Long distance relationships

[13thChylde]

suck rotten eggs. :wah:

[Ahautenites]

Yes, they do. But sometimes they end up with very happy endings, like with Phoenix Blue and Wanderer In Gray.

[Antoninus]

I must say, on some levels I agree with you, I was involved in one that ended because of the extreme distances. But now, I have *ahem* fallen for somone that lives 37 hours away. As lame as that sounds, its true. Love is a funny thing, I mean, the chances of us seeing eachother are practically zip squat but we sill love eachother.

If you can hack the distance and the lonely feelings, then youll be allright.

[Kaylara]

Involved in my first at the monment. :D I can say that it's a different experience, but I'm enjoying every minute of it. Not being able to see him IRL stinks, but I love him, and want to be with him. That's enough for me... What will happen in the future, who knows, but my feelings for him are not going to change or lessen just because I can't see him very often.

[Oneira]

My cousin met his wife on the net. They've been married for two years.

I've had my share of long distance relationships. I've always worked harder at it than the other person and they'd get lazy. It works if both people work at it.

I don't think I'll ever find my prince. :wah2:

[Isil Darkmoon]

Ug... they do suck. I was in one for a year... mcc & I met on our highschool newspaper, but I was a grade ahead. By my graduation we'd decided that yeah, this was it... so I went off to school, we did the distance thing for a year, it really REALLY sucked, but then he got his cute little butt up to Purdue and that, at least, is one thing I no longer have to stress about.

[Radocs]

I concur.

[Mòrag Elasaid Ní Dhòmhnaill]

They do suck, but I've known many with happy endings. That's how my husband and I got together and two other couples that we are close friends with. But they do take a lot of work and nurturing to survive.

[Earthy]

They are very hard to maintain.
i met my bf over the internet,thankfully we now live together.
:)

[Calyx]

What's wrong, hon? :hugz:

[Morr]

i agree,,
i had one.. a very intense one.. and when it ended my heart was broken.

[Athena-Nadine]

I've been involved in a few of them. I never thought they were any worse than relationships in which two people are in close physical proximity. They have different challenges, true, but they also have their own advantages. I don't think they are any more difficult than any other relationship.

[Cielamara]

I just ended my relationship with a lovely guy I met online...why did I end it? Mostly because it felt like he had gotten lazy, and because some of my "friends" had made me wonder about his fidelity. For all I know, he's been more faithful than an old dog, but because of the distance, I couldn't read his body language to determine for sure. Right now, we're just feeling things out to see if we can be anything ever again. They suck sometimes, but sometimes, they're what you need. I wasn't ready for a "real" relationship when I met him, and I'm still not. He gave me a taste of love returned and gave me someone to dream about. I'm not comfortable with most men even in a platonic sense...but he's really helped me with that.
He made me believe that there might actually really be guys out there who could love me, weirdness, hypersensitivity and all.

[13thChylde]

What's wrong, hon? :hugz:
I just miss my girlfriend sooo very much, and it doesn't look hopeful that I'll get to see her this year. She's wayyyyyyyy over yonder (Indonesia) and she has probs getting a visa to come here to see me and I'm really quite broke and can't see how I'm supposed to come up with $1000+ for airfare to Bali. Not to mention all the terrorist stuff.

(big sigh) nothing new really....we've been together since Jan 2002. It just gets so overwhelming sometimes.

[Calyx]

I just miss my girlfriend sooo very much, and it doesn't look hopeful that I'll get to see her this year. She's wayyyyyyyy over yonder (Indonesia) and she has probs getting a visa to come here to see me and I'm really quite broke and can't see how I'm supposed to come up with $1000+ for airfare to Bali. Not to mention all the terrorist stuff.

(big sigh) nothing new really....we've been together since Jan 2002. It just gets so overwhelming sometimes.


I thought you two had figured out a way to meet each other this year. You poor thing. I know how much you miss her..... I hope everything works out the way you want.....

[13thChylde]

I had it figured out before the IRS started doing my figuring for me!

[Melissa]

Yes, long distance relationships suck sometimes.

Dave and I are in a long distance relationship for right now. That will finally change in the beginning of May! I can't wait!

Before Dave I had one other long distance relationship. The guy was in the Navy and he happened to be my first love. Weird. My first love was long distance and now my second and TRUE love is long distance for right now.

Maybe absidence really does make the heart grow fonder.

[Druchii]

I concur.
I agree.

[13thChylde]

They suck extra rotten eggs when you have governments who make one jump through a million hoops for a visa.

[Dextra]

I agree. They suck and blow at the same time.

[MerrisHawk]

I'm wishing a you a snowball. That way when you feel like you've landed in "heck" you can spend it there and get your way.
I do really hope something changes for you soon and you get a chance to get together soon.

[Druchii]

I agree. They suck and blow at the same time.
(sticks fist in mouth to prevent a comment...)

[13thChylde]

(sticks fist in mouth to prevent a comment...)
just make sure you don't swallow

[mudweed]

:hairraise

[Druchii]

just make sure you don't swallow

(sticks BOTH fists in mouth...must... prevent... dirty... thoughts...)
have... to ... rise .. to the .... challenge...
...

....
BWAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHAaaa! :lol:

[13thChylde]

I'm wishing a you a snowball. That way when you feel like you've landed in "heck" you can spend it there and get your way.
I do really hope something changes for you soon and you get a chance to get together soon.
Whoa now...I'm just venting!! Thanks for the snowball though.
I have a few crushes here that make me smile.
I have a faraway love who loves me.
I *even* have a husband.
What more do I need???

(an all expense-trip to Bali, that's all I need :lol: )

[Dextra]

(sticks BOTH fists in mouth...must... prevent... dirty... thoughts...)
have... to ... rise .. to the .... challenge...
...

....
BWAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHAaaa! :lol:

Oh, you hush! :shhhh: :lol:

[Druchii]

Oh, you hush! :shhhh: :lol:

poopy! :lol:

[mudweed]

Whoa now...I'm just venting!! Thanks for the snowball though.
I have a few crushes here that make me smile.
I have a faraway love who loves me.
I *even* have a husband.
What more do I need???

(an all expense-trip to Bali, that's all I need :lol: )
And a sushi dinner, and coffee with me!!!

[Flaire-FireStar]

Well....:fpatricks It does suck.....especially when you can't do squat about it.


Craptacular. :flamer:

[Druchii]

BUT you just have to be "creative" with text.
It can do wonders with a relationship no matter the distance... :)

[~*Ginger*~]

...blowing...sucking...swallowing...
Crap, now ya'll really got me missing Big B!

oh well...
see my sig...
;)

[13thChylde]

BUT you just have to be "creative" with text.
It can do wonders with a relationship no matter the distance... :)
Oh Druchii, I'm very inventive with the text. I'm texting her phone right now :)
you have no idea....I have volumes of text, probably enough to make a line from me to her. And web-cams. And Asian calling cards.

However, one amazing thing about ldrs is how in tune you become with each other. Both of us can tell by the way we type what kind of day the other is having. When we met in person after 8 months of chatting, I never had a moment of awkwardness with her.

[Druchii]

...blowing...sucking...swallowing...
Crap, now ya'll really got me missing Big B!

oh well...
see my sig...
;)

WHY FLORA!!!! I do DECLARE!!! :holycow: That last post about gave me the vapors! :lol: :) That is so sweet!

[13thChylde]

And a sushi dinner, and coffee with me!!!
:dinnertim :javaswim:
tell me where + I'm there :)

[~*Ginger*~]

WHY FLORA!!!! I do DECLARE!!! :holycow: That last post about gave me the vapors! :lol: :) That is so sweet!
mmm, yeah, I have that effect on him as well...
:smooch:

[Laurelei]

Long distance relationships? Don't get me started :2G:.

I have a, uh, special friend who currently lives in America. As you may already know I'm in England. So, just the Atlantic ocean then. Bah.

We're exchanging emails every other day and talking on MSN when we get the chance, but the chances of me seeing him in 'real life' (ugh) within the next three years are next to nothing. Phone calls are bloody expensive too.

They should really hurry up and invent the teleporter *nods*.

[Druchii]

Oh Druchii, I'm very inventive with the text. I'm texting her phone right now :)
you have no idea....I have volumes of text, probably enough to make a line from me to her. And web-cams. And Asian calling cards.

However, one amazing thing about ldrs is how in tune you become with each other. Both of us can tell by the way we type what kind of day the other is having. When we met in person after 8 months of chatting, I never had a moment of awkwardness with her.

Really? That is nice. Sometimes I don't know how you do it... :)

[13thChylde]

you don't know how who does what? to whom? :lol:

[MoonDust]

However, one amazing thing about ldrs is how in tune you become with each other. Both of us can tell by the way we type what kind of day the other is having. When we met in person after 8 months of chatting, I never had a moment of awkwardness with her.

Yup, yup. That is so true. My love and I have been together for a year now. I miss him terribly, but we talk everyday on the phone for hours (free unlimited cell to cell THANK YOU SPRINT!) He knows what’s going on in my life and I know what’s going on in his. And in 5 short months it will be an LDR no more! :woot:

LDRs do suck, but it’s great when you end up with someone that’s just perfect for you.

[Druchii]

you don't know how who does what? to whom? :lol:


going over that great a distance! :) It's wonderful that you do!

[Xentor]

I happen to live a long-distance relationship. It's demanding, as there's an ocean between us. But I'm going to cross it and meet them! Yay!

[Hoot]

When we met in person after 8 months of chatting, I never had a moment of awkwardness with her.

There's your answer, and that's what makes it worthwhile. They can work if both people are in tune, but I still remember the aching lonelies when I lay in bed missing my sweetheart so much... now he keeps me awake with his snoring! :lol:

[Romani Vixen]

relationships suck.... period...

[Flaire-FireStar]

relationships suck.... period...

You & I must be on the same page. *nods*

[Phoenix Blue]

PB's tips to making relationships work:

1) Communication
2) Friendship
3) More communication
4) Stronger, deeper friendship, strong trust, and mutual attraction
5) Still more communication
6) Wake up one day and realize you really love the other person
7 - Infinity) Communication, communication, communication some more.

[Romani Vixen]

What if you can't communicate and you live together?

[Xentor]

PB's tips to making relationships work:

1) Communication
2) Friendship
3) More communication
4) Stronger, deeper friendship, strong trust, and mutual attraction
5) Still more communication
6) Wake up one day and realize you really love the other person
7 - Infinity) Communication, communication, communication some more.

Very true, very true.

Currently in the process of increasing communication.

[Xentor]

What if you can't communicate and you live together?

Visit Dr. Phil...

[mudweed]

What if you can't communicate and you live together?
Man, screw "Dr Phil." But I know what you mean, FS. :hugz:

[13thChylde]

Communcation can be hard to come by when one's noon is another's midnight.

[Phoenix Blue]

What if you can't communicate and you live together?
Then you don't really have a relationship.

[WandererInGray]

Communcation can be hard to come by when one's noon is another's midnight.
*smiles and hugs* If you chose to be in a relationship with someone who's clock is different than yours (or in this case on the other side of the world) you've both got to be willing to make some sacrifices.

In this case I'd say that means that you both need to set aside some time on days off or the weekend to stay up late and talk to each other.

[13thChylde]

thanks Wanderer :) I'm very accustomed to making sacrifices, we've been doing this for over 2 years now. I've learned a lot about patience and duty because of this.

I've just been feeling neglected lately, although she's not neglecting me....her sister is visiting for a month from Florida and her son is getting ready to leave for college, so I knew that talking to her would be hard to come by for a few weeks. But we caught each other at yahoo this morning, so I'm better now :)

Please send "get to Europe" energy for me...as she just had a visa approved for a trip with a performing group to Spain and Holland in June. She'll be there for two weeks, so I'm going to try and meet her. Try, hell...I HAVE TO BE THERE!!!

[WandererInGray]

Definately energy for you! *hugs* I know how frustrating this can be. (PB and I were seperated by 1600 miles for two years!) But we got to see each other about 4 times a year, so that was definately a big help.

[celtie]

Even worse is, after years of an LDR, finally being together & learning that they're not who you had always thought they were. You can't really know someone until you've spent a LOT of time with them in person..& I say this as someone who's had more online/LDRs than i care to admit. This is not to say that they can't work..it's just a challenge any way you look at it.

[Druchii]

Even worse is, after years of an LDR, finally being together & learning that they're not who you had always thought they were. You can't really know someone until you've spent a LOT of time with them in person..& I say this as someone who's had more online/LDRs than i care to admit. This is not to say that they can't work..it's just a challenge any way you look at it.

I agree very much with you. In these things time is of the essence. But I have been surprised ( delightfully might I add...) on how thongs will work out, with a little luck. :)

[Dextra]

I agree very much with you. In these things time is of the essence. But I have been surprised ( delightfully might I add...) on how thongs will work out, with a little luck. :)

Thongs? :lol:

Well, we know where YOUR mind has wandered off to (AGAIN!). :rotfl:

[Druchii]

Thongs? :lol:

Well, we know where YOUR mind has wandered off to (AGAIN!). :rotfl:

I didn't even see that! :lol: Oh my side hurts now... I am not editing that... too priceless on my part.
Well mabe if YOU weren't so fond of them missy! :hehehehe:

[Dextra]

I didn't even see that! :lol: Oh my side hurts now... I am not editing that... too priceless on my part.
Well mabe if YOU weren't so fond of them missy! :hehehehe:

I nearly spit my soda all over the screen when I read that! :lol:

And I plead the fifth on my thong worshipping tendencies. :nyah:

[Druchii]

I nearly spit my soda all over the screen when I read that! :lol:

And I plead the fifth on my thong worshipping tendencies. :nyah:

:lol: Why I always gotta be wearing your stuff all the time anyway!? :lol:
( just cuz you can beat me up and stuff doesn't mean anything...) :hehehehe:

[Dextra]

:lol: Why I always gotta be wearing your stuff all the time anyway!? :lol:
( just cuz you can beat me up and stuff doesn't mean anything...) :hehehehe:

Cause it looks so pretty on you! :lol:

And I wouldn't beat you up. Much. :smoke:

[Druchii]

Cause it looks so pretty on you! :lol:

And I wouldn't beat you up. Much. :smoke:

You better be GLAD we have to keep this thread PG! :lol:
AND don't think that little bit of flattery is gonna make me forgive you for throwing out my back! I gotta go to work now... Later Dex! :hehehehe: :)

[Pesha]

I have been meaning to post to this and keep forgeting or I get distracted. Ok Long Distence relationships.

I beleive that alot of them will work and a alot will fail due to distence. It is the participants of the relationship that make or break it. Now the one that is going on for 13th and her girlfriend, I really see as working. Knowing 13th the way I do this is a caring and loving person. So that is my opinon on that.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder they say and yes I beleive it can. Once again looking at who is involved. People make it work.

BB
DS.