LittlePerson
August 24th, 2004, 01:51 PM
I am worried because this last weekend I went to my mom's and she had told me that she and my MIL had talked on the phone the day before and proceeded to tell me what they had talked about. She also asked me not to tell my husband about this and I said not to tell me that I don't keep secrets from my husband. Well she still told me and I haven't told him.
Turns out that my MIL and my mom both think my husband is depressed and I would have to agree right now. He hasn't been working for over a year now and yes this has been strenuous on my and I've told him as much. He lacks motivation, has no sleep pattern, ect. What they wanted from me was for me to talk to my MIL about our insurance and what they cover and she wants to cover the rest to get my husband to see a counselor/psychiatrist. My mom told me that my MIL would call and get the information from me the next day.
So, I told her what she needed to know. She said that the psychiatrist was a good one and that they wanted to start my husband on a low dose antidepressant that has few side effects. The thing is that as far as I know he thinks he's only going to her for career counseling. Which that is part of what she is going to do for him because my MIL told me as much. Also my husband wanted to do the career counseling and he and his mother had already discussed this The other thing though is that I think he is unaware that he is going to be diagnosed and treated for depression too. I feel bad not telling him exactly why he's going, and I know that it could help him out a lot if he does get help for all the things that are wrong, even if that means he's diagnosed with depression and gets treated for it.
I am mostly afraid that he'll go and when he finds out will think we're ganging up on him. I didn't want to do this to begin with but overall I think it's for his own good. I want to tell him because I hate to keep secrets, but I know if I tell him he just won't go because he thinks there's nothing wrong with him, so I haven't. I don't want him to come back after his visits and hate me for keeping it from him. Also, he's so lacking in motivation all together, (part of it I think is he has social anxiety too), that I'm worried he won't even bother to make an appointment to begin with even though he thinks it's only for career counceling and that he knows his mom will be paying for it along with our insurance.
Also, I trust his mom's judgement not just because she's his mom and we get along, but because she said that depression runs in his family. His dad has it and his aunt is manic/depressive. And my MIL has a masters degree in counseling. Plus my mom is a nurse and has worked with pysch patients before herself.
I need some assurance here please that I'm doing the right thing for him by not saying anything about depression or seeing the psychiatrist for it.
Thanks guys.
Turns out that my MIL and my mom both think my husband is depressed and I would have to agree right now. He hasn't been working for over a year now and yes this has been strenuous on my and I've told him as much. He lacks motivation, has no sleep pattern, ect. What they wanted from me was for me to talk to my MIL about our insurance and what they cover and she wants to cover the rest to get my husband to see a counselor/psychiatrist. My mom told me that my MIL would call and get the information from me the next day.
So, I told her what she needed to know. She said that the psychiatrist was a good one and that they wanted to start my husband on a low dose antidepressant that has few side effects. The thing is that as far as I know he thinks he's only going to her for career counseling. Which that is part of what she is going to do for him because my MIL told me as much. Also my husband wanted to do the career counseling and he and his mother had already discussed this The other thing though is that I think he is unaware that he is going to be diagnosed and treated for depression too. I feel bad not telling him exactly why he's going, and I know that it could help him out a lot if he does get help for all the things that are wrong, even if that means he's diagnosed with depression and gets treated for it.
I am mostly afraid that he'll go and when he finds out will think we're ganging up on him. I didn't want to do this to begin with but overall I think it's for his own good. I want to tell him because I hate to keep secrets, but I know if I tell him he just won't go because he thinks there's nothing wrong with him, so I haven't. I don't want him to come back after his visits and hate me for keeping it from him. Also, he's so lacking in motivation all together, (part of it I think is he has social anxiety too), that I'm worried he won't even bother to make an appointment to begin with even though he thinks it's only for career counceling and that he knows his mom will be paying for it along with our insurance.
Also, I trust his mom's judgement not just because she's his mom and we get along, but because she said that depression runs in his family. His dad has it and his aunt is manic/depressive. And my MIL has a masters degree in counseling. Plus my mom is a nurse and has worked with pysch patients before herself.
I need some assurance here please that I'm doing the right thing for him by not saying anything about depression or seeing the psychiatrist for it.
Thanks guys.