Regret

[soilsigh aingeal]

How do you feel about this word and it's meaning? Up until a few weeks ago I can honestly say that I NEVER used it refering to any of my own actions. I don't think that people should regret anything that they do, I really don't, I think that we learn from everything that's thrown at us and that helps us grow.

[Kyra Kismet]

Ive lost count of the things that i regret!!!!

[Phoenix Blue]

I think some regret is a healthy sign that you feel guilty about things you have done in your life that you knew, then and later, were wrong. The trick is not to linger on the regret. :) Let it guide your conscience, but don't beat yourself over the head with it.

[Lady Jade]

I am a culmination of everything I ever have done, everything I have ever experienced...therefore there is NO room for regret, only the celebration of the fact that what I have done in the past has contributed to the person I am very happy with today, ME!

[soilsigh aingeal]

I think some regret is a healthy sign that you feel guilty about things you have done in your life that you knew, then and later, were wrong. The trick is not to linger on the regret. :) Let it guide your conscience, but don't beat yourself over the head with it.

Personally, right now, I'm just in a funk and it'll go away, I know. But I was just curious, that's why I asked. That said, personally I acknowledge mistakes I may (or may not) have made, but that doesn't mean that I regret them. Regret, is such a lingering word anyway, and (to me) involves beating up over something... just the way I see it.

[Haruka2077]

I don't have a problem with the word , although I don't think I use it in a personal context very often.

[Boogins]

I have very few real regrets... and it's just a word. I use all kinds of emotionally-affective words all the time.

[Shanti]

The word regret sgould mean:
I have made a mistake.
I have learned.
I wont make that mistake again.


Regret is healthy in the right perspective.

[Shanti]

As for regret lingering. Sometimes we need to remember so we dont repeat. I consider regret to be a sign of a lesson very well learned. With regret you more than like will not repeat the mistake no matter what happens. Without some regret, a mistake may be repeated and then regret may finally set in to prevent you from messing up a third time.

[Nighthawk]

The word and the feeling for me are two sides of the sword.. I used tofeel regret for EVERYTHING I said or did, my ex helped me feel that... I still have many, many regrets..and I say the word also in conjunction.. cannot separate the two..

[Cappy]

Regret isn't realy a word in my vocabulary. I thought back and I don't think I use it often. Not that I don't experiance regret, I just don't use the word.

[Mindflayer]

I don't like regret...mainly because I regret nothing, and I do mean nothing

Sure, there are some things that I did that were mistakes...but hell that's part of life, and think of it this way, if you DIDN'T do those things, where would you be today?


wait, no, there is one thing i "regret" not doing, about 2 years ago I was at a club, and some REALLY cute girl wanted to kiss me, well i wasn't really. um...all there at the moment, and kinda said no, wish I would have gotten that kiss, lol :p

[Pesha]

Do I have regrets, absolutly. I have alot of things I have done or said that I wish I had not done. Sighs life is full of regrets. Mine is.

BB
DS.

[AriaBeltane]

I regret nothing.

To me regret is wishing something had happened different, you had made a different choice....

I like who I am and that person is compossed of all of the experiences I have had in life. Had something happened differently or I had made a different choice, I wouldn't be the person I am today.

So, nope, No regret. Lessons learned...but no regret.

[frigga]

Regret, hmm, nope don't use it for actions I have done but perhaps feelings or people I have hurt/let down. I agreee with Shanti and her take on it.

[MerrisHawk]

I have a few regrets, things that I wish I'd said before it was too late. It's a step to creating a better me than I was yesterday. Maybe I won't make the same mistake again.

[Avalon]

As with the others, there are things in my life that I regret. But I try to use them as stepping stones to becoming the woman I know I am meant to be, rather than stumbling blocks to prevent me from growing.

[emmunite]

Regret was a word I use to use. I'd look back and think if I'd done it differently...things would be "better". But, I've come to realize that all that I've done, all I've seen and experienced have led me to who and where I am today. I don't think that there is room in life for regrets. It's a pervasive feeling that can too easily overcome and devour a person. The key is to learn from what happened and don't forget the lesson you learned lest you have to repeat it. Stripping things down to the base level of what really matters helps put things in perspective. But, the realization is not an easy one to come to or live, but, once you do, life seems much lighter.

Emm

[Psyche Ague]

I believe regret is an invention. And I certainly did not invent it. Same with guilt. I think one should live one's life in such a manner that there is nothing to regret. I regret nothing and I've done some awful things in my life. Self-love is important for overcoming regret. Acceptance that the past is the past is the most important mantra for realizing regret is not real.

You can't change what you've done, so why dwell? Your actions make you who you are today.

[Fang of Loki]

I use the word regret.

And I will admit, there I things that I regret, doing and not doing.

[FlyingBear]

I don't use the word. How can I regret a decision I made at the time with the best information I had at hand? But I'm also a stickler about personal responsibilty so I try and think things thru first. Not always possible, but I'm willing to admit when I screw up.

I just think life is far too short to get sick over something you may have not had control over to begin with. IMHO, that's one of the things about control. Sometimes you just have to admit that there isn't any and go from there.

The rest of it is just growth experences. One way or the other, painful or otherwise, you learn from it.

But regret? Not here.

:)

[Vanessa TPD]

I don't know how all of you manage it :). I've have tons of regrets. Tons. Not that I exactly dwell on them all the time, though. And the more I look back on what used to be some of my bigger regrets, the more accepting I am of them. After all, they did make me what I am today.

[kewlhippiechick]

I've used it and I've experienced it...I don't like either.

[FroggieThePunk]

I use it. I have alot of regrets.

[Flaire-FireStar]

I use it.... And I use it for things that I haven't done.

[FaerieGothMommy]

I put Other... As i used to use it alot, until a friend told me, you should never regret anything, whats done is done and just learn from mistakes... It's some of the best advice i've been given.

[~Broken Lily~]

I don't like the word regret. Every choice we make moulds us into the people we are. You learn from every experiance, even if they are bad.

[Jenne]

I have always said, I regret nothing. And I stand by those words. Even the stupid crap I did while young and lame, and even the lame things I do as an older supposedly more wise individual. Perhaps I'm just lucky enough to have screwed up enough to need it *shrug*...

There's a stigma with regret that I just can't cotton onto. The feeling that if you could go back and do over, you'd do differently. Nope, that's just not me. I've rarely faced indecision in life, so those things I do, I do in a forward motion and rarely with a look back, unless it's to gather information.

I guess it's more of an "excuse" to me than anything...I like the connotation someone said earlier in this thread (sorry, read quickly, so didn't catch who it was) that it should be something that you are learning from and moving on. That I can agree with...but that, to me, goes beyond the simple word.

[Krysta]

How do you feel about this word and it's meaning? Up until a few weeks ago I can honestly say that I NEVER used it refering to any of my own actions. I don't think that people should regret anything that they do, I really don't, I think that we learn from everything that's thrown at us and that helps us grow.

I don't regret anything I have chosen to do. I do regret many things I cannot do because of choices I have made in the past. Like being able to give my children more of what they would like, or taking them on a vacation. If I had gone on to college instead maybe I would be more financially stable and could do more and have more. Those are my regrets, confusing as that statement was. Hopefully it made sense :weirdsmil
Krysta

[SummerGemMoon]

I've always been one of those people who has to think every little thing through before I say or do it, so regret is a word that's not in my vocabulary. Not to say that I do or say the right thing all the time, I've made LOTS of mistake so far and I'll make more still.

To me, regret means that you would go back and change what happend if you were given the opportunity and I can't think of a single thing in my life that I would change because it happened for a reason and made me who I am now, whoever that is :smile:

[Krysta]

I've always been one of those people who has to think every little thing through before I say or do it, so regret is a word that's not in my vocabulary. Not to say that I do or say the right thing all the time, I've made LOTS of mistake so far and I'll make more still.

To me, regret means that you would go back and change what happend if you were given the opportunity and I can't think of a single thing in my life that I would change because it happened for a reason and made me who I am now, whoever that is :smile:

I like this post, very positive thinking.
Krysta

[Dallin]

Yeah I have regrets... I accept that the choices I made were necessary (on a psychological level) though, so I don't really have a problem with them.

[Thistle]

Yeah, I have some regrets.

I've said and done some things, using the best information or judgment I had at the time, that turned out very badly, or that caused pain. The important thing is to learn from mistakes so as not to repeat them, and to forgive yourself for making them in the first place.

[Golden Princess]

:geez: I don't do regret :geez:

[Eowyn]

When Im thinking right now I cant say that I use regret really because I cant remember what Im suppose to regret. But if I think of it maybe I'll find something if I use it so other was my vote ;)

[Shatril]

Anyone who doesn't have some regrets is either too young to do much reflecting on their life or is a Buddhist that has conquered the nonvituous afflictions. I have lots of regrets. That is OK. As long as I can look at them and learn, as in not lose the lesson, then I grow. If I lose the lesson, or can't look at it, then there is no growth.

As the Buddha says, "There is no life without suffering, without suffering there is no growth." Regret is a form of suffering therefore is to be considered an opportunity for growth. HEHEHEHE. :weirdsmil Shatril