What to do!?

[RubyRose]

Okay, my mother has recently been diagnosed with Fibro Myalgia Syndrome ... and has since been advised by her doctor that it would be best if she went into hospital. She flatly refuses and wants to see an endocrinologist (I'm pretty sure that's what she said) in order for tests to be done etc.
Currently she's on pain meds, and stress and anxiety meds, and maintains that her doctor is doing wrong by her and not treating her properly. But the only information that she has on the disease, is what I've found on the net, and what I thought was the best website to give her a complete coverage of symptoms etc ... I didn't expect her to take it as gospel, like she has done.
It's so frustrating, because my parents are now arguing, its crazy, the thing is she's always been like this when it comes to being sick, and always complains that nobody cares. Well would you, when somebody is yelling at you?
<sighs>
RubyRose

[tangerine_smile]

Ah, rubyrose, sorry things are going like that with your family right now. i dont know if i could give you any advice on what to do, but if it were me i would probably tell my mum how i feel about it ...that i'm worried about her not going to the hospital. at the same time, i've personaly experinced the bad side of hospitals through my family and friends, and know what she means about not being treated properly....perhaps the famly could discuss with your mum a good alternative to visiting the hospital. or perhaps can search around for a hospital you mum would feel better about going to. in the end, all your mum might need are some hugs and an ear to feel like everyone cares...which can be tough to do when your mum is getting angry :goodgrief , but hey, it works :)
anyway, you take care, i'm sure everything will settle down and soon :)

[Elise]

a couple of years go I heard or read that MSG and other food additives were related to the incidence of fibromyalgia

Here's a link that I found when I searched for fibromyalgia and msg..
http://msgtruth.org/fibromya.htm

the second link doesn't work , (under MSG and fibromyalgia) but the first one does and the page that goes to states:

Case Summary

Four patients diagnosed with fibromyalgia syndrome for two to 17 years are described. All had undergone multiple treatment modalities with limited success. All had complete, or nearly complete, resolution of their symptoms within months after eliminating monosodium glutamate (MSG) or MSG plus aspartame from their diet. All patients were women with multiple comorbidities prior to elimination of MSG. All have had recurrence of symptoms whenever MSG is ingested.

[RubyRose]

Thanks, as for talking to her, well I've tried.

[tangerine_smile]

Thanks, as for talking to her, well I've tried.

thats probably more then most daughters have wanted to do with there mum when there angry, so beleave me, your making the rest of us look good :muwaha:

[RubyRose]

thats probably more then most daughters have wanted to do with there mum when there angry, so beleave me, your making the rest of us look good :muwaha:

Well she wasn't actually angry at me, only my dad.

[LadyAutumnCat]

I'm so sorry for what is happening. My mother is like that too, and despite muscle atrophy, won't go to the doctor. I don't know what to do for mine either, I just keep trying to tell her how much what she's doing doesn't make sense. I just hope that both of our mother's realize that they are not only hurting themselves, but us as well.

Understanding :hugz:

Blessed be....

[RubyRose]

Thanks LadyAutumnCat ... why do parents have to be so damn ... hard to figure out ...

[mucgwyrt]

Perhaps, subconsciously, thats why she drinks?
I know when I have back-pain, nothing relieves it as well as a drink... :huh:

big :hugz:

[LadyAutumnCat]

Sometimes they are stubborn, but I think alot of the time they are scared!! I know that being scared and avoiding medical care doesn't make much sense, but I think that to them it does. Sigh.

[Tullip Troll]

it's hard feeling helpless...I know when I am frustrated I take it out on my partner...he asks me why I am so mad at him...poor guy

The worst is during migraines( I get really bad ones) I can be very angry and hurtfull to my kids and hubby. I always end up making it up to them. I have learned though that taking enough pain medication and getting help isn't just for me it's for everyone I live with.



(((((hugs for you and your parents)))) I hope an answer comes quickly. Too Bad we can't give our Mom's a time out because it would do a lot of good.


WOW MSG and Aspertame takes another hit.


MheraPai

[Faeawyn]

Why did they want to hospitalize her? What were they going to do for the FM in there?

[RubyRose]

Yes, she's admitted to drinking because it dulls the pain in her head :huh: (I think this could be something other than headaches) and body.

As for the hospital deal, well I'm not exactly sure on that ... maybe to dry out ... maybe to monitor her better ... or maybe to give the rest of us a break :lol: (I know how her doctor works, and he knows the strain we are under)

I don't know if she's scared. I know she's frustrated though ... but then we all are.