Too old..????....PROBLEM!!!!!

[Kyra Kismet]

Last night I was at the pub and started chatting to this guy, I have seen him around but I've never spoken to him, we got on quite well and soon we were kissing (the guy used too much toungue..ick) Well moving on we went outside and my friends saw us, when I went to talk to them they said 'Why are you kissing scary boy?' This confused me so I asked why they said that! It turns out he's 24 (he looks REALLY young..about 16) and that he likes younger girls, I had told him that i was 17 and he didn't seem to have a probablem with it! But my friend Rachel told me that about 3 weeks ago he was seen kissing a 14 year old! He asked me to be his girlfriend......WHAT DO I DO!!!!!

[Phoenix Blue]

Depends on whether or not you want to see him put in jail for statutory rape.

Honestly, you're probably better off dating someone who's closer to your own age--and someone who's not going to dump you for a "younger woman" first chance he gets.

[Kyra Kismet]

In the UK at 16 you can sleep with anyone of any age and its not rape unless its without consent! I usually go for older guys! The oldest Ive dated was 26! so.........Grr Im confused! I like him but.......... :ack:

[Avalon]

Yikes. I'd say no. I can forsee all sorts of bad endings to this one.

[Felidae]

Depends on whether or not you want to see him put in jail for statutory rape.

Honestly, you're probably better off dating someone who's closer to your own age--and someone who's not going to dump you for a "younger woman" first chance he gets.
I'm with PB all the way on this one: Seems the guy has a pattern/thing with young ones, and the only conclusion I see is your eventual "aging out"...

There are too many guys who want a girl for herself and not her age range to settle for one like this.

[RubyRose]

I've always liked the older guy scenario too, I would say seven years is a bit too much of an age gap, ofcourse a friend of mine is dating, and has been for about 4 years, a guy whose 9 years older, so I can't really say anything on the topic of age gaps. One word of advice though. Be careful ... he might just leave you for a younger girl ...

[Kyra Kismet]

I dunno! i thinks he dates younger girls cause he looks sooo young! I mean if I was 24 and he came up to me I'd ask him 'Shouldn't you be at school or something'....I feel kinda sorry for him! :rolleyes:

[FaerieGothMommy]

Me personally would not date him.... Don't mean to sound rude or nasty, but i'd think he was a bit dodgy, 24 years old and kissing a 14 year old!!! :noway:
Sorry, but that to me is just wrong... and i'd probably stay away from him.

[mucgwyrt]

I've done it (the age dif I mean). Bottom line is, if its not a problem for you, then its not a problem.

[Deranged Hermit]

The way I see it is, the fact that you're 17 and he's 24 isn't the problem. This particular guy sounds like a creep. I don't think he'd seek out young girls just because he looks young. Please be careful! :hugz:

[Nighthawk]

umm, run fast. Run far.

[mucgwyrt]

The way I see it is, the fact that you're 17 and he's 24 isn't the problem. This particular guy sounds like a creep. I don't think he'd seek out young girls just because he looks young. Please be careful! :hugz:

Perhaps he has a mental-age to match (I'm so funny :crylaugh: )

[Kyra Kismet]

Tell you the truth when I started to chat him up I though I was the one doing something wrong by chatting up some kid! :hehehehe:

[Felidae]

This is going to sound harsh, but if I were you I'd worry about the ramifications of being drug into an investigation when (not if, when) the guy gets reported for statutory. Or worse.

I'm not saying he's a psycho, but still. FGM was right when she said the guy sounded dodgy.

Anyway, John Wayne Gacy seemed like a lovely guy, too.

[David]

Ok, I'm ten years older then my wife. I flirt with gals who are younger then me all the time... But I don't even flirt with girls who are not yet adults, much less kiss them. I agree with the assement that 24 with 17 isn't too bad, especially when the guy is older... <us guys seem to mature slower in case you hadn't noticed... :shhhh: :lol:> But I also agree that this guy has issues if he's into 14 year olds. As I said I'm ten years older then my wife... but I met her when she was 20... If I had met her when she was only 14... ick... Just think about when you where 14 hun. I'm sure you've grow a LOT in those 3 years. The teen years is when we do most of our emotional growing up <though it is a never ending process>. That is why the age difference is a bigger issue the younger the people involved are. Now I know I'm speaking in generalizations here. Some folks mature faster <or slower> then others. But lines need to be drawn somewhere. This guy to my mind at least crosses line. The best case scenerio for you here would be that you out grow him... the worse case is that he'll hurt you... emotionally or even physically. I don't think any good can come of this for you. Walk away and never look back hon.

[DianaStormDancer]

The way I see it is, the fact that you're 17 and he's 24 isn't the problem. This particular guy sounds like a creep. I don't think he'd seek out young girls just because he looks young. Please be careful! :hugz:

Here here I agree! Honey I don't have a hang up on the age thingy....as long as both are 'legal' consenting peeps then age is irrelevant, but this one sounds a bit creepy to me.....just be careful and follow your instincts. :smoochypo

[Kyra Kismet]

I dunno! i don't think he could hurt me physically! I mean hes only a few inches taller then me and slim whereas Im quite well built, I do martial arts and go to the gym so I don't think he could hurt me! My friends have said that my parents would freak! But I don't htink they will!.....

[Phoenix Blue]

It's not so much a question of him hurting you physically, I think, as it is a question of what else he may have done besides just kiss 14-year-old girls.

It's obvious your mind isn't made up on this, or you wouldn't be asking us, which in turn means that some part of you feels this whole situation isn't right. Trust us--listen to that and go with it. :)

[Kyra Kismet]

WHY CAN'T I ATTRACT NORMAL PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!
:bangyourh :bangyourh :bangyourh :bangyourh :bangyourh :bangyourh
:meanface: :meanface: :meanface: :meanface: :meanface: :meanface:
:scream: :scream: :scream: :scream: :scream: :scream: :scream:

[David]

Like I said him with you isn't THAT bad... but him with a 14 year old IS bad... The issue most of us have here hun is that we don't trust a 24 year old that would make out with a 14 year old. This isn't him being a "bad" boy hun.... It's him being a sick puppy. Please, please, please stay away from him... I don't even know you that well Kyra, but this has me worried sick. I am not someone who claims to have any ability to sense anything is going to happen, but my gut, experience and logic tell me this guy is bad news... please hun walk away... :imout:

[Kyra Kismet]

The thing is the girls who told me this are always bitching about him! He used to date thier mate and then he dumped her, I was told it was because she drinks to much, but they said it was because she laughed at his.....um....down there bits!!! :bigredblu

I don't know what to belive!!

[nomadicdragon]

In the UK at 16 you can sleep with anyone of any age and its not rape unless its without consent! I usually go for older guys! The oldest Ive dated was 26! so.........Grr Im confused! I like him but.......... :ack:


From experience, you should really be more careful when dating older men... there's a lot at 16 and 17 that you don't know that he knows at 24.. just my thoughts on it...

[djmixon]

My two cents. . .

I was married to a man who was 12 years older than me. One of the things I found out during therapy after the abuse and the divorce was that typically men who are trolling for younger women are looking for a relationship they can control When they get a young girl/woman, they can easily control and manipulate the situation - lots of reasons this is true, won't go into that now. Once the young girl/woman becomes more mature and cannot be manipulated or controlled anymore, the man does one of several things - isolate her from her friends and family, get her pregnant, abuse her, cheat on her, leave her; usually all and in that order, but perhaps not. My ex did all of the above, except I did the leaving.

Bottom line - if you choose to be with him, keep your eyes open and pay attention to the nuances of his behavior. If you find yourself with little freedom and time without him, then it may not be a great as you hoped. And, getting pregnant NEVER helped save a relationship. Also, remember that NO ONE can or should change another person. If you find yourself changing or you have to start making excuses for his behavior, it is time to walk/run away. If you ever find yourself abdicating your rights or your life because of his temper or you are unsure how he will react to something (anger) then it is time to move on. There are many other warnings. . .

The unfortunate reality is that these things may happen and you may not see it until it is too late. If your friends are telling you things that they see and you don't see it. . .remember who you have known longer. . .it is easier to see things from the outside than it is when you are inside.

Oh, and him looking younger just makes it easier for him to predate on girls. . .the 14 year old is a perfect example of why I think this guy is a pedophile.

He apparently has an issue with the truth, too. . .he didn't tell you how old he was, even after he had his tongue down your throat. . .that is a red flag, too.

As for him being skinny and not looking like he could hurt you. . .I outweighed my ex by 50+ pounds. . .he is just really thin. . . he still nearly killed me.

It is ultimately your choice, but I think you should date someone closer to your age. . .older to you should be 19 or 20.

Blessings,

Donna

[Kyra Kismet]

He told me how old he was before we kissed! Maybe I didn't make that clear!....thanks for your input!.....mwah!

[Kyra Kismet]

The 'friends' thats told me.....aquaintences would probably describe them better! :meanface:

[Phoenix Blue]

Okay - Kyra, are you going to think with your brain or your hormones, here?

A 24-year-old who goes after minors is Bad News - especially if he goes after girls 10 years younger than him! If you don't want to believe anyone here, that's fine; but don't come back later and try to say we didn't warn you.

[Kyra Kismet]

Theres no need to be mean.........:sadman:

[Felidae]

I don't think anyone is trying to be mean. Blunt isn't always pleasant but sometimes it is necessary.

Seems to me you already know there's a problem. Else why even ask?

It's up to you, but as my own girl is going to be 18 Saturday I've not said a thing to you I wouldn't to her (and that she doesn't already know, even if she won't admit it to herself).

[djmixon]

I don't think he PB is trying to be mean. . .I don't think any of us are. . .it just seems like you are already making excuses for his behavior and it sounds like you have already made up your mind to date him. . .

I think PB is just frustrated. . .right PB?

[Kyra Kismet]

My stepmom and me talked about it and she thought it was funny! My dad is 10 years older than my stepmom (trust me...she in charge)! And I think that my parents always knew that i would date older guys!........I dunno, maybe I have already decided......then again..... :gagged:

[Phoenix Blue]

I don't think he PB is trying to be mean. . .I don't think any of us are. . .it just seems like you are already making excuses for his behavior and it sounds like you have already made up your mind to date him. . .

I think PB is just frustrated. . .right PB?
**Shrugs and smiles** Maybe a little. It's hard to watch someone decide to place herself at the mercy of someone who is a bit off his rocker at the very least, and a sexual predator at worst. And it makes me wonder why she asked in the first place, if she's going to just turn around and ignore everyone's good advice. . . for what?

[Phoenix Blue]

My dad is 10 years older than my stepmom (trust me...she in charge)!
And was your stepmother 14 when your dad decided to pursue her?

[Kyra Kismet]

No she was 17 and my babysitter!.....put that in your pipe and smoke it! :lilangel:

[David]

Kyra,
You know in your head we are giving you good advice... your back peddling already to make excuses for him... "well they arn't REALLY my friends...". Hon, I know your lonely and want to feel loved, and in love. But please don't let your aching heart cause you to make a bad decission. Better an aching heart than a broken one. Look at what has been said to you, and look at yourself... your protecting him and making excuses already...

[Phoenix Blue]

No she was 17 and my babysitter!.....put that in your pipe and smoke it! :lilangel:
:geez: Well, that explains a lot.

[Kyra Kismet]

What do you mean...they are happily married for 10 years, she most defintitly in charge in the relationship! they are one of the happiest couples I know!!!!!!!! :razz:

[Phoenix Blue]

What I mean is, for better or worse, you've learned from your father's behavior that it's okay for men to chase after much younger women. But I'll say this: your stepmother was at least legal by British law. A fourteen-year-old is not, and it would take someone who has severe self-esteem problems at the very least to pursue a 14-year-old for a sexual relationship.

I'm tired of beating this dead horse. Do what you will.

[David]

Kyra... your 17... would you make out with a 14 year old boy? That's only three years difference... how about 10 year old boy? When you think about that... think about the type of guy that WOULD make with a 14 year old when he was 24! If you STILL think you want to date him... :sadman: Then I have to agree with PB... your asking for the pain... and I am still worried about your physical safety. I'm not trying to be chauvinistic here, but most guys can physically dominate most gals... testerone is a b!tch.

[Kyra Kismet]

Your all right but Ive gotta make my own mistakes! But don't worry I'll be careful and keep ypu all up to date! Thankyou all sooooooo much! :smoochypo
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Ahautenites]

**whistles** Man... I'm 27 as of June, but just thinking about any guy younger than 23 in a romantic way makes me want to hurl at the skeeviness of it.

Hey, Kyra.....? Why are you asking the people on this site for their advice? Why don't you ask your dad and mom what they have to say about it? If you're afraid to broach this subject with them, then you have your answer about whether it's right or wrong.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I agree, he doesn't sound like a good guy.

[Kyra Kismet]

Just wanted to see if you guys wanted to give any advice! Your opinions really do matter to me! More than you know! :chattin: :smoochypo

[Earthy]

I've been out with two guys who were 12 years older than me.
The last one mentally abused me for 3 years and made me feel like nothing.
I just want you to be careful,believe me mental abuse is just as bad as physical and he doesn't need to be big to do it...so i have to say i agree with Phoenix Blue.
Please think it through carefully :hugz:

[Shanti]

Mental maturity has nothing to do with the number of age. If 2 people are mentally mature enough for the relationship then age doesnt matter.

[Ahautenites]

I does in the eyes of the law....

[Bainidhe Dub]

I'm sorry, but you're looking at getting into a whole lot of trouble if you go with this guy. That's all there is to it.

Sure, you're young.. you have to learn from your mistakes.... But trust me, this is NOT one of the mistakes you want to make. PB and all of us are only giving you our opinions, which you may or may not take to heart - this is because we know that this is something you will to look back on later and say "I wish I hadn't."

Take the advice. If you don't, well... not much we can do.

[Antoninus]

Last night I was at the pub and started chatting to this guy, I have seen him around but I've never spoken to him, we got on quite well and soon we were kissing (the guy used too much toungue..ick) Well moving on we went outside and my friends saw us, when I went to talk to them they said 'Why are you kissing scary boy?' This confused me so I asked why they said that! It turns out he's 24 (he looks REALLY young..about 16) and that he likes younger girls, I had told him that i was 17 and he didn't seem to have a probablem with it! But my friend Rachel told me that about 3 weeks ago he was seen kissing a 14 year old! He asked me to be his girlfriend......WHAT DO I DO!!!!!
Run like hell. When you hit about 20, thats when age really doesnt matter. I know girls here that will go out with a 25 year old. Its just, a MUCH smarter idea to go out with someone your own age bracket

[Faeawyn]

My concern is that you make out with the guy one night in a bar, and now he wants you to be his girlfriend?? It takes time to get to know someone before asking them something like that. That creeps me out the most :shaker:

[Lilith79]

From what I can feel on this one-RUN AWAY FAST. You'll regret it if you don't.

[Nighthawk]

That's what I said...

[Xeen]

Oh my god... you started KISSING him in ONE NIGHT?!

What's this world coming too?

Oh, and he sounds like bad news to me.

[charmedkisses1]

In the UK at 16 you can sleep with anyone of any age and its not rape unless its without consent! I usually go for older guys! The oldest Ive dated was 26! so.........Grr Im confused! I like him but.......... :ack:
Not if he "likes it with younger girls.." It's a fetish, not boyfriend material. Sorry.

[Lilith79]

That's what I said...
I didn't see your post!! Great minds..... :boing: :drinking:

[Pesha]

Hmmm 24 as oppossed to 17. In my old crone eyes I guess that is too old for me. He sounds a bit odd actually.

BB
DS.

[aluokaloo]

I've done some pretty crazy things and I've gone out with guys older then me, come to think of it, I think we have all done the underage overage thing once or twice, just do what you feel is best, its not really that uncommon for people in their 20's to date teens, when I was 18 I dated guys from the ages of 15 to 36. I just hope some "well-meaning person" decides to get all snitty about it and gets both of you in trouble if you decide to keep dating each other.

[aluokaloo]

you know what hun, scracth the advice I just gave, my advice is off the wall and will probably get you two in a whole mess of trouble, here is some new advice, you can take or leave, ask him to wait until you're old enough to date him so you won't get into trouble, or just do what you feel is best.

[Psyche Ague]

If you're looking for a serious, long-term relationship, this guy does not sound like someone you should be interested in. If you're looking for a good time, someone to date, go for it. He sounds like he's a good time. But if you take that route, keep an eye on your emotions and your heart.

Have a good time, but it's not really that important to be in a relationship with him, especially so soon.

Honestly, age really isn't anything but a number. I was in a relationship with a man 6 years my senior (he was 24, I was 18) and he was the one who had the problem with the age difference, not me. He was also insane, but that's hardly the point.

[RhiannynWildseed]

While I do agree that Mr. Tongue wanting you to be his girlfriend after one little makeout session is....jumping the gun (not to mention making the hair stand up on the back of my neck), you also have to look at the fact that guys (and sorry for this guys but it's true) do mature later than girls usually. I, unfortunately, do have a double standard. I don't see a problem with girls dating older guys and vice versa, but I do draw the line at a certain age gap. I mean, the whole Anna Nicole thing was sick, but I myself am married to a man that is 16 years my senior. In my case, I couldn't find a guy mature enough that was close to my own age in the area I lived. They were all like little boys. :rolleyes: I met my hubby when I was 17 and put off having a relationship with him until I was 18 so no one could really say anything. They still did, but I was legal in every way, so what could they do? Now we've been married for almost 7 years, have two beautiful kids, and have recently started our own pagan church. :kooky: So it does work out sometimes. You just have to seriously judge the maturity of the other party.

Rhiannyn

[*GrumpButt*]

uhhhh, he was kissing a 14 yr old, and you are still thinking about it?
HELLLLLLLLLO?

That is middle school age for Gods sake!

This guy has some real problems
urk...

[LadyTrinity]

:noway:

[constance]

kyra
ok well just remember you're actually older than him (your pre-birth years count here)
see iam earthly 14 but my immortal years counts me as 114.... :jumprope: im so healthy...

[morrigen]

The way I see it is, the fact that you're 17 and he's 24 isn't the problem. This particular guy sounds like a creep. I don't think he'd seek out young girls just because he looks young. Please be careful! :hugz:

Yep. *nod nod*

[Romani Vixen]

run. Run fast and far.

From what you said, there's too many pedopheliac tendancies...

[Vanessa TPD]

Age questions aside, I don't really understand why you would want to go out with someone after having met him once in a bar. My boyfriend of three weeks is someone I've talked to for almost a year, and I still feel like I need to get to know him better.

But the age thing is VERY MUCH an issue. You know next to nothing about this guy, and what you do know sounds sketchy. Stay away from him.

[Golden Princess]

1. What the hell are you doing in a pub?

2. Why the hell are you kissing someone you have just met?

:nuhuh: IT'S A MUM THING :nuhuh:

[Muireannach]

Before I give you my opinion I will have to tell you about the tendencies of pedophiles and men who want a woman for just sex. The frist stage is noticing the female and making intial contact. Initial contact is often just a hello but that is their way of making you notice them. When they feel you have seen them before and remember them that is when they begin to make conversation about things they think may interest you to create an illusion you have similar interests. At this point they begin "grooming" you by saying sweet nothings such as "you look really pretty in that colour" and "wow your hair looks great."

The next major phase they move on to when they feel you are flattered by their advances. They ask you to be "friends" or perhaps, like in this case, ask to be boyfriend/girlfriend. They are not looking for a long term relationship but a quick "fix."

From what you have posted my conclusion is that he is out "fishing" for a young lady like yourself. If he was a decent older man he would of told you his age. He has a track record which I think speaks for itself.

[Muireannach]

BTW never kiss a guy the first day you meet him.

I was once young and foolish, I kissed a guy the first time we met.

I got a bad case of mono.

I didn't realize he had kissed A LOT of girls before.....

[mucgwyrt]

I think people are being just a little harsh.
People come to MysticWicks for help and advice, not to get lectured or "bashed" because of whatever choices they make or have made.
The responses to this thread certainly don't portray the openness and equality that mysticwicks is famous for :noway:
They smack of a holier-than-thou parental lecture, which I assume is not what Kyra came here for.

[nomadicdragon]

1. What the hell are you doing in a pub?

2. Why the hell are you kissing someone you have just met?

:nuhuh: IT'S A MUM THING :nuhuh:


:eyebrow:

[Phoenix Blue]

I think people are being just a little harsh.
People come to MysticWicks for help and advice, not to get lectured or "bashed" because of whatever choices they make or have made.
The responses to this thread certainly don't portray the openness and equality that mysticwicks is famous for :noway:
They smack of a holier-than-thou parental lecture, which I assume is not what Kyra came here for.
Oh, baloney. Macha, the girl asked for advice. She got advice. Neither she nor you have any room to kvetch just because it wasn't what she wanted to hear.

[nomadicdragon]

*snickers*

you know. It always strikes me as funny that when we ask for advice, if it is not the advice we want to hear we get all upset. Perhaps we should choose more carefully who we ask for advice if we know the answer we want already.

:lol:

[Antoninus]

Oh, baloney. Macha, the girl asked for advice. She got advice. Neither she nor you have any room to kvetch just because it wasn't what she wanted to hear.
Well, I wouldn have put it that directly, I agree. Sometimes a person NEEDS a lecture. Whole Im not saying that she does in this particular instance, sometimes people need to have some cold water thrown over them to wake them up to something they may not realize.

[Golden Princess]

*snickers*

you know. It always strikes me as funny that when we ask for advice, if it is not the advice we want to hear we get all upset. Perhaps we should choose more carefully who we ask for advice if we know the answer we want already.

:lol:

Age old philosophy of mine


IF YOU DON'T THINK YOU'LL LIKE THE ANSWER:
DON'T ASK THE QUESTION.

[Antoninus]

Yet we often ask questions that we really dont want the answers to

[nomadicdragon]

Yet we often ask questions that we really dont want the answers to



If that is the case, then you (general public) should not complain and whine about the answers that are received. Take responsibility for yourself, you ask a question, take the answers you receive. Otherwise, don't ask the question..

[Golden Princess]

Yet we often ask questions that we really dont want the answers to


Is this a question? or an answer? or are (we) just being profound?

[Xander67]

Last night I was at the pub and started chatting to this guy, I have seen him around but I've never spoken to him, we got on quite well and soon we were kissing (the guy used too much toungue..ick) Well moving on we went outside and my friends saw us, when I went to talk to them they said 'Why are you kissing scary boy?' This confused me so I asked why they said that! It turns out he's 24 (he looks REALLY young..about 16) and that he likes younger girls, I had told him that i was 17 and he didn't seem to have a probablem with it! But my friend Rachel told me that about 3 weeks ago he was seen kissing a 14 year old! He asked me to be his girlfriend......WHAT DO I DO!!!!!

well, ok, I have a few questions...

when you say Pub, do you mean an establishment which serves alchohol? we have them in the US and the Legal drinking age here is 21... what is the legal drinking age where you are... to us here in the States, 17 is way to young for a girl to be in a Pub.

next. what are your feelings for this person?

a 24 year old with a 17 year old is not as bad as a 24 year old with a 14 year old,

I am 37... and 25 is the youngest I would consider dateing a girl typically..

age issue aside for the moment, How do you feel about him? is he someone that you want to get to know? would your parents approve of you and him?

perhaps an answer of "Maybe we should get to know each other a bit" would be advised here... the kissing with the 14 year old is just too creepy... you need to make sure of his intentions and his character... I strongly reccomend takeing what your friends tell you about him under advisement... but dont rely soley on thier advice, find out for yourself...

what is his maturity level? is he a mature 24 year old, or 24 and still hanging with his younger friends... this is a tough call...

bear in mind, when he is 30 you will be 23....

[Black RiverWolf]

I have to agree when NightHawk said RUN!!!!
i understand that all seems well and good now but to many things are not adding up right
and any man who is kissing a 14 yr old girl needs to um have his down there bits removed (that was the nicest thing i could steal to say). my boyfriend of two months had known eachother for 6 months before we started to date.
but how many other chicks (young girls) has this other guy met in a pub and then decided that they needed to be together. i did the older thing too but when i turned out to have my own mind i did not do what i was told to look dress act what friends i could have. told him to bugger off. what makes you think that this guy would not do that to you after only talking to him for one night he seems a little wierd to me dear. have you ever talked to anyone that knows him well enough to get a good feel of him. they would have little better insight then we would. :fishtank: if i were you honey i would head for the hill after tying big wieght to his ankels and casterating the creep. (sorry was that a bit harsh.... maybe) :apirate:

[*GrumpButt*]

No, I agree!

[Xander67]

I think that just because a person is 24 that doesnt make him a Man, you need to look at his education and his upbringing... and his maturity level, to me, he would be a kid.

I am going to agree with the majority on this one, if he in fact is just looking for a physical encounter then he has alot to learn... and if this thing with him and 14 year olds is an ongoing thing, does he stop with 14 year olds? The issue of him kissing the 14 year old is important and needs to be adressed here. What were the circumstances with this? the Girl's Parents also should be made aware that thier 14 year old was with a 24 year old.

to a 14 year old, 24 is alot older then he would seem to a girl who is 17 pushing 18. I would be very carefull in this .

[Deranged Hermit]

I think people are being just a little harsh.
People come to MysticWicks for help and advice, not to get lectured or "bashed" because of whatever choices they make or have made.
The responses to this thread certainly don't portray the openness and equality that mysticwicks is famous for :noway:
They smack of a holier-than-thou parental lecture, which I assume is not what Kyra came here for.

A diverse group of open-minded people are all giving the same advice. :hmmmmm:

[Antoninus]

A diverse group of open-minded people are all giving the same advice. :hmmmmm:
Havin trouble arguing with the logic on this one
:thewave:

[djmixon]

My Mom had a saying when I was dating. . .

Never date anyone with whom you cannot see yourself spending the rest of your life. . .

[ArKane]

Some guys think its 'cool' to be going out with a younger girl but to me it just seems desperate. I can see myself going out with someone older but age really doesn't matter to me as long as they are mature about it. 16 is the legal age of consent here but a person under 16 going out with someone over, I dislike espeicailly if they are an adult [18]. Then again some 16 year olds aren't mature enough.

[Gwyndara]

you run like heck! if he is kissing 13 yearolds and he is 24 thier is something wrong with him.