Got Fired - Unsure Why?!

[LadyTrinity]

I’m pretty sad today. I was fired from babysitting today. Lisa dropped off Sarah this morning and she was all fine and stuff, then she said

“I am picking Sarah up for lunch. She wants to go to Salt N Peppers with me”.

So I was okay with that. Then she came back from Salt N Peppers and Sarah said:

“ Look Jenny I got you a cinnamon bun! ” She was all happy and she said “Jenny I love you and I want a kiss”.

Well everything was fine until 3 PM Lisa came back when she wasn’t supposed to be back until 5 PM. When I answered the door she said:

“ I’m picking up Sarah.”

I went and got Sarah’s bag. I asked her what was wrong.
She said:

“ Well I can’t force Sarah to come here if she doesn’t want to. “ Ever since you’ve been babysitting Sarah, she has become a belated little brat!”. “I’m taking her to my mother in laws from now on.”

I closed the door and went up stairs and cried for like 2 hours. It made me wonder what I did wrong? I don’t feel that Sarah is a brat because of me? She has always been a brat. I was so upset. To top it off she owned me 85$ and only paid me 65$
:sadman:

[Kimberlily]

You poor thing! I'm sure it isn't about you... sounds like she has issues...

Does she know you're Pagan? Maybe she found out and isn't comfortable with it... happens all the time, unfortunately :(

(((hugs)))

[WandererInGray]

Or maybe she just doesn't want to take responsibility for her own child's behavior. :rolleyes:

*hugs* Try not to take it personally, Hon. Some people are just jerks.

[Lunacie]

Maybe her mom-in-law will babysit for free? Send her a bill for what she still owes you dearling.

[Faeawyn]

I'm so sorry. Sounds like the mom just had some personal issues to deal with and didn't handle it well, and you had to suffer for it. :hugz:

[Dextra]

Or maybe she just doesn't want to take responsibility for her own child's behavior. :rolleyes:

*hugs* Try not to take it personally, Hon. Some people are just jerks.

Sounds about right to me. *nods*

[Shanti]

I think she has a prob...she prob is going for free care for her kid but doesnt know how to be honest.

[MystAngel]

I think the mom sounds sort of jealous... it sounds like the child enjoys your company and likes you quite a bit. Perhaps she's better for you than she is for the mother and the mother is jealous of your relationship with her? Just a thought.. I don't know the situation except for your posting. All that matters in the end is that the child is cared for by someone who does care... I hope you are ok, and don't hold on to the hurt too long... regards, Myst

[David]

“ Look Jenny I got you a cinnamon bun! ” She was all happy and she said “Jenny I love you and I want a kiss”.
:sadman:

I think MystAngel hit the nail on the head. :hugz:

[Rowan MoonDragon]

I agree with MystAngel and David. Sounds like mom's a bit jealous. I"m sorry sweetie. I know its hard, but try not to let it bother you. The mom has the problem.

[Ravens_Tears]

Did you have a contract with her? That's a pretty crappy trip she pulled on you! I tend to agree with the majority here that she sounds jealous.

If she does come back to you later on (if whatever it is falls through she has for babysitting) and you decide to take pity on her...
Make her pay you what she owes you first. Make her pay you up front for any other babysitting and make her sign a contract of service if she wants care more than once and awhile. And if she cancels on you or anything tell her you have a "three strikes and you're out" policy.

Yes, I realize that sounds pretty harsh but sometimes you have to put your foot down. The kind of deception she pulled really irks me...

[Mab]

I think the mom sounds sort of jealous... it sounds like the child enjoys your company and likes you quite a bit. Perhaps she's better for you than she is for the mother and the mother is jealous of your relationship with her? Just a thought.. I don't know the situation except for your posting. All that matters in the end is that the child is cared for by someone who does care... I hope you are ok, and don't hold on to the hurt too long... regards, Myst

Jealousy is EXACTLY what it sounds like to me. I just had a similar situation happen to me. My bf's daughter's mother just freaked b/c Baby Girl said my name to her mom. She usually says it in that "gee, I really like her, she's cool" sort of semi-excited way 2yos do when they like somebody. Now, her mom knows she's with me every weekend & sometimes during the week when she's w/her dad, but her mom freaked just the same & bawled my bf out for having HER daughter around "that woman."

Some moms just can't handle their kids liking or caring for or loving anyone else. Don't take it personal, honey. You didnt' do anything wrong. Mom has issues. ((hugs))

[WynterWynd]

Thats awful!!! What a rude way to go about somehting like that. Sounds like someone has a stick placed...you know where.

Send her a bill for what she still owes you.

I feel sorry for the little one being used in what sounds like a 'power game' in the mothers head.

Good luck to you sweetie, :hugz: I hope you feel better about this soon.

And if you do take her back as a babysitting client, I would make her pay up front too. No 'running a tab'

[Autumn]

Oh hon, just don't take it personal. It is the Mom and not you... :hugz:

[Felidae]

I'm so sorry. Sounds like the mom just had some personal issues to deal with and didn't handle it well, and you had to suffer for it. :hugz:
I'm with Faewyn here: My immediate thought was that Mom-In-Law has made it known that she wants to be more involved...

That and the fact that it's free can be hard to pass up. I wouldn't take it personally.

But it's a shame that she can't/won't be more forthcoming.

[LadyTrinity]

Yep. Kinda hit me quicker than I saw it coming. She never had a problem with me before. It was pretty sudden. I am not sure if she figured out what my pentacle pendant meant. I never thought to remove it when I was babysitting. :huh:

[Yasmine Galenorn]

I think the mom sounds sort of jealous... it sounds like the child enjoys your company and likes you quite a bit. Perhaps she's better for you than she is for the mother and the mother is jealous of your relationship with her? Just a thought.. I don't know the situation except for your posting. All that matters in the end is that the child is cared for by someone who does care... I hope you are ok, and don't hold on to the hurt too long... regards, Myst

That was kind of my thought too. I'm sorry, and hope you weather this without too much grief.

Yasmine :colorful:

[Tabby]

I think MystAngel hit the nail on the head. :hugz:


Originally Posted by MystAngel
I think the mom sounds sort of jealous... it sounds like the child enjoys your company and likes you quite a bit. Perhaps she's better for you than she is for the mother and the mother is jealous of your relationship with her? Just a thought.. I don't know the situation except for your posting. All that matters in the end is that the child is cared for by someone who does care... I hope you are ok, and don't hold on to the hurt too long... regards, Myst



I agree as well this is the first thing that entered my mind! Hug for you!

[Pesha]

My goodness. Ok this is how I see it and oh yes sorry I am late on this........She the mother of Sarah wanted to get out of paying for a sitter and so she made you feel bad and took her child to her MIL. What a nasty woman I must say.

BB
DS.

[Nighthawk]

Ummm.... Good Riddance..the mom, not the kid... I doubt you did anything...

[skatha_mare]

[QUOTE=

“ Well I can’t force Sarah to come here if she doesn’t want to. “ Ever since you’ve been babysitting Sarah, she has become a belated little brat!”. “I’m taking her to my mother in laws from now on.”

:sadman:[/QUOTE]

What it sounds like to me is what happened when my mother was babysittiing my two little cousins. When they were angels for my mother they were hell on wheels for my aunt, and vice versa. My aunts pediatrician explained that her children are so comfortable with her that they feel free to act out. If Sarah was not as comfortable with you, or even if she were very good all day, she would be more likely to act out with mom. You add in the possibility of free childcare with M-i-l and ther you go- the perfect excuse (not that I agree with how the woman handled it).

Sooo, don't feel bad and use it as a learning experience.