I'm confused, and know not what to do.

[KaimelarFeylove]

well some of you know that i'm in the Pagan Learning Circle, an online class where we learn the "basics" of wicca... yeah well tonight i suffered some nastly shocks, not concerning the class, but concering some personal life things i was involved in with the teacher, dealing with what she is.. and isnt.. but i'm really not at liberty to discuss the specifics in public forums...

anyway, atm i'm feeling a bit gullible and betrayed.. the class itsself is sperate form all this drama, but in my opinion, shes violated what she claims to belive... Basicly, she created a soap opera to entertain herself,, and we were acting without knowing the lines....

i think what got me the most was that she reminds me greatly of my mother, whom i've had trouble beliveing. I guess that shook me.

so now i dont really knwo what to do... should i quit the class? there had been a few other thingslately that have made me consider dropping it-Time mainly( busy, needing ajob)- so really this is just the end of a list...

tomorrow i think i will consult my runes about it, maybe they can help.

Bright blessings,
Kai

[Romani Vixen]

well... if you can't believe who you're learning from, how can you believe what you're learning?

[fireswimmer]

Religious teachers of any faith need to be able to act the part. If they can not follow what they claim to believe how can they have any credibility? I would definitely think of dropping the course. There are a lot of ways to learn the basics of Wicca. As soon as you start doubting character you know there is a problem.

I wish you every success and I am sorry that this had to happen
Fireswimmer

[skye*]

stay or go??

what would you be happier doing? R you ready to just drop what you are learning? Because if so than its been waisted energy. If i were you id stay, dont go into her drama read beyond it. You r there to learn, and in my opinion she might be just testing some of you. Teachers often trick us ya know, to see wich path we chose and how much weve learned. You might want to think about that.

MERRY BLESSINGS :)

[Jenett]

Seems like there are several different issues here.

It's hard to offer specific advice without knowing what happened, but it seems to me like there's three options here:

1) The teacher is a jerk, but you still feel you can learn things, and are willing to keep working with this teacher but pay close attention to what you get.

2) You don't feel you can work with this teacher anymore.

3) You've got concerns, and you've got other things you want to do with your time.

It's possible that your teacher is testing you, but given how you describe things, that sounds really unlikely. Testing or challenging in a teaching situation usually isn't something I'd describe as setting up a drama or a soap opera. There *are* ways to do it reasonably ethically, but this doesn't sound like that. (though, again, I can only go based on what you say).

What I'd suggest is looking at it this way: is what you're learning from the class sufficient reason for you to put up with the drama? If this is information you find *very* useful, and have had trouble finding anywhere else, you might want to stick it out but be careful about stuff going forward. (assuming that the stuff you're having problems with isn't actually harmful - more on that in a second.)

Or, you might decide that you have problems trusting this person any further as a teacher - again, you need to decide, based on your own ethics and the details.

You might want to take a look at http://www.wyrdweavers.org/files/cashi.html which is about unhealthy coven/teaching situations - the questions there may give you a better idea of exactly how unhealthy the situation really is or isn't.

It also depends on how much trust and reliability is important in what you're actually learning - generally, I think it's important to be able trust your teachers, and to assume that they're going to behave like reasonably mature adults (i.e. not go off on flights of ego)

However, there are occaisional cases if someone is teaching something very specific and important to you that you might want to make an exception - while taking steps to make sure you don't end up in the middle of the unpleasant part. Again, this is something that really depends on the specifics. Chances are, you'll have other opportunites to learn the same kinds of things in other places, sometime down the road.

[KaimelarFeylove]

well so far we've just earned the basics, for the most part stuff i knew already... but we're only about 2 months in.. a lesson a week,, she'll be doing the same class next year and i'm considering takeing it then if i do drop out...

I've all but made me desicion.. but as stated ealier, i would like to consult the powers that be about the best corse of action... school's just nto the best place for that...

[Pesha]

Consult your runes for sure. And then let me ask you this......What does your first instinct in the matter tell you. Go from there sweetheart.

BB
DS.

[blugirrl1]

well... if you can't believe who you're learning from, how can you believe what you're learning?
well said

[KaimelarFeylove]

well, just so you know.. i did quit.. maybe i can join next years class