Help to stop abuser

[Veganmama]

I don't want ot go into too much detail but i left an abusive partner but we are still linked as we have too children that i have full time care of and he is still very possesive and won't leave us alone


I've done heaps of spell work to help build me up so i have the strength to deal with him which has helped but i really just want him to stop hurting me and my girls, i know i can't just do some spell work to make him just bugger off, even though i could gather enough energy to make it work it don't quite fit into the harm none catergory

So does anyone have any advice my be a particular goddess i could work with?

Thanks and blessings

[Faerin]

Whenever I feel I need protection I connect with Brighid....but then again, she's the only one I've ever called upon.

I'm sorry about your situation and really hope it all turns out well.

[malltynos]

Well,what you might like to consider is a mother/warrior type goddess to give you both protection and strength to see you thru a difficult situation. Obvious ones would be Athena, Brigid, Isis, Aditi or Scathach. The other thing you could use would be a witches bottle. It's a protection spell which bounces harm back to the sender. Fill a small glass jar,like a herb jar, with nails and other sharp objects - bits of glass or barbed wire is good. Then top it up with your own urine - if you can do this during your period, it works better (don't ask me why, it just does!) Disgusting but worth it! Screw the lid on tight and then seal the lid with candlewax. Bury it either close to you front gate, or if you don't have a garden, a pot filled with earth near the front door. You could use a chant like:
'io-dia-har-hey-hey, send this evil far away!' And yes, I used this myself when my first marriage ended and my ex wouldn't leave me alone, so it does work! Best of luck!

[Veganmama]

Thanks for the ideas, I really like the jar spell, my period is due in a few day so i might give it a try. Normally my spell work is really strong but somehow when you are really scared for your safety you tend to hang onto your physical self more and i find it hard to let go to get out into the spirtual world to contect. That why the GOddess gave us the internet i suppose;)

[morrigen]

By all means, use all the protection spells you need, but do not neglect to contact the police and get yourself a restraining order, and a noted record of the problem.

I hope things get better soon, and you and your children are kept safe.

[greenwitch]

I'm so happy that you got out of that relationship. I'm only sixteen but when I lived with my mom she was and still is in an abusive marriage, so I had to deal with it and it hasnt been fun. For the longest time I was afraid to do anything because of how bad things had gotten. Then I moved out and am now in New York with my dad, things are much better.

What everyone has suggested is great, I know its hard to let go of your mundane self when you're afraid, but letting go of that side of you will make you stronger in the long run, let your spirit keep you safe, it will if you let it.

aside from spell working and protection charms, dont be scared to keep a record of the things he's done and is continuing to do. A restraining order is a great thing to have, and if they tell you you have nothing they can use then if he has any past records of domestic abuse use that as your evidence. Tell them you have reasons to be afraid he'll do something. Use what you have. This is some scary stuff, I've only known it from a kids perspective and if anything its scarier for your children (I'm assuming they're younger than me).

I'm sending you my own protective energy, and blessings. If you need more strength, I've used Diana, she has a more fierce strength, at least thats what I've found. Stand your ground hun, everything will be ok. *hugs*

Blessings and Strength,
Adra

[Faeawyn]

This is a wonderful example of when I think a binding spell is appropriate. You need to bind him. Bind him from doing you harm or inflecting you any pain or grief. I can help you if you can't find the information you need.

[Cielamara]

I would personally recommend Athena, for justice...she won't take crap from anyone, and she's very wise and sensible. If you want protection and/or vengeance, milady Morrigan is a fine one to call...she's been highly protective over me since she first decided to claim me as her own. Brighid, I agree with, definitely...a more nurturing, motherly goddess I've never met.