My Baby's leaving

[Semele]

For Kindergarden!! AHHHHH....where did the time go? He is just a baby. I am trying not to panic, but it is taking over!! What's next....dating??

Ok...I am calming down now. I mean he just has to be there for 30 minutes today for a screening and I get to stay with him. Then I have a whole week before they make him go everyday and make me go home. Ok send me all the strength you guys have laying around...I will need it.

Did anyone else feel this way when the kiddos strarted school? Trey has never been away from home much. Except for one brief stint in a daycare while I was in school he has always been with Mol, myself, or Dravin. This is just a lot harder than I thought it would be.

[Faery-Wings]

I told you I would hold your hand through this!!!

I have no advice. Scott goes to Kiddie Korps next week. It is a "practice kdg" where I drop him off for 2.5 hours a day for the week. Then one week off and then it is the real thing.

I am starting to get nervous and I know he is too. Everyone keeps telling me that he will be fine, but I know change is very hard on him.

I wish I had something to say to you but I am feeling the same thing. So at the leats, you are not alone.

More hugs~~~


Chris

[Semele]

We can get each other through it!!! The funny thing is that the kiddos are probably ready and excited. I know Trey is. We met his teacher last week and he didn't want to leave that time!! He will only be there for three hours, but what will I do for those three hours??? I need another baby!!!!

[Mariposa De La Luna]

I was there just a few years ago, my daughter is starting 3rd this year.

If he hasn't been with a daycare or babysitters, he's more ready than you can imagine! It was the same way with my daughter and she now LOVES school, she thinks summers can get boring! Going to the "meet the teacher day" was the best thing we did. She wasn't nervous at all on the first day. Those three hours go very fast! After a while it will feel like you get home, do a little something, and then go straight to pick them up. Especially if you have to go early to get a good spot to park, that was the way it was in my daughter's school. Its worst in first grade when they are gone all day.

He will only be there for three hours, but what will I do for those three hours??? I need another baby!!!!

I wonder if that was my reason for having my son? :D I was so bored when she went into 1st.

Don't worry get a hobby. Quilting and knitting are very popular these days and take a considerable amount of time. Crosstitch takes even longer. Quilting and crosstitch also take alot of attention and keeps your mind off of the kid.

You have to let go of them sometime, they are just a lease. :D
At least he wasn't home all day everyday for 18 years and then leaves to go to college in a different state! :eek: That would be horrible for both of us! Babysteps are much better! :D

[Hope]

Awwww

This is always a hard one, I remeber I cried after I got back in the car from the first day of preschool.
BUT just this weekend I actually told my friend ha ha ha you are stuck with the girls this weekend HAVE FUN! You see our daughters are now 13 and going to be in 8th grade this year. My how times change!

love
hope

[ladyrowan]

Semele, my son first went to playschool (thats what we call it) in the afternoon, so i used to wait in our village pub! Well, it saved walking all that way home, it was at least 5 minutes away (that's my excuse and i'm sticking to it!)!!!! 8O


BB

[Emerald Sky]

Oh you poor thing! :( Time goes way too fast, doesn't it? My oldest is only 2 1/2, but I can certainly sympathize with what you're feeling. They grow up way too quickly, don't they?! :rolleyes: We're all here for you and Mol... (((((((Semele)))))))))

[Faery-Wings]

Originally posted by Semele
We can get each other through it!!! The funny thing is that the kiddos are probably ready and excited. I know Trey is. We met his teacher last week and he didn't want to leave that time!! He will only be there for three hours, but what will I do for those three hours??? I need another baby!!!!

Scott is excited, but at the same time, he is very nervous. He is shy and gets intimidated by a lot of kids that he doesn't know. Geez, I don't know where he gets that from. :rolleyes: This is 100% me. And it kills me that he feels the same way I did (and still do, I just know how to control it now- sometimes). We have been "practicing" saying goodbye at the bus stop so I hope he doesn't cry. I feel that he will though. It wouldn't be a school year if he didn't :( *sigh* I have been really good about not letting my feelings show to him. I have been super positive and upbeat about it as far as he knows. ;)

He is also scared that all of the kids will know more than him. I have tried to get him to work on some stuff with me, but he fights me and I didn't want to push the issue. Now I am not sure if I did the right thing or not. :(


Sorry that I made this into all about me!

Please let me know how Trey did!

Chris

[Danustouch]

(((((((((((((((SEMELE))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I can only imagine how it must feel..since I don't have a child of my own yet. But I remember my cousin calling my mother bawling her eyes out on the days that her two children went to school for the first time. And I can even remember MY mother on the day that I left for school for the first time. She was soooo sad...I remember her crying when I boarded the school bus. Trying to be all cheery and happy about it....but..failing. LOL. My mother waited at the bus stop EVERY day with me until i was in Junior high school..and I think EVERY day...she missed me. I used to come home from school, and she'd be waiting for me, so happy to have me home. She often welcomed me with a little boquet of flowers..(dandelions, daisys, violets..) that she'd picked in the yard for me. And always had a cold pitcher of ice tea waiting for me when I got home. When my little sister went to school for the first time, I thought my mother was going to just curl up in a ball, and hide for days..she was sooooo sad.

My mother was given the opportunity to help out, when i was in kindergarten, and when my sister was in kindergarten and first grade, at the school. They asked parents to come in and help out around snack time, or at reading time, what have you. My mom was always one of the first to sighn up for that. Does your childs school have a similar program? Maybe they have a program where parents can come in and read to the students, or something. That way..you might be able to ease some of your nervousness, be close to your child..and feel a part of it, too.

Personally...now that i sit here thinking about it..I feel the urge to call my mother, to thank her for being so active in my school life when I was a kid. She was always there to bake cupcakes for my class on my birthday, to help out with the.."thanksgiving" feast..and all those type things...always at my "graduations" even my kindergarten one...etc. She was a great Mom. I'm sure that when your son gets older..he will feel the same way about you!!!!!!!!!!

[mol]

He is a little man, now.

:)

[Danustouch]

awwwwwwwwwwwwww :)

[Danustouch]

oh...btw..after posting my original message yesterday...i had to call my mom to tell her what a great mommy she had been..and that I remembered all the little things she did for me when I was in school..and how very much I appreciate her :)

Semele...i told my mom about your sadness at your sons going to school. And she said it was very understandable, and typical of mothers to feel this way. And she wanted me to give you a bit of "motherly" advice....she said...Stay as active as humanly possible in your childs education, and school life. If you can...try to volunteer for the school trips, extra help, PTA's..etc. Because not only will it keep you close to your son...but it will also keep him from being pushed around in school..by the students, and by the teachers. Teachers communicate much more with parents whom they see as "active" in their childrens education. And they can become great...allys..if you will. The more you make your presence known at the school...is the more help your son will get, should he need it. Etc. Just a little advice my mommy gave me to give to you :)

[Maggie]

Originally posted by Danustouch
oh...btw..after posting my original message yesterday...i had to call my mom to tell her what a great mommy she had been..and that I remembered all the little things she did for me when I was in school..and how very much I appreciate her :)

Semele...i told my mom about your sadness at your sons going to school. And she said it was very understandable, and typical of mothers to feel this way. And she wanted me to give you a bit of "motherly" advice....she said...Stay as active as humanly possible in your childs education, and school life. If you can...try to volunteer for the school trips, extra help, PTA's..etc. Because not only will it keep you close to your son...but it will also keep him from being pushed around in school..by the students, and by the teachers. Teachers communicate much more with parents whom they see as "active" in their childrens education. And they can become great...allys..if you will. The more you make your presence known at the school...is the more help your son will get, should he need it. Etc. Just a little advice my mommy gave me to give to you :)

Danustouch's mom is right on target, Semele. My children are now 19 and 23, but I remember, oh, I remember! Another big reason to be involved in the school is that it's FUN! I did Brownies, and band, and helped in the classroom, little kids are a stitch! Bigger kids are too, you just have to be careful about laughing when they're in front of you! This is a big change, but each age is rewarding (yes, even the TEEN years) if you just enjoy your children......

Regards,

Maggie

[bloodstone20]

nope, dating doesn't start till 7th grade, but you can have a girlfriend in knidergarten ;)

[mol]

Originally posted by bloodstone20
nope, dating doesn't start till 7th grade, but you can have a girlfriend in knidergarten ;)

Dating in 7th grade????

Geez.

[bloodstone20]

do you want to know what else starts to happen?

[Danustouch]

My little sister has her FIRST day of HIGHSCHOOL next week!!!!!! AKKKKKKKKKKK! And so it begins! She is a very beautiful girl...long blonde hair, blue eyes, thin, waiflike...she looks like a miniature barbie doll. Gods...I'm thinking of patrolling the hallways at her highschool with a baseball bat! Nobody better pick on my little sister! And no guys better get any bad ideas about her..or big sister is gonna go on the warpath! LOL. She's a very smart girl, straight A student, wants to be an archeologist or a historian when she grows up. She volunteers at the local museum, and the library. So I'm hoping that the start of highschool doesn't mean the ends to her being such a great kid, and pupil! Too much seems to change, when kids go to highschool. The emphasis, more than ever, is on the social circuit...I hope she doesn't fall prey to that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ladyrowan]

You'll probably find there's lots to look forward to when they're at kindy or school, all the little things they make and bring home for you, the new things they say that make you laugh, and the Christmas nativity plays are so touching, but hilarious!
In his first year my son played one of the shepherds. After they'd done their bit they sat cross legged on the side of the stage. My son noticed that he could see straight up the 'dress' of his best friend (another shepherd) pointed at it and started giggling. The other shepherd noticed, then the best friend, and within moments all 3 were totally oblivious to the audience (who were by this time trying to stifle their giggles) and were rolling around on the stage laughing and pointing at each others crotches!
The back end of the donkey wanted to see what was going on, so we had 2 little eyes peeping out from the donkeys back, and all this time the 3 kings and Joseph were doing their best to remain solemn - they very nearly managed it! Mary and the angels just looked on with an expression that said "boys, huh!!!"
(I've got the whole thing on video, and boy, does it embarrass him now!)
Yup, you've got some great things to come!

BB

[Lavender]

Semele, I know how you feel. I felt the same way when my son started kindergarten. Danustouch's mom is so right. I volunteered my way through Erick's classes from k-5! I loved it! I had such a great time. Now, in 2 weeks, he's starting middle school for grade 6. New school, another step forward. It's hard. I'm feeling all the same anxieties as when he start kindergarten. I'm sure I'll feel the same again when he goes to highschool & college. It's not easy being a mom. He's just a baby!