A month

[Gracecat]

Our grief counsellor said that we shouldn't make the 12th of every month so important that it prohibits us from moving in life. It's a type of "shrine" behavior. You can memorialize the person without it becoming counterproductive to the healing process. (at least so I'm told)

But, it's still hard, it's still raw. I still hurt.

I got out and moved around today for a little bit. Went to do some shopping and considered adopting a new kitten. I still may, our Luna is bored silly during the quiet parts of the day. And there's some cleaning to do, and I could always call a friend but...

Just.. it's a blah day today. :raining:

[morrigen]

I have no words...but I feel for you so much...

:hugz:

[Autumn]

Special hugs for you...

[ObsidianSunrise]

:hugz: Comfort and courage for you in abundance.

[Teresa]

Sending comforting energies Your way !! :hugz:

[emmunite]

Blessings and comfort to you and yours. Words are a small thing at a time like this. I've recently lost my mom and I understand the quagmire of grief. It can be very isolating. I'm sure you've heard all the platitudes and suggestions for how to cope...and some of them do eventually work. May you find comfort and solace in this time.

[violet rain]

giving you much needed loving energy

[Aleannah]

comfort and hugs to you... :hugz:

[Brigid Bishop]

Hoping the comforting energy that is being sent your way helps.

[OriginalWacky]

I'm no expert (except in that I've had my own share of grief), but it seems to me that one should grieve however they want. There is no time table someone can point to, and say, "See there, at 76 days, you should be able to say/do/think this way." I think I can see what the counselor is saying, but on the other hand, maybe for now you need to make it a big deal, and get those emotions out into the open.

I cannot imagine what you've been through. I don't know that I can think of anything harder in this world than losing a beloved child. I hope that you can take the words I write, and that they may help in some minute way to let you know that I care, and wish healing for you. And though I don't know you well, if there is ever anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask. I'll be more than happy to listen, to cry with you, or to try and make you laugh if you need to.

[Lunacie]

Someone once told me in dealing with trauma or grief, that it is helpful to allow those feelings to happen, but to set a timer for 15 minutes or half an hour, and then get up and go do something. Denying the feelings means you never really feel them and release them. Of course, releasing them doesn't mean you won't feel them again, especially on the anniversary as you noted, but you don't have to let them consume your whole life either. Huggs and sympathy on your loss.

[magick_faerie]

my love and blessings to you....

[~Anamorata~]

Some hugs and healing energy for you... :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: