Why Does Everything Go Wrong For Me Rant

[RhiannynWildseed]

~~~WARNING...IN SERIOUS RANT MODE!~~~

:rant:

I'm sooooo peeved right now. My car broke down yesterday, and I've only had the stupid thing for two weeks, and the warranty was only for 1000 miles. My husband drives almost a 100 miles round trip to and from work five days a week so the stupid warranty expired two days ago. But the stupid thing started smelling funny (which we believe is the Heater Core busted...they only cost about $40 for just the part), and it was idling itself up to 4000 rpms! I didn't need to push the gas pedal when we were driving. It got up to 45mph all by itself! A neighbor says it's probably some Idle Sensor thingie gone bad, and they cost about $80 just for the part!

We spent all evening trying to get ahold of my dad because he bought me the stupid piece of junk, but he worked late. We finally got ahold of my dad and told him all about the problem with the car. Do you know what he did? Blamed it all on us!!! He bought the d@mn thing for me! The d@mn 'Check Engine' light was coming on the first day we bought it. We took it back to the dealership. They plugged it into the computer and said nothing was wrong, that it was just a loose sensor. AAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHH! Dad told me that I need to figure out a way to get it somewhere and get it looked at. WTF! He bought the POS. I told him something would go wrong shortly after the warranty was up. I TOLD HIM SO, SO HE SHOULD CALL THAT DAMN DEALERSHIP AND MAKE THEM COME GET IT AND FIX IT....NOT ME!!!!!

Besides, how the h3ll am I going to get it anywhere? Now it won't even start! My husband has a $300 check that he needs to get cashed to pay our rent (which is late), and he's supposed to go get his paycheck tomorrow and work Saturday. How the h3ll are we supposed to do any of this? I got so mad at my dad, that when my husband's cell phone ran out of time while I was talking to him, I didn't even bother to call him back using my phone. I wanted to scream at him. I have hardly any food in my house, and no way to go get any more. How am I supposed to feed my kids? But no...dad wants to blame everything on me! He bought a 12 year old used car! For $2143! Of course there was something bound to be wrong with it! But no, all the problems are mine to deal with. He doesn't have the time to help me.

UUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHH! I'm so disgusted! I looked through the smileys to see if there were any smileys shoving sticks of dynamite up a car tailpipe. *Sigh* No such luck.

Rhiannyn

[asamananara]

Wait. Your father bought you a car, and you're pissed because
it wasn't good enough? Or because he won't fork out more money
to fix the car he just bought you? Maybe I'm missing something.
Oh, I see, you're upset because YOU might actually have to take
responsibility for something. Hmm. I can understand how that's
your father's fault. After all, you DID tell him something
was going to go wrong with the car. Never mind that you accepted
it anyway. So what if he's working late to pay for it; you're
right- he obviously doesn't have time for you.

[Shanti]

I know how you feel. Ny SO has to commute to work too. Back in the days when we didnt have a desent car that was dependable, we didnt have ant cell phones or the internet or any luxuries of any kind what so ever because we had 2 kids to feed and no parents or anyone to help us. We had to buy our own piece of junk car that my SO had to try himself to keep it running. We struggled bad on our own. It was awfull and we are still paying off some on the debts from that time line. But we struggled our way through it and after years of busting butt, we are finally living much better now.
However much we bust your butt is what you get back. Its hard and its long but it improves with hard work, budgeting every penny and it takes time.
Be glad you had someone who tried to help. If I was him I wouldnt ever help you again. Doing it totally alone is much harder, I know. If you would of bought that car yourself, you would have that expence and the repairs. But since you didnt, you only have the repairs.

[Kelley]

Breath please!

I'm a mother of three and have no drivers license and for many years have had no car. Walk, bus, cab, neighbor (not often if ever). Call your landlord, ask if your husband signs the check if they would give you the difference if you give them the check, my landlord does it for us every once and a while so it can't hurt to ask. As for food, water is cheap and basic ingredient soups can be yummy. I was just thinking the other day about how me and my husband one time got into a really bad spot and I (not our son) survived off water and cinnamon sugar bread for almost two months. I lost a bit of weight, but my son ate. For years when I went to the store, and even now, I take a book bag or the stroller and walk there and back. It's a b*tch in some areas, esp., unpaved clay areas but it worked.

Try not to focus so much on the car, from what it sounds like you knew it was no good when you got it. And if your dad bought it for you then I'm thinking you didn't have one before then or the one you had was broke. The car is a setback, but not the end of the world.

Get inventive, your figure someway out of this mess. (((((hugs))))) Can't send a smiley because my computer is acting up and won't let me do but certain things and I don't see the one I want on the side. (sighs deeply) Always something.

[RhiannynWildseed]

Asamanara, you have to understand my father, the type of man he is. The car I had before, he and my mother gave to me because my mom got a new truck. They would've used it for a trade in, but the dealership only offered them like $100 for it because it was a '91 with over 160,000 miles on it. So they gave it to me because I needed a car, and it did run. I took care of it, I made sure the oil got changed, and I basically did everything I could to keep it on the road. But from day one that they gave it to me it had problems and my father is the type that says "Don't take the car to a mechanic, they'll just rip you off. Bring it to me and I'll work on it."

So when something was going wrong, I took the car to him. There was a hole in the head that was leaking water into the oil and causing the car to overheat and the radiator had a hole in it. So my dad got the parts to replace all that, and it only cost ME about $400. Then after he put the brand new head on it...a couple weeks later the motor blew out, and my father was expecting it because he was told that replacing the head without doing the whole motor will cause it to blow up.

Ok, so now my car needed a new motor. So my dad got ahold of a junk yard and got a used motor to put in the car. So he gets it towed to a mechanic, gets the motor, and has the mechanic replace the engine. Again, this cost ME $800. I paid for this, not my dad. I had the car for about a month to a month and a half after this used motor has been placed in my car. We were going to visit my father-in-law one day, when halfway there, the temperature went from cold to all the way up in the red area and the car died. My parents were in NC at the time on vacation, so my grandma loaned me her truck until my dad got back and could look at the car. When he did get back, he got the car and found out that the used motor that I paid $400 for, and $400 to have installed blew up! That's $800 for NOTHING!

So now, my dad decides to get me this USED car, that I still HAVE to pay him back $2143 for mind you, and when I tell him something is going wrong (remember, I'm supposed to take car problems to him, not a mechanic), he goes off and blames me and tells me deal with it by myself. Please understand, I live in the middle of NOWHERE. We called the dealership and they were like "Oh yeah, get it here and we'll look at it." Ok, just one problem there. It's not running at all! And I can't afford to have it towed there, it's over and hour and a half away! But the point is, the Check Engine light was coming on the very first day. I took it back to them and they told me nothing was wrong with it. I say again...BS! I would claim the 30 Lemon Law, but I'm sure they'd tell me, "Oh, you have to bring it back to us." So I'm screwed all the way around.

I would have the money to get the stupid thing fixed all on my own, but my husbands paycheck is 45 miles away. If I could get that, I wouldn't be in such a fix. But what makes me the maddest at my dad is that he's blaming this all on me, and the only thing we've done with that car is my husband driving it back and forth to work. Which he was supposed to do tomorrow, but now it looks like he won't get to. That means no paycheck for him next week, because they haven't needed him all this week except for tomorrow (he was supposed to get $100 for working tomorrow). So next week we'll have NO money. :G

[RhiannynWildseed]

Ok, quick update. Apparently my dad got over himself, because my husband called my mom, and she said he's going to pick up a car dolly and come out to the house and look at the car. If he can't get it running here, he's going to take it back with him and take it to the dealership tomorrow and demand they fix it or we're getting a lawyer and go after them for the 30 day Lemon Law.

Yay!

And like I said, it's not like I couldn't get the car fixed, I just didn't have a way to get it anywhere. It just made me angry that he was all like, "It's your problem now, leave me alone." So hopefully everything will be ok soon.

Rhiannyn