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Kamikaze_Noob
April 19th, 2004, 04:58 PM
Sorry this is so long, I guess I got a little carried away but I hope you will still try and help me...

Im a newbie to magick as well as forum use, this will be my first post.. Im young, not exactly brilliant and I need help..

Its been about a year since I began studying the internal martial art of Tai Chi Chuan as well as Chi Gung and Nei gung, Through these practices ive developed some pretty sweet grounding techniques as well centering and sensing techniques.. Recently I asked one of my teachers about Astral travel. (Somehow I got this confused with lucid dreaming and thought they were both one and the same..) Anyway, He seemed reluctant to give me much information and warned me of the dangers of the astral plane.. This got me thinking alot, so I asked another one of the students in my class (one of the only students that seems to know what hes talking about) about astral travel and he said that he had once been Wiccan and was into all sorts of magick and meditations.. He told me that if I planned to practice Astral travel safely that I should learn how to cast a circle.. Hearing this I became very excited, no one has ever seriously talked to me about magic before. I came home and have been searching for circle casting as well as astral travel techniques since then.. Looking over these forums I became increasingly interested in other types of magick spells and techniques so I decided to register..

Now what i need help with isnt so much the circle casting or astral travel (though i would apreciate any information anyone could give me on these subjects) its more of a personal (now seeming very silly) problem that I have.. Around five years ago I tried to take my own life by overdosing on a mixture of a hundred or so pills and cocaine. It didnt work and I can honestly say that im happy im still here (though sometimes i question if im really still alive or in some other reality that people go to when they try to kill themselves.. heh doesnt seem likely though..) Anyway, I started homeschooling and this led to me not seeing other people much. Wich as I found out around a year ago also led to me having severe social anxiety. I do have friends and have had many friends since my bad choice long ago, however, Most of them only know me as a smoking buddy. I developed a love for pot even before I had tried to kill myself. Untill recently it was a huge part of my life and in my opinion one of the reasons it has been hard for me to grow out of old habits and leave the house. (I get very quiet and pretty dumb when im stoned wich doesnt lead to very interesting conversation)

Now, with all that said I quit smoking and am begining to be more serious about getting back into school/ getting a job. But It seems impossible to look people in the eyes or even talk without my face twitching, my body tightening up, and my breath becoming quick and shallow.. especially when facing attractive girls my own age (I understand being shy is normal, but its more than just being shy..) I also know that a good way to overcome this is to get out more (wich i have been doing) but its so draining that I become easily depressed and feel like giving up on myself.. I guess after all that what im asking for is help with anxiety, a spell/technique for confidance or to feel less vulnerable, less emotional even.. Im not sure what it will take but any helpful ideas that anyone out there has, please post... I just want to begin living a somewhat normal life. I am prepared to devote a very large amount of my time to trying to fix this problem as it consumes most of my time already.

Thanks for reading and again im sorry for the length, it just came out that way.

Rockprincess
April 19th, 2004, 05:03 PM
Wow, you sound like you know yourself very well, and that you are taking the right steps towards having a happier life! :hugz: Much light and energy sent for you - I'm sure you will be able to overcome your anxieties as soon as you realize what a strong person you are :) :huddle:

Faeawyn
April 19th, 2004, 05:29 PM
Time my friend....you're just going to have to heal with time. It'll get easier as you start getting around people more. Start small...walking around a Walmart....making occassional eye contact...move up to socializing with others.
Positive affirmations are a great self confidence booster. You probably learned that in your martial arts training. We're here for you to chat with and help you thru this :)

Laurelei
April 19th, 2004, 05:50 PM
Wow, that's really admirable. Feeling vulnerable, huh? I went through a similar thing when I was about eleven, I just started clammed up around people I didn't know, I fretted about my composure in public e.t.c. Positive thinking really helps, and as long as I think I'm looking good I'm okay.

Anyway, I still spend a lot of time observing other peoples reactions and have become some kind of psychological shrink to my friends (albeit VERY unofficially). Are you afraid of other people being in control of the situation? People I know who tend to feel vulnerable in public are always terrified of another person having control over them in any way. I am notoriously relaxed (except for my JT rant this evening) and never paranoid, because I am able to just go with the flow of whatever happens. To me, 'going with the flow' is just learning not to be afraid of new social situations.

Discovering Paganism was the kick start for me getting my mind back on track, and now I'm the most self-confident person I know. I can't quite remember exactly how it changed me, which is a shame. I'd write people a book if I could remember!

Anyway, if you're looking for a more... metaphysical way to help you stop feeling vulnerable, try these:
1. Regular meditation. Just learn to relax your mind and loosen your control a little. Try progressing into walking meditation.
2. Do some work with your Guardian Spirit. It might help if you feel that you're being protected.
3. If you feel threatened, imagine that you're standing inside a protective bubble of soothing light. It obviously won't do much physically, but it helps to calm you down.

I admit, this all sounds a bit cheesy, but it's just me being honest. I just have a (sort of) bad habit of analysing people's actions and reactions, and I've learnt quite a lot about it.

Good luck :).

Romani Vixen
April 19th, 2004, 07:04 PM
I agree with Faeawyn.

And meditation!!! Lots of it!

Kamikaze_Noob
April 19th, 2004, 09:19 PM
Wow, you sound like you know yourself very well, and that you are taking the right steps towards having a happier life! :hugz: Much light and energy sent for you - I'm sure you will be able to overcome your anxieties as soon as you realize what a strong person you are :) :huddle:

I apreciate your positive support, thank you :)

Kamikaze_Noob
April 19th, 2004, 09:46 PM
Time my friend....you're just going to have to heal with time. It'll get easier as you start getting around people more. Start small...walking around a Walmart....making occassional eye contact...move up to socializing with others.
Positive affirmations are a great self confidence booster. You probably learned that in your martial arts training. We're here for you to chat with and help you thru this :)

I smiled as I read the part of your post that mentioned walmart..
Usually I sit in the car listening to music while my mom shops,
but this time I decided to go in and get my own things as well as pay,
anyways it just struck me as a neat little coincidence.

Thanks for your advice! :)

Kamikaze_Noob
April 19th, 2004, 09:58 PM
Wow, that's really admirable. Feeling vulnerable, huh? I went through a similar thing when I was about eleven, I just started clammed up around people I didn't know, I fretted about my composure in public e.t.c. Positive thinking really helps, and as long as I think I'm looking good I'm okay.

Anyway, I still spend a lot of time observing other peoples reactions and have become some kind of psychological shrink to my friends (albeit VERY unofficially). Are you afraid of other people being in control of the situation? People I know who tend to feel vulnerable in public are always terrified of another person having control over them in any way. I am notoriously relaxed (except for my JT rant this evening) and never paranoid, because I am able to just go with the flow of whatever happens. To me, 'going with the flow' is just learning not to be afraid of new social situations.

Discovering Paganism was the kick start for me getting my mind back on track, and now I'm the most self-confident person I know. I can't quite remember exactly how it changed me, which is a shame. I'd write people a book if I could remember!

Anyway, if you're looking for a more... metaphysical way to help you stop feeling vulnerable, try these:
1. Regular meditation. Just learn to relax your mind and loosen your control a little. Try progressing into walking meditation.
2. Do some work with your Guardian Spirit. It might help if you feel that you're being protected.
3. If you feel threatened, imagine that you're standing inside a protective bubble of soothing light. It obviously won't do much physically, but it helps to calm you down.

I admit, this all sounds a bit cheesy, but it's just me being honest. I just have a (sort of) bad habit of analysing people's actions and reactions, and I've learnt quite a lot about it.

Good luck :).

Not sounding cheesy at all :) I dont know much about the guardian spirit and plan on looking into it. Im happy to see that I was right in looking for help here and I thank you for your advice.