Question for Guys and those with Male Significant Others (ie. Boyfriends, Husbands)

[Myst]

Ok, my fiance can NEVER be on time and can NEVER let me know when he's going to be late. We've had the same argument over and over and everytime he's promised to call next time and let me know what's going on but he NEVER does.

My mom says my dad is the same way, as does every girl I know who has a boyfriend or husband.

Is it possible for a man to give his SO a call when he's going to be late or am I just going to have to learn to live with it?

:D

[Danustouch]

LOL..honey..if he hasn't learned it by now...he never will. Case and point...

For the last week or so, i've been waking up to smell cigarrette smoke in my house. I've just quit, and am having a hard time. I've begged, pleaded, and yelled, at my hubby NOT to smoke in the house. Still he does it. Today..I asked (actually..TOLD) him again. He says.."Ok. Tomorrow, I'll put a fan in the window, and aim it outside, so it sucks all of the smoke out of the house. Ok?".

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

[Myst]

Awww Danustouch that sux :mad:

What I hate the most is "ok honey I will next time, I'm really sorry" and he gets this pouty face and everything... then he does it AGAIN

blah!

[Dellit Tandannon]

yes, we men are great! aren't we?

[ladyrowan]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
yes, we men are great! aren't we?

well.......no comment! 8O

[Wyrdsister]

*blush*

I'm actually the one that's always late and apologizing. I guess lateness is not completely split along gender lines. ... unless, of course, there is something about myself I'm not aware of... ?? ;)

Wyrdsister

[Dellit Tandannon]

lol, isn't "no comment" actually a comment?
and men kick ass sometimes and suck other times, but
women always suck! :p

Sarcasm!

[Myst]

I know it was going to get to a male vs female type thread.

What I meant is that a lot of the men I know do it, so I was wondering if all do. I'm not saying all do or that men are evil or anything else, yeesh.

..Willow did not start the man bashing..

[ladyrowan]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
lol, isn't "no comment" actually a comment?
and men kick ass sometimes and suck other times, but
women always suck! :p


:eek: 8O

OK, I'll elaborate - men are great as friends, sons, fathers, etc, but partners? I've given up on that! hehe

BB

[rain]

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"OK, I'll elaborate - men are great as friends, sons, fathers, etc, but partners? I've given up on that!"


All I can say is ditto!!!

[Swanspirit]

or another concept with which I am not familar ??
ahh welll
HUGS from my time to yours
Swannie

[Dellit Tandannon]

heh, i've recently realized that, with newly developed scientific procedures, it truely is possible for the human race to continue without a single man participating. this thought frightens me. please don't kill me, i love you. :D

and as i noted before, i was being 100% sarcastic!

[Myst]

Pagan Standard Time = the favourite excuse of all my friends when they're late every single time we get together.

When I'm late it is invariably because I run around getting all ready to be on time, then stop and look over and my SO is still sitting in front of his computer staring and looking bugeyed and usually hasn't even showered yet. My excuse is Matthew Standard Time.

None of my friends believe me but I swear it's true.

[SimplyStrange]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
heh, i've recently realized that, with newly developed scientific procedures, it truely is possible for the human race to continue without a single man participating. this thought frightens me. please don't kill me, i love you. :D

and as i noted before, i was being 100% sarcastic!

Teehee! I heard on NPR that they've been researching that in Australia or something and that they've begun to find ways to reproduce without men! It's crazy! Teehee, but what are they gonna' do when the babies they make are male?? hehehe Some women in this world...I'm a female and I hardly understand them sometimes...hehe

~SS~

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
heh, i've recently realized that, with newly developed scientific procedures, it truely is possible for the human race to continue without a single man participating. this thought frightens me. please don't kill me, i love you. :D

and as i noted before, i was being 100% sarcastic!

:cool: ....busy e-mailing this to all Lesbians and other Women
everywhere!;) :D :p hehehe8O :bad: 8O

[Dellit Tandannon]

NPR?!?!?! as in WNYC, the classical station with the awesome new segment in the morning?!?!?!?! i listen to that every day!


heh, can you tell i like that station?

[SimplyStrange]

Me too! I listen to it everyday too. My dad got me listening to it, cuz he listens to it every morning when he's taking me to the bus stop, and I got hooked...

~SS~

[Mairwen]

Originally posted by WillowRaven
Is it possible for a man to give his SO a call when he's going to be late or am I just going to have to learn to live with it?


Yes it is. My SO was totally imposssible about telling me when he was going ot be doing something ~ and we have lived in the same house for six years!:rolleyes: Finally, I told him if he couldn't give me the same common courtesy he gave his friends, family and co-workers, he could move out and tell me goodbye. Things are much, much more peaceful around here now.:D

[Dellit Tandannon]

in defense, we really do hear you, we just generally don't care :p :D 8O

[SimplyStrange]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
in defense, we really do hear you, we just generally don't care :p :D 8O

Oh that's real comforting!! 8O Sometimes you guys frustrate us, but we love you anyway!!

~SS~

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by SimplyStrange


Oh that's real comforting!! 8O Sometimes you guys frustrate us, but we love you anyway!!

~SS~

Why? :confused: :rolleyes: :p

[Earth Walker]

I ain't a guy, thank Goddess. :)

[Sephiroth]

Originally posted by Dellit Tandannon
yes, we men are great! aren't we?

:D :D :D :D :D :D :D right on brother:D :D :D :D :D :D

[SimplyStrange]

Originally posted by Mystique


Why? :confused: :rolleyes: :p

I meant all the GUYS frustrate women....from a woman's point of view..

[evilslinkycat]

Originally posted by WillowRaven
Ok, my fiance can NEVER be on time and can NEVER let me know when he's going to be late. We've had the same argument over and over and everytime he's promised to call next time and let me know what's going on but he NEVER does.

My mom says my dad is the same way, as does every girl I know who has a boyfriend or husband.

Is it possible for a man to give his SO a call when he's going to be late or am I just going to have to learn to live with it?

:D

Learn to live with it8O . I've been married for 7 years now, and my hubby is the same way most of the time. Yes there have been a few times when he has called and said he is runing late or whatever, but those are few and far between.;)

Its a guy thing..... I think


runing in circles laughing

[Xois]

mine is neurotically ON TIME and WILL call if he is giong to be late...no matter what...

[clef0628]

I'm Male, and always get to places 5 to 10min a head of time. I have always been that way. But, I'm not the typical male either.

[slvr_phoenix]

I have to agree with you Clef. I'm always on time if not early. My watch is even set ten minutes fast so that even if I'm just barely on time, I'm still early. **ROFL**

And I always try to call my wife or email her to tell her if I'm going to be late. It's not my fault though if sometimes I happen to be in the middle of a half-hour long meeting that ended up running two hours and I can't exactly just get up and say, "Forget you guys, I'm going home.", and leave when my boss and his boss are both participating in the meeting. That would kind of look bad, and job security is kind of an important thing...

But then I'm not a typical man anyway. Maybe it's more a learned behavioral pattern which I was never taught (since I hardly ever had a father) than a genetic disorder.

[bluecat]

I don't know, maybe it's in the water.
:eek:
Blue

[Mariposa De La Luna]

Me and my husband both do it. Of course we've always had kids so we have no idea if that would change when they are out of the house.

[Yvonne Belisle]

When we are going out anywhere Naillosotarrain is great we are never late. The only time there is an occassional problem is when he's out with buddies about 30% of the time he forgets to call the other 70% he calls.:D

[Mooncrow]

I for one male, am NEVER late, and if I'm running behind at the office due to business I call home and let my wife know. I'm the only smoker in the house but I never smoke indoors at home I go out on the porch. I know many people who are "late " people and it drives me up the wall. However males as a rule are a bit less considerate of others IMHO.

Not that I'm perfect (but I'm working on it ;)) I am not a tidy person, I don't have a compulsion for putting things away before I get out other stuff. I'm impulsive, I am always having ask people to repeat questions if I'm doing something else, and I have the most terrible habit of trying to take center stage in any conversation.


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Mooncrow

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by Mooncrow
I for one male, am NEVER late, and if I'm running behind at the office due to business I call home and let my wife know. I'm the only smoker in the house but I never smoke indoors at home I go out on the porch. I know many people who are "late " people and it drives me up the wall. However males as a rule are a bit less considerate of others IMHO.

Not that I'm perfect (but I'm working on it ;)) I am not a tidy person, I don't have a compulsion for putting things away before I get out other stuff. I'm impulsive, I am always having ask people to repeat questions if I'm doing something else, and I have the most terrible habit of trying to take center stage in any conversation.


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Mooncrow

Hey! My S.O. is like that. What A Woman! :cool: :D 8O

[Myst]

Originally posted by Weaverz
Learn to live with it8O . I've been married for 7 years now, and my hubby is the same way most of the time. Yes there have been a few times when he has called and said he is runing late or whatever, but those are few and far between.;)


We "discussed it" last nite. Apparently he's never had a girlfriend/SO who cared where he was and what he was doing when he was late - even the one he lived with for 3 years.. well she was a special case indeed :rolleyes:

He just can't see why it matters to me - and I keep telling him I care about him and worry about him... he thought it was because I thought he was fooling around!? It's like, no, your significant other is SUPPOSED to care about you you know....

And Dellit, I know you were teasing, but the day my SO says that to me ("I hear you, I just don't care") or a certain few other comments ("No, I'm putting my foot down" or "I'm the man of the house") is the day his @$$ hits the curb :)

[slvr_phoenix]

Wow. Not even the couch, just straight to the curb. I'm impressed. They sure breed women strong these days. That's a pretty good distance to kick a man. You must have strong thighs or something. I bet there are plenty of cultures that could have used strong women like that instead of the little dainty things in big poofy dresses. :)

[Myst]

Well.... we live on the corner... there's a curb a few feet from the building.... *ponders* lol

[story]

well, I am always late, but I've never attributed it to my gender. I've always thought it had more to do with my being a total space cadet.
example: it is five minutes before i have to leave for work. I am dressed, my stuff is in order, I am ready to go be unhappy for the day. Then, I pick upthe paper, read the front page, the editorials, the funnies, do the chess problem, look up and realize that its noon. oops.
thankfully my SO is about as bad as I am, so there isn't much tension about it.
later,
story

[bloodstone20]

Hmm, well i am not a man yet, so i can still be on time and ask for directions and listen to women when they tell me what to do :).

[Kaylara]

Originally posted by slvr_phoenix
Wow. Not even the couch, just straight to the curb. I'm impressed. They sure breed women strong these days. That's a pretty good distance to kick a man. You must have strong thighs or something. I bet there are plenty of cultures that could have used strong women like that instead of the little dainty things in big poofy dresses. :)

I'm one of those dainty looking things (no poofy dresses though)
At 105 lbs, and being 5'4", people don't think I could do any damage... LMAO!
I tell you though, he starts saying crap like that to me, and he won't know what the Hades hit him...

Kaylara

[Kaylara]

Originally posted by story
well, I am always late, but I've never attributed it to my gender. I've always thought it had more to do with my being a total space cadet.
example: it is five minutes before i have to leave for work. I am dressed, my stuff is in order, I am ready to go be unhappy for the day. Then, I pick upthe paper, read the front page, the editorials, the funnies, do the chess problem, look up and realize that its noon. oops.
thankfully my SO is about as bad as I am, so there isn't much tension about it.
later,
story
LMAO! That's great! I've done that too.

Kaylara

[bloodstone20]

Originally posted by WillowRaven

("I'm the man of the house") is the day his @$$ hits the curb :)
My dad told me that. I laughed until there were tears in my eyes.

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by Kaylara


I'm one of those dainty looking things (no poofy dresses though)
At 105 lbs, and being 5'4", people don't think I could do any damage... LMAO!
I tell you though, he starts saying crap like that to me, and he won't know what the Hades hit him...

Kaylara

ooooooooooo...........be still my beating heart:heartthro ;) 8O



Curiosity killed the Cat.
Satisfaction brought her back.:)

[Kaylara]

I love you too Mystique!
:D ;) 8O :bigredgri :cool: :eek:

Kaylara

[Earth Walker]

hehehehehehe :D :bad:


She who is NOT to be interrupted!

[eaglewolf]

My wife is late for everything...

...so, I am still of the mind that it has nothing to do with gender, just people. Of course there is always going to be someone to start crap over it somewhere.

That's life. Enjoy!

;)

~ew

[Lilu]

Originally posted by eaglewolf
My wife is late for everything...

...so, I am still of the mind that it has nothing to do with gender, just people.

I completely agree -ew. The WORST people for being late, who I know are ALL FEMALE! Take for instance my mother-in-law and her daughter. We all plan to meet at a certain time at a certain place, we always get there early, they always show up late. Happens every time!

I keep saying that one of these days I'm going to tell THEM to be there by 11am, and tell US to be there by 1pm. And maybe we'll all arrive on time at noon? LOL

Lilu

[Dellit Tandannon]

kaylara is strong! i have the dent in my face (where she kicked me) to prove it. hehehe, i can't resist tickling really ticklish people, its just too much fun :D