Asked one question too many

[Eideann]

I asked him what commitment means to him and he left...can anyone relate?

[djmixon]

I can relate. . .and I can tell you that you are better off without him. . .

Blessings
Donna

[Romani Vixen]

Unfortunately... it sounds like him leaving was his anwser.... "Danger Will Robinson!!!"

sucks though... if you do want commitment.....

[Jenne]

wow, couldn't even commit to an ANSWER? That's pretty bad. yeah, I think you're better off without the dude. :hugz:

[mucgwyrt]

Men. :rolleyes:

[blugirrl1]

what they said ..
but yes i can relate, it does suck, but you are better off without someone who can't even have a conversation about <gasp> commitment..

[mucgwyrt]

:uhhuhuh: definately.

[Erebus]

Asked one question too many

On the contrary - I think you asked the exactly correct number of questions.

[RubyRose]

Yeah, I can relate. Hell, I've been waiting for my bf to commit to getting a damn engagement ring for ever ... going on 2 years now unofficially ... oh well ... I'm not so fussed anymore, I know I'm going to be with him for the rest of my life ... but its the little things that annoy me the most ...

[coyoger]

He's committed alright. Committed to not being "tied down." I'd keep looking if I were you.

[Phoenix Blue]

How long have you been going out with him? Honestly, if it was only the second or third date, it was probably a bit early to ask that particular question. ;) That aside, I'm sorry things didn't work out.

[Kadynas]

:hugz: Ouch! Sorry hon, I know that can suck... But PB raises a good point... how long were you with him?

[LadyAutumnCat]

Men!!! You are better off without him, despite the hurt!
:hugz:

[Nighthawk]

That's cute.... well, one less problem child for you to deal with.

[Mab]

Can SOOOOOOO relate.

[Black RiverWolf]

i agree commited to himself and that all

[DixieWitch]

yup...for me it something along the lines of this..we were together for a little over 3 yrs. One night, before he left to go home for the summer (it's when we were in in college) I asked him if he loved me. He said "I don't know. I think so" I had the entire summer to repeat the words over and over to myself. After 3 yrs of being with this person that I loved and cared for so much, I decided I couldn't do it anymore. I'm sorry you're having to go thru this. It's his loss.

[Convallaria]

Well, now you know there are better fish in the sea... ones who know when they've found something worth keeping. Don't fret, honey. Everyone here is right. You're better off without him.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I agree, you asked the right question. Even if it was early... it's nice to have honesty and to know where you stand or what someones intentions are. As much as it may have hurt, you got your answer and you're better off. :hugz:

[Eideann]

How long have you been going out with him? Honestly, if it was only the second or third date, it was probably a bit early to ask that particular question. ;) That aside, I'm sorry things didn't work out.
five and a half months

[CaitrionaMorgaine]

You know what...I'm not going to say that you are or aren't better off without him. That is something you will have to figure out on your own. However, I am sorry that he is putting you through this. As someone who wonders if her boyfriend will ever consider marriage, I can relate in some way. My sympathy is with you.

Avalon's Blessings, ~Rhiannon

[LadyTrinity]

Change the locks! :thumbsup:

[Phoenix Blue]

five and a half months
:) Then yeah, that was a very good time to ask.

[Cappy]

I have only one thing to say to this. OY!

[celtie]

To play devil's advocate, men simply don't think like we do. Many don't even view relationships as anything more than just dating one person until they're a year or more into it, then it dawns on them that maybe there's more to it..some don't even figure it out by then..so it's hard to say if this was such a big sin on his part or not, not knowing the guy or how serious things seemed up to this point. Sorry he disappointed you, at any rate, tho, that always sucks. :(

[mol]

Men. :rolleyes:
No. Not MEN.

[mol]

To play devil's advocate, men simply don't think like we do. Many don't even view relationships as anything more than just dating one person until they're a year or more into it, then it dawns on them that maybe there's more to it..some don't even figure it out by then..so it's hard to say if this was such a big sin on his part or not, not knowing the guy or how serious things seemed up to this point.
WHat?! Am I in the freakin twilight zone here?

[HorseCrow]

Not worth having- find yourself someone else :)

[djmixon]

On the contrary - I think you asked the exactly correct number of questions.
It isn't the quantity. . .but rather the quality of question. Why go on and on when the precisly correct word or phrase can do the trick?

I think she asked the exact right question.

[mol]

It isn't the quantity. . .but rather the quality of question. Why go on and on when the precisly correct word or phrase can do the trick?

I think she asked the exact right question.
Um. You are both essentially saying the same thing.

[RubyRose]

How long have you been going out with him? Honestly, if it was only the second or third date, it was probably a bit early to ask that particular question. ;) That aside, I'm sorry things didn't work out.

I'd been going out with Rhyce two years at that point when he first asked me. He's commited. Hell he wants children, so I can deal. (trust me, its a good thing) In reality its just a bit of paper, we'll get there.

[djmixon]

Don't say that Mol. . . . . . . .geez, that would mean he and I agree on something. . .and we can't have that. . .:hehehehe: The world would lose its order and we would find ourselves shrinking into nothingness. . . :hehehehe:

Regardless, quantity does not equate to quality. . .

[mol]

Don't say that Mol. . . . . . . .geez, that would men he and I agree on something. . .and we can't have that. . .:hehehehe: The world would lose its order and we would find ourselves shrinking into nothingness. . . :hehehehe:

Regardless, quantity does not equate to quality. . .
No, but both of your statements do make sense. And both of them are in general agreement. Sorry, world ending or not...it has to be said.

[mucgwyrt]

No. Not MEN.

:fpartyfav

[Illuminatus]

There is no right answer to that question, and we all know it! It's the kobayashi maru, the no-win scenario. My girlfriend gives me these questions all the time. Whatever he says, no matter how good it is, you will find some fault with. Relationship interrogations are just a pretense to start a fight!

Avoidance is the only option, if a man wishes to preserve the peace. I usually mix up my tactics to keep it interesting. Sometimes, I pretend not to speak english. "Que?" Other times I just answer an immaginary question that I wish she had asked. "About eight-thirty". The best tactic is to ramble a little bit and then change the subject. "Well commitment has two parts to it, commit, and mint. Mint means you gotta stay fresh. That reminds me I have to go brush my teeth now!"

[djmixon]

Mint means you gotta stay fresh. That reminds me I have to go brush my teeth now!"
Well, at least you don't ask her if she wants a TicTac. . .

[docdoo]

I have to agree with Mol here and gods know that I tend to be a *tad* overly critical of men. (sorry guys *blush*)

It really makes no difference if your male or female...case in point, at the moment, hearing the "C" word gets a reflexive evil eye from me (and, on occasion, a quickly drawn pentacle and spur of the moment warding lmao) and I am 100% female.

Fortunatly for me the SO in my life gets this and is all about NOT being pushy on the committment thing *grin* So no, it's just a tad too easy to say 'Bah, Men!'

[djmixon]

It isn't that I think "MEN". . .

I just don't agree that I am agreeing with that man. . . I will relinquish the idea that we share an opinion on the outcome. . . but that is all I can "do" at the moment :lol:

[Yvonne Belisle]

There is no right answer to that question, and we all know it! It's the kobayashi maru, the no-win scenario. My girlfriend gives me these questions all the time. Whatever he says, no matter how good it is, you will find some fault with. Relationship interrogations are just a pretense to start a fight!

Avoidance is the only option, if a man wishes to preserve the peace. I usually mix up my tactics to keep it interesting. Sometimes, I pretend not to speak english. "Que?" Other times I just answer an immaginary question that I wish she had asked. "About eight-thirty". The best tactic is to ramble a little bit and then change the subject. "Well commitment has two parts to it, commit, and mint. Mint means you gotta stay fresh. That reminds me I have to go brush my teeth now!"


I find this rather frightening not only do I understand this post I agree with it in many respects.

[Eideann]

There is no right answer to that question, and we all know it! It's the kobayashi maru, the no-win scenario. My girlfriend gives me these questions all the time. Whatever he says, no matter how good it is, you will find some fault with. Relationship interrogations are just a pretense to start a fight!

Avoidance is the only option, if a man wishes to preserve the peace. I usually mix up my tactics to keep it interesting. Sometimes, I pretend not to speak english. "Que?" Other times I just answer an immaginary question that I wish she had asked. "About eight-thirty". The best tactic is to ramble a little bit and then change the subject. "Well commitment has two parts to it, commit, and mint. Mint means you gotta stay fresh. That reminds me I have to go brush my teeth now!"
I would have preferred him to at least be courteous. And I was not telling him to commit, I was asking him what he thinks about commitment.-He certainly wasn't being peaceful by abandoning me without explanation. I did NOT interrogate him.-I asked him once. Your gilfriend may give you those questions "all the time," but I have never pressured him into anything. Anyway, I am now happy that he spared me his immaturity and left...I also find it ammusing that he's tried to come back to me after playing the field and being unsatisfied...And I am not going to say this is the nature of just men.-Women are capable of this too. Oh, and as for the mint part, I don't have any freshness problems-he just has commitment problems...I prefer cinnamon, anyway. lol!

[Tsuchimaru]

No. Not MEN.

Exactly. It was ONE guy.....