Is it worth it?

[Velvet]

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[Faeawyn]

I guess I would need more information to base an opinion. For instance, would it hurt someone else....would you be taking a man away from his family...from a friend...?...that kind of thing :)

[Aine of the Fae]

LOL My family HATES my husband. I married him anyway.

[TheTempestuous1]

If you have to question it, you probably don't love him enough...

[Imbrium]

Uh, it's hard to say without more information. If your freinds and family dislike him because he has a taste for red polo shirts, then I'd say follow you're heart.

If, however, they disagree with him because he is a member of the KKK, you might want to consider what they have to say.....

[Aine of the Fae]

Oh yeah it was worth it :D

[SilverNightShade]

it's only worth it if you can get him.

i know what it's like to chase after one you love but can't have

[Phoenix Blue]

Yes. Whose life is it, anyway?

[LadyTrinity]

If your friends and family are trying to tell you that the man is bad news then maybe you should listen but if they are just picky about one thing.. be it his race or bizarre hair colour then it's your choice. And in my opinion... you should be happy and in a relationship you enjoy not what your friends and family enjoy!

[Mab]

Yep. .....First off, if they are your family & they love you, they will respect your choices in life. Second...it's your life, you only live THIS one once, so you might as well make yourself happy. You really can't spend it making everybody else happy. JMHO

(My family didn't like my choice of hubby, but they saw he loved me, so accepted him. They don't much like my current situation, but they don't have to deal with it, I do.....)

[Shanti]

A mate is hopefully with you till you die. Pick a potential parner that YOU want and love. You have to live with him but you will also have to keep your family at bay. If you allow your family to meddle, the chances of a pernament parnership fall. Then is you keep the family where they belong, in their own afairs, they may feel you are being harsh and re-act nery negatively.
You have to think it through totally. You know what you can and can not do and you know how your family is.

Personally I will not let anyone control my life no matter how much so called love is behind it. Once your a grown adult it is now your life to choose for.

[bellamandu]

i would say, if you really believe you two love each other, then yes it is worth it. but i do know from experience that once you do decide to go against family and you by chance realize that you two didnt love each other as much as you thought you did, your family will never let you live it down. :smileroll

[Jenne]

BTDT...didn't read rest of thread (*bad Jenne, bad!*). But basically, yeah, at 17, got mixed up with this Afghan former-Muslim, me from the Bible belt of So Cali, and yeah, didn't go over well w/ the very wasp environment I grew up in. *shrug* They all had points that LATER became valid, but then, seemed insignificant. Tho, thinking back, I think it was my age that was a problem, not the guy himself (seeing as how I'm married to him now w/three kids, lol).

Sometimes, family just want to protect us. Sometimes, they want to control us. Sometimes, they're just buttheads. *shrug* Sometimes all of those...you just have to know yourself and the other person well enough to make your own decisions...

Good luck!

[Garnet Arai]

yes love forsakes all others

[Flaire-FireStar]

If you love him, why the hell not? ^_^

[Radocs]

If you love him, why the hell not? ^_^

Quite right!

[{Tigress}]

i would say, if you really believe you two love each other, then yes it is worth it. but i do know from experience that once you do decide to go against family and you by chance realize that you two didnt love each other as much as you thought you did, your family will never let you live it down. :smileroll

Oh yeah! I STILL get teased about a couple of guys from my past... and my folks LOVE to tease me about them in front of my husband. :sick:

[TWILIGHTSKY]

Follow your heart; if he's a good man to you, and the only thing they have against him is his free personality, it's their problem. My SO speaks his mind, and can come off as a real hard-#$% , so he's had problems because of that. But I live with him:

I know how much he loves and cares for everybody, and he sees what's right and wrong- it doesn't matter say, if some guy he doesn't like is going to get beaten up by three guys- he'd step in because 3 on 1 isn't right.

But my point is that YOU will be the one with him, not your friends or family. Take their points in stride, but if they continue after you're a couple for awhile, then you'll have to speak your mind.

I hope you two are at the start of a wonderful life!

[tygherrayn]

I can only echo what others have said so beautifully .. if you love him, and if he's good to you in all ways, then by all means, pursue the relationship! Love is a beautiful thing, and it shouldn't be avoided on the basis of someone elses opinion who doesn't know the whole story.

My parents disliked Jason for the longest time .. they only started to warm up to him when I told them we were getting married, that we'd set a date and everything. Now, they .. well, my mom at least asks about him, and talk to him when she calls and everything. She enjoyed ehr last visit down here which she spent with us even, and even cooked something especially for him.

What I'm trying to say I guess is, even when people initially dislike a significant other, they will usually see how good you are together, and will then give him/her a chance.

[Black RiverWolf]

shoot im in a realtonship like that now mom thinks that hes unemployed low class loser. but im with him anyways.

[charmedkisses1]

Your family will be with you through more than a boyfriend would. But if you *love* him.... :hahugh:

[aluokaloo]

Well, it depends on the situation I guess, if they just get on each others nerves for petty stuff, oh well, you can't like everyone in life, other times it might be an insight or a bad feeling that they might have experienced in some way or another that you just might not be seeing, I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just giving examples. Other times it may feel that you being with this person is the final act of leaving the nest for good, so to speak whjether they realize consciencely or not, even though you might have moved out ages ago. Look inside yourself, and consider thoroughly the reasons why they might be opposed to it..

[soilsigh aingeal]

Your friends and family will still love you. If in this case, it's about a free spirit, go for it, they'll get over it and may even eventually love him if it does work out in that direction! Good luck.

[Carickah]

Well, your just talking about dating, not a life commitment. If he is an honest and honorable man, then go ahead and date. Try double-dating with a couple you trust first, if you are unsure. And yes, find out what specific objections they have....



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