please help

[Abren]

I didn;t know where to ask this so i wrote it here
at school tehre is this really annoying girl who wants to be my friends. at the moment i should be grateful for any friends but her voice and listening to her makes me want to scratch out my own eyeballs.
I bought her soem lunch stuff for a couple of days in a row because she was busy, so the next day she tailed after me so i had to buy her lunch
i am changing classes next year and sadly, it is to her class. she keeps saying how she don't have a best mate and how i can be her best mate. except i have a few people who i like and can be vague friends with in that class and i don't want her to be my friend. but i don't want to hurt her feelings and i am not very good at saying what i think.
does anyone know a spell to amke her leave me alone?????

[Romani Vixen]

A spell? No. You could try being cold to her. and don't buy her lunch....

[LadyTrinity]

Poor girl,

She is probably having a hard time making friends in school and finds that because your nice to her that she can hang with you from now on. I wouldn't be mean to her, but try nicely explaining to her how you feel. It will hurt her feelings but its not nice to be her friend when you find her annoying anyways so best of luck.! :clapping:

[Jaroson]

My advice would be to stay friends with those in her class that you are already vague friends with and stop buying this girl her lunch. You are not her bank.

On the other hand, different people bring lots of different positive aspects to friendship and once her annoyance settles down (it may be because she is nervous and not confident) she may become a really good friend. I think life is too short to cut out potential friends.

See how it goes, but don't act too rashly!!

[Abren]

She has otehr friends, just not a Best friend.
personally i have had bad expiriences with best friends and thnk they should be avoided.
she has been here ages and i have spent time with ehr before, and she had always been this annoying.
i will try telling ehr then. i just hate being straight with people and telling them exactly what i think
it always ends in tears. usually mine

[Kyra Kismet]

Find out who she really hates! then make friends with that person! Thats the best way....

[Aidron]

Why cast a spell when you can simply be honest with her about how you feel? Personally, I think a spell woule not only be a waste of energy in this case, but the coward's way out. It's not about sparing her feelings, it's about not wanting to be honest. If she is hurt, she'll be hurt, but she'll get over it. However, if you let this problem fester and try to combat it with magic when there is no need it will only make matters worse and ultimately you'll wind up having to be honest on down the road when it will cause more melodrama than it would now.

[Abren]

Why cast a spell when you can simply be honest with her about how you feel? Personally, I think a spell woule not only be a waste of energy in this case, but the coward's way out. It's not about sparing her feelings, it's about not wanting to be honest. If she is hurt, she'll be hurt, but she'll get over it. However, if you let this problem fester and try to combat it with magic when there is no need it will only make matters worse and ultimately you'll wind up having to be honest on down the road when it will cause more melodrama than it would now.

Raven Greywind, i am a coward. When ever i have told people the truth everything had gone haywire-spazzy-chicken-crap on me so i tend to avoid telling people what i think. last time i did tell somebody how i really felt, i only did it because i was at the point of walking downstairs and slitting my wrists. and before anyone says a thing, yes i know. suicide is a cowrds way out too.
also, Kyra this girl dosn't hate Anybody. well, no quite nobody. but i refuse to become friends with Saddam or Bin Laden

[sincerebliss]

Sounds like a simliar situation with a few guys that liked me. Okay, there was this guy right by my locker and he was really nice, don't get me wrong and I always try to be nice to everyone..but he would always make me give him a hug and you would not believe the body odor he had!!! Ughhh..I just couldn't say no because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. So, basically I got up the nerve to finally just breeze by my locker really fast and when he would ask me a question I would just answer simply and walk off. When he would ask for a hug I would tell him later. He FINALLY got the hint though I don't think his feelings were hurt that bad. He was a hard one to brush off because he was never mean or anything..but he always said I was hot so that bother me..:(

There was also another situation where this guy in my gym class would follow me to my locker and wouldn't say anything. I could feel him watching me in the hall and I think he thought I liked him because I am so darn nice!!!! Well, I had to do my best to ignore him and after a few weeks he was gone! Thank god/goddess!!!!!! ;)

Tell her that you are having a hard time in your life and socializing is the least of your worries. You'll be happy to get out of it when you do! Sometimes being nice is tooo nice!
Good Luck! Or your saving up money for someone in your family because this person lost their job or something and you can't afford giving up anymore money.

Wanted to tell you that I am a pretty shy, nice kind of person and I avoid conforntation in anyway! I care about people's feelings and I don't like to hurt ANYONE!!! I would ask advice from my friends and they would come up with some mean stuff that I wouldn't even think about doing. Trust yourself and you will be okay. Sometimes you just have to do things for yourself. There is a way to be nice and still not hurt the person's feelings too bad.

[Amethyst Rose]

I feel sorry for the girl. :(

Coming from a person who wasn't popular in school and got picked on a lot (I was a band geek), I'd just suck it up and be her friend....

.....but that's just me .....

[Jaroson]

If you really can't stomach the idea of being around this person and you feel that friendship is not an option, then simply avoid her. Of course doing this may prompt her to approach you about it in which case you may have to be honest about it.

I don't think there's any easy way around it and ultimately you may have to tell her how you feel about her. You never know, if you tell her what it is that is annoying you she may want to be your friend so much that she tries to tone down the things that annoy you.

[Semele]

I think life is too short to cut out potential friends.

Bravo! Well spoken my firend.

[Aidron]

I think life is too short to cut out potential friends.

It's also too short to spend your time around people who only make you miserable.

[Jaroson]

Hey, I never said they should get a house together.