Serrogate Pregnancies

[soilsigh aingeal]

I'm courious how many people are for and against it. I know that there are a lot of children who need to be adopted, but in an ideal world, there aren't any. Are you against it because it's against nature? Let's discuss.

[Mysticism Deity]

haha this is funny......I was just talking about this the other day with a family member who cant have kids. this was also a question at another board I belong to.

I would do it in a heart beat for someone close to me and our family.

[Velvet]

I wouldn't do it. But if someone wants to do it, I'm fine with it.

[Autumn]

I am in favor of it so long as it doesn't invove my womb, I am not good enough at being pregnant

[Rockprincess]

I see nothing wrong with it, as long as every one involved is clearly agreed on all components and outcomes. I don't actually understand why it's illegal to do it for money at the moment, perhaps someone could explain that to me?

[Amethyst Rose]

Is it illegal to do it? I just heard from a woman in the states who got paid $30,000 plus medical bills and living expenses for being a surrogate. Maybe it's just illegal in Canada?

I would do it....being pregnant was really easy for me, and, (assuming I could get paid), it'd be a good way to make some money. However, my husband doesn't think I'd be able to carry a baby only to have to give it up.

[Rockprincess]

I would do it....being pregnant was really easy for me, and, (assuming I could get paid), it'd be a good way to make some money. However, my husband doesn't think I'd be able to carry a baby only to have to give it up.
Well yeah, I certainly wouldn't be able to do it at this stage in my life. Unless it was for one of my sisters, in which case I wouldn't hesitate.

[Bec_W]

It's illegal to be paid to be a surrogate here, but it's not illegal to be a surrogate. I don't think I'd be able to be a surrogate (fertility issues), but if I could and a good friend or family member needed a surrogate I'd do it for them.

Amethyst Rose, there are agency's that specialise in matching women who are unable to carry a pregnancy to term with women willing to be surrogates. I'm not sure about payment, but I know that the family who's child it will ultimately be pay for medical expenses.

[HorseCrow]

I'm not against surrogate pregnancies as such.... but i do wish more people would opt for adoption, with all those kids needing a loving home.

[ivygarland]

Not against it, and I would do it for a family member, although I would probably choose the one where you don't donate your egg as well, but have someone else's embryo implanted. I also think that more kids need to be adopted, though.

[Bec_W]

I'm not against surrogate pregnancies as such.... but i do wish more people would opt for adoption, with all those kids needing a loving home.

That's true, but adoption is an extremely hard road, not to mention expensive.

[HorseCrow]

I know- which is why there should be better options for those wishing to adopt.

[AbyssRose]

I would do it in a heartbeat for someone I love..whether it be a family member or a friend.. If I was in that situation and couldnt have kids.. I would want someone to be there for me ya know? I would be hurt that I couldnt carry the baby.. and go through the pregnancy..but at least its still your child.. theres the whole emotional mess with adopting a baby..and the cost and paperwork and background stuff..I dont think I could adopt because id be too scared of my child not wanting to be with me.. or using the adoption against me ex: *i hate you i want to be with my real mom* I think that would crush me..

[soilsigh aingeal]

I would definately do it in a heartbeat for someone I love (close friend or relative). I actually LOVED being pregnant both times but I don't want any more of my own kids, and I have even considered doing it for someone else some day.

I guess about the being paid thing... I know a few girls who have donated eggs just for the $3k. They did the whole interview thing and counseling thing, and they've done it more than once. It probably isn't hard to make someone believe that you're capable of going through something like this if you have no idea what it would be like to give up a baby that you've carried inside of you. Could you imagine, if it were legal to be paid and if people flocked to go through the pregnancy, not expecting to become the slightest bit attached with the child just for $30,000? ANd then they give birth, the parents take it, and it could result in one messed up situation for the serrogate mother.... all because she needed the money.

[Infinite Muse]

i have thought of doing this for the money
but i doubt i could ever give up a baby that grew inside me, no matter that i wasn't biologically part of its dna
so .. i don't know. its a tough question and until i come upon facing it irl i don't thin ki can answer it so cavalierly

[Mysticism Deity]

Is it illegal to do it? I just heard from a woman in the states who got paid $30,000 plus medical bills and living expenses for being a surrogate. Maybe it's just illegal in Canada?

I would do it....being pregnant was really easy for me, and, (assuming I could get paid), it'd be a good way to make some money. However, my husband doesn't think I'd be able to carry a baby only to have to give it up.


its the same here. My pregnancy was easy. nothign went wrong. I would love to do this for someone in the family but it would be hard to give the baby up. there is lady at a message board I go to who is a surrogate mother and she has given birth to 2 sets of twins so far.

[Temair]

I have considered doing this for my best friend. She has uterine problems and probably will never be able to carry a baby to term. She is my children's godmother and I think she is the only one I could do it for, emotionally that is. I would get too attached to do it for someone I would never see again.

[Aowyn]

Don't think i could do it physically and emotionally it would probobly rip my guts out. But I have no problem with other people doing it as long as they actually follow through and give the child to the parents afterwards and not try to retain custody of it. Many horrible messes have come of that type of thing, I think if you do it you should make sure you are really willing to give the baby to the parents.

[Pan]

Yeah. Adoption can take YEARS, which is why I've known a lot of people to go to another country to adopt a child from there and bring it back here. Because they want children, it's cheaper, and you get to save a child -now-, rather than 5 years down the road. My hairdresser did that. I think it was a Chinese baby.

As for the surrogate mother thing... I feel weird about it. I don't think I could do that to anyone... myself. Knowing they're carrying my baby that my husband and I made or something? It wouldn't feel right to me. I'd just as soon adopt, but not keep it from the child that they're adopted. Of course, it's also up to the adoption agency if the child can have access to where their parents are and whatnot.

I don't mind surrogate mothers for other people. I just couldn't carry one myself, nor could I have someone carry one for me.

[KimberSly]

I couldn't do it. I don't want that to be my answer, because it doesn't feel like me in the way that, I love doing things for other people. Especially when they have trouble doing it themselves. I just couldn't give up something that was a part of me. No matter how I looked at it, that child would be mine.

I talked about me being pregnant in chat one time. I can't WAIt to be preggers. It would be the one thing in life that I would cry every day just for looking at my belly and knowing that something was in there, growing. MY CHILD!

Anyhow, I'm ending my babbles. :hehehehe: I couldn't do it. Not that I wouldn't... I just would not be able to think of that child as anything other than mine. :\ and that would turn out a whole tonne of complications.