Problem with doing readings

[ladyrowan]

Tonight i've come up against something that's going to cause me great difficultys in doing readings.
I've only posted one, for Rant, and didn't see anything bad at all.....but i tried again for a few of names on the victims list and got a bad feeling about a couple of them. (Can't remember which ones they were)
I would so much want to tell people only nice things, especially if they're really down, and don't know if i could tell them somethng that isn't so good.
How do you cope with these things?

I know things don't always have a happy ending, but i'd still want to give people hope for the future rather than focusing on whats bad now. But that's not necessarily helpful, or what they need to hear.

Any help would be appreciated.

[Semele]

Well negative vibes may only be your way of sensing that someone needs to be cautious. I always try to tell people honestly what I get, but not be morbid...ya know? Like if someone asks about a relationship and the cards are saying run as fast as you can, I just tell them that they may need to evaluate the meaning and benefit of the relationship. Usually when the cards have a negative inuindo the person requesting the reading already has an idea of the results. That has just been my experience. It gets easier to phrase your results with practice.

[SilverRain]

I agres with Semele. Sometimes you need to word your answers so that they don't really upset the person. (Sugarcoating?) And I know that most of the time when i read, the person has an idea of what is going on, usually the cards just point out what you won't acknowledge on your own.

Besides, if someone is going to be scared of what the cards say then they shouldn't ask for them to be read (IMHO anyway)


SilverRain

[ladyrowan]

I can understand and agree with what you both say.

In my own experience I've usually known what i was going to be told, just after confirmation i suppose.
I think it's when doing readings for people who aren't as 'intuitive', or who won't even admit to themselves that something's amiss that the problem could arise for me. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, however nicely it's said.

I often find when just talking to friends who have problems I can see a problem quite clearly, but they can't see it at all. I can normally manage that OK, so maybe doing a reading isn't so different?

BB

[rantnraven]

Try various spreads. Some work for me where others do not. I'm rather fond of the Celtic Cross (any one in here could tell you that). But, the Horse Shoe doesn't talk to me at all.

I have even come up with spreads of my own that work for me.

Keep going, the reading you did for me was wonderful.

Thanks again, dear Lady,
Rant *Hugs*:p

[Arduinna]

How to tell others about negativity cards? Good question. I agree that most people know if something negative is going on in their lives. They probably are either looking for confirmation of something they already know. Or are looking for how to handle a problem they know they have. The truth is the best policy, along with letting them know their future is not written in stone.

I believe the tarot only tells possabilities about the future. I look at it this way. Right now during a reading, things are lined up in a certain way, and the querant is on a certain path. If they stay on the same path and nothing outside them changes then this outcome is likely.

But all minor arcana cards are freewill cards, if they choose a different path, then there will be a different outcome. Picture it this way. Two people on two different streets are walking. If they both stay walking the same way at the same pace they will meet. If one changes course, then they won't. That's my best analogy.

Let your querants know they have choices and what they are.

Good Luck

[Amora]

Unfortunately no one gets a good reading every time, if we did we would all know what to expect. I've always been a painfully blunt person so I've had to learn to tailor my responces because I tend to make people cry. Not intentonally!!! But I can't always tell them what they want to hear and I can't lie to them. I myself have been fore-warned of accidents and near deaths of loved ones, which is never good news, but if presently tactfully it can be benficial to the person receiving the information.

[Silver Venus]

Its really hard and doesnt get any easier whether with someone face to face or reading like we do LDR ~ but you have to get your 'negativity' across somehow because it is a factor of the reading... I normally say the meaning and try to describe more of picture as a situation than say this bad thing is going to happen...
:D
Hope ure alright hun ~ this was a relaly good topic to bring up cos we must alll feel like this :)

[Myst]

Yup we all go through it - all you can do is try to say it in the most constructive way possible... after all the future can always be changed...

The same goes when a reading is done for you and you honestly see nothing familiar in it, or it makes no sense at all, or it is totally off base...