Advice Needed Please

[Scarlet]

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[Phoenix Blue]

What do you do when you have to be reunited with an ex? Is it really uncomfortable like I am afraid that it will be? I need some guidance please! Thanks.
Mostly, promise to yourself that you won't get emotionally involved with him again, and you should be okay.

[charmedkisses1]

Mostly, promise to yourself that you won't get emotionally involved with him again, and you should be okay.
Yeah. Set limits for yourself BEFORE you get there, so you don't do something you might regret. Chances are, he'll probably try to do something. Good luck hon :hugz:

[Morr]

i had the same issue with my ex... cheating involved and a lot of lies & pain... but when we did meet a long while later - we didnt discuiss about the past at all, and we only talked about the present and future and our mutual close friends.

try not to bring up the past or hint about it or even think anything of it. That would be my advice.

[Convallaria]

once a cheeter always a cheeter. if he knows that he got away with it the firt time by getting you back now, chances are he won't stop, so don't give him the benefit of the doubt. If I were you I would stick to being just friends. I wouldn't trust someone who cheeted on my by taking advantage of my best friend. my thoughts are with you, Scarlet.

(sorry if that came out harsh, but I'm a little worried, as I experienced this personally)

[Romani Vixen]

I've always tended to hold grudges... so I'm not a good person to ask.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

Okay I dont know where else to put this so here it goes...

After a year of not seeing eachother I have to go stay at my ex-boyfriends house in a different state for almost two weeks (our moms are best friends). We had a pretty bad breakup that involved him cheating on me with my best friend and she didnt want it (so basically he took advantage of her). A month later we talked on email and we just said that we would forget the past and try to be friends. So I thought it would be okay and fine for me to go visit his mom and sister. Now that its getting closer to me going there I am getting really nervous. I leave in about three days. What do you do when you have to be reunited with an ex? Is it really uncomfortable like I am afraid that it will be? I need some guidance please! Thanks.

Scarlet

The time I ended up staying under the same roof as my ex it was disasterous and dangerous--on a very real level. Just keep your head, don't let yourself be alone with him, and don't get involved again.

Good luck!
Yasmine :colorful:

[Scarlettvixen]

what they said and :hugz: and good luck hun

[{Tigress}]

The advice given here has all been good, especially what charmedkiss said about setting yoru boundaries BEFORE you get there.

The only thing I could add, if you haven't already (and I almost hesitate to suggest this as I remember what it was like to be 16), but, have you considered talking this over with your Mom since she'll be there with you? Perhaps she could help -- either by helping you not get in a bad situation with him or just help come up with ways to deal with it.

[IvyCeltress]

I'd also suggest refraining from alcohol, if you normally do drink, because good intentions/decision making can go out the window.

[Terestai]

The only ex I've ever seen again was the girl I spent five years with. It was about three years after our breakup, which happened when she cheated on me and then dumped me for a guy she knew a whopping three days. He ended up being a junkie and totaled her car, but that's a whole other story. ;)

Anyway, just make sure you stay grounded and strong with who you are now. Don't lose sight of the spark that makes you unique, don't buy into any of his games, and if he tries anything, return it with the cold shoulder routine. Best of luck with it all, and hopefully it all goes smoothly!

[edenbolake]

let me ask you this, if your ex took advantage of your best friend and she didn't want it did she report him to the police? If she didn't want it then it was rape. But, if she was your best friend then why didn't she get away from him? and what is your relationship with her now? If you are still friends with her , does being around her make your uncomfortable? I just have a problem with someone saying I didn't want it so he took advantage of me. I was taken advantage of when younger and didn't know what to do. But, once I got over it I made sure it would never happen again. I began studying martial arts and believe me when I say no, I mean no. I can somewhat understand if she had been in my situation and she had been taken advantage of while under medication. But, I think both of them are at fault . I would also like to point out that you should remember what a bigger person you are than he is. You should remind yourself how special you are and know that someone like this is beneath you, after all you are a child of the Goddess and God and only the best will do and he isn't it. If you can remind yourself that the only reason to be the least bit civil to him is because the Goddess and God teach us to be kind to lower life forms then you won't have to worry about being nervous around him at all. Remember who you are and how special and beautiful you are in the eyes of our creatrix.
Blessings edenbolake

[Blondie]

Mostly, promise to yourself that you won't get emotionally involved with him again, and you should be okay.
My advice precisely. Be strong, but be civil. You don't owe him a single thing.

[{Tigress}]

But I already promised myself that I wont be alone with him at all. That wont be too hard because his little sister will be hanging around me the whole time :). Thanks for all your guys' help. We'll see how it goes... :hugz:
Good plan. :)

And good luck to you! Don't lose that resolve.

[fireswimmer]

Good luck with this! I would stay to stick with the little sister and follow the advice that others have given.