Read this, First date qustions.

[darkone_withwords]

What are the best and worst things to do on a first date. Hold nothing back at all I want to know.

Dark

[Brynn]

Don't eat messy food, not attractive!

[Nighthawk]

Be careful.... Make sure you know the area and surroundings.. how to get away and where you can hide...just in case... and then relax and have fun. Safety is #1

[Druchii]

Sex, Mexican Food, and walks in the rain.
All 3 fall on both sides of the fence...

[mucgwyrt]

Good or bad - get drunk and relax and open up OR get drunk and do something dumb :hairraise:

[Brynn]

umm you guys, she's only 16.

[Avalon]

Go bowling! Or mini-golf! All fun, not overly personal (since it is a first date and all), and in well-lit public areas.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, do not get into his car and go "parking". No matter how much you want to. Listen to Mamma Avalon. :bigredblu

[Nighthawk]

Yup... that is why I said safety is #1.... A bunch of things can go wrong.. so, figure out your escape options, and then have fun..dinner, in a well lit place..on and on.. if there is a car involved..try to have someone else, like double date..etc. Cannot be too careful.

And..RIGHT ON, Avalon!!! Good, good advice.

[mucgwyrt]

umm you guys, she's only 16.
Oh.
Well.... she can remember for future occasions :D

[WrathofCirce]

My favorite place for a first date is the Aquarium or the Zoo. There is plenty to do, but it's not like a movie where you spend the entire date not talking and not getting to know your date. There are plenty of people around, so it is safe, and there are a lot of quiet little spots for quiet moments...like the tram or that sky ride thingy, etc. My best first dates have been at these places. I like the beach too, but there isn't as much to distract if it is awkward or you aren't getting along.

[WrathofCirce]

Sex, Mexican Food, and walks in the rain.
All 3 fall on both sides of the fence...

How could mexican food and walks in the rain ever be bad? No comment on the first one... he he.

[Desdemona]

Research what the other person is into, so you can ask questions and get them to talk about things they are passionate about. Nothing makes a positive impression like someone who is genuinely interested in things you care about, and wants to hear ideas you've been forming in your head.

Hopefully, it will be something you are interested in too. :lol: If they play basketball, and you aren't into basketball, try and find something about basketball that would translate into something you might fight interesting, such as; the personal challenge to be good at your game, getting ready for a game, the strategy, working with other people, even if you can't stand them... be creative.

One caveat: stay away from topics that are too dramatic. I know that kind of goes against what I said about passionate topics, but on a first date you don't want to pull an Oprah, and talk about personal tragedies and traumas that have warped you for life. That is not appropriate for a first, second, or third date. I know there are exceptions, but overall you to keep things light, fun, but interesting.

[blugirrl1]

Sex, Mexican Food, and walks in the rain.
All 3 fall on both sides of the fence...
man oh man where were you when i was dating? ;)

[Pesha]

Well if you drive, take separate cars. Safety first in all things. Have your cell phone chargedc and with you. And always remember the word No is No in any language.

BB
DS.

[SilverMaiden]

Fun, casual and relaxing!

The best first dates I've had were casual and outdoor festivals. They were just plain fun and relaxed. Hiking with dogs is a great first date to me too.

I've never enjoyed dinner and movie first dates.

[CloakofStars9]

Sex, Mexican Food, and walks in the rain.
All 3 fall on both sides of the fence...

*cough*slut*cough*

[CloakofStars9]

What are the best and worst things to do on a first date. Hold nothing back at all I want to know.

Dark


DO NOT have the sex on the first date, no matter what anyone tells you, make the bastard wait :deviltail

[Rainy_09131983]

I have to agree here ...Always plot out how to be safe, and then enjoy the date. And actually that won't ruin it at all. The best dates I've had, the only thing thought out was what to do just in case...If anything, it makes them better, because your subconscious can relax and enjoy too. Places to go depends on what you guys like to do. Personally *any* guy can win me over if he takes me to play pool ...lmao

[Nighthawk]

DO NOT have the sex on the first date, no matter what anyone tells you, make the bastard wait :deviltail
Hell yes...or no..whatever.. NEVER do that... go out for a year or so, see if he is worthy... Most of all, dear one..be safe....

[danielle]

The worst thing I ever did on a first date was bite my dates tongue when he kissed me good night!!

My best EVER date wasn't even really a date. It was when I met Tom when I was 16. We were together nearly 3 years and now he's my best friend in the World. But we realise we'll probably end up getting married one day! He's The One but we're both too young at mo. In fact all my dates with him were amazing! :)

[SnowStar]

My rule of thumb has always been never kiss on a first date. If he's worth a second date, *then* he's worth kissing. I know it sounds a bit prudish, but it's more of a self-respect thing, IMO. Cozying up to a guy on a first date is fine, but I've found that if he's worth dating for any kind of amount of time, he'll respect the fact that you'd like to get to know him a little better before locking lips. To me, kissing is a pretty special thing and not something to be taken lightly when it's placed in a romantic context.

I'm also inclined to agree with what someone else said - take seperate cars and/or meet him someplace. If you know this guy already this might not be as imperitive, but call it the paranoid in me, if the date doesn't work out, I want my own way home and I don't want him knowing where I live, lol.

Now that I think about it, all of my first dates have been at the movie theater. Then again, where I live there's not much else to do. It's not a bad place for a first date, really, as long as you go to a movie where there are bound to be a significant number of other people in the theater, and sit away from the back/dark corners. Save that and the less crowded shows for...um...later. :)

If you've got someplace better to go on a first date, then lucky you. I think it was already mentioned that mini golf is fun, though IMO I think it's more fun when you're already pretty comfortable around each other. Just ah...don't let him win, don't let him let you win, but if you're having trouble, let him help, and don't try to help him. Oh, and if there are significant water hazards like the course that I go to, don't let him throw you in them! LOL...don't ask...

Lessee...is there anything I'm forgetting...oh...yes...don't wear anything too suggestive. Unless you're going someplace nice like a play or out to eat, keep it casual. Jeans and a cute shirt is always a safe bet.

Of course, this is all first date stuff...as things go on some of the rules change, some of them disappear entirely, and some get added. If you were my sister I'd tell you don't do anything I wouldn't do, but since you're not and you don't know what I wouldn't do, just ah...use your head.

[MerrisHawk]

The best first dates are aways active. Rollerblades, swimming, DDR, a festival or a visit to some public interest tourist trap.
Have lunch instead of dinner, have fun. Keep ewverything casual like you're hanging out with your firends.
Listen, ask questions. Find out what they like, pets, food, video games, cars, music....there's some common ground somewhere.
Never be afraid to state your opinion just don't bash him over the head with it.
Dont:
Be moody or intense.
Try to control everything or act like a doormat.
Talk nonstop about yourself, your life and your friends. If there's another date you've got lot's of time, if there's no second date you don't want him to have that info.


Last part.....No Touchy!!! Have fun first, worry about garlic breath or smelly feet after a few dates. You're more than a quick bounce for fun, you're a person worthy of friendship and respect. Don't use him for a bouncy toy either.

[CloakofStars9]

Hell yes...or no..whatever.. NEVER do that... go out for a year or so, see if he is worthy... Most of all, dear one..be safe....

THANK U!

[Druchii]

*cough*slut*cough*

Takes one to... oh you know the rest... :lol:

[Druchii]

man oh man where were you when i was dating? ;)

Stuck in school in Missouri.

[CloakofStars9]

Takes one to... oh you know the rest... :lol:


ya well considering i am practically a virgin.... your statement doesnt hold water my fine feathered friend

[Nighthawk]

CLoak, as always...you are welcome.. I believe in this.. I do...

[Druchii]

ya well considering i am practically a virgin.... your statement doesnt hold water my fine feathered friend

What has this got to do with my chicken suit?!

[danielle]

DO NOT have the sex on the first date, no matter what anyone tells you, make the bastard wait :deviltail
*suddenly dawns on Dani where she's been going wrong*

:ugh:

[thok_ragnarok]

*edited for being sexually explicit and not pg-13*

[Mab]

*edited for being sexually explicit and not pg-13*

*GASP* I'm shocked!! Someone hand me my smelling salts!

[Valkie]

Be yourself. No matter what, I think that that is the most important thing. If someone isn't happy with who you really are, then you'll never be truely comfortable in the relationship.

[thok_ragnarok]

*GASP* I'm shocked!! Someone hand me my smelling salts!

I typed that in, it wasn't actually edited...you should get on AIM :D

[CirceAdonia]

Sex, Mexican Food, and walks in the rain.
All 3 fall on both sides of the fence...

Woo-Hoo!! :woot:

Good One Druchii!

Not necessarily in that order however, most girls atleast save the best for last...
go out with a bang so to speak :smoochypo