Starting my life over, well trying to.

[Kyraya]

I would be greatful for some advice.
I am young, over 21 and under 35. I have been abused in one way or another my entire life. I did not choose this, I had no control over any of the situations.
I have left several times but each time "he" finds me. This time I have moved to a place where hopefully "he" will never find me ever again.
I am starting my life over. The problem I am having is night mares and paranoia. Is thier anything I might be able to do with out professional help, I simply have not the money to seek out a therapist.
also I could not find any abuse support threads here at Mistick Wicks, this is something I would be interested in, so if thier is one then please point me in the right direction.
Thank you.

[FaerieGothMommy]

Here is an abuse support thread, that i thought you'd find helpful : http://www.isurvive.org/cgi-bin/wwwthreads/wwwthreads.pl

I know there is herbs and remedies, that can be useful for nightmares & paranoia, i'm no expert though, so you'd be better off doing some research to find what would be best to take.

[Kyraya]

Thank you, very much.

[SisterLittleWitch]

Hiya Sweetie!!! My heart goes out to you. Abuse, whether its physical...emotional...verbal...or psychological is so hurful and uncalled for. I'm not an expert either but I am a natural health consultant and if you can get to a health food store there is something called Bach Flower essences. You can mix it in a water solution or if you're having an "attack" a few drops under the tongue works wonders. I use them regularily. There is something called Rescue Remedy that helps with a number of different issues but there is others that are for specific things like fear of all sorts of things. I know I have a pamphlet somewhere and if you can give me a few hours I can search it out and get back to you or you can email me at slyfoxx69@hotmail.com and I'll get that info to you. First and foremost tho......NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!!! I've seen it too many times to count that victims blame themselves. Do a little affirmation each day or whenever you need it to remind yourself what a great and STRONG person you are for getting out. Remind yourself of all the good qualities you have. I'm not sure of your path but if you're pagan (which I'm assuming you are) do a protective ritual for you and your children if you have any. Smudge your house of any negative emotions and left over thoughts. You are what you think. Don't let others have the power over you. don't put out negative thoughts...only good ones and they in turn will come back to you in a good form. Remember we attract what we fear and what we think....so if you think good stuff it'll all fall into place. And in time.....it will get better and the bad thoughts will dissipate. In the meantime.....lean on friends even if it is internet friends. I'm always open to email (i'm an internet junkie so even if you need an email everyday to let you know someone is near I'd be glad to be that person. I started my life over about 3-4 years ago. I still have bad days but my daughter has been my saving grace. Just when I think I can't go on for my sake....I go on for hers. I have since met a great man and although its been a rough road....in my humble opinion its all a state of mind. Keep your mind full of good things and you have half the battle won. And reward yourself for the small things that you overcome and before you know it.....time has slipped away and only gotten better. You have made the biggest and strongest move ever and that was leaving and removing yourself from the situation. some may look at this as running away but don't listen. You did what you did FOR YOU!!! And Kudos to you for doing so. Be true to you. I'll go on a hunt for that pamphlet and get back to you either here or in email. chin up Sweetie. ~huggs and kisses~...........SisterLittleWitch

[savannahrose44]

:hugz: I know what it is to suffer abuse at the hands of another....it is never easy to deal with and might I say kudos for having the courage to overcome. One thing that really helped me with my nightmares was making a dreamcatcher. I wove into the web a lock of my own hair and blessed it, then hung it above my bed. It helped emensely. I have few to no nightmares anymore and sleep much sounder.

[Brynn]

:hugz: I know how that is, I have nightmares too. I don't have any advice though, so sorry. Could we have an abuse forum on here? I'd rather talk to people here then to go to a different forum.

[savannahrose44]

:hugz: I know how that is, I have nightmares too. I don't have any advice though, so sorry. Could we have an abuse forum on here? I'd rather talk to people here then to go to a different forum.

Absolutely Brynn!

[FaerieGothMommy]

:hugz: I know how that is, I have nightmares too. I don't have any advice though, so sorry. Could we have an abuse forum on here? I'd rather talk to people here then to go to a different forum.

Thats a good idea ~ you'd have to suggest it to mol :)

[SisterLittleWitch]

YEAH!!!! I knew I had it somewhere. anyways here's a couple of suggestions. There is an essence called Mimulus its for fear of known things such as poverty, the dark, being alone, heights, accidents, other people etc. OR there is one called Rock Rose and its for states of terror, alarm, hysteria, and panic. For states of extreme fear brought on by accident, illness, nightmares. there is another one called Walnut its for protection and constancy against outside influences during major periods of transition such as moving, breaking old or forming new relationships, chamging jobs etc. These are just suggestions there is so many more to chose from. If this helps heres a website with all the essences. http://bach.livingenergy.ca/
I hope this helps...lemme know and know that my good thoughts are sent your way!!!!!!

[Llewyth]

Well, I've been in the same type of situation. The first thing you need to do, in my opinion, is to stop being afraid. Fear is a good emotion to keep you safe but too much of it and it cripples you. Fear is only one more weapon he can use against you. A person can't think straight if they're scared.

Why don't you get yourself some self defense classes or some martial arts training? Another something with lots of friends close by to support you would be good for your self confidence too. How about a big dog? Or a well trained attack kitty! :D I say this with a grin, but the only one to ever really defend me against my dad was a ten pounds quarter siamese cat. You do not want to be in one of those's paths when they get nasty! She kicked his butt too! :hehehehe:

[Cappy]

Or a well trained attack kitty! :D I say this with a grin, but the only one to ever really defend me against my dad was a ten pounds quarter siamese cat. You do not want to be in one of those's paths when they get nasty! She kicked his butt too! :hehehehe:

Well actually, she didn't realy hurt him. She just hissed at him and looked positively demonic. But hey, what works works.

[Llewyth]

You shoulda seen his face!

[treefae]

i'm sorry you have had bad luck with people.i can relate.when i was in a truly cuckoo relationship, trying to flee it myself i had a pit bull.she was the sweetest dog she was definitely my familiar i miss her so much.in the middle of the night one night Winter woke me up growling like i've never heard her growl before,then the phone rang.it was that scumbag trying to bother me.this is when cell phones weren't popular and he didn't have one.Win liked to sleep with me so she was on my bed growling it really freaked me out.she wasn't acting like someone was outside.so you could try lots of protection weapons dogs boyfriends whatever works.good luck i really hope your life will change now bright blessings

[soilsigh aingeal]

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