I'm A Sad Little Chicken

[Klucky]

Oy, I had such a bad day. However, I don't want to bore you, so I'll just skip to the past couple of hours.

I'm one of those good little girls who likes to spend time with her mommy. Tonight, I thought "Hey, maybe she'd enjoy Donnie Darko" and decided to watch it with her. Well, if you've seen Donnie Darko, this may make a little more sense, but after the movie, my mom turned to me and started crying. She started telling me if this some how influenced my religion change from way back when (even though the movie only came out a few years ago). She started crying and asking, "Do you think you're still a witch?", "You know, you can't just put a few herbs together, say a few 'magic' words, and then suddenly control a person's mind. That's bullsh*t.", "There is no 'good witch' and 'bad witch'. All Pagan things are the wrong path. The only correct path is with God.", etc.

Now, I really do know these things are out of love. She really is worried about me. She honestly believes what she says and I can understand that. However, I only comfort her and say that I'm just "confused" right now because I'm still a minor. Once I'm 18, I can believe what I want to believe. And it breaks my heart realizing how sad and worrysome that will make her.

All my life I've been on the bad side of things so others could have the benefit. I have the choice now between me and my mother. And for once, I'm choosing myself. And it makes me die inside.

-Klucky

[Dextra]

I know it's hard, hon. But maybe it would be best to keep your witchy business out of your mother's sight for the time being. You'll be 18 soon enough, and you'll be able to practice your beliefs regardless of what she says.

It just sounds to me like you don't want to hurt your mother, and that's admirable, and totally understandable. Sometimes, we have to make little sacrifices for the ones we love. You'll get through this. :hugz:

[boerbabe]

I agree with Dextra. Things will work out, and your Mom's just worried about her baby.
I've never had a question of faith between myself and my family (heck, I'm not even all that sure what faith my family has!) but I have had other times that were especially hard. Sometimes you just have to work out your own problems and let Mom handle her side. It'll work out. *hugs*

[Veritas]

My moms dream when I was young, was for me to be an alter boy. Being pagan destroyed her dream. I couldnt live her dream. After 2-3 years she finally accepted me for the person I am. She even asks me, these days, for differant pionts of veiw and has learned that paganism is'nt bad per say. Give it time. Its hard for parents to let go and accept their children being differant than themselves. With all the love between you and your mom, I feel it will all be ok one day.

[Klucky]

Thank you, all of you. :hugz:

-Klucky

[Xander67]

your mother will understand one day, she will see how much it means to you..

[morrigen]

I loved Donnie Darko...not sure I would've picked it to show my mother tho...I don't know why yourr mother associated the movie's themes with your life choices, tho I can imagine mine doing much the same...

It's hard to communicate from a perspective that loved ones often don't understand...and sometimes they never really do. If I mention my spiritual path these days ( even after 18 years of being a pagan), my folks still do everything but cover their ears and sing *Lalalala*, if you know what I mean.

-sigh- I don't have any great advice for you, Klucky. Just a whole heap of empathy and a big :hugz:

[Thor]

Sorry to read all this Klucky!


One day she will accept it!!

[blugirrl1]

everything will work out, trust in the universe. and be glad your mom cares. that is something some people never have. :)

[Kadynas]

:hugz: I feel for you dear... At least you've had the courage to try to open up to her on the subject which is more than I can say. Maybe in time she'll understand, when she sees what a fine adult you'll turn out to be and that the "dark side" hasn't destroyed you or anything. :) For now it's probably just hard for her to accept that you could be mature enough to make your own spiritual decisions... just try to remember, hard as it is, that she's only saying that stuff because she loves you.

[Bran83]

I remember sitting across from the table with my mom loaded and me drinking a Baileys Irish Cream and her talking about what religion meant to be and hoping that I am not after something that may cause me to join a cult or be sucked in. Shes a mother and is worried about her little chicklet.

When I came out to my parents about being a Pagan I felt the same way, but at one point in every child's life they recognize they are no longer their parents child, but rather an adult that needs to make responcible choices for themselves. Maybe even going over with her what the religion is really about and having a discussion about it may clear things up. I had my parents talk with my High Priestess and have her ask questions.

<BIG HUG>

[Llewyth]

Although you have to listen to what your parents have to say because they have a few more years experience, sometimes you just have to follow your heart. Consider this to be practice, because there will be many other times in your life when you will have to oppose your parent's wishes. Sometimes they will be right, other times it will be you. You will have to find the balance that feels right to you.

I know how you feel. :( I tried very to be who my mom and dad wanted me to be and it just helped to get me a burnout. They expected me to go to college full time and work at the same time. I had lots more going for me at the time and finally it was just too much. I cracked. It was really hard for me to tell them that it was quitting school for a while so I could get back on my feet. They were so sad and disapointed in me.... But now I'm proud of what I did because I took care of me.

:huddle:

[Nighthawk]

M... Klucky... you are a very good person.. the fact that it bothers you speaks volumes.... you are a great kid too.... My Gods... I watch that show with my son and he is a very hypocritical Christian.... I cannot even fathom how that could turn into your religion change....esp after the fact.. Oh well... I do not think she knows what you could REALLY be like.....

[mucgwyrt]

I LOVE donnie d. Personally, I dont see what its got to with witchcraft, but there you go.

We all love you klucky, hang on in there :hugz:

[Klucky]

Thanks again to all of you. You're great. :huddle:

No matter how difficult things get in my biological family, there will always be my other family here. :)

-Klucky

[Melissa]

I'm really sorry to hear about the situation you had with your mother.

I hope one day she'll understand that being a Pagan doesn't mean you are a bad person and that she'll come to accept the religion.

[Autumn]

Hugs for Klucky...You seem to stand in need of a few!

[dragonspirit 69]

:hugz: I don't have any advice But if you want to talk to me just pm me .

[Nighthawk]

Hey Klucky.. hope I can say this here...(Understand people, I am old enough to be her Father, and this is how I address her) but, Love you dear.... PM me if I can help in any way....

[Shanti]

:hugz:

[Jenne]

More :hugz: from me...hard to deal with--I am 30 and still deal with this from my parents. So I totally feel ya babe.


Hang in there--sending you energy, ok? :hugz:

[DragonsChest]

:hugz: to our Klucky!

[LadyOak]

Hey, my Little Chicken! I love you!

[Klucky]

I'm a happier chicken now. :) Thank you to everyone! :huddle: :hugz:

-Klucky

[DragonsChest]

Who mutilated your Av? WAH!! I want my KluckyAV back!

[Klucky]

Who mutilated your Av? WAH!! I want my KluckyAV back!

I did it. :D Anti-Matrix people unite!

-Klucky

[DragonsChest]

I did it. :D Anti-Matrix people unite!

-Klucky


Hmmmm, now what to do? I liked Matrix 1 and 3, 2 was pathetic. You are an anti-matrix person? Aw, don't be like that, come on over to our side (wheedle wheedle.....) :nicetie:

[Klucky]

Hmmmm, now what to do? I liked Matrix 1 and 3, 2 was pathetic. You are an anti-matrix person? Aw, don't be like that, come on over to our side (wheedle wheedle.....) :nicetie:

No. :p

-Klucky

[RedCelt]

:colorful: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :colorful:
Hugz for our Klucky!!!!!!!!!!

RedCelt

[Shanti]

I have cookie crumbs for you!

Here...Klucky Klucky.......

:)

[Klucky]

I have cookie crumbs for you!

Here...Klucky Klucky.......

:)

:mmm:

-Klucky

[Shanti]

Lol Big Time

[Klucky]

Lol Big Time

How are the chicks?

-Klucky

[Shanti]

All the chicks are great. Still trying to get names though. I got about 10 names so far!

Hows the number 1 Klucky doing?

[Klucky]

All the chicks are great. Still trying to get names though. I got about 10 names so far!

Hows the number 1 Klucky doing?

Not bad. :)

-Klucky

[Angel Eyes]

Hi Klucky,
Sorry you're having such a rough day. I too, as I'm sure many of us here understand your pain. She still loves you and in time she will see that you're still a good person. Being a witch or into a religion other then Chrisitanity doesn't make you a bad person or suddenly without morales. You ARE a good person!!!!! In time she will realize this, that no matter what you have a good soul. People tend to fear or hate what they don't know or understand. Maybe if you could slowly show her the good in all of this she will come around. Alittle understanding goes a long way. I'll keep you in my meditations.

[Dusk]

I am sorry things between you and your mom are like this.

I'm still in the broom closet with most of my family (and I am 36). I admire that you are honest with your mom.

Your mom is the one who is trying to make you choose. In the end you must do what is right for you. It is ok to be selfish.


:colorful:

[charmedkisses1]

All my life I've been on the bad side of things so others could have the benefit. I have the choice now between me and my mother. And for once, I'm choosing myself. And it makes me die inside.

-Klucky
You're like, me

[fireswimmer]

Klucky,

I am so sorry! That is such a hard thing to face. I hope that eventually she gains an understanding. My parents did. HUGS and loving thoughts.

Fireswimmer

[Pesha]

{{{KLUCKY}}}} Sweetheart there comes a time in everyones life when you have to begin to take care of Number 1 first. That's you love. Energies and love flow to you.

BB
DS.

[Kalika]

:hugz:

Hon, I know its hard... but you have to do what is right for you. (You already know that, obviously) Your happiness should be your mother's happiness as well... mothers love for their children to be happy. Things may not be perfect... but hopefully in time she'll be able to understand your choices, and at least accept them.

:huddle: