poor relationship with sister....

[halfwaynowhere]

i guess this is a family issue, so it belongs here....
My sister just returned from a two month trip to alaska. We have never had a great relationship, but i was hoping the two month absence from each other would have changed us both. A few hours after her return, we were already fighting. We have made up for that, but we have still basically isolated ourselves in our rooms... I guess there really is no hope for us... I still have a lot to vent... When Princess Diaries came out a few years ago, we saw it together... it was one very random act of sisterly kindness. When I heard about the second movie, i figured we could go see that together too, youy know, to keep up a tradition or something. I told her about it today. She already saw the movie with our grandmother up in Alaska. She said she wouldn't mind seeing it again, but its not the same. And none of my friends would be interested. I don't even really want to see the movie, but it would have been something nice to do with my sister. Another thing that really bothers me is that we really don't know that much about each other anymore... its upsetting. I guess we stopped being friends when we were seven or eight... we aren't even sisters anymore though... My mother and her sisterdon't get along at all, and I don't want to end up like them.. Wow, this was a long rant, I'm sure nobody has read this far anyways... who wants to read about my problems?

[Eirwen Hartsock]

Don't worry, the fact that you know you want to be closer to your sister is a good thing. And most siblings act like this as far as I know. My sister is four years older than me. We had our ups and downs while she went through high school and college. My sister is now married, I’m in college, and we do have separate lives. But we do talk, and if we get together we always greet each with taunts. Even though we pick on each other still, we’d always be there for the other if they needed it.
Perhaps a way to make your friendship with your sister stronger is start some traditions that you both agree on. Like your idea with the movie, only discuss it first. Maybe just make a batch of cookies together once a month, or have a girls’ night in. Just do something you both want to do that you will both enjoy. One tradition my sister and I share is that if we read the same book we will discuss it. This way we can learn about each other’s point of view. Of course we’re both bookworm geeks so that works for us.
Another thing you might want to think about, is that that you said you don’t feel like you know your sister anymore. Perhaps your friendship isn’t dying, it could just be changing. When I was younger I could tell you my sister’s favorite color, song, and which guy she had a crush on that week. Now I couldn’t answer any of those, except the last, and that would be her husband. So maybe you should look at it as your friend ship is just changing. I don’t know if you will understand that, I’m having trouble explaining it. If you want to stay friends with your sister, you are on the right track. You care about your relationship with your sister and that is very important, that shows you are a good person with a good heart. I’m sure everything will turn out alright in the end, even after all the fights.
And don’t worry, my answer is probably longer than you rant, I did read the whole thing, and I don’t mind listening to other people’s problems. Because you never know when you’re going to need help yourself. If you ever need to rant again feel free to send me a PM. Hope this helps a bit.

[MoonWeed]

My sister and I have 12 years btw us. I am the big sister and she's my Jilly;)We have never had the type of relationship that you could call super close.I was pretty much her caregiver and moved out when I was very young.But we will always be sisters. I am more a mom type person to her.
The fact that this concerns you is enough. You need to find alittle common ground ..even if it's bitchin about parents.See when something is wrong with my mom and her,she calls me LOL I tell her in a totally different way ,the same thing mom jsut told her and she gets it.
I thought the same thing as you ..We're not close enough ..So I bought tickets to a concert for her bday and we went..We love the same types of music so I thought this would ROCK.Nope LOL She was on the phone the whole time with boys LOL
Your spats or not anything different then any loving sister relationship.When I lived at my moms..we fought.I can remember her being super mean to me.
I dont' know your ages but I could guarrantee it's a stage thing for both of you.The core of all this needs to be known that no matter what "your there for each other".People grow in different ways,but family is family.So you may not have the same interests,but you and your sis need to know that at the drop of a dime who do I call..MY sister;) I rarely see my sis unless I call or stalk her,but it doesn't mean we aren't close.It jsut means I am the seeker in this situation..And thats ok,doesnt mean we aren't sisters,just means she's busy..So I touch base with her every few weeks or so.
Sometimes sisters also don't speak alot because they worry that what they say or reveal amy get back to the parent figures.Establishing a way of communicating that is trusting in guarding what the other says.Just on a small level let her know "it's ok I am always here" may bring her out of her shell.
Don't worry,your the sweetest person to concern yourself with this..Please jsut ask her and go to the movie.Even sharing a bucket of popcorn is quality time..
And we will always read your posts dearest,chin up;)
Love & Light

[samiaminsane]

I've always been that way with my sister, but it's getting better. After she moved out of our parents house, we saw each other maybe 3 times a year. But then I moved out too, and she got married and had Brandon and now I stop over her house almost every week (mostly to play with my nephew), but Jenni and I can actually have a conversation now. I think I resented her when I was little, because she's 4 years older and was my 'best friend' as a kid... then one day she stopped playing and grew up and I was left in the lurch for awhile. It's also hard because we are completely different people who do different things. I love her though and always will and our relationship will continue to grow with time.

[LadyTrinity]

Same with my brother and I.. As sad as it might seem we used to be best friends and now we dont look at each other anymore he gives off evil vibes and talks about hurting family members.. I keep my distance. We just fight too much. We dont get along at all

[Velvet]

I hate my brother! I tried to stab him with a kitchen knife once, but one of his friends caught me, wrestled me to the ground, and held me there until my senses returned.

[LadyTrinity]

I hate my brother! I tried to stab him with a kitchen knife once, but one of his friends caught me, wrestled me to the ground, and held me there until my senses returned.


wow! U sound like my bro LOL he used to chase me with pencils and pens. He was bad! :hairred:

[Velvet]

wow! U sound like my bro LOL he used to chase me with pencils and pens. He was bad! :hairred:
My brother stabbed me in the leg once with a pencil, the lead is still there.

[LadyTrinity]

My brother stabbed me in the leg once with a pencil, the lead is still there.


:hairraise