Questioning what to do when "I grow up"

[alesay]

God/s willing that's no time soon *wink* But this is a serious question and i have no one to ask. So i'll ask all of my trusted friends here at MW. Why? Because they're so loving, and supportive and hey... so hip. SO here goes
All my life i've wanted to be a Singer. We're talking Whitney Houston, Janet Jackson, a cooler less trampy Britney or Christina. Not really the whole "Pop" thing... But a vocalist... one that performs to many sold out arenas world wide. I want to be a vocalist with every inch of my being, but being a "Woman" of now 21 i'm finding that it's less likely to happen, and that being a "normal person" won't be that bad will it?
In the fall i'll go back to school working on my AA... Because i apparently like to fart around so much in school that Community colleges are just as cool as 4years, so why not spend that much time at one? (messed up logic.... but if you can minor in Monkey Business, i'd already be graduated! HAHA)
SO my dilema? I'm going to go to school and work on my Music Major. Which i figure can benefit me in other ways besides my singing right? Ok, so if i graduate as a music major, my career choice would be Teaching.... and... teaching. WHICH i think would be awesome. But i don't want to teach Band... Not that i don't like band, i can't really relate to band. Couldn't relate to it when i was IN it :D Just a vocalist kinda gal. But then i'm wondering. Not that teaching would suck, because i knooooowww it wouldn't. I know i'd have influence over young peoples lives, to let them know they're special and important and can conquer the world if they want to. But i feel that career will be limited. So i wonder... Should i explore other options? because i feel that my time is limited. I want to be an adult sometime soon with a career... and i shudder to think, a normal life!
I've always liked Psychology. And going and taking courses in College, i actually PASSED them LOL and understood. Which a lot of people in my class didn't. (besides the conflict of Faith and rationality... i think my life could easily teter on irony right? LOL) So now i'm wondering if i should switch majors, become a Psycologist, counselor (For high school levels or something) and still achieve the Financial Stability I so long. So, help me MWers... I'm confused and would love some help!! thanks!!!

[Romani Vixen]

Only you can determine what you want to do.

I'm an Art Education major. When I graduate I'll be teaching, and doing my own art. One of them will be part time. Which one is part time depends on the fates and my dilligence.

What have you done to pursue singing? Have a digi recording that we can listen to? Seriously, there are a number of people here who can listen to ... what you got... and give you honest feedback on that front.

You can also teach private lessons... not just band.

Talk to your instructors. Don't just go for the "I wanna be famous" thing... but also "What can I do besides teach?"

[alesay]

What have i done? Studio work... on a CD that Ray Davies (The dude from the kinks) is releasing in Germany. I'm the lead female on that cd. So mainly it's just been singing with locals, doing some studio work and helping my friends with theirs. (needless to say the guy who's supposed to help me only wants me to sing for free as back up for him... but) As far as when i'm done with school, the only think i'd think of to do with it is teach. I'm From oregon as well (3 hrs south in suberbia usa ahaha) I don't have a Digi you can listen to, i wish i did. I only have a rough cut of one of the songs i was on on the cd on my computer, that will take days to transfer the file... I don't know. my Intuition, my guts and everything else are churning and not settling on the same thing... I'm to a point where i'm like "Do i really want to go down the road and spend my entire life waiting to be 'discovered" It's all a confusion to me... But thank you for your input!! It's nice to hear from someone else who is a creative arts major

[Romani Vixen]

Looks like it's time for some soul searching!

You'll be fine... just listen to that gut of yours!

[alesay]

:D thanks... i think that's all i needed to hear :D

[oddgrace]

My advice it just to not be afraid to walk whatever path you happen to be drawn to at any particular moment. When I was eighteen, I dropped out of college and moved to California to be an actor. It had been my dream my whole life. I moved to Los Angeles and pursued my career. It was VERY hard, but I had a WONDERFUL time. Three and a half years later, I realized that acting wasnt really my dream anymore. THAT is the hardest part. Realizing that dreams change. That life changes. That you yourself and who you are and what you want and desire...those things change all the time. People try so hard to plan for a future that does not even exist yet. Not to sound redundant to...well...everyone in the world...but you really could die tomorrow. All you can do is what you want to be doing that day, in that moment. So if you want to be a singer....then you work your ass off to be a singer. But most importantly, just know that whatever you decide you want to "be" or "do" today, might not be what you want tomorrow, and thats okay. Its a beautiful part of growing. Hell, I was an actor for years and thought my dream would never change, and now I have decided to be a traveller. How strange is that???? I'd never have guessed! And you cant know or guess either. But the thing is, if you arent doing what you love, why the hell are you doing it? And you could probaly answer that question...but I guaruntee, if the answer is not "because I love it and thats what I want to be doing today" its not a good enough answer. Its just an excuse. Follow your heart. Wherever that may lead TODAY.

[Holly Ariadna]

God/s willing that's no time soon *wink* But this is a serious question and i have no one to ask. So i'll ask all of my trusted friends here at MW. Why? Because they're so loving, and supportive and hey... so hip. SO here goes
All my life i've wanted to be a Singer. We're talking Whitney Houston, Janet Jackson, a cooler less trampy Britney or Christina. Not really the whole "Pop" thing... But a vocalist... one that performs to many sold out arenas world wide. I want to be a vocalist with every inch of my being, but being a "Woman" of now 21 i'm finding that it's less likely to happen, and that being a "normal person" won't be that bad will it?
In the fall i'll go back to school working on my AA... Because i apparently like to fart around so much in school that Community colleges are just as cool as 4years, so why not spend that much time at one? (messed up logic.... but if you can minor in Monkey Business, i'd already be graduated! HAHA)
SO my dilema? I'm going to go to school and work on my Music Major. Which i figure can benefit me in other ways besides my singing right? Ok, so if i graduate as a music major, my career choice would be Teaching.... and... teaching. WHICH i think would be awesome. But i don't want to teach Band... Not that i don't like band, i can't really relate to band. Couldn't relate to it when i was IN it :D Just a vocalist kinda gal. But then i'm wondering. Not that teaching would suck, because i knooooowww it wouldn't. I know i'd have influence over young peoples lives, to let them know they're special and important and can conquer the world if they want to. But i feel that career will be limited. So i wonder... Should i explore other options? because i feel that my time is limited. I want to be an adult sometime soon with a career... and i shudder to think, a normal life!
I've always liked Psychology. And going and taking courses in College, i actually PASSED them LOL and understood. Which a lot of people in my class didn't. (besides the conflict of Faith and rationality... i think my life could easily teter on irony right? LOL) So now i'm wondering if i should switch majors, become a Psycologist, counselor (For high school levels or something) and still achieve the Financial Stability I so long. So, help me MWers... I'm confused and would love some help!! thanks!!!

If I told you my opinion... well, I'll tell you, I'd definitely go for psychology, but that's because *I* am interested in it and want to choose that as my major. But you can't switch majors just because I say so (unfortunately *lol*). :D Try to picture yourself in 10 years as a music teacher and a psychologist, and see which one is more "you" or which one you think you'd prefer. That's my only advice..

[alesay]

Thank you guys sooo much for your suggestions... They all are little voices in my head i can assure you that!! So thank you! :D and i'll keep trying to figure out what i wanna do... I like the idea of doing it all :D at once! HAHA