Has anyone ever...

[Amora]

Met and fell in love with someone over the internet? I'm curious to see how common that is.

[bloodstone20]

i had a friend who met someone on the internet and got proposed to. That count?

Yep, i did mean that.

[ladyrowan]

Originally posted by bloodstone20
i had a friend who met someone on the internet and got purposed to. That count?

Do you mean proposed?

I've been propositioned a few times, but don't think love had much to do with it!! (I declined 8O )


I only know of one couple, and they are now living together.

BB

[Myst]

Uh I met someone over the 'net and fell in love with him later after we met offline and dated for awhile. We were together for about 3 years and lived together for about 6 months. So it is possible. I wonder about people who claim they're in love with someone who they haven't met offline yet, but that's just MHO.

[Amora]

Originally posted by Willow Raven
I wonder about people who claim they're in love with someone who they haven't met offline yet, but that's just MHO.

I agree, just curious as to how many relationships start this way. I wonder if people are really honest because this method is so easy to lie if you wanted to.

[Myst]

Well I would find it hard to believe myself. You may really like someone's personality online or even their picture or voice.. but there's those little mannerisms that matter so much IMHO - like how I love the confused look my fiance gets sometimes or the way he stands or how his hugs feel... I don't think it's impossible for someone to believe they're in love or impossible for someone to be in love with someone they met online necessarily even, but I would find it hard to believe... because they just can't see those little mannerisms or behaviours or the look on the partner's face when he realizes he's left his socks on the floor again... the little things that seem to matter so much.. uhm hope this rambling made sense :)

[eaglewolf]

I guess it all depends upon how love defines you...

Some people don't rely on mannerisms and other 'little things' to find and fall in love, some do.

Love can be a wicked trick played on the best of us... I wish I could choose how, when, where and why... but have yet to find that kind of control over its power.

Who knows... maybe I will some day.

~ew

[slvr_phoenix]

I fell in love with someone online and we met in real life and then got married shortly after and have been happily married for years since. :) It happens.

[Myst]

Well I didn't mean love relied on those things, just that they can be an important part.

For example, suppose you talk to someone online who has brilliant ideas on politics, literature, music, and current events. Suppose you have similar beliefs on existence, or that the person made you think of it in new exciting ways. Suppose that you think you love the person based on this. Then you meet them. And they pick their nose while watching tv, have a high pitched nasal voice, and interrupt you everytime you talk. Which isn't to say you weren't in love before.. or that you can't be in love still.. I would just be wary about it, coz the little things can change stuff... not like it's impossible tho..

I'm not going to argue it tho, I know it's not impossible, I had a few relationships with people online too...

[Danustouch]

My hubby and I met in a pagan chatroom. He said he fell in love with me because of the things I would say in there, and the way I "Carried myself"..and the fact that I seemed so intelligent, and warm. We talked online for about a month, then on the phone for another month, then we met in person. We dated for about three months from there, him coming down to my house and staying the weekends for those three months. Then, I moved here with him...and eventually, we got married. I'm not so sure that the internet is the BEST place to meet people, it certainly has it's pro's and it's cons. But..when love hits you...it doesn't matter where, when or how you've met. It just happens. There were things that were not 100% accurate. The picture he originally sent me, was him, but not an accurate portrayal of the him he is now...since it was eight years old. That was one thing. But it was so inconsequential at the time..and upon further questioning (before we met in person)..he admitted that it looks quite different than he looks now. So..he didn't entirely lie. That is pretty much the only thing close to a lie he told me. And I didn't lie to him either. But the thing that holds true about internet relationships..is the same with ALL relationships. You really don't know someone until you live with them. We spent many weekends together...four days at a time, almost every week. But..I was in MY element, surrounded by MY friends and family, and my "Things". I only got to see him act in his natural environment, with his family and friends TWICE before I moved here. So..I guess it wasn't a rounded experience. So..things seem differen't..now that I'm NOT in my environment, and now that I see him in his own, all the time. If that makes sense. It's not that he lied, or that I lied, it's that much of what makes us who we are, are the surrounding influences in our lives. People Change...people react differently to things in differen't places, and at differen't times. You see a little more of who they are as time moves on, through differen't experiences. That's not something you can get straight off the internet. I don't understand people becoming engaged over the internet, without meeting eachother first. IMO...the internet, if you are interested in socializing and meeting people on it, should be treated like any other dating service, albeit with a little more concern for safety. You use it to meet someone based on like interests..then you meet in person..if it cliques..you pursue it...IN REAL LIFE....and then once you decide that that TOO is working, you move on in your relationship. The internet DOES leave more of a possibility for lies, and untruths with people..so that is a concern. But that can all be avoided, by being AWARE, and being careful, using your judgement, your evaluations, and following common sense relationship steps. In other words..don't allow yourself to be caught up in a fantasy. Make sure you are seeing reality. That is difficult enough to do in the real world. It's even more difficult, but even more necessary in internet situations.

I hope this helps you.

[eaglewolf]

I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth sweetie...

...just saying with love, anything and everything is possible, which appearantly you already know.

I know what you meant, twas just my opinion.

~ew

[ladyrowan]

Originally posted by Willow Raven
Then you meet them. And they pick their nose while watching tv,

Don't all men do that? 8O

BB

[Myst]

Originally posted by ladyrowan


Don't all men do that? 8O

BB

lol no

EW : okie dokie dookie

[Amora]

Originally posted by Willow Raven
And they pick their nose while watching tv


EWW!! That's intolerable. I'd be out of that!

[flar7]

my best friends met his future wife on the internet. He was searching for true love and it looks like he may have found it.
They have been married a year or so.

[Tigerwallah]

is not gay. She scored a very low percentage on the gay test, however, fell in love with a woman online. She has met her, and is confused because she doesn't feel sexual attraction, but does feel romantic love.

They shared a very intimate online connection, and now my friend is in a constant state of confusion and doubt. It's all very strange.

[Sequoia]

my best friend and her boyfriend/promised (ring hehe) (probably going to get married) met online, and have been together for about 3 years now. . .he moved to a whole 'nother state to go to college with her. . . they've been doing that for about a year.

They're still going strong!


on a related note, my boyfriend first convinced me to go on a date with him through IM chat (although we had previously met in "real life")

[SpikesPet5150]

A friend of mine (lives in CO) met his now-wife online.. she lived in Lousiana. They've been married for about 3 years now, and I seriously don't think I've ever seen 2 people more in love than they are. Makes me happy. I met 3 of my very best friends online, one here in town, one in Pennsylvania, one in Wisconsin. But, I've also met some loonies... so it works both ways I guess. :)
~Bree

[clef0628]

My Bestfriend just got married to a girl he meight on the Internet. She was from England and she moved to the US just to be with him!:)

[Amora]

Originally posted by clef0628
My Bestfriend just got married to a girl he meight on the Internet. She was from England and she moved to the US just to be with him!:)

Wow! Now that's really cool!

[Emerald Sky]

Originally posted by Tigerwallah
is not gay. She scored a very low percentage on the gay test, however, fell in love with a woman online. She has met her, and is confused because she doesn't feel sexual attraction, but does feel romantic love.

They shared a very intimate online connection, and now my friend is in a constant state of confusion and doubt. It's all very strange.

Wow Tiger, that's really wild. I hope she figures it all out!