everyone leaves me in the end:the path of nekura

[nekura]

hello, i am 15 and i am really intrested in wiccan but my mother thinks its EVIL!!!!!! so how can i explain it to her that it is not it's just diffrent then how she was raised ??

she was raised by a crazy upc person that is my grandmother!

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[samiaminsane]

You can try until your voice gives out, but she may never change her opinion. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but your mom might always have that view of Wicca. Perhaps giving her a book to read, or something online that gives her more information would help. I hope things work out....

[Tullip Troll]

Well the best way to get her to come around is to not give her reason to not. SOmetimes in our need to be understood or excepted we can be difficult and for the person we are difficult to they look at what the cause might be...in this case..."ever since she started on that wicca crap she has been nothing but Bad".

So I wish you luck... and love and leave her lots of good reading material...

MheraPai

it's also good when raising parents to set a good example by letting them speak and really listening to them as well.

[ObsidianShenKa]

Keep your practices hidden until you're out on your own.

Worked fine for me.

[lythadancer]

I depends on what kind of relationship you have. keeping it secret is one wa or you could prove her wrong by being a good person and what not. there is a great book entitled something like " when the one you love is Wiccian" - i am not sure of the exact name.... barns and noble has is i'm sure.
on the other hand, some people will never understand. I get that alot.
good luck honey.

[fay]

it really does depend on your individual situation. you may find that keeping it a secret works best, but you must seriously consider the practical possibility of her finding out anyway. as, if she finds that you lied or at least kept something from her, then she will probably be less likely to listen to you. she might even use it as an arguement against you practicing, "it's got you lying and hiding things from your family"
as i said, it depends on the people involved. i personally have thought about it alot and told my mother but never mentioned it to my sister. i suppose it is not the same as i am not keeping it secret, but i have never told her and it is not mentioned in my house (not for any particular reason, we just don't talk about it)
anyways i know i've rambled but i would recommend thinking seriously about which is the best course of action for you and your mum.
hope everything goes ok
blessed be

[dr_zeus440]

do you even need to explain to her why its not evil? im all for the 'conveniently forget to mention it until such a time as one of you dies'. are your religious beliefs any of her business? that said, i wouldnt go to the extreme of setting up shop as a vender of 'fyne magycks ande spelles galorr', but surely you can get an hour here or there on the internet, or an afternoon at the library or some time in a bookstore, perusing. you dont need to own to learn. and then, when you get out of the nest, and you feel like you want to own, hey, it's your rules, you can buy all the books, pentacles, herbs and knives that you want.

[Grey]

lol I happen to have been lucky and have a new ager for a mother... but some of my friends that went to pagan or wiccan beliefs did not have that benefit. The solution ended up being fairly simple in most cases.
1) they didnt tell their parents for a long time, but slowly and carefully integrated it into the family until the shift was much slighter. or just didnt say anthing at all.
or
2) We got a Wiccan priestess who also happens to be an episcopal priest to come down and discuss it with them... shes also a chaplain for the hells angels but we forgot to mention that in all the deep discussion.

Anyway you go, best of luck.

[Sibylle]

Hi nekura!

You could try and give her some decent information to read, if she is prepared to have a look at it. The first pages of "A Witch Alone" by Marian Green are among the best and most down-to-earth explanation of witchcraft today that I've come across. And the book is well worth investing in anyway (you can order it in any bookstore).

If she's not open to discussing it at all, then just keep quiet about your practise. She'll forget after a time. I have never told my catholic mom that I'm a witch; she grew up in the old-fashioned, conventional Bavarian countryside and I just don't expect her to understand. She's a wonderful person, and I love her - but I just think this is beyond her tolerance. So why grieve her? Religion is a personal choice, not something you need to shout out to the world.

Good luck :)

Hugs!!

[FairyMoon]

I agree with Hag Stella and Dr. Zeus. Your faith is no one elses business, and it is hard enough for people who practice main stream religions not to strongly disagree with each other (ie : who's is more right or wrong ) so they don't bother mentioning it to avoid unnecessary conflicts. I think the same should go here. But don't let me be so discouraging. After time passes she should realize that there is nothing EVIL about you ;), and she might be interested to know more about Wicca? Who knows? If not... your beliefs are still your own.