Paganism and Relationships - sharing!

[mucgwyrt]

My s.o. and I are both 'pagan'. When we first got together many many moons ago, we would spend a lot of time doing spiritualish things together - pulling tarot cards, talking about our views on the cosmos and existance, etc.

Now that we've been together for 3.5 years, we know each others views and don't talk about them any more. Our lives are so much more settled, so we don't pull cards so much. I am more witchy, he is more new-agey. I work with spirits, he is oblivious to them.

I feel my s.o. and I have taken different paths since we first got together, which is fine. But does that really mean the end of sharing spiritual experiences?

We are friends with another pagan couple a few towns away, and it seems like they are always doing things together and making new discoveries and it makes me green with envy :hehehehe: :lol: silly thing is, I'm too stubborn to ask them what they do (meditate etc?), and 'she' doesn't like to talk to me about it any way (she's thinks she knows everything about everything, and because I will openly disagree with things she "knows", we tend to clash somewhat - but that's another story :sick: )

I guess in short I'm looking for suggestions of any kind! :hehehehe:

(apologies for the ramble, I'm feeling a bit frustrated about it I think _wiz_ )

xx

[morrigen]

I'm in much the same place. My partner and I are both pagan, and yet we do little to nothing spiritual together, even though our systems are very similar.

Why this is, I don't know, because we often both lament the fact that we never do anything spiritual together! :lol:

In a way though, I think I would feel more self concious with my partner than anyone else...go figure. I can have naughty with him, and we have a child together....but nope...can't do the ritual/chant/worship thing with him without getting all self concious and losing it...

*laughs* I have no answers for you, Macha :D

[CaitrionaMorgaine]

My partner and I are both Pagan, and we have reached the point now after living together for two years that we're in the place you are--we know each other's views pretty well.

He has 7 years more experience than I do, and his focus is different than mine. I think part of that is age and experience. Rituals, ect are important to me...they aren't to him. I am studying a tradition and he prefers his own eclectic blend. We spend a fair amount of time talking about spirituality, but mostly because I am constantly working on articles and such for my website, which is about my path. I bring up questions and thoughts to him...and we talk about them.

I wish I had some fabulous suggestions for you Macha, dear, but I don't. However, in some way I can understand your frustration. I have often wondered what it would be like to share a circle with him, so to speak, but that's not something that we do, I've learned. We are both more comfortable on our own in that regard.

*hugs*

Avalon's Blessings, ~Rhiannon

[Seren_]

My hubby is not pagan, but even since we've been together I'm no longer what I was...my spirtituality has changed, but hubby's 8 years older than me, brought up Catholic and has been through the mill a bit more than I have...I consider myself lucky for the fact that while my hubby might not understand my beliefs 100% (ie, he'd disagree sometimes, and we have a lot of interesting conversations from that), he does respect them. And me :D.

And while he might refer to my devotion to the Reul Iuile Brighde circle as "one of my pagan thingies" (being one of the most overtly pagan things I'm involved with, that is), amongst other things, I'm happy having my spirituality mostly to myself...I did the sharing thing (with boyfriends and/or groups), and it didn't work for me. What's more important to me is that I have the privacy I need when I feel I need it, to do my rituals...And I get that plenty. And here at MysticWicks gives me the sense of commonality and community I might need. I like sharing, but unfortunately, most of the pagan community where I am are utter freaks :crazyman: At one point I really did want to be involved with "likeminded people", but my experiences there could make a whole novel...Maybe if there were some normal people near me, things might be different :D

I don't expect hubby to share with me in ritual...it's something I don't do much anyway, and prefer it to be private, but he's happy to take part in my festival celebrations, which for me mainly involve having a good feast with the people I love. At Samhain, for example, I plan to cook a nice dinner and then take some time for more personal devotions at some point. Any leftovers I'll leave out as an offering, and maybe I'll light a candle or two.

[mucgwyrt]

I'm really glad I'm not the only person in this situation :lol:
I think if I cast a circle with my boyfriend, he would find it totally rediculous, not least because he is not very sensitive to energies to it would be like "what circle?" :lol:

Well, we've both just signed up for a hypnosis training day, tomorrow, which should be fun and will hopefully then be something we can continue exploring together *yay*

Thanks loads for your comments guys :hugz: