Letting go of anger

[Earthy]

This is fuelled by another post really.

I have a lot of anger inside me,caused by past events.Mainly caused by one person.
I really need to know how to forgive,when forgiving him seems impossible.
I know i need to,so that i can leave it behind and move on in my spiritual quest,but my head screams,"No,he deserves your hate"
I know it's hurting me more that it hurts him,i know i need to move on.
There's enough hate in the world,and i just feel i'm adding to it.
But how can i move past what he did to me?

[nomadicdragon]

This is fuelled by another post really.

I have a lot of anger inside me,caused by past events.Mainly caused by one person.
I really need to know how to forgive,when forgiving him seems impossible.
I know i need to,so that i can leave it behind and move on in my spiritual quest,but my head screams,"No,he deserves your hate"
I know it's hurting me more that it hurts him,i know i need to move on.
There's enough hate in the world,and i just feel i'm adding to it.
But how can i move past what he did to me?


first.. ((hugs))

I think everyone has a different way of dealing with past events. Personally, I just talk and write, talk and write, talk and write. And with time, the anger fades.. Then I got to a point where, I just needed to live my life, and I couldn't do that with the anger.. so I let it go. I would meditate and envision letting it go.. it worked for me. But like I said, we all have our own ways of dealling,, you will find yours..

[Earthy]

I agree with you, i know i need to let it go for the sake of my sanity..but i'm finding it so difficult.
I don't wanna stay angry,cos i know in doing so gives him power over me even now.
I know these things in my heart,but my head tells me otherwise.
I always was pig headed. :ugh:

[nomadicdragon]

I agree with you, i know i need to let it go for the sake of my sanity..but i'm finding it so difficult.
I don't wanna stay angry,cos i know in doing so gives him power over me even now.
I know these things in my heart,but my head tells me otherwise.
I always was pig headed. :ugh:


*nods* It's a hard place to be.. I still fight with it every once in a while.. It's a day by day process. Each day gets better than the next.

[Lady Jade]

Labradorite stones have the ability to relieve old anger. Try meditating with this stone on the problem/anger and send it into the stone. Bury it, then leave it behind.

[Golden Princess]

My daughter goes to her room and meditates with her amethyst when she has to deal with built up anger. This is the only way I can get her to calm down and think rationally.

Try this affirmation:

"I forgive myself for having let others hurt me"

cheers and remember you are worthy of love

[Romani Vixen]

Write. Write out everything that happened that causes you this hate and pain. then burn it!

[Pesha]

Hugs sweety. Sometimes it takes Time to forgive. Somethings you have to heal from first. When the healing has come, then you can look towrsa forgiving trhe one who hurt you. Time love, Time. Heal from your wounds first. And also understand that sometimes forgiveness does not come and you have to allow it all to pass into the void.

BB
DS.

[MerrisHawk]

Write. Write out everything that happened that causes you this hate and pain. then burn it!
RV has an excellent idea.
Expend all your anger on paper and light up the BBQ.
Write all the things you want to say, all the hurts all the things you'd like to see happen to him. Everything.
When you're done, get rid of it. You don't want it, you don't want to be an after-effect of his actions. It's not worth your time, energy or concern. You've got plenty to do without dragging 'him' around for the ride.
It works, I know. I kept a years-long diary of hate and tears. I whined about how much I'd been hurt and abused, I finally decided my future had no room for 'him' and onto the coals he went. Things have been lookin up since then.

[la tortuga]

Write. Write out everything that happened that causes you this hate and pain. then burn it!

That's what I do when managing anger. If that doesn't work, I usually just run around and headbang until I get a massive headache and fall over. Then I wait for the pain to subside and when I get up, I don't have enough energy to hate the person anymore, so I usually just forget about the incident in general and go take a nap, which are always good things.

[LadyTrinity]

People say holding onto anger is a bad thing. Why do you feel the need to get rid of the hate? If its a must than take it one day at a time.. if not.. whats wrong with being angry about something? Your human! :thumbsup:

[Blondie]

This is fuelled by another post really.

I have a lot of anger inside me,caused by past events.Mainly caused by one person.
I really need to know how to forgive,when forgiving him seems impossible.
I know i need to,so that i can leave it behind and move on in my spiritual quest,but my head screams,"No,he deserves your hate"
I know it's hurting me more that it hurts him,i know i need to move on.
There's enough hate in the world,and i just feel i'm adding to it.
But how can i move past what he did to me?

Anger is a hard bugger.

Try looking at things in the big picture.

If you're refering to a boyfriend problem, then this totally helps. It may not at first, but eventually you'll know that this guy has no direction or baring on your life, your ambitions, your goals. He's nothing in the big picture.

Go down the dark path - acknowledge your anger, it can be empowering. Just don't let it linger. After your experience and learn, move on a stronger and wiser person.