Have you ever given a reading to a skeptic?

[FaerieGothMommy]

The reason why i am asking is because my moms new bf wants me to do him a tarot reading - if it be anyone else asking, i'd have said, yeh sure! But, he is a skeptic about things like this. He trys to have an answer for everything, and well, i get the feeling he is only askng for a reading so he can denie everything i say and call me a "fake"... reason why i think this is because when my mom told him about an incident that happened a few years ago to me & my sister (the bed shook violently while my sister was sat on it) he give a grim look and basicially tryed to say we were making it up. And if we watch any paranormal show, he has to have an explanation for everything!!!

So... why is he asking for a reading if he is so skeptic? He trys to say he isn't skeptic, but it's so obvious he is, otherwise he wouldn't call people liers when they say they've had a paranormal expeirence!

I am sure he is out to make a fool of me (i just get that feeling from him) and it feels like he has found the perfect way... as he can just denie my whole reading...

I don't know what to do?!?!?

[~*Ginger*~]

Sweetie, if your not comfortable with it, it's not gonna work anyway...

Tell the truth, you don't want to do this, do you?
Totally normal to feel that way.

Tell him NO.

It's not something you have to do, and if he presists, tell him you charge $100.00 for your readings, money up front, then if he acts like a heel, you still come out on top.
(Money first, reading after you've put it up and away, or make him sign an agreement, before he gives you the cash, take only cash)

If you are not comfortable, it's not gonna work!

And :hugz: to you.

[FaerieGothMommy]

Sweetie, if your not comfortable with it, it's not gonna work anyway...

Tell the truth, you don't want to do this do you?
Totally normal to feel that way.

Tell him NO.

It's not something you have to do, and if he presists, tell him you charge $100.00 for your readings, money up front, then if he acts like a heel, you still come out on top.
(Money first, reading after you've put it up and away, or make him sign an agreement, before he gives you the cash, take only cash)

If you are not comfortable, it's not gonna work!

Yeh, your right! I don't want to do it! I have given readings to my moms work friends, my cousins even my mom, and have had good results and was comfortable with it.

But, no, i really don't want to give him a reading, and the way i see it is, why should i waste MY energies on him, when he doesn't even believe this sort of stuff.

I think i just have to put my foot down, and tell him straight what i think, which will be very hard for me, or maybe i could get my mom to tell him :lol: I'm a wimp when it comes to these sorts of things, i have big problems saying NO!

Thank you for the advice hon, much appreciated :)

[~*Ginger*~]

i have big problems saying NO!
Yep, been there, done that...

you know what?

all that unsure frustration,
will turn to self-assured contentment,
when you find the part of you that can stand and say NO,
to anyone, for any reason your not comfortable with.

Your hurting your own self, more by agreeing to something you do not want.

They may be dissappointed, may even show their backside, because they are not use to having you tell them, NO,
but
believe me, you'll feel so much better for having stood for your own heart/self, being a strong woman, and a good example for your children.

And you know what else?

The next time, to say NO, is easier. ;)

[Tzaolunyin]

Skeptics love to play "mess with the fortune teller"! You won't be able to trust anything he tells you about anything. If you do it, trust yourself and the cards and assume everything he says is completely irrelevant.

[demonic angel]

Skeptics are just like the inquisition in it's prime. They don't care if the method works, or how it works, they only care about proving it wrong. Follow FloraCove's advice- say no, even if it's hard. Otherwise you are only preparing yourself a hell of a headache. Believe me, stay away from skeptics, especially if it's a skeptic who might eat dinner with you occasionally.

[FaerieGothMommy]

Thanks for the advice guys, it's so much appreciated!! :) And, i've made up my mind, he can go screw :lol:

[Hazel witchazel]

Thanks for the advice guys, it's so much appreciated!! :) And, i've made up my mind, he can go screw :lol:
i have done several readings for skeptics and believe me sweetie, its not worth wasting your energy they just question everything and want to know the impossible and just try to constantly find fault, i have learnt through experience to say "NO" when a skeptic asks me to do a reading and even when your spot on they still doubt you, i had one skeptic who agreed with everything i said until we were three quarters of the way through the reading and then this person remebered that they were a christian and skeptical and decided that everything i had said up until then was untrue and they started swearing at me, before walking out. its really not worth it it does your confidence no good either even with good results they are all to quick to put a kabosh on things.

blessed be

crystal runewitch x :colorful:

[mucgwyrt]

I seconds everything that's been said - Let us know how it goes :)

[Exloration_La]

Often Skeptics may be people who are searching for answers and they may be challenging you too receive those answers on things they want to experience for themselves, so instead I try and share with them if I can.

However there is a difference between healthy skeptics and completely closed minded cynics.

In some cases people are just testing you or challenging you just for the sake of challenging you and or seeing what you can discuss about the matter to have a fun conversation with you, or who knows maybe they are just trying to mess with your head EITHER which way in most cases it is NOT a personal attack and even IF it was it i utterly silly to take it personally and let it upset you, and if they don’t believe you then who cares.. It should not threaten you and you should not feel threatened by people who don’t believe what you believe .. Just be peaceful cool and civil regardless and you will likely see them respond nicer and better to you rather then getting defensive and angry and cause a fight because your ego is getting caught up in your beliefs etc.

And you know really I have found certain words trigger people so I just simply replace the word with another word of equal meaning so I can communicate the same thing to them just using terms they jive with… If you wan to read to him them PERSOANLLY I might ask him what he thinks about the tarot reading stuff. Remember the language he used and describe it back to him in agreeable terms that mirror his reality yet would achieve the same thing. For example if he sees it as all part of the subconscious mind or just in your head you can pace and lead him at leas at little closer to your reality and say yes allot is in the mind and the tarot cards can help communicate with your subconscious mind to drag out hidden things into your awareness so that you may have better control over your fate or something like that.. Relate and tailor it to him and you will get good results.. Get a thesaurus if you have to… You can describe anything whether it is mystical or not in mystical or rational terms and visa versa but either way the more flexible you can be with your communication the better you can do with a wide array of people.

[Amythyst]

Yes, I have read for a skeptic. And I won't do it again. It's like running into a brick wall. It's a waste of time. They won't listen to anything you say, or else they don't like what they hear and become angry and defensive.

[SidneyCozzoi]

I made a skeptic cry once. He's not a skeptic anymore.