How to conceive

[Kalika]

Ok... wasn't sure whether this went here or in health and beauty... so mods... if I put it in the wrong one... please move it. :) Thankies.

So... my SO and I want to have a baby. (Yes.... we do!)

Thus far... no luck. I know we haven't been trying all that long (3-4 months), but I would still like some advice.

Mommies and mommies to be, even daddies.... how did you get pregnant (besides the obvious :lol: ) Are there any tips or tricks that you have, and would suggest trying?

Let me know! :p

[Valkie]

Let's see... what was it that I did?? oh yes, not WANT to get pregnant!! :lol:

In all seriousness, I wasn't trying, but all of my boys were concieved during predicatable ovulation... I just screwed up on the timing (no pun intended). Most women will ovulate between 12-16 days after the first day of thier last menstration. Sperm can last/ survive in the woman's system for... I think it's 2-3 days. The egg will be viable for 1 day. So... jump into bed and pretend you're a rabbit :lol:

There are situations were the woman's Ph is off and it will prevent conception from occuring and, of coarse, there can be other problems too. If you were on oral birth control for a long period of time, it can take up to 6-8 months for you're system to regulate itself and begin ovulation again. You may want to contact your OB just to make sure... Most OB's like to be contacted before conception anyways.

[Kalika]

Thanks for the info. :)

[Autumn]

Chart your cycles! write down on a calender the first day of your period, each one you can remember...as many of them as you can...and figure out from first day to day before first day, how many days your cycles last...now...count backwards from the first day 14 days. if you have 28 day cycles that would be day 14, if your cycles are 30 days then it's probably day 16, OTOH if your cycles is only 25 days then the day I am talking about is day 11. This is the day you "probably" ovulated on. This day is the ideal day to make a baby...now if you know you did "it" on that day and no luck you need to get more technical...a digital thermometer and take your temp every blessed morning before you stir from that bed. what you are looking for is an increase in your basal body temprature of at least 0.8 degrees. write the temp down and look for trends, also note if you are ill and when you partook of indoor sports. Sometimes the phase between ovulation and period isn't 14 days...temp chrting will tell you if this is your special problem. In the vast majority of women it is 14 days...

Two books on the subject are Taking Charge of Your Fertility and Your Fertility Signs also I think there is a thread over in health and beauty on infertility that probably has a bunch of useful info in it.

Have fun trying to make babies!!!

[Autumn]

I forgot...when you finish having fun stay in bed for a spell,(30 minutes or so) maybe put a pillow under your fannie so you don't spill any spermies!

[Shanti]

My So and I used magick. I wasnt suppose to be able to have anymore..we had 2 more and right when we wanted them.
We designed our own magick which I feel is the best magick.

[Kalika]

Wow, thanks. :)

[Kalika]

My So and I used magick. I wasnt suppose to be able to have anymore..we had 2 more and right when we wanted them.
We designed our own magick which I feel is the best magick.
:lol:

And here I thought that was just a myth.


Oops, that reply w/ quote was supposed to be to Autumns 2nd post. :p

[Shanti]

:lol:

And here I thought that was just a myth.
No myth. When I first went to the obgyn, the first thing she said was .."did you use an artifical method to become pg?"
I got a big grin and said "natural method".

Now for me the problem was after 3 kids I had to have my right ovary and tube removed because of a cyst that recked everything.
The left ovary was suppose to make up for the loss of the right. It didnt. In fact I had gone sterial.
Anyhow after 20 yrs of no ovalating, I and my SO desided we wanted to try for 2 kids. We already knew what we were up against. So we used magick and bingo. 2 kids, 2 years apart. Magick for each kid.

[Amethyst Rose]

Yeah....James and I had kids by not wanting them too. Quintin wasn't planned. :) In fact, if anything caused him it was probably a really drunken night of sex coupled with 6 months of no birth control. :bigredblu Of course, I don't recommend the drunken part....
Seriously though, doctors say that on average it takes 6 months for a woman to get pregnant.

[Flutterby_whispers]

I 2nd the charting suggestion :) I've been charting for close to 8 years now ~ so if you need any help I'd be more than happy to tell you what I've come to know ~ It took me 2 yrs to get my first child, got pg w/ the twins right away, but now it's been 2yrs since we've tried to concieve our 4th and still nothing.

What's nice however, is to know what's going on w/ my body so that I can slowly fix it :)

I usually ovulate on cycle days 7-10 ~ every woman is going to be different, so it's best to find out when your most comon time to ovulate is and then plan on having fun that entire week, before, during, after O just to make sure :)

GL to you!

[Llewyth]

Check cervix and fluids. I got pregnant the day I said I was going to. Twice. I even decided what sex I wanted and that worked as well. I've never used any other method of birth control.

Some women have a window of fertility of only a few hours of one day, some women can be fertile for up to 4 days or more. Sperm can last up to 6 days (Ok that's not the usual) in fertile cervix fluids. It keeps them alive and nourishes them.

Both of you stock up in proteins get your man to eat foods rich in zinc. You should load up on rasberry leaf tea and yarrow. Drop the yarrow after your ovulation. Start again after your period.

[skye*]

I Pm' Ya Eariler, Alot Of Great Info About Conceiving :)

[Kelley]

I agree with the Natural Family Planning. I have been using it for 7 months now and after 6 years of being on Depo my body is starting to wake up (so are the cramps!). It is really simple to do. I haven't started to fully cycle yet, but I'm getting there. When I do I will finally know all the goodies my body has to tell me. With NFP you can do several different things (cervical mucus checks, temperature checks, and saliva ferning). Since my uterus and ovaries have been dozing for so long, I'm using all three until we get back on track.

Good luck, and don't try to get too stressed, that caused your body to get, or stay, out of whack.

Sasha

[Kalika]

:D Thanks to everyone... I'm going to try everything suggested... and we'll see how it goes!

[morrigen]

wow. I fell pregnant the very first time we tried.

Seriously. We decided to try...2 days later, I was pregnant. I used a home test kit on a silly whim, ad there it was!

Anyway, make sure you start takiing folate now, even before you concieve, and have your bloodwork done for iron levels etc.

Good luck!

[Mab]

I am in the exact same place, Sweetie! Seriously. Only been trying for 4 months, and am getting frustrated, but was on the pill for 7 years, so.......I have to learn patience, I suppose.

Good luck!!!

[MoonDust]

if you've only been trying for 4 months your still ok. it's just a matter of timing if that's the case. I once read about actually visualizong and seeing the baby your SO and you would create. I dunno how or if it works but it's woth a shot.

You're not termed infertile until you've tried for a year and are still unsuccesfull.

:hugz: goodluck getting that baby!

[CaitrionaMorgaine]

I would suggest visualization first, but that's always going to be my first suggestion. I'm also a big herbal charms person so I would also suggest that you make a charm and hang it on your bed (can't hurt, right?). Snakes can also represent fertility: I suggested that a friend of mine get a picture of one and place it under her mattress.

Some herbs I use in fertility blends are: red raspberry, red clover, rose hips, nettle, horsetail and patchouli.

Blessings, ~Rhiannon

[Llewyth]

I read something rather interesting lately....

Men release pheromes which have two properties. One of the hormones has the effect of calming women and putting them more at ease. The other actually, over time, changes the woman's cycle to match his peak fertility cycles. So, in other words, courtship really does have more significance than we think.

Maybe it's time for you two to take the time to fall in love all over again. Tell him to woo his lady and enjoy this time of not having to worry about contraceptives. See it as the perfect opportunity to express your sexuality to the utmost.

[Gwyndara]

The only advice I can give is patience, and after a year of trying then go see your doctor about various tests he/she can do.

[FeatherGoblinglimmer]

If you were on the pill, or the injection in can take a while for it to wear of completely. I'm not sure of exact times for the pill bu the injection takes about a year to fully leave your system.

[Erebus]

Just to make sure, since someone posted that article about the Russian couple over the weekend....

You're having sex, right? :D

[Mysticism Deity]

ours is kind of a weird. last January husband found out he was getting deployed. He knew I had been wanting a baby but he didnt want to have any right then. I prayed and prayed to have one. then he said if I get deployed I will get you pregnant. but I knew he wasnt serious. Well I was still on my cycle but I had stopped then couple days later was back on but it was light, and he well came in me and didnt t hink anything of it since hes done that before. I didnt find out I was pregnant till 2 months into it and he was gone by this time :( but he called me one day and I told him. then when I was 12 weeks along I found out we werenet having just 1 baby but 2!!! and that was a huge shocker to both of us. I never expected to have twins. He was happy but also scared cus he didnt really want to have babies right then. he wanted to wait till we were ready and he was home for it so I dont know why he told me he would do it. But I am happy he did. its something I have been wanting for a long time. He had to miss the whole pregnancy, birth and raising them for 7 months. I did that all alone. he did get to seem them after they were born. they let him come home for a month due to our boys being 2 months early so they had to stay in the hospital for awhile. (only 3 weeks) and he said he was happy he got me pregnant. just sad he had to miss it.

I think all my praying paid off and my goddess was waiting for the right time to give me what I have been praying for and blessed me with 2.

I told my husband becarful what you wish for cus when he said "ill get you pregnant if I get deployed" he meant to say that but he didnt mean to actually do it! haha.



I think its harder to conceive when you are trying cus your body is stressed even if you dont think realize it is. its a lot easier if you dont try cus your body is more relaxed. but that is all in my opinion.

[Mysticism Deity]

Just to make sure, since someone posted that article about the Russian couple over the weekend....

You're having sex, right? :D
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hahahhahahaha

I think it was german, but that was a funny story but sad at the same time.

[Autumn]

Yes the poor repressed couple was german...

How's it going Kalika?

[Temair]

I got pregnant the month I stopped my pills with my first two. My third we tried for almost a year, but we were very stressed at the time. My fourth decided to jump the gun and arrive a year earlier than we planned. I never went back on the pill after #3. I couldn't stand getting my period every other week, so I didn't bother. Now I'm on Depo-Provera (just started) so I won't have any more surprises.

[misschief]

i have four kids... yes ... FOUR. lol. i never tried to have any of them, they just were just there.... but i know that i (men, cover your eyes) ovulate almost in the exact middle of the end of one period and the beginning of the next... my doctor told me most women do... so maybe just try going at it like crazy around then? lol *shrug*

[Llewyth]

i have four kids... yes ... FOUR. lol. i never tried to have any of them, they just were just there.... but i know that i (men, cover your eyes) ovulate almost in the exact middle of the end of one period and the beginning of the next... my doctor told me most women do... so maybe just try going at it like crazy around then? lol *shrug*

:confused: Most women do? This a gyno that told you that? As far as I know, most women ovulate 14 days before the first day of their period. This is the case for me. I better know when I ovulate or I'd have 10 kids by now.

I've only used checking cervical fluids and cervix as birth control ever. First thing I did when I started having sex was plop myself down in the library and look up every book there was. Some women ovulate during their period, but they usually end up having another one 2 weeks later. And this is not the norm.