Akward working situation

[bshore]

This is not about my beliefs, but I wanted some opinions on what I should do about a situation in my class. There is a girl who I was friends with until we were grouped to work on a project last semester. She treated me badly in the group, and later during a portfolio review where we displayed all our work, failed to include my name on our project. Now, I'm in an interior design program where the same 40 people all take classes together, which means I'm in class with her 6 hours a day. We pretty much ignore eachother, but I am dying to know what the hell happened to our friendship.

I'm also worried about what will happen if we're grouped together again. So, what would you all do in this situation? I'm sure it'd be easier if I had more friends in the program, but she was really the only close one till now. So, any advice would be appreciated.

[DraconisArcanus]

If it were me, I would ask her privately what happened. I would do it in a public place but without any other classmates around so it wouldn't cause problems. If she blows you off then it's no longer YOUR issue.

The other question would be .... is this person worth being you friend if she treats you like this and won't tell you whats wrong?

Either way, I wish you luck and peace.

[Ahautenites]

Confront her nicely, maybe over a cup of coffee or something. Ask her what happened. And make it clear that if you two are going to work together, you will have to work *together*, regardless of whether you're friends or not. It's a difficult thing, but it's good practice for out in the working world, where not everyone likes everyone they work with there, either. Best of luck.

Draconis, she's part of a class with this person, so regardless of whether the person blows bshore off, it's still bshore's problem. Although, I would edit my orginal answer to say that you will also want to make the teacher of the class aware of the situation.

[lovemy1dane]

I agree talk to the person and see what happened. Maybe try to make new friends among the group. Out of 40 people I am sure you can become freinds with some of them. If nothing else at least develop a good working relationship with someone.

[bshore]

Ugh. I hate confrontation. I know I'll need to talk to her if we're ever put in a group together, but she acts like nothing happened. She always says hi when I do and is never mean, she just treats me like I don't matter, or like I'm nice, but not too bright. It's just really hard to read the situation, especially when, imo, she's a really fake person.

[Loopaleigh]

Perhaps she feels alittle threatened by you? Maybe your work/attitude etc. is better than hers and she feels inferior or insecure. You don't have to have a "confrontation" with her (or even be friends for that matter) to work along side her in a mature fashion. You may not have control over what she says and does, but you do have control over how you react to HER pettiness. And don't be afraid to speak up if you don't get credit for your work...she doesn't have to be the one in charge of the situation.