*sigh* I just don't know what to do. :(

[*Adia*]

To anyone and everyone,
I have a problem. Recently, a group of old 'friends' ('' as they are not my friends anymore) have been tormenting me to no end. It started about 2 years ago. Then, it was just light stuff. A comment here and there, maybe a nasty letter or something. But now, they're turning their letters, comments and glares towards Aiden, my boyfriend of almost 9 months. When Aiden first found out about my interests and beliefs, he was open to them. He talked to me about everything, and made it a point to understand anything and everything I was doing. That hasn't changed a bit, and that has only brought us closer together. The thing is...Jenn, Kyla and Amanda live on the same street as Aiden, and are constantly on his back about me, and my choice of religion. They always hang out with him, around his house and stuff since Amanda and Aiden grew up and are the best of friends.

The other night, I was over at Aiden's house and they came over. I was out by the pool when he answered the door to find the three of them standing there. They had no idea I was there and that I could hear them talking. They said such horrible things. Lies...so many stupid and cruel lies. *sniff* Things like how they saw me the other night... and how I was sacrificing poor animals to my beliefs. Aiden knows that was just a bunch of lies, and knows that I would never do anything like that, and CERTAINLY that any area of paganism has NOTHING to do with the sacrifices of anything. Anyways, he got really angry at them, and told them to leave his house and property. He came back around to the pool and told me everything they had said...and just held me while I broke down.

A little later on, we heard a knock on the door...and when we went to answer it (thinking it was the pizza guy) it was one of his neighbours, Mrs Clamenza, telling us that some people had done some pretty cruel things to the house and we should see it. We walked around the house, and it was such a mess. They had thrown eggs all over the house and spraypainted things that really got to us..."animal killer", "witch lover" (<- even th ough that one's true. :) ) "satan worshipper" and many other words and pictures that are too disturbing to even tell you guys about.

We went back inside, and talked...he doesn't know what to do, and neither do I. Its killing me how they can be so cruel, and never once try and understand what I'm all about. but its killing Aiden...because that mess... was done by one of his best friends. He's tried to contact Amanda, to talk to her...and to tell her that she went WAY over the line...and that she's so wrong about it all.

It seems as though I've come to a loss of words right now. I'm too upset and angry to continue this message...so...any help..advice would be appreciated. Because ...we just can't take this anymore...we just want it to end. :( *wipes a tear*

Thanks for taking to the time to read...
blessing
Adia

[EasternPriest]

Any "best friend" wouldn't have done that.........

I'm sorry for the pain you are both feeling. As a non-pagan, it really bothers me that others could be so cruel about your path and your relationship with Aiden.

My prayers are with you for a good resolution. I don't know if the answer, but I doubt the parents of the kids would approve of what happened. Maybe you could talk with Aiden's parents, and they could bring the other 'rents in?

[Rævyn Cigány]

I agree with EP (okay, you can stop gasping now ;)), and also I think you should sit down with Aiden and find out exactly how he feels about these three 'ladies' and about the situation at hand. It could be that he might look to you for a cue to either try talking to them or to stop communicating with them altogether. If he truly cares for you then what they say should not matter, and he would be best to stay away from them (even the girl who is his best friend). I sense a lot of jealousy on their parts, and I believe it best to nip this thing in the bud before it gets any worse.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, sweetie.

BB
Rae )0(

[MistOfTheSea86]

People like this are arrogant Buttholes that deserve to be scolded at a bit. There Close-mindedness is sickening! But all you can do is hope that KArma comes and gets them, or go to the police and tell them, for it is vandalism and discrimination. You know what they look like, you know their address, and they very well could get in a lot of trouble. You may not want to cause even more controversy. But if things still go bad, you should call the police. Things like this should not go on, Ever!:mad: I am so sorry this happened to you. I am sending positive energys your way!:)

[SpiDer_AnGeL]

Oh I am so sorry! I wish there was something I could do. Those people are just ignorant. I cant believe anyone can be that cruel. Man, I am sooooooooo..............o sorry!!!!! Best friends would NEVER do something like that to anyone!!!!!!!!!!! My heart goes out to you and your boyfriend. Blessed Be-
SpiDer

[rantnraven]

By the Goddess and Gods, Your God my God, Their God, I pray this:

May those who think foul upon us be enlightened.
May those who feel superior bow before those they think weak.
May those who are well off find hospitality.


By the Goddess, may those who feel better then the rest, BUGGER OFF.

Amen,
RANT with a capital "RANT".

[Mariposa De La Luna]

Originally posted by rantnraven
By the Goddess and Gods, Your God my God, Their God, I pray this:

May those who think foul upon us be enlightened.
May those who feel superior bow before those they think weak.
May those who are well off find hospitality.


By the Goddess, may those who feel better then the rest, BUGGER OFF.

Amen,
RANT with a capital "RANT".

BLESSED BE!

[Candace Valera]

This was an awful thing to do to both you and Aiden, and I personally think you may have to look into contacting the police and even to getting a restraining order if anything like this ever happens again. :rolleyes:

I am sending you positive thoughts and energies and praying for this not to happen any more... It sounds to me a little more like this Amanda may have thought Aiden was "her" personal property and be jealous of you two. Then they are using this as their wedge to try to get you apart, but not because they necessarily have misinformed convictions about witchcraft, but because they want him all to themselves. Jealousy is usually stronger than religious energy.:eek:

You might feel comfortable with altars on the four corners of your home, little shelves or tables dedicated to the four elements in the four cardinal directions?

This isn't fair, and it makes me so angry to read about it... Take care and try not to be bitter and sad... (easier said than done, I know!)

Blessed Blessed Be!

Candace:o

[Red Stag]

I think calling the police is a good idea ! you never know they might get braver and do somthing much worse . like HURT SOMEONE YOU LOVE. I know that they are girls but they know other people and who knows what they think . running away probably will not help, it will just make them more daring .

ok so whos ranting now ?

[Shy Hawk]

I'd be calling the cops if I were you. You don't even have to tell them you're a Pagan or not. It's slander, vandalizing, and harrassment, either way. That's something to go to court about right there....they want to be mean....give it back to them.

As for your b/f....I know he must be hurting...keep close to him, and reassure him that real friends aren't like that. And, hug him a little more now..I'm sure he feels betrayed and volnerable....let us know how this pans out.

[Sequoia]

I really HATE people who do that. It is horrible!! *huggles to adia* I"m so very sorry to hear about this!! positive vibes heading your way. . . And I agree with Shy Hawk, you really should call the police. People like that have a way of escalating things. . . I'm worried for you and your boyfriend's safety! You don't even have to say you're Pagan, it's a crime no matter what! I wish you better luck with all of this, and that it does NOT happen again! *HUG*

may your god(dess)(s) keep you safe, and see that everything's ok.

best of luck, and prayers,

~Puma Hime

[Danustouch]

Dearest Adia...

Yes..listen to the advice of the wise people here....call the police. I'm sure that they will not arrest the girls, or anything, for such a first time offense. But they may speak to the girls, and their parents. Telling them that no such actions will be tolerated. As they are considered vandalism, and also, btw..probably a "hate crime" (like the kids charged with painting swastika's on a synagogue, those things don't go over very well with most police.). And in my experience, if things like this are NOT handled, right away, by the Police, they often escalate into making your life a personal hell. Aidan needs to just stay away from those three girls. If they are not truly supportive of him in his choices, they are not his friends, anyway. What they did, was obviosly an act of jealousy. For whatever reason. And Aidan should have no problem saying.."Ya know what..I don't want people like that around me.". And giving them up. I would also just point out, to the girls, if ever you should speak to them again...that what they are doing to you is Discrimination, and predjudice. That their behavior is akin to people like Hitler, and the KKK...only...because of your religion..not the color of your skin. And tell them about Poor Tempest...just to tell them about how badly things like this can wound people. Perhaps they will have a concscience, and lay off. If not..they are little more than animals, and you can dismiss them as such, and let the police handle it.

Good luck dearheart ((((((((YOU)))))))))))))))))))!

[random]

I am sorry for both of your's pain. and my heart goes out to you in hopes of everything getting better in the future. oh course, im going to agree with calling the police and talking to their parents... im sure they wouldn't like what their kids are doing. Luck and Best Wishes.

-christy-

[Amora]

I agree the police should be brought into this. I agree with Candace that I think it's jealousy more then anything else. Your religion just gives them something to pick on you about. Your boyfriend sounds like a good catch. He really seems to care about you. Stand your ground and continue to be strong...My heart goes out to you.

[Myst]

I think everyone's pretty much covered it. Call the police (if you have to, get a small tape recorder and record what they say next time, or if possible rig up a camera to video record their actions). Your bf is probably hurting because of the way his "best friend" has turned but I think it's time for him to stop talking to her period - that means not answering the door and not picking up the phone if she calls, after he warns her that her behaviour is inappropriate and he won't tolerate it. Good luck!

[magicbabs]

Hey - next time DEFINATELY call the police. The fact that someone comes to your door then the house is vandalized.....the police will be on them immediately.....

What a bunch of idiots!!!!

Hey, want to try one of those protection bottles??? Think it might help.....it helped me recently. The Thread should be in the Green Room or the Ritual section.....