and Flore". I know that I am her bestfriend.Last year,when I knew her,she had no friends and I became her best one,she told me it. And she didn't answered any more. I panicced (to panic,what's in past? )and I tolad her that even if she wasn't one of my best friencs,she was still a super one and that I liked her very much.But she said "yeah.of course." And I felt so guilty that I ended rou conversation (on messenger) and told her I was going to study.
I don't know what 2 do. Yesterday night,I was so happy cos I chated with my Elf (and she wished me "good night" :hearteyes ) and now,I feel worse than I've felt for a week (last week I was very depressed likeall days in my life... )
Help me please

[menolly]

If you're jealous of your loved one being around other people of the opposite sex, remind yourself this every time you look at the one you love; "You chose me"
As long as you trust your partner, there is nothing to be jealous of. They may well spend time with other people, but at the end of the day, they chose you over them, and is still with you.

Jealousy can taint the purest of hearts every now and then, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Just whenever you feel the green-eyed monster rearing it's head, remind yourself of those words, and it should help you feel better.

The best of luck to you and your love :hugz:

[Klucky]

Sudden thought: Such jealousy may be a branch of a deeper issue.

-Klucky

[Pip_Sensei]

Sudden thought: Such jealousy may be a branch of a deeper issue.

-Klucky

Please explain :)

[Klucky]

Please explain :)

Hmmm...well...you may have self-esteem issues, maybe wondering about the meaning of life, possibly have been very much hurt in the past by others...

-Klucky

[Kaylara]

I don't get affected the same way by jealously as other people do, so I may not be the best one to give advice on this...

Perhaps you and her should sit down and talk about the issues you're having. Do you mistrust her? Do you feel secure in the relationship you have with her? Because if you really trust her, and feel secure, there shouldn't been any of those feelings. Do you feel happy with yourself and who you are? If you don't love yourself, you'll have a hard time loving someone else completely. In any case, communication is the key. If you don't talk to her about it, it'll never get fixed.

[Pip_Sensei]

you mistrust her? Do you feel secure in the relationship you have with her?

Yes I do trust her it's just that feeling I get <<