Losing your best friend

[turtlerain46]

I am slowly losing my best friend of 12 years, well it feel like it anyways. It's not that we've been fighting or anything like that, it's just we've grown apart. She's engaged, I won't even think about that for atleast another 10 years. It hit me the other day when we were at an amusement park. Me and her fiancee were trying to talk her into going on to a roller coaster. We had been going at it for atleast 15 mins, when she turns to her fiancee, and says "You know me better than anyone, do you think I'll like it?" Of course I didn't say anything, but this almost tore my heart out. She's only known him for less than two years, and he's knows her better than me? It's not just that, she trusts him to drive her car, but not me. Even though I have a better driving record than him. It's not just that, those are just the two things that come to mind. Don't get me wrong, I'm not jealous of him, and I don't hold a grudge. I realize these things happen, and that no one's to blame. I think it is just hitting harder with her, because we would always talk about how we were going to be two old witches sitting on our back yard watching our cats play in the garden. We were always so much alike, and we would always move in the same direction at the same time. Now she's thinking about settling down, and I'm just not ready for that. Hmmm, life is strange sometimes isn't it.

[Radocs]

I feel for you. Hang in there...

[SpikesPet5150]

Just remember.. having a significant other, especially one that she's willing to share the rest of her life with, is incredibly special. Even if you don't really share more information with your SO than you do with your best friend, if feels like you do.

Don't be angry with her, and don't feel like you're losing a friend. She'll be there for you. She just needs her time to get to know her fiance. :)

Good luck with this!
~Bree

[Nighthawk]

It is what they call "Growing up" and it sucks......... Remember, you are still the same loving, thoughtful person you were...My friend says...."We do not see things as they are.... We see things as WE are.."" I am so sorry.. I have been there... It hurts..... That is the truth.... So sorry this is happening.

[dragonspirit 69]

I too lost my best friend . After h.s. I went to college and when I came back she was pregnat. Then I got married to a man who hated me havintg friends ( and family ) other thatn his. When that was over We got hooked back up but she was on dialisis (sp) for her kidneys adn liver ( she was on a waiting list) that came about from her diabeties. I stayed by her side as much as I could and after about a year she died. we had so much fun together . So I guess what I'm saying is maybe you guys will get back into each others lives later.

[RubyRose]

Aww. :hugz: I too have drifted apart from childhood friends and wish it had never happened.

[MzNeko]

This could just be a natural stage where you're growing apart a little.

My best friend (I also call her my sister - long story) and I have known each other since the age of seven. That's 24 years. We've been through times where we were practically joined at the hip and finished each other's sentences and times where we hardly saw each other for months and developed different interests and sometimes VERY different opinions. It happens.

You don't have to be at the same stage in life at the same time. Sure it's nice, but it's not neccessary.

Just keep being you, keep being a friend.

[Isildae]

I'm in the same exact situation, believe me I know your pain.

My bestfriend of about four years now recently got a new boyfriend, and its as though I don't exist anymore.

My Father died last September and I needed some emotional support from my bestfriend, but she was too busy with her boyfriend ofcourse.

And I mean I do understand. Your boyfriend is someone you *love*. I just thought maybe being someones bestfriend, and sticking by them through bad times, and caring for them enough to die for them, actually meant something too.

I'm sorry if I sound bitter, its something I'm really working through right now.

So yes I know how that feels, I just hope its easier for you than it has been for me.

[alesay]

Yup, i too understand... and have come to the not so sudden realization too... But mine is a teeny bit different... I met her online... i know that sounds crazy, but we were sooooo much alike... It was like she WAS my sister... Hell, she gave me the strength to follow this path, to announce finally who i was... but she wanted to settle down too... her road went one way, mine went another... She's in texas, i'm in oregon... she's happy now... So am i... not that i'm not with her, but i'm happy she's happy... It's hard... but those gods are crazy with their plans...

You'll get through it... and i hope what dragon spirit said will happen to you... Maybe you'll get back to what you were later!

Love and light~
ale

[morrigen]

My childhood best friend and I have known each other for 21 years...we only see each other once or twice a year now...we used to share houses...go clubbing...talk all night...I miss that, but we do have to move on, and our bond is still strong...just different...

Your friend will always love you...hang in there.

[Aylwyn]

and our bond is still strong...just different...

Your friend will always love you...hang in there.

Well put Morrigen.

[Kaylara]

Just ((((((((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Faeawyn]

I agree with SpikesPet....she just needs some adjustment time with the fiance. As soon as the "lovey dovey googly eyes" part wears off, she'll be there for you again. You'll be the one she'll complain to when he leaves his towels on the floor and the top off the toothpaste. Just give her a little room and hang in there....:hugz:

[turtlerain46]

I agree with SpikesPet....she just needs some adjustment time with the fiance. As soon as the "lovey dovey googly eyes" part wears off, she'll be there for you again. You'll be the one she'll complain to when he leaves his towels on the floor and the top off the toothpaste. Just give her a little room and hang in there....:hugz:
:lol: She's alreadly gotten to that part. She usually calls to complain about him leaving dishes all over the house, and never cleaning them, (his moto is, if there's still clean dishes in the cabinet, why wash any!!) and him never helping with the laundry, amoung other things. Thank you everyone for the advice.